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Crazy-Making To Love-Making - Action Book
Crazy-Making To Love-Making - Action Book
WHAT'S WRONG WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX & HOWTO FIX· IT FOREVER!
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Dear Friend.
There is no greater gift in life (han the joy that is possible when you have
radiant, inspiring and passionate romance in your life.
Whether you are looking for a way [0 take your current relationship [0 a new
level or you are seeking to attract the love of your life. Sage and I are excited
[0 share what we have learned during the magnificent journey of our love
affair [Ogether.
Over the years. our rela(ionship has continued to grow, expand and evolve. And
through our unwavering love for each other. we have found growth. meaning,
hope. passion and a richness of life that is simply unlike anything else.
We know that this beautiful depth of love is possible for you. as well.
Our greatest hope is that you wi ll discover a new way [0 love and appreciate
your partner. .. as well as yourself.
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The 6 Human Needs .. . .. . ........ . .. . .•. . . . .• .. . .. • . .. .. II
5 Steps to Communication Mastery ........................ 16
Audio 2: The Vital Disciplilles ofLove and Passim.
Real love is me highest form of giving. And it is also where we achieve the most
inner personal growth. Thus. [0 fuJly love another person is perhaps one of the
most divine experiences on earth.
At our deepest level, we all crave a meaningful and rich connection with
someone else. Yet many of you may have given up on the idea that the ideal is
even possible and, as a result, settled for much less.
This product is designed co help you find true joy in your intimate
relacionships. And if you are nOt currendy in a relacionship, it will help you
understand how [0 attract me parmer you desire in life.
By capturing what you learn along the way and creating a list of ways to
apply those lessons to your own life, you are well on me path to creating a
relationship of growth, fulfillmem, love. joy and never-ending passion.
Action tool 1:
• Reclaiming Your Passion Audio
• The Vital Disciplina of Love and Passion Audio
Love is the area where we all have the deepest amoum of fear. And it is also
where we experience the greatest rewards.
However. the truth is that feelings of fear and excitement can all stem from
the exact same moment. It all depends on the meaning you 3nach ro the
experience. Thus. if you become a master of meaning. you can become a master
of your life and of your relationships.
Reladonships are the juiciest pan of life. There is simply nothing that makes us
grow more as a person. We all have an innate desire [0 give and grow, and this
is what makes us feel aliv~.
While expanding your own relationship, keep these four things in mind:
1. There are two parts in every human, and both are important. If eicher
one of chese aspeccs of ourselves is lacking, we die.
(I) Spirit
(2) Animal
4. The strongest bonds have come from our greatest pains. When you let
yourse lf become completely vulnerab le [Q another pe rson. you crea re a space
for you to grow and bond together.
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'0 AI\; HI{ NY & ~A(d ROkl I
The 6 Human Needs
T here are 6 Human Needs that 3fe responsible for vinuaJly all human
behaviors and decisions. These arc the needs that we need to meet on a
regular basis. no mancr whar:
The first four needs: Certainty. Variety. Significance and Love and Connection
afC the needs of the personality, and we aJl find a way to meet them in some
way. We literally can't live without them.
When you're: in a couple, its essential that you're aware of how you're meeting
your partners needs. And the 6 Human Needs give you a simple way to do that.
If yo u meet all of your partners 6 Human eeds, they wi ll never leave you.
Research studies show that anytime there is tension in your body, [he
unconscious part of your brai n is running (he show. Thus. when you are
bio logically consumed by fear, it is not poss ib le for you (0 make decisions [hat
are grounded in love.
Relationships afC essentially the ultimate sp iritual workout-the only way you
can grow is to face your fear. You have to sh ifr your thinking and realiz.e that
it's not about what you get out of a relationship that matters; it's what you
become.
And on the other side of fear is power, joy, love, fulfillment and freedom.
Even though part of you is scared to go there, there is another part of you that
knows this is the path.
