This document discusses the obligation of parents to educate their children in mitzvot while avoiding causing them to sin. It notes that chinuch (education in mitzvot) is sometimes considered a rabbinic obligation, but Tosafos views it as biblical. The document explores situations where these two obligations may conflict, such as whether to wake a sleeping child to recite Birkat Hamazon. Authorities debate whether chinuch can override biblical prohibitions in some cases.
This document discusses the obligation of parents to educate their children in mitzvot while avoiding causing them to sin. It notes that chinuch (education in mitzvot) is sometimes considered a rabbinic obligation, but Tosafos views it as biblical. The document explores situations where these two obligations may conflict, such as whether to wake a sleeping child to recite Birkat Hamazon. Authorities debate whether chinuch can override biblical prohibitions in some cases.
This document discusses the obligation of parents to educate their children in mitzvot while avoiding causing them to sin. It notes that chinuch (education in mitzvot) is sometimes considered a rabbinic obligation, but Tosafos views it as biblical. The document explores situations where these two obligations may conflict, such as whether to wake a sleeping child to recite Birkat Hamazon. Authorities debate whether chinuch can override biblical prohibitions in some cases.
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What If My Child Falls Asleep Before Bentching?
By Rabbi David Brofsky
The Talmud (Yevamos 114a) states that the To-
rah tells us in three places (Vayikra 11:42, 17:12, and 21:1) not to cause a child to sin. The Terumas Ha- Deshen (62) explains that the Torah doesn’t want a child to become accustomed to sinning to the point that he will wish to continue sinning when he’s older. Based on this passage, the Rambam (Hilchos Maachalos Asuros 17:27-28; see also Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chayim 343:1) rules that giving a child non-kosher food is forbidden even if the food is only forbidden by Rabbinic decree. He also rules that while a beis din is not commanded to separate child from sin, the child’s father is obligated to do so. A parent is also obligated to educate his child to perform mitzvos. The Gemara (Sukkah 42a) states that a father should teach his child to do mitzvos he is mentally or physically capable of performing. Therefore, “a child who knows how to shake [lulav] is obligated [to shake] lulav; if he knows how to wrap himself [with a tallis], he is subject to the obligation of tzitzis.”
When Chinuch Entails Sinning
At times, a parent’s obligation to educate his child to perform mitzvos may conflict with his obligation to prevent him from sinning. What should one do in such situations? The Talmud appears to address this question in a number of places. For example, the Mishnah (Rosh Hashanah 32b) permits a child to blow shofar on at times, may set aside the obligation to separate a not bring him closer to ahavas and yiras Hashem, Shabbos even though blowing shofar on Shabbos is child from sin. If the obligation is biblical, where is but rather will lead him to reject the mtizvos? For rabbinically forbidden. Why? Rashi explains: “in or- its source in the Bible? example, what if a young child falls asleep at the ta- der to educate him in mitzvos.” Achronim, including R. Moshe Shternbuch ble before reciting Birkas Hamazon? Waking him to The Talmud even appears to permit a child to vio- (Mo’adim Uzemanim 3:236) and R. Asher Weiss say Birkas Hamazon is important, but by doing so he late a biblical prohibition for the purpose of chinuch. (Minchas Asher, Bereishis 21), discuss this question risks forfeiting his biblical obligation to educate his Tosafos (Pesachim 88a) notes that a person general- at length. There are a number of verses that might child to love G-d. ly is not permitted to eat from a Korban Pesach to qualify. “And you shall tell your children” (Shemos R. Meir Schlesinger (Shaalei Daat vol. 6), the which he is not previously assigned. Therefore, it fol- 13:8) is one candidate. “And thou shall teach [the founding rosh yeshiva of Yeshivat Shaalvim, brought lows that we should not be permitted to feed a child mitzvos] diligently unto thy children” (Devarim this question to R. Shalom Zalman Auerbach, zt”l. In the meat of a Korban Pesach since, due to his age, he 6:7) is another. R. Meir Simcha of Dvinsk (Meshech response, R. Auerbach referred him to a responsa, in cannot be legally assigned to a specific korban. The Chachmah, Bereishis 18:19) suggests “[Abraham is which he writes the following: A person might think Talmud, however, assumes that a child may eat from blessed because] he will instruct his children and his that he shouldn’t give a non-religious Jew a cup of a Korban Pesach. house after him to follow in G-d’s ways to perform water if he asks for one since he will likely drink it Rishonim offer different answers to solve this righteousness and justice.” without first saying a beracha. However, if he acts apparent contradiction. R. Shimshon of Shantz, for The Ramban, in his comments to the Rambam’s in this manner, he risks violating a larger sin – i.e., example, suggests that eating from a Korban Pesach Sefer HaMitzvos (2; see also Sefer Kinyan Torah causing this person to be angry at G-d and His Torah. to which one has not been assigned is actually not 5:41), offers another source: Devarim 4:9-10, which R. Shlomo Zalman Auerbach’s beautiful insight forbidden. Tosafos, however, argues that the mitzvah states: “Beware and watch yourself very well, lest you highlights the difficulty and complexity of chinuch – of chinuch sets aside the prohibition against eating forget the things that your eyes saw, and lest these training our children to perform mitzvos while instill- from a Korban Pesach to which one has not been as- things depart from your heart, all the days of your ing in them a love for Torah. signed. In other words, chinuch sets aside a biblical life, and you shall make them known to your children Rabbi David Brofsky has taught Talmud and hala- prohibition! and to your children’s children, the day you stood be- cha in numerous institutions in Israel, including Ye- The Magen Avraham (343:3) derives a general fore the Lord your G-d at Chorev.” He explains that shivat Har Etzion, Michlelet Mevaseret Yerushaly- rule from Tosafos’s explanation: For the sake of chi- these verses teach us that we should not be negligent im, Midreshet Lindenbaum, and Midreshet Torah nuch we may let a child violate a prohibition. The in transmitting the Torah to our children – i.e., that V’Avodah. He writes a weekly halacha article for Ye- Shulchan Aruch HaRav (343:5-8) agrees with this we must always transmit the Torah to the next gen- shivat Har Etzion’s Virtual Beit Midrash (VBM), and principle. He states that as long as a child continues eration. is the author of “Hilkhot Tefilla,” “Hilkhot Moadim,” to fulfill a mitzvah when he is older, he may fulfill These verses, however, seem to describe a dif- and “Hilkhot Avelut.” this mitzvah as a child while violating a prohibi- ferent mitzvah than the tion. That’s why, he explains, children may drink mitzvah of chinuch de- • Quality tc, tk a vrm k f k g from the Kiddush wine at shul on Friday night even scribed by the Talmud. • Economy CALL US ANYTIME We Specialize for • Reliability Shloshim or Shiva though this Kiddush is not said at the place of the While the Gemara refers meal and thus should not permit anyone to eat or to a parent’s obligation to drink. Children may drink nonetheless because they teach his child the intrica- are thereby educated in the mitzvah of Kiddush. 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