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Preparation For Courtship and Courtship To Marriage
Preparation For Courtship and Courtship To Marriage
Preamble
Though this text speaks of the cost of following Jesus as his disciple; anyone who will be
his/ her disciple must have to put something into consideration. One has to consider what
he would have to face in following Him. As one cannot escape persecution (suffering)
and the likes, so also, in using this text as the base of this topic under-discussion,
marriage is not a thing one has to jump into without putting some things into
consideration, the aftermath of the marriage. Even before courtship, there are steps to
take, let alone tying the knot (going for marriage proper). Like in the Apostolic Church
Nigeria, which follows the doctrine of the Bible to the letter where divorce is not allowed
at all (Mal.2:16; Gen.2:24), there are things to put into consideration before courtship.
Marriage is not what one dabbles into anyhow; marriage is met for the matured. In the
Apostolic Church, once one enters into a marriage there is no going back, that is why this
statement is sound audibly, “THOSE WHOM GOD JOINED TOGETHER LET NO
MAN PUT ASUNDER”(Mark 10:7-9).
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family where he was brought by the Damsel he met to be the wife to his master’s son, in
verses 50-61, the dowry was paid and the engagement was done and the bride was taken
to her husband. Prayer is a necessity before step is taken for courtship as seen in the
journey of Abraham’s servant, Isa, 43:26; 1:18a corroborate this. And during courtship
the following steps are very necessary:
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vii. Shared Goals. Couples must have common objectives and desires for their
future together. This encompasses objectives such as job, family, and personal
development. For example, if one spouse wishes to have children and the other
does not, this can be cause for concern.
viii. Emotional Compatibility. In each marriage, emotional compatibility is vital.
Couples must be able to support each other emotionally in both good and
terrible times. For example, if one spouse is having a tough time, the other
partner should be able to offer emotional support.
ix. Religious Belief. Religion may be an important part of a person's life. Couples
must consider their religious compatibility before marrying. This involves
talking about things like beliefs, traditions, and customs. For example, if one
spouse is very religious while the other is not will always be a source of
contention.
x. Personal growth. Marriage is a process of personal development and progress.
Partners must make a commitment to each other's personal growth and
development. This involves supporting one another to achieve their dreams and
ambitions. For example, if one partner wants to return to school to obtain a
degree, the other partner must agree.
Conclusion
Marriage is a crucial milestone in anyone's life. Couples must examine various variables
before getting married. By carefully examining these variables, couples can boost their
chances of a good and long-lasting marriage. Marriage is collaboration, and both parties
must be dedicated to supporting one other, talking openly, and working together to solve
any issues that may emerge. Marriage can be a beautiful and satisfying adventure with
the appropriate perspective and approach (Gen. 2:24-25; Mk 10:7).