Understand that your partner is also scared, and start to operate from a place
of compassion and love-even when it doesn't seem reciprocal. Remember (ha(
every communication is either a loving response or a cry for help, and your
love can melt any fear or pain.
Wh~n your head and heart Off working in sync, you always make ,he
right tkcision.
You can create a Flow State in any moment. Use the following exercise to tap
into your inner strength by aligning your head and heart:
4. Feel the Strength of your heart and all that it has guided you to do
throughout the years.
10. Feel proud that your heart has always known what to do.
Many times, focusing on what your parmer is or isn't doing creates a major
sh ift in your own stare and therefore in the state of the relationship. However,
you need to start to understand and appreciate that the masculine and
fem inine accually think differently. Many people often get frustrated simply
because they expect their partner to think and react the same way they do.
However, men are not just hairy wo men, and women are not jus t beautiful,
complicated men.
When thinking about your relationship, it's much more importam [0 consider
what you do [0 create your partner's positive and negative states. In faCt, the
momem you focus on yourself is when the relationship ends. The state of your
relationship is the state you bring [0 it every moment.
Lov~ tlu part ofyour partn~r that thty ar~ not loving in Ih~mu'v~s.
2. How do 1 try to get leverage on other people when I'm not getting
what I wan.? Do I whind Cry' Nag> Pull rank' B<com< alno/and
distant? Try to wound? Distort things?
5. In the future, how wiJJ I access leverage in a way that benefits alJ
parties?
you and your parmer need to build a strong and resilienr base chat can handle
absolutely anything. Here are some key practices thar will set you up ro win.
Ifyou mnnnb" nothing </" from this rori", program, mn<mb" this summary of
how to ,"au Jour ultimau relationship.
EXERCISE: Is there anyone in your life whom you love with any condidons?
For some people thi s may be a child . h could also be a close friend or a
parem. How do you treat the person in your life whom you love no motur
what? How do you treat you r parmer differently?
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Your New Disciplines
'VJhar are some specific ways that you can starr integrating (he
W 5 disciplines of love and 3 disciplines of passion il1co your li fe?
1be 5 Disciplines ofLove
Discipline #1: Unconditional Love and Compassion. Always put your 10""jirst.
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Overview
H ow can you regain a feeling of trust for a parmer who's wronged you in
the past? How can people overcome years of disappointment in their
marriage and suddenly create a whole new relationship with th e same parmer
that they've had for years? The truth is that you can fall in love again. You can
be happier together than you've ever been and you can do it quickly.
In this film , you will meet a couple from Italy. Olivera and Gian Franco, who
went through something mar's the kiss of death for most couples-infidelity.
They didn't see a way out, and they were desperate.
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The 5 Steps to Heal
Any Relationship
This doesn't mean that one person is accountab le for 50% of the relationship
and that the other person is accountable for me other 500/0. There's no room
here for partners to be making excuses or saying that's "not my job." None of
that works in an intimate relationship.
Being accountable in a relationship means that each person mUSt take 100%
responsibility for the entire relationship.
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Step 2: Meet Your Partners
6 Human Needs
n emember: The 6 Human Needs are responsible for virtually all human
nJ,ehaviors and decisions. Anytime yo u associate a thought, feeling or
emotion to at least three needs, it becomes an addiction.
In order [0 make sure you are meeting the needs of your partner, ask
yourself:
If you don't make yourself accountable for your relationship, if you don't even
wane to know jf you're meeting your partner's needs, then nothing can help you.
I. Can you think of a time when have you withheld from your parmer?
2. When you're stressed or upset, in what ways do you detach or pull away
from your partner?
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3. Have you ever seen your partner asking or needing something from you
and you didn't give it to them? Why was that?
Everyone withholds from time to time, but you need to be accountable for it.
If you want to enjoy your reJationship, you can't hang back and criticize.
You need to be active.
The challenge for many rc:lationships is mat men and women inspire trust in
different and even opposite ways.
