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Self-Injury Recovery Layer Work
Self-Injury Recovery Layer Work
LAYERS TO DISCOVERY
INTRODUCTION
Self-injury is complex, dynamic, and multi- We believe that we are always beginners in layer
layered. Self-injury has much to do with inner- work. We never “graduate” or finish, and it is
child work, which is why we believe that the always a learning process. The process of
layers listed below help us understand and recovery includes returning as often as
discover the “why” of our self-injury and how to necessary to behaviors and thought patterns
regain healthy coping mechanisms, control, and that lead to your mental freedom.
freedom.
In each layer, you will find guiding questions. It
There is no quick fix or perfectionism in layer may help to write down your answers to these
work. Recovery is ever-changing and evolving. questions in a journal to track your layer work
Layer work is the beginning of walking into your and see the changes in your thinking over time.
freedom of the person you are meant to be.
LAYER ONE
Where do feelings of worthlessness come • Think about how you self-talk vs. how you
from? talk around others, and how people talk
around you.
• Be aware of negative self-talk and write it
down.
RECOGNIZE WHEN YOU HAVE A FALSE MASK ON AND WHEN YOU’RE ABLE TO
TAKE IT OFF.
Whom do you wear a false mask around? Where are your thoughts during the act of
self-injury?
• Realize when you don’t have a mask on
(when you are authentically yourself). • Are you replaying the events of the day,
almost like a movie, to realize what was
Do you feel authentically yourself when you actually bothering you?
self-injure?
• Are you processing anger or a triggering
• Pick up on the clues in your body when you moment?
are wearing or not wearing a mask.
• Are you judging yourself?
When you feel disconnected from your body, • Are you using “shoulds” and “shouldn'ts”?
are you wearing a mask? • Are you neutralizing self-blame?
• Figure out how you feel in your body to • Is the behavior an attempt to do something
identify your authentic self. constructive and adaptive (even if it
appears maladaptive)?
• Think about what your self-injury behavior
tells you. It may tell you something • Does the behavior help you contain
important, but it is not a solution. feelings?
LAYER TWO
BREAKING UP WITH
GUILT
What does it mean for you to be without the • What is a healthier way you could achieve
behavior? that outcome?
• Think of the behavior and the results of the • Consider what letting go of the behavior
behavior. Look at both in new ways. would mean for you.
What would your life feel like without the How can you transform guilt into action?
behavior?
• Turn guilt into gratitude.
• What does the behavior give you?
What are you doing when feelings of guilt • Realize that thoughts are just thoughts, not
come up? facts or true stories.
• Write down what you feel guilty about. • If there is something in the thoughts that
you need (insight), acknowledge it and
• Allow the guilty voice to come.
allow it to come back in a healthy manner,
• Forgive yourself and move on. rather than a destructive one.
• Write down 1-3 of your rules/restrictions. • Consider the origin of where your
rules/restrictions came from and how they
• Are there rules/restrictions about your self-
served you.
injury behavior?
• Identify how you box yourself in.
• Are they rules/restrictions to control your
own behavior and reign yourself in?
LAYER THREE
BECOMING OUR
AUTHENTIC SELVES
What does a loving authority figure do? What • Don’t engage in self-judgement or negative
does a loving authority figure not do? self-talk.
What are healthy boundaries? • Organize a sense of self around your own
opinions rather than those of others.
• Know that it is ok to say no.
What has fear of rejection and judgement • Write down things you have gone for.
from others kept you from doing?
• Write down compliments you give yourself
• Write down things you haven’t gone for. (no matter how small they may seem).
What activities do you enjoy? Write down things you like about yourself.
LAYER FOUR
FORGING A CONNECTION
WITH SELF AND OTHERS
How have you harmed yourself by self-injury? Many of our members are spiritual or agnostic
12 step programs typically include writing and have not gravitated to any organized
amends to others, but as self-injurers, we religion; some have had painful experiences
consider it an important part of our process to with the idea of a higher power. Therefore, we
acknowledge the harm we have done to leave your spirituality up to you and trust you to
ourselves. Many of us have consciously chosen discover for yourself what rings true and
to damage ourselves rather than expressing supports your own process of self-discovery.
ourselves and risking disappointing others. To
us, the mildest form of disapproval from others CONTINUE TO CARRY THE MESSAGE.
may feel catastrophic, and we often go to great
lengths to avoid it.
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