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Marotz-Baden - Cowan - 1987 - Mothers-in-Law and Daughters-in-Law
Marotz-Baden - Cowan - 1987 - Mothers-in-Law and Daughters-in-Law
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Relations between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are often depicted as conflictual despite a paucity of research on
their interaction. A 1985 exploratory study of 44 mothers-in-law and 55 daughters-in-law in two-generation farm or ranch
families found that differences in goals and values and lack of communication skills were frequent problems. Contrary to ex-
pectations, however, living in close proximity did not increase the stress levels of either group of women. These and other
findings should be useful to extension agents and other applied professionals as they plan programs for and counsel these in-
dividuals. In addition, these data provide a base for future research.
S tories about problematic proximity increases their conflict and difficulty. Duvall's model suggests that
mothers-in-law abound, yet little stress. This information should be the greater the autonomy of the mar-
research attention has been especially useful for counselors who ried adult children and the fewer the
focused on their interaction with other work with members of farm and ranch conflicts between the parents and the
family members. This is surprising families and for extension and other adult children, the more cohesive the
given the prevalence of in-laws, the re- applied professionals who base pro- marriage of the adult children.
cent interest in work and the family, the grams and projects on research. According to Kieren, Henton, and
fact that over 90% of American busi- Marotz's (1975) review of the literature,
nesses are family owned (Rosenblatt, Review of the Literature in most cases of marital conflict both
1985), and that most will be passed on husbands and wives believe that the
to adult children (Bratton & Berkowitz, A review of the literature revealed husband's kin are more frequently the
1976; Hedlund & Berkowitz, 1979). more concern than data about poten- source of the conflict than are the
A smoothly running family con- tial mother/daughter-in-law conflict in wife's kin. In addition, more women
tributes to a successful family intergenerational situations arising than men report difficulty, and more
business (Prokesch, 1986), and from living in close proximity, shared female in-laws are found troublesome
mothers and daughters-in-law hold labor, and constant interaction be- than male in-laws both among distant
critical positions. For example, the tween families. Thus, the following and close relatives (Duvall, 1954;
daughter-in-law's feelings of accept- review draws heavily upon the few rele- Kirkpatrick, 1963; Komarovsky, 1964;
ance, her perception of how well she, vant research studies found. Leslie, 1976).
her husband, and her children are I n-laws, according to Duvall's
treated, their future economic security,
In-Law Relationships
(1954) respondents, were meddlesome,
and her enjoyment of farm/ranch life On the basis of her national study interfering, and dominating. Adult
may contribute not only to the smooth of 5,020 American women and men, children criticized members of the
running of the enterprise, but to the Duvall (1954) developed a model to ex- parental generation more often than
eventual success of an intergenera- plain kin conflict. She suggests that they were criticized by the older
tional transfer. Her unhappiness can every married couple belongs to three generation. Parents-in-law were often
disrupt the family and subsequently different families. The first affiliation is viewed as old-fashioned, resistant to
the enterprise. For example, she could with the new family that the couple change, uncongenial, and maintaining
convince her husband to move off the begins together (i.e., their family of pro- different traditions. Perhaps adult
farm which would disrupt the transfer creation). At the same time the couple children were more critical as they
process; or, she may divorce him. A also belong to both his and her families were struggling for autonomy. Parents-
divorce can seriously disrupt or even of origin. Unless a beginning family in-law did not complain that their
bankrupt the enterprise depending can form a cohesive family unit that is children were too modern; rather, they
upon the daughter-in-law's extent of stronger than the one which ties either
ownership. of the couple to his or her family of
Very little research has focused on origin, the new family will feel threat-
conflict between mothers and their ened. In order to establish a strong *This research was supported by the Montana
Agricultural Experiment Station Grant No. MONB00266
daughters-in-law and the stress such family unit, a newly married couple and is part of the SAES Western Regional Research
unresolved conflict may produce in must realign its loyalties such that Project W-167. Appreciation is expressed to Jeff Larson,
family businesses. This research their family comes before either his or Wayne Larson, and Stephan Wilson for their comments on
an earlier version of this paper.
reports on the mother/daughter-in-law hers. **Ramona Marotz-Baden is a Professor in the Depart-
dyad in two-generation farm and ranch According to Duvall (1954), the ment of Health and Human Development, Montana State
University, Bozeman, MT 59717. Deane Cowan is a mar-
families. It will attempt to identify young couple requires autonomy in riage and family therapist in Bozeman, MT.
sources of conflict between mothers- order to develop as an independent
in-law and daughters-in-law and family unit. Any conflicting force Key Words: communication, conflict, daughter-in-law,
strategies used to cope witn this con- emanating from either parental home mother-in-law, stress.
flict. In addition, the article will ex- that imperils the independence of the
plore whether or not living in close new pair may be construed as in-law (Family Relations, 1987, 36. 385-390.)
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