Does age really matters in relationship and marriage?

Some people say yes, some says no. There’s this rule saying minors’ aren’t allowed to date few
years older than them; vice versa , and that’s right. People should be educated that older people
should stop hitting on minors even if their intentions are good and no matter how you’ll act right,
minor IS still a minor. Age matter in a relationship because when we talk about age, it's all about
how old are we, how much do we know about life, and how mature are we. In a relationship
composed of a young girl/young boy and an older men/women who has an intimate
connection towards one another, age might be a number but it is one of the factor that
might break or make a relationship. As said by studies, older people has higher maturity
level caused by their age and experiences while for the young people, they acquire lower
maturity level than the older individual. They tend to not take things too' seriously and
only focuses on the idea of love. In a relationship maturity plays a big role, since it
enables couples to speak up more about their problem and feelings towards one another.
According to studies, clashing of opinions can be avoided because people with the same
maturity level mostly agree with each other, on the other hand couples who has a huge
age gap tends to fight a lot and make aggressive decisions.
Another thing why age matter in a relationship is that, when people knows you and your partner
has a huge age difference, they easily can judge you and can affect your relationship since most
of us,even though we say "don't listen to them", "they will eventually stop" we cannot hide the
fact that we cannot avoid it all and we don't how long can we endure all those judgments.
For exampie for a young girl, she had a relationship to a guy which is twice her age,
people judge you as a slut, whore, social climber and even having a sugar daddy, likewise.

How much of an age gap is too much?

Many people follow the rule of 7 to determine their largest age gap . Take your age,
divide it in half, then add 7: whatever that number is, that’s the minimum age that the rule of 7
says is socially acceptable to date.

Potential Problems in an Age Gap Relationship

 Social stigma Age gap relationships tend to be judged more harshly than non-age gap
ones. You might find that even close friends and family judge or question your
relationship, which can be frustrating. Keep in mind that you and your partner’s
happiness is the only thing that matters, and outside opinions don’t have to affect your
relationship.
 Mismatched libidos As we age, our libidos tend to get slightly lower. This isn’t true
for everyone, but you may find that in an age gap relationship, a libido mismatch is more
common. Keep the line of communication open, and talk to your partner if you’re
unhappy with your sex life.
 -Keep in mind that some people experience the reverse: as they age, their libidos get
higher.
 Differences in maturity In general, older people have more life experience, so
they’re slightly more mature. If you’re in an age gap relationship, this difference in
maturity can be frustrating—you might wonder why your partner is so serious all the
time, or why they treat everything as a joke.

Age Differences Can Make People Uncomfortable

Age gaps between partners can generate self-consciousness about one's relationship,
concerns that the relationship won't work, and hypersensitivity towards others' ideas
about the appropriateness of a relationship. In these cases, age gaps are observable;
obvious. A 15-year span, a 25-year span.

The negative societal response to age gap relationships may reflect people's objections to
unfair, inequitable relationships. Evidence suggests that prejudice tied to age-gap
relationships is accounted for by the belief that one person (the older person) is reaping
more rewards from the relationship than the other person (Collisson & De Leon, 2018).
Perhaps observers respond negatively to May-December relationships because they feel
as though the older person is taking advantage of the younger person.

Is age just a number or does it really matter in a relationship or

marriage?

The effect of the age factor in a relationship/ marriage is relative for most people. We all
should know what works for us depending on our knowledge of ourselves and
personalities. Lahat tayo ay hindi papayag na ang 12 year old na dalagang batang babae
ay ikakasal sa 40 year old man, and same din sa 21 year old woman doing same thing as
the other one. This is because the level of maturity of a 21 year old may be able to
accommodate a 40 year old’s regardless of the age difference between them.

Age is one of the factors that need to be considered when choosing a life partner,
especially in this part of the world.

6 Signs that Age Gap is Problematic

1. Disapproval of family and society.

Ang age gap sa pag date ay isang malaking topic para sa mga mahillig mag
chismis kaya ‘wag kana magulat kapag ikaw ay nasa big age gap relationship,
 ikaw na ang ididiin nila sa kanilang mga chimis lalo na sa family gathering.
Magkakaroon ka nang rumour, criticism, at makaka tanggap ng mga tanong na
medyo offending. If you are in a relationship with an older man, there will
definitely be gossip that you are a gold digger and he is your sugar daddy, And if
you are dating a much younger person, they will think it’s your mid-life crisis.

