Table of Contents

Introduction ............................................... 1
Respectful ................................................ 2
Change and Grow the Positive Way ............................. 3
Simplify .................................................. 4
Intentions ................................................. 6
The Six Steps .............................................. 7
List of WantslHaves ......................................... 8
Definition of Wants ......................................... 9
Ponder .................................................. 10
The Unstuck Chart ......................................... 11
Your Ticket to Bliss ........................................ 12
Scale of Action ............................................ 13
Energy Scale of Emotions ................................... 14
Enjoy Course ............................................. 15
Assignments . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16
Worksheet ............................................... 17
Relationship Goals ....................... ; ................. 18
Freedom ................................................. 19
Attachment to People ....................................... 20
Aversion to People ......................................... 21
Attachment to Wanting ..................................... 30
Aversion to Wanting ........................................ 31
Attachment to Trusting ..................................... 32
Aversion to Trusting ........................................ 33
Attachment to Being Alone .................................. 34
Aversion to Being Alone .................................... 35
Things You Resist ......................................... 36
Personality Worksheet ...................................... 38
What Do I Know About? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . .. 39
List of Resistance .......................................... 40
People Your Dislike ........................................ 41
What Am I Afraid Of? ...................................... 42
Good & Bad Exercise ...................................... 43
Attachment to Perfect Mate .................................. 44 "
Aversion to Perfect Mate .................................... 45
More Attachments and Aversions ............................. 46
Attachments and Aversions Blank Sheets ....................... 47
General Releasing Sheet .................................... 49
Demonstration ............................................ 50
Demonstration ............................................ 51
Happiness ................................................ 52
Wording Goal Statements ................................... 53
Sample Goal Statements .................................... 54
Goal Accomplishments ..................................... 55
Goals to Achieve .......................................... 56
Goal Charts .............................................. 57
Action Sheet .............................................. 59
Action Taken ............................................. 60
Personality Worksheet ...................................... 61
Mutuality Worksheet ....................................... 62
Similarity Worksheet ....................................... 63
Advantages and Disadvantages ............................... 64
The Past ................................................. 65
Beingness Chart ........................................... 67
The Abundance Course Candidates ............................ 68
Sex and Marriage .......................................... 69
Gains and Benefits ......................................... 71
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II The Relationship Course
for Gradate-level Releasing Students
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Are You in a Relationship?
II We all are! We are in relationships with our spouse, significant other, parents, children, co-workers,
customers, supervisors, employees, and even with concepts and institutions. If we are in school,
we have a relationship with that institution, if we work for a company, we have a relationship with

iii that company. On an inner level, we are in a relationship with our concept of ourself and with
various "parts" of ourself which we have identified as unique, such as our inner child, our
"damaged child," our critical voices and our sacred parts.

III How Are Your Relationships Faring?

If you think about it, how we deal with these relationships is important, for it will govern much of
II the quality of our lives and determine how much love and fulfillment flows in our life, as well as
our experience of abundance, and our sense--or lack of it--of being an effortless part of the magic
of beingness. For better or worse, each of our relationships is governed by our mental attitudes and
II preconceptions about the relationships and the "other." Many of these preconceptions and attitudes
are old programs or "recordings" built by our minds many years ago under less than ideal

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circumstances, and often from a state or fear or contraction, a state where love and ease were not
plentiful. These programs are largely subconscious. Nonetheless, these programs, especially those
that are largely subconscious, can exert tremendous control over our lives and our experiences, and
can act to limit the amount of love, fulfillment and flow in our relationships. In certain kinds of
relationships, they can also cause the same patterns to repeat again and again. We all know
someone who has been in a string of abusive relationships, where we can predict with ease that
every new partner this person finds will also be abusive. We all know someone who is a perennial
victim in all areas of their lives, from parents, to love partners, to jobs, cars (accidents, repairs,
lemons), health and even getting their mail on time (late, lost, damaged, hostile postal clerks, etc.).
In each of these cases, the specifics of the story may change, but the underlying theme is
extremely repetitive. Well, we all do this on some level, in some of our relationships, although
some our stories may not be quite so dramatic as those of some of our friends.

Can I Recreate My Relationships With More Consciousness and Love?

If we can recognize and release our old self-defeating or constricted or limiting programs and
beliefs in some of these areas, we can allow Spirit and perfection to have a fuller range of play in
our lives. We also become more empowered, because with each releasing, we see one more
example of how we are really powerful creators rather than helpless victims. Better, with each old
limitation and constriction we release, we allow a little more love and abundance into our lives,
and become lighter and freer in body and mind.

A Course Designed to Accelerate Transformation of Our Relationships

The Relationships Course, created by Lester Levenson and Larry Crane, allows graduates of earlier
foundational courses in releasing to explore the varied relationships in our lives and identify which
ones have a marked lack of light and love, a dearth of spirit, and then guides us in accepting,
allowing and dissolving those old programs which have allowed us to build prison bars around our
lives here on earth. This course is designed only for graduates of earlier coursework on Lester
Levenson's magical work on love and releasing, and will offer advanced techniques for releasing
specific blocks as well as for dissolving some broad generic limiting themes and concepts.
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Respectful
II In order for a relationship to be ideal and lasting,

II each person must be respectful towards the other.

Respectful, according to Webster's dictionary, means to feel and show honor or esteem for;
II holding high regard; to consider or treat with deference or dutiful regard. We recommend that you
put the following words to action:

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. respectful, responsible, reassure

II educate, encourage

II sincere, sympathetic, support

II praise, practice, patience

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..,,; encouragement, enjoyment, enthusiasm
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.: truth, trust, tenderness

A.. ".·..". faithfulness, fulfillment, fun

understand, unite. uplift

listen. learn. love, laugh

When you are critical of others it is a sign of low self-esteem. If you felt good about yourself you
wouldn't have any need or desire to find fault with others.
This course will show you how.

