HIGH-VALUE

WOMAN
DATING PLAN
WORKBOOK

VICKITA TRIVEDI
 Hey, Goddess!
My name is Vickita Trivedi and I am quite
literally obsessed with teaching females
how to become a woman of value and
DATE as one so they can feel empowered,
attract quality men, and thrive in dating.
I'm so excited you’re here!

Are you tired of attracting low-value men?

Not sure what constitutes a red flag? Are
you a woman who wants to spend less
time micro-analyzing a man's actions &
words in hopes of guessing his feelings for
you? Maybe you're tired of settling out of
desperation and want to start choosing
based on quality options.

That was me 4 years ago. I used to hate

dating because it always left me feeling
frustrated…I would hear all these women
talk about how much fun dating was and I
couldn't relate. I was always trying to take
my best guess on how a man felt toward
me. It was tiring and I knew I wanted to be
like other women choosing rather than
settling based on a lack of quality options. I
also wanted to finally feel in control of my
dating life. So that's what I did.

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SO YOU WANT TO DATE LIKE A HIGH-VALUE

WOMAN?
DON'T MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES I DID
If you're here, then you're serious about becoming a high-value feminine
woman and dating like one, to feel empowered and thrive in dating and attract
high-value men so you can have more quality options. Don't worry, I'm right
there with you.

One of the first things you can do is change your mindset around your dating
life. If you really want to change your dating experience, you've got to think of
yourself as the prize. I failed to do this from the start and it delayed my ability
to attract high-value men. I'm here to make sure you don't make the same
mistake.

The goal of this workbook is to help you create the foundation for a successful
dating experience. The first step to dating like a high-value woman is thinking
like one. If you have no idea what you're looking for in the dating process and
more specifically in a man, you will accept what you dont know you dont want.
With anything we want to be successful in, we must carve out a plan. Having a
detailed plan of action in the dating process helps you stay focused on your
ultimate goal; commitment with a high-value man.

When you go through this workbook, try to be honest with yourself as often as
possible. At the end of it, you should have a built-out blueprint that will be the
contract between you and yourself in your love life.

LET'S BEGIN...
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WHAT IS A HIGH-VALUE MAN?

I WANT TO PRIME YOUR MIND BEFORE YOU
CREATE YOUR DATING PLAN
Consider this image of a high-value man when creating your blueprint. This list
is also reminding you to never settle for less because the man described below
exists, all you need to do is become a match for him.

A high-value man:
Prioritizes his physical appearance
Has great personal hygiene
Looks after his body
Looks after his mind
Always strives to learn more
Isn't needy
Has high confidence and self-esteem
Adds more value than he takes
Is financially stable or striving to be
Has drive and ambition
Stands by his word
His actions and words align
Has goals and works toward them
Pursues and initiates
Has balanced his masculine and feminine energy
Is resting in his healthy masculine energy
Has standards
Has sexual discipline
Is loyal, protective, and reliable
Is emotionally intelligent
Has a secure attachment style
Has a growth mindset
Is assertive, NOT aggressive
Has strong motivating morals and value

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STEP 1: GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU WANT

YOU HAVE TO KNOW IN DETAIL WHAT YOU
WANT
One of the biggest mistakes I made when I was dating as a low-value woman
was not really knowing what I wanted. That's why for this guide, I have you
writing everything down so you have a firm blueprint that you can refer back
to.

Go through these steps to get a clear idea of what you want out of dating!

What are you looking for?

This one should be pretty easy, good to start easy.

What are your core values?

Identifying your values - your core motivating factors - is one of the most
important steps in figuring out what you want and need in a relationship.

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How do you want to feel with someone?

Think about why it's important for you to feel this way with someone.

What traits does your high-value man have?

Trusting, caring, loving, protector, leads, initiates, financially stable, respects
you, ambitious, successful, cultured, etc.

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STEP 2: RULE OUT YOUR "HELL NO'S" & IDENTIFY

YOUR "HELL YA'S"
KNOW YOUR REDS AND GREENS
Use my R & G system to clearly identify your reds (running for the hills
dealbreakers) and Greens (things that make you scream for joy inside).
Remember that these speak to your personal values.

Pull from past relationships and experiences to help identify your

dealbreakers to best set you up for success!

