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Personal
Development
First Quarter SY 2021-2022
Lesson VI
The Dynamics of
Attraction, Love
and Commitment
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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
LESSON 6: The Dynamics of Attraction, Love and Commitment
Introduction
Teenage relationships are known to be intense and expressive. How should you express
your attraction, love and commitment? A typical scenario goes this way: You ask someone to
be your boyfriend or girlfriend. It is either they say yes or no, and you maturely respect that
person’s decision. Consent is a key of relationship. You should not force someone to do
something that they do not agree to, vice-versa. Numerous ways of expressing one’s love exist,
and keeping that in mind, you should respect your own boundaries as well as other peoples
at the same time.
Performance Standards
Content Standards
The learner identifies ways to appraise
At the end of this lesson, the learners shall
one’s present relationships and make plans
demonstrate an understanding of the
for building responsible future
dynamics of attraction, love, and commitment.
relationships.
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Present relationships build and enhance Why do you think establishing rules within a
either social and intimate future relationship. relationship is important?
Learning Competencies
At the end of this lesson, the learners shall be able to discuss an understanding of teen-age
relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions, express
his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment, identify ways to become responsible in
a relationship
Objectives:
At the end of this lesson, you will be able to:
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ACTIVITY 1: Make two lists: 1. What you find attractive (physical or personality traits) in a person,
and 2. What you look for in a long-term partner. Discuss your list and answer the following
question?
1. Why do you see these traits attractive in a person?
2. What are the things you consider in choosing your long-term partner?
What you find attractive (physical or What you look for in a long-term partner.
personality traits) in a person.
Discussion
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Liking and Attraction
Studies have shown that we also likable people as attractive. Look back to a time when you
developed a crush on someone. Maybe as you grew to like them, their physical imperfections
weren't so noticeable. Discovering similarities with someone also makes them more
attractive. Furthermore, the more in love people are, the more physically attractive they find
someone, and the less attractive they find all others.
This begs the question, do opposites really attract? Complementarity, or the tendency of two
people to complete what is missing in the other, may develop as a relationship progresses.
But people are more likely to be attracted to and marry those whose needs and personalities
are similar to theirs.
Love, as you probably already know, is more complex than just liking
someone. Psychologist Robert Sternberg views love as a triangle with
three components:
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The interrelationships of these three components gives rise to different kinds of love.
The equity principle of attraction states that the outcome people receive from a relationship is
proportional to what they each put into it. Those in an enduring relationship eventually stop
keeping track of how much they are giving and getting. Self-disclosure is being able to reveal
intimate aspects of oneself to others, as often seen in deep, companionate relationships. The
disclosure reciprocity effect is the tendency to match the self-disclosure of one's partner. In short,
letting ourselves be known as we are nurtures love.
Love does not always last. The end of relationships is usually a sequence of events that begin with
focusing on the loss of a partner, followed by deep sadness, and eventually, detachment or letting
go of the old and focusing on someone new.
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When relationships suffer, those who are invested or without better alternatives seek different ways
of coping with the relationship, including: loyalty (waiting for the relationship to improve), neglect
(ignoring the partner and letting the relationship deteriorate), or voice (taking active steps to
improve the relationship through discussing problems and attempting to change). Couples with
healthy marriages still undergo conflict but the difference is that have an ability to reconcile
differences and restrain criticisms and put-downs.
During adolescence, teenagers such as yourself naturally feel romance. Because this is an emotion
that is so powerful, it can fool anyone into thinking that they and their significant other are in a
healthier relationship than it actually is. Maybe this is why, as the old adage says, love is blind.
ACTIVITY 2: Read the following scenarios and answer the questions that follows.
Scenario 1: Marisa and Jun are going on their third date to watch a movie. Marisa wants her
two friends to come with them but Jun tells her that unless they go to the movie just the two of
them, the date is off.
Questions:
a. Why do you think Marissa wants to date with her friends along?
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c. What should Marissa do? Go to the movie with Jun without her friends or accept that the
date if off? Justify your answer.
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Scenario 2: May and Henry have been dating for three months now. Henry starts to realize
that May always picks the place where they should go like watch movies, which mall to go
shopping, where to eat, etc. Henry is beginning to feel that May does not listen to his suggestion.
Questions:
a. What do you think is the reason why Henry is upset about not being able to choose where
to go on their date?
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b. Look back on your list of unhealthy characteristics of a relationship. Can you choose
some words that describe the situation? Explain why.
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Explanation
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