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To improve your EQ, start jotting down every emotion you have. It's easy to jot
down major emotional responses such as anger or sadness, but we sometimes
overlook the less intense-but equally important-emotions. Keep a small pad of
paper with you, or use the Notes app on your smartphone. Log your emotions and
keep track of them. To get started, use the "Common Emotions" chart to review the
various emo tions that most of us experience frequently. If you are unsure of the
meaning of some of these words, refer to a dictionary or thesaurus for more
information.
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Taking some time to get over your initial emotional response can lead to a calmer and more useful response to the situation.
It is easy to see how failing to control your emotions might lead to making poor
choices in life. Work on taking the time to think about your feelings, correct irrational
thoughts, and make decisions that are in keeping with your life goals.
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Reframe. Strong emotions often lead us to irrational thoughts. Earlier, you saw
that when Keith received a low grade on a paper, he started thinking the worst: 'Tm
stupid. I'm not cut out for college." If Keith does not rethink his response, he might
actually begin to believe these irrational thoughts. Then he may do something unwise,
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college.
People who do not think they can affect their life circumstances often make
assumptions that lead to bad decisions.
It is true that we cannot control everything that happens to us, but how we react
to life can make a big difference to our success. One way to gain an internal locus of
control is to change the scripts that run through our minds. Here are some examples.
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no hope, you will not be able to find solutions to the problems that threaten
success. Believe that where there is a will, there is a way. Start a belief journal.
Write down everything you believe you are capable of and go over those beliefs
every day.
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Thinking Critically
While emotional intelligence helps us to navigate and control our feelings, critical
thinking helps us to improve our logic and problem-solving abilities. Critical
thinking is the practice of forming and asking key questions about the texts you
read and the situations you encounter in life. Critical thinkers go on to answer
these key questions in order to form rational judgments and find creative
solutions to problems.
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Succeeding in College
Researchers who study the reasons for college success and the obstacles preventing it
have identified several characteristics of successful students:
■ Students who succeed are self-directed.
■ Students who succeed use resources effectively.
• Students who succeed manage their time well.
■ Students who succeed are self-reflective.
INEFFECTIVE RESPONSE
Human Resources. Human resources are the people around you who can
provide help:
■ Your instructors are your best resources. Do not hesitate either to visit your
instructors during their office hours or to e-mail them. Professors welcome their
students' questions and office visits.
■ Look around your classes to identify peers with whom you might be able to con
nect. Consider swapping e-mail addresses with one or two classmates so you can
discuss assignments or keep up with class notes in case of absences. Of course,
always use care about giving your personal information to anyone. A campus
e-mail address is a fairly safe way to chat with a classmate, but it might not be
wise to give out your phone number or address.
• You can also form study groups to discuss course assignments. Such groups can
meet on a regular basis or only when necessary.
■ Lab instructors or tutors can also be excellent resources for professional feedback
on papers or for help with complex assignments.
■ If your campus has a writing center, use it. Writing center instructors or tutors are
specially trained to help with reading and writing assignments. Do not hesitate to
ask a writing center instructor for help with any course that requires writing.
• Additionally, student success counselors and librarians have been trained to help
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Once you have identified the available human resources on your campus, take the
next step-use them! Regularly interacting with instructors and others on campus who
are there to help will make a significant difference to your academic success.
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To make a time management system, use a simple chart that lists the days of the
week and the hours of each day. Input your commitments, and schedule your study
time. Be sure to leave some hours open for flexibility. Post your plan and make others
aware of it so they can help you follow it.
down at yourself, noting the things you are saying and doing. The goal is to be able to
see yourself as others see you. Think about yourself as a student. Which of your
behav iors sabotage your success? Which behaviors work for you? Self-reflective
analysis will help you view your strengths and weaknesses more objectively so you
can become the kind of learner and person you want to be.
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You have read about four characteristics of students who are successful in col
lege. Think about your own habits and traits as a college student, and answer
these questions on your own paper.
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l. Think of a job or a class you had in the past in which discipline and behavior
were not good. What was the problem? What could your employer or instructor
have done differently to make student or worker behaviors more acceptable?
Write two or three paragraphs to explain.
2. Think of a time when you made a decision without thinking critically about it.
Perhaps you told a lie to a person you loved or bought something expensive on
an impulse. What decision did you make? What process did you use to make the
decision? Why do you think you made the decision without thinking critically?
What steps should you have taken to make a better, more-informed decision?
Write two or three paragraphs to explain.
3. Think about a time in your academic life when you failed an assignment. Was
the failure brought on because of a problem in emotional intelligence, a problem
in critical thinking, or a problem that you could have avoided by using a college
suc cess strategy? Explain your answer in a paragraph.
4. Earlier you read about Ace and Joker. With which character do you identify the
most? Why? Explain.
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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
We all have good moods and bad moods. People who are "emotionally
intelligent" can explain their moods and the likely reasons for them.
They can do something else, as well: they can find ways to regulate their
moods when doing so is desirable. Psychologists suggest that people who can
control their moods have much better relationships and are happier and more
successful than people who cannot. Have you ever intentionally controlled a
mood? For example, perhaps you went to work one day feeling irritated and
snapped at your coworkers. Realizing the effects of your mood on others, you
decided to breathe deeply, relax, and say only kind things the rest of the day. If
you have managed to control a mood, what methods worked for you? What might
have happened if you had not taken control of your mood? Explain in a
paragraph.
METACOGNITION
\::t!J) Metacognition is the ability to understand how you learn and how you
think. People who are successful in college, usually have developed
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metacognitive skills. To develop yours, consider the following
activity: Think about a college or high school class that you found very
difficult.
Imagine that you can watch a video of how you behaved (studied, attended,
listened, questioned, spoke, read, and so on) during that class. What would the
video show you doing? Describe the video in a paragraph. What insight can you
gain by looking at yourself from outside?