What are your greens?

Let's start on a positive note. What are things you look for in a man?
Remember you are now a high-value woman dating like one, so what does your
high-value man have? Is he financially stable? Can he provide for you? Is he
family orientated? etc.

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What are your deal breakers?

This is the basic understanding of what you will NOT accept in a man even if he
has everything else you are looking for. When you see these things, it's your
cue to check out.

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What are your non-negotiables?

Non-negotiables can be both positive and negative and refer mostly to

lifestyle. A negative non-negotiable is something like heavy drinking. A positive
non-negotiable is something like being family-oriented. Really dig deep and
outline what lifestyle factors are very important to you.

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High-Value Woman Boundaries

Use this list of boundaries to remind yourself that YOU come first. Any man
that doesn't adhere to or make it easy to adhere to these standards and
boundaries can be dismissed.

I hold the power in my relationships to decide what I will not accept or

tolerate
I will not suppress my needs, wants, and emotions for fear of pushing
someone away
I will never chase a man out of desperation for love, I will acknowledge the
space between us and stand with confidence in it
I will always match a mans energy
I will never question my worth in relation to someone else's poor behavior
I will never try to control someone's actions, behaviors, or decisions. I
understand I can only control myself
I understand I cannot make a person love me. I stay focused on loving
myself
I will be intentional with physical intimacy and never do it to reward a man,
prove myself to a man or gain a man's attention
I will ALWAYS adhere to my standards, wants, and needs. A man that
cannot meet them is a man simply not for me
I am aware I hold the power to choose, not settle. I will never wait to be
chosen.
Someone's inability to meet me where I am will not convince me that my
standards are too high
I will not ignore red flags for fear of losing the relationship. I will address
them, look for change and make a decision that is alignment with my
needs, wants, and boundaries
I will only allow myself to be intimate with a man that takes the time to
know me, court me and desire me mentally, physically, spiritually and
emotionally

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STEP 3: VETTING YOUR DATES

KNOW WHO YOU'RE TALKING TO
The most critical, but often overlooked step. Men tell you who they are
immediately, you need to know how to listen. The rest of this workbook is
going to tell you exactly what kind of man you're dealing with based on the
little things he does.

This has been tested for years, so trust me when I say, if you encounter any or
all of these men during your dating experience, RUN. This is the stage where
you are weeding out the low-value men to find your high-value king.

Identifying red flags

If you notice any of these, RUN. Ignoring red flags is the biggest mistake you
can make. Red flags often start as a small - can look past - "issue" that turns
into the demise of the relationship. The list below is not an exhaustive one, but
they are the most common red flags.
Love bombing
You don't like his friends
He has a female best friend
He makes you ignore your boundaries around him
Not getting introduced to friends and family
Pressures you into physical intimacy
Inconsistent behavior
Words and actions don't align
Lack of trust in you
Constantly needing reassurance
Short temper
Codependency
Heavy drinker, drug use
Excessive compliments early on
Using hearts over texting
Texting, calling 24/7
No healthy balance between his relationship with you and his life
Mirroring all your interests
Jealousy
Wants you to make them first priority
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7 Male archetypes to avoid in dating

The Non-committer

This man loves the attention that feeds his ego. If you are giving this man
attention he'll give you just enough that keeps you interested but will create
a healthy distance between both of you so there's no commitment. You can
identify the non-committer by:

His lack of effort

You will always be initiating the contact (unless its late at night and he
wants attention)
His inconsistency
His actions do not align with his words
You will always feel "confused" about where you stand
You will always be trying to "understand" his behavior and dissect his words
You will always be chasing him
Your anxious attachment will be triggered

The "do it yourself" Man

The "do it yourself" man has adjusted a little too well to modern feminism. He
believes that all women are independent and want to be treated as such. He
will treat you just as modern feminism has taught him, to be equal. This means
50/50 everything. This man is very far from being a high-value man. You can
identify the "do it yourself" man by:

His chivalry. Does he open the door for you, does he pay the bill on a date,
does he refill your empty glass, does he order your drink before you arrive
(if you've been out before), etc...
His level of attention to you
If he makes you feel like a 50/50 "friend" or a romantic pursuit
You won't feel pursued or desired because the "do it yourself" man quite
literally wants a companion, not a girlfriend or wife
He'll take the cheapest and easiest route to "win you over"