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I Change and Grow
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I Change, according to Webster's, denotes a making or becoming distinctly

different and implies either a radical transmutation of character or
replacement with something else. To cause to become different;

I alter; transform; convert.

Many of us make the mistake in relationships by thinking and trying to

I change the other person. We put all our efforts in trying to "fix" and
change our loved ones. Instead of accepting them and loving them as
is, we think they would be so much better if only they would act and
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II We all want and need unconditional love. No one wants to feel that they can only be
loved and accepted by someone if they change according to the wants and desires of
that special someone.

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can change is you! Once you change, others will change. For every action there is a reaction. As
you change and grow others will change and grow. Change is scary and some people won't want
you to change. The fear of the unknown keeps these people from wanting any change in their lives

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and they won't want to see you change. Don't allow other people's fears hold you back from
making the positive changes you desire in life.

• If you want to change yourself realize it takes time. Don't be hard on yourself if you fall back to
the old ways. We are all creatures of habit. It took a long time for you to be who you are today and

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you shouldn't expect to change overnight. Also, remember that change is choice. You can choose
to start today and learn to develop and create the positive changes you want. Once you acquire the
skill you need to make a change then act on that knowledge. Releasing is the key to change. The

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little steps you make do count when it comes to changing in a positive way.

Be persistent. Don't give up until you have made the changes you desire in your life a habit!
Enjoy the journey and discover the joy and excitement of making positive changes

Remember: A good loving relationship is one that allows each person to be himself or herself.

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Each person needs the freedom to grow and change at their own pace as they see fit. We can only
change ourselves. Learn to love and accept yourself and you will be able to love and accept others
without the need or desire to change them.

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I Let go of wanting to control the feeling-keep it simple!!!

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II Don't run away from the feelings, no matter what.

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Instead of releasing on it-why not release it! Just do it!

*Tip-ask yourself "What am I afraid of?" Just release any feeling.

Every "yes-but" is really a No!

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What you hope to accomplish.

Make a list of the the people in your life that you want to work on.

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II You must want imperturbability more than you want approval. control and

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2. Decide you can do the Method and be imperturbable.

II 3. See all your feelings culminate in three wants. The want for approval. control

II and security/survival. See that immediately and immediately let go of the want
of approval. want to control and the want of security/survival.

II 4. Make releasing constant.

5. If you are stuck, let go of wanting to control the stuckness.

6. Each time you release you are happier and lighter. If you release continually, you
will be continually happier and lighter.

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I Definition of Wants
I 1. Although wants are not feelings, they definitely have a "feel" to them.
Wanting Approval has a kind of gimme feeling to it-a kind of soft neediness.
I Wanting Control on the other hand has a harder feeling. It is a little more pushy and assertive.

II 2. Remember that a want is a lack.

II 3. Remember that there is nothing wrong with giving, or receiving approval,or being in control. It
is not the actual state that limits us, but the "wanting it."

II 4. Releasing on the wants is more powerful and deeper than releasing on the emotions and
feelings. When you let go of a want you are letting go of a piece of everything on the chart.
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wanting love. All joy and bliss comes from giving approval and giving up control-which is
another way of saying giving love. It comes from being yourself.

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1. Could I let go of wanting to figure things out?

2. Could I let go of wanting to know what to do?

3. Could I let go of wanting to know the answers?

4. Could I let go of wanting to know anything (for this moment) right now?

5. And again, and again, etc.

6. Could I let go of wanting to think?

7. And again, and again, etc.

1. Now, can I let go of disapproving of myself right now?

2. And again, and again, etc.

3. Could I give myself approval (for no reason)?

4. And again, and again, etc.

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Peace I am-I am whole, complete, total unto my Self. Everyone and

everything is part of mx It is all perfect.

Acceptance No need to changeari)'thing.Nojudgments of good or bad. It just is

Courageousness The or hesitation-to do-to

willingness to let go-to

Pride ThewiSll!tOl'mwnwn;mi?IfiiwZST[iliI.!IIiiwiUing to change or move-

as they might pass us

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I EMOTION ENERGY USED
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I Apathy
Grief
100-95%
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I Fear
Lust
89-85%
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11-15%

Anger 79-70% 21-30%

I Pride 69-60% 31-40%

I THE POSITIVES-CAP
Courageousness 59-35% 41-65%

I Acceptance
Peace
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suppressing, and keeping suppressed, the feelings (past decisions-past programs).

I Our mind, the computer, in tum uses that energy to direct us into the thinking and
patterns of behavior which have been predetermined by those past decisions or programs.

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move on to the negative emotions, AGFLAP. Taking them one by one, you will see how
each emotion affects your ability to discriminate; how it takes control over your "1"

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MORNING

1. Do 15 minutes of physical exercise each morning to get your body

energized for the day's action.

2. Work on a relationship goal chart for a minimum of 15 minutes each

morning.

3. Plan your day. Use your Daily Action Planner to list all activities to be
done that day.

DURING THE DAY

4. Speak to your partner at least once a day for mutual support and to deepen
your friendship.

5. Plan at least two activities to do with someone in your life each week.
Make sure it is mutual.

6. Take at least one Action each day to improve a current relationship and

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7. Throughout the day, remember to use the Method each time you have a
negative, judgmental thought about anyone.

EVENING

8. Review your Action Chart each evening and release.

9. Review your Daily Action Planner each evening, check off all items
completed, and release.

10. Work on a relationship goal chart for a minimum of 15 minutes each

evening.

11. Check items completed on your assignment worksheet.

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