Because each gender is wired and thinks differently, we otten create unrealistic
expectations for our significanc ocher. By seeking to understand your
partner and recogniz.ing [his fact, you can set each other up co win in your
communications.
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Step 5: Heal Your Wounds
and Create Passion
"'C veryo ne carries around pains and hurts from the past. Everyo ne has triggers,
~uJnerabi li ties. fears and things they avo id at al l costs. You can't make these
woun ds go away by being harsh o r critical. You can't force them (0 go away. )b u
cant make them go away by rejecting or wi thholdi ng. These wo unds will only
heal thro ugh the applicatio n of consistent lo'W: and acceptance.
Art' you 100% accountabk in your CUtnnt T?iatiomhip? Are you giving everything
if
to your partney, t'vm it puts you in a piau of vulnerability?
What are some ways that you can start meeting mOT? o/your partnuI needs at a
higher "vel?
Cr~au a list ofrituals that both you and your parm" would enjoy
What are thru things you can start doingfor your parm" that wi" inspi" their
trust and "SP~ct?
In what situntiom and circumstanas can you anticipau that your partn~r may
nud mo" support and lov~ from you?
Fo llow these 5 steps right now, today, and you'll have love and passion that
you've never experienced before.
This film is a journey into the personalities of Kerry (o r "Kez"), a woman who
had become detached and depressed because she was nor expressing her true
self By gerring back in touch wirh her core, Kez is able to reconnect with her
husband while he learns to appreciate rhe deprh and richness mat eve ry part of
her represencs.
For example. a guy who is a jerk [0 one woman might be a total love [Q
another. A woman who seems stiff or unapproachable co one man may be
co mpletely open and vibrant (0 another. Sometimes, different people are able
ro access differenr pans of personalities more easily man others. And anytime
rwo people meet, a new world is created that never exisred before. No two
peo ple create the same synergy.
Here are three key distinctions that are important to remember in how your
personalities relate to the quality of your relationship:
3. The mOSt irnportam thing you can do for you rself and you r relationship
is co be authentic and nOt suppress any of your personalities.
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Relationship Pyramid
Th< R<kztiomhips You S.kct Will Shap< YOllr D<sriny
If you can realize that pain is nor in me facts hue rather in the perception of the
FactS or the meaning you give something. you put yourself in a powerful and
proactive scare. From this place. you will be able (Q find solutions, empower
your partner and reclaim the sanctity of your relationship.
Sur whatever you do, don't let yourself fa ll victim [0 "learned helplessness."
There are three categories of beliefs that trigger this mindscr:
1. Perma nent
Have you evcr felt like your problems will never go away? Once you
believe [hat a problem is permanent, you tighten a noose around the
neck of happiness.
2. Pervasive
Has one problem ever dominated your life so much that it feels like
your life is that problem? You are suffering because you've spread ma(
problem into every area of your life.
3. Personal
Have you ever made "your problem" yourself? I('s easy to feel trapped
when the problem is internaL
PAIN
When you love all of your partner's personalides fuHy and appreciate chat each
pan of them has a place. that's when your relationship becomes a love affair
like no other.
By answering the questions below, you will begin the journey back (O the core
of the authentic and unique you:
I. Make a list of the primary personalities that have driven you for most
of your life. What personalities afC currently running your show?
4. What are parts of you that you'v e disowned? Who pisser you off What
qualiri~ in oth~ annoy you? Who could you nron- b~? W'hat kind ofp~on
t/() you lik. or dislik, inunstly'
5. When you were growing up. whom did you wane love from the most?
6. Who could you never be for that pa rentlloved o ne? What qunliti~s
would n~v~r be app"citlud by th,m? What art qualities that would be
dislik<d and disnpprov<d by th. sOurc< of "'w that Y0lt wanud significanu
or urtainty from?
7. AIe there any similarities becween me qualities you dislike in others and uu:
qualities this person wou ld never have you have?
8. What kind of person did you have to be [0 get Jove from the person
you wanted love from rhe most? W hat did you have to do?
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