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The Controller (1st stage narcissist)

The controller often masks his controlling behavior by convincing you he just
loves you so much that he wants to "protect" you. He will attempt to make you
fearful of the world and people around you to convince you that you need
protection, so he can step in to fulfill the job. This is one of the scarier
archetypes because it often leads to forms of abuse. You can identify the
controller by:

Feeling like you need to keep things from him in fear he will get mad
He will want to track you at all times and know your every move
He will attempt to isolate you from people you know
He is very insecure and constantly needs reassurance
He throws temper tantrums
He tells you how much he loves you (manipulation tactic) to gain control
over your emotions so you do what he says
He will try to tell you that his form of trust and loyalty is keeping tabs on
you

The woman hater

This man groups women as a collective. He thinks every woman is "crazy"

"psycho", a "golddigger", "disloyal" and a "whore". This archetype follows
closely behind the controller as the controller has deep-seated hate for women
stemming from childhood trauma. The woman-hater is very dangerous and
should be avoided at all costs. You can identify the woman-hater by:

The way he talks about his mother, sister, and woman figures in his life
The way he talks about his ex
His language when referring to women (bitch, slut, c***, etc)
He will be overly curious as to how many men you've slept with

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The Sex Fiend

This man is straight-up weird and annoying. Think "you showering without me
😭?" vibes. He lacks sexual discipline and is heavily motivated by sex, making
him VERY susceptible to cheating. He looks at women as just an object or goal
to conquer and then ignores you once you've given it up. You can identify the
sex fiend by:

If he asks you when the last time you had sex was
If he has wandering eyes
If he likes videos or pictures of half-naked women on the internet
If he constantly brings sex up
If he regularly indulges in porn
Always makes sexual innuendos
Shamelessly checks out other women without trying to hide it
Makes you feel like you should reward him with sex for any little thing he
does for you

The Loser

The loser is the man who got his heart broken in the 8th grade and hasn't been
able to trust women ever since. He knows he wants to change, he knows he
wants a relationship but lacks any real effort to make a change. He is a very
nice guy that got hurt and hasn't been able to get over it, making him
emotionally unavailable and doing the "bare minimum". The slight difference
between the loser and the non-committer is the loser wants a relationship. You
can identify the loser by:

Needing to spell out how you expect to be treated

Getting frustrated at his inconsistency
Needing to spell out what he needs to do to change
Youll feel an almost "mother-like" role coming over you
He expects you to hold his hand and walk him through his healing
He expects you to stick around and wait for his change to take form
He convinces you to stick around based on his 'potential"
You feel an extra effort to make him trust you, show him you're not like
"every other woman" and you won't hurt him
You will be waiting forever for this man

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The Mamas Boy

This man has been over-coddled by his mother and now has a skewed
perception of what a relationship should be. He believes that women are here
to serve a man's every need without the expectation for him to do anything.
You can identify the mamas boy by:

If he compares women to his mother

His mother doesn't like any of his gf's
You feel like you're not in a relationship, but rather a dynamic of
mother/son
He's lazy, unmotivated, and accepts the bare minimum for his life
He doesn't feel like he's your man, protecting and leading you but rather a
man you're just taking care of

THERE IS STILL HOPE

It might seem like I've just obliterated the entire male population in one sitting,
but trust me when I say the high-value man described at the very beginning
DOES exist.

2 things need to happen before you can attract him.

1. Raise your standards

2. Become the man you're looking for

You cannot expect something out of someone you are not willing to reciprocate
so start embodying the high-value woman I know you are. This means
unlocking your feminine magnetism and becoming a high-value woman who is
confident, magnetic, values herself and LOVES herself.

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YOU DID IT!

Becoming a high-value woman and dating like one can be an isolating journey,
so head over to my private Facebook group and join other like-minded women
on the same journey!

Here's the link to my Facebook group.

THIS IS ONLY THE FIRST (BUT REALLY IMPORTANT!) STEP

Do you REALLY want to take your dating life to the next level and start
attracting the man of your dreams by becoming a high-value feminine woman?
Well, this is only the first step in that journey! Im making a course on exactly
how I attract high-value men by being a high-value woman and I'm giving you a
way to be the first to know.

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