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Chapter Nine
Chapter Nine
SUBMISSION IN MARRIAGE
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husband as unto the lord. For the husband is the head
of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the Saviour of the body. Therefore
as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything”
(Eph. 5:22-25).
BIBLE TEXTS: Rom. 13:1-2; 1 Cor. 11:7-12; Eph. 5:21-28; 1 Tim. 2:11-13; Titus 2:4-5
1. WHY SUBMISSION?
a. There is a universal order of authority in the scripture which could be represented as follows:
God - Christ – Man - woman - children (1 Cor. 11:3).
b. God commands us to be subject to all existing authorities (Rom. 13:1-2; 1 Pet. 2:13-14).
c. God hates disorderliness (1 Cor. 14:40). He equates disobedience to the sins of witchcraft
and idolatry (1 Sam. 15:23).
d. Obedience is more important than all forms of religious observances: sacrifices, offerings,
ceremonies, etc. (1 Sam. 15:22).
e. Submission entails a practical demonstration of the virtue of humility (1 Pet. 5:5, Matt.
23:12).
2. AUTHORITY OF A HUSBAND
a. The head of a woman is the man, hence the husband is the head of the wife (1 Cor. 11:3; 7-
9).
b. The husband has total authority over the wife in all things (Eph. 5:22-23; 1 Pet. 3: 1).
c. The parents have authority over all the children. (Eph. 6:l-3; Col.3:20)
d. The man has authority over every member of his household. (1 Tim. 3:4, 12)
e. Husbands should exercise this God-given authority in compassion and courteousness, dealing
with their wives and children in honour as joint heirs of the grace of life, so that their prayers
would not be hindered (1 Pet.3:7-11).
f. The man should not abuse the authority by provoking the children (Col. 3 :2 1).
g. The husband should use the authority in presenting his wife and children (plus other
members of his household) to Christ, just as Christ would present a glorious church, not
having spots or wrinkle but holy and without blemish. (Eph. 5:25-28).
h. Christ is the head of the man (1 Cor. 11: 3). The husband must be subject to Christ in all
things. The man is accountable to Christ for his wife and entire household (1 Tim. 2:12-14;
3:4, 12; Eph. 5:25-28; Josh. 24: 15).
a. Disparity in Age: Especially if the wife is much older than the husband.
b. Social Status: Acquisition of university degrees, job placements, financial status.
c. Wrong Counsel: From friends and relations (refusal to leave and cleave).
d. Spiritual Unbrokenness: When you are still nurturing your ego.
e. Background Influence: Taking pride in your pedigree.
f. Sophistication: A feeling of being more cultured and refined than your spouse.
g. Wrong Ideas: Example, seeing marriage on an equality basis (50% - 50% contribution).
h. Too much cheating by the husband/ Wife
b. Abraham, Sarah, Hagar and the birth of Ishmael (Gen. 16:1-3,6-9). - Islam.
c. Isaac and Rebecca (Jacob and Esau’s blessing) (Gen. 27: 1-4) - Sword between two brothers.
d. Moses, Zipporah, and the circumcision of his son (Exo. 2:21, 4:24-25) - Denied the privilege
of seeing the power of God.
e. Elizabeth and Zachariah (Lk. 1: 57-63) - naming ceremony of John the Baptist.
CONCLUSION
God commands the wife to obey her husband, and He makes no exceptions even in unpleasant
circumstances. But He promises guidance and wisdom to women who seek to obey. He offers
unmeasured grace for whatever trials a woman faces, while He completes the needed work of
conviction in her husband’s heart. He rewards obedience with a usefulness and happiness far
beyond her deepest expectations. However, husbands too should remember that God expects
both partners to submit to each other (Eph. 5:21).