2. Compatibility issues

The bigger the age difference between you two is, the higher are the chances that you will
have to face compatibility issues. You come from two different generations which grew
up at different times, and that doesn’t come without consequences. You most likely have
different mindsets, and you will not agree on many things.

3. The matter of children

Kung ikaw ay magkakaroon man nang karelasyon na mas matanda saiyo ay posibleng
mayroon silang past family kung sa’n ay nagkaroon sila ng anak, kaya moba ‘tong
panindigan? Are you ready for such a responsibility? What if his children are close to
your age? This can be a very uncomfortable situation.And does he want more children?
What if he already has children and you don’t but wish to have them in the future? This
will particularly cause a problem in this case when he is much older than you because he
might not want to have children at such age, or by the time you will want kids, he will
already be a grandfather.

4. The matter of money

In a relationship where one partner is older than the other, that partner will often have an
established career and be more financially stable or even own property.This will cause
gossip that you are a gold digger, and he is your sugar daddy, but the gossip is not the
only problem you have to face when there is a huge difference in how much money you
make.

5. You are not going to grow old together

While you are dating, you won’t notice much difference in the way you look, but as time
goes by, the older partner will age faster, and the difference between how you look will
become more and more noticeable. Be ready for questions like is that your father or are
you his mother. And what comes with aging are illnesses. Are you ready to take care of
your partner when he becomes sick while you are in your best years?
 6. Experience matters

The older person has more experience than the younger one, and this might not
seem like a big deal now, but trust me, you will start noticing the problems that
come with different experiences, even if only when you break up and find
someone your age.

There’s this thing we can call “ AGE OF CONSENT”

What is age of consent?

-Age of consent is the age at which an individual is deemed legally competent to

consent to engage in sexual activities. This minimum age varies by state, and
being intimate with someone under the age of consent is considered to be a
criminal act. Some jurisdictions make allowances for minors engaging in sexual
activities with each other, though there may be guidelines as to the age difference.
To explore this concept, consider the age of consent definition.

Modern Age of Consent

The age of consent is the age at which, according to law, a person may legally consent to
engage in sexual activity. The actual term age of consent does not appear in the laws of
most jurisdictions, though federal law sets this age at 12 to 16 years, and most states have
similar ages. Age of consent in the United States refers to a person’s chronological age,
but in some cases, a court may consider the person’s mental age, in determining whether
he or she has been taken advantage of. This means that the mental capacity of a person
may leave him or her unable to legally consent to sexual activities, regardless of
chronological age. Having sexual intercourse with a person under the age of consent is a
crime referred to as “statutory rape.”

Legal Age of Consent

According to federal law, the legal age of consent is between 12 and 16 years. Having
intimate action with a minor between the ages of 12 and 16, who is at least four years
younger, is a crime. This would mean that a 17-year-old boy engaging in sexual activity
with a 13-year-old girl is a crime. If the girl was 15 years old, however, it is not.
Each jurisdiction takes a slightly different approach to determining age of consent,
which as the actual age ranging from 10 to 18 years. Many states consider the relative
ages of the participants.
In all states, a person under the age of consent who engages in sexual activities is
considered the victim, and the older partner is the perpetrator. The legal age of consent
may also vary in each jurisdiction depending on the type of sexual act, the gender of the
parties, and other special circumstances.

Related Legal Terms and Issues

 Criminal Act – An act committed by an individual that is in violation of the
law, or that poses a threat to the public.
 Coercion – The act of using force or intimidation to ensure compliance.
 Consent – To approve, permit, or agree.
 Jurisdiction – An act committed by an individual that is in violation of the
law, or that poses a threat to the public.
 Lesser Charges – A lesser charge, or included offense, shares some elements
of the main charge or greater criminal offense. For example, trespassing is a
lesser included offense of burglary, aggravated sexual assault is a lesser
included offense of rape, and manslaughter is a lesser included offense
of murder.
 Perpetrator – A person who commits an illegal or criminal act.

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 Does age really matters in relationship and marriage?

https://www.scribd.com/document/540787103/Age-matter-in-a-relationship
 How much of an age gap is too much? https://www.wikihow.com/Does-Age-
Matter-in-a-Relationship

 Age Differences Can Make People Uncomfortable

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/202104
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 Is age just a number or does it really matter in a relationship or

marriage? https://encomium.ng/is-age-just-a-number-or-does-it-really-
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 6 Signs that Age Gap is Problematic https://thinkaloud.net/age-

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 Age of Consent https://legaldictionary.net/age-of-consent/