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How To Take The Next
How To Take The Next
Because of this, we can feel overwhelmed, thinking we must know for sure
before we search for someone (be that play or relationship). And so we do
nothing.
For example, if we are a complete beginner, we're not even sure what fetishes
we may like or not. We need to experience them first to figure this out. And if
you have more experience but are just starting to look for a 24/7 long-term
relationship, you do not really know what you want.
This is one of the most important steps; if you can do this, you can move
forward into the lifestyle!
This is one of the most important steps. Rather than thinking you must know everything
before searching, change what you're searching for to look for experiments and experiences
which allow you to find out what you really want.
Let's say you're a beginner. You do not need to worry that people will not want to play with
you because you're new or lack experience. There are many Masters and Tops that love to
take beginners and give them their first experiences.
So search for these people to have the experiences you need to find out what you really
want.
And if you're looking for 24/7 - be open that you're just searching and you're not 100%
sure, but this is what you think you want, and you're looking for people to help you figure
that out.
On the second day, I had the internet (using AOL when that was a thing). I
typed in words around Mastery and slavery and found websites where
other people spoke AND lived the lifestyle. My mind was blown that these
fantasies I had had since I was 4 were not just in me but in other people as
well. When I was 20, the feelings to serve were so big vs the now fading
shame that I started to serve.
There have been incredible times when my heart and soul have sung a song
of such joy and completeness I struggle to know how other people can't live
like this.
For most of us, this means getting our If you're not honest, it only leads
online profile correct. Are we selling to disappointment on both sides.
and positioning ourselves in the right The slave has a scene they were CHECK OUT
way.
not ready for, and the Master feels
So if you think you want a hard trouble finding people who view YOUR PROFILE.
Master but are not sure. You can still you as being genuine.
look for this, but be honest about
your experience. Being honest means, Check out the Fetish Profile
the Master can bring you into the Upgrade if you want help with
scene in the right way. If you're new, your profile.
they know to build up slowly rather
than come in too fast (which is
something they would do if you tell
them you want it and you have lots of
experience).
STEP 5
DEEPEND THE RELATIONSHIP WITH
COMMUNICATION
One thing that has come up But this is not true. The reality of the
repeatedly with all the Master/slave relationship is that
Master/slave relationships I relationships only survive for the long
have interviewed is the term through communication and both
importance of communication. sides supporting and fulfilling each
other needs. Relationships where this is
This includes how both sides can not done rarely last.
communicate their needs and -
and as importantly - to be heard Listen to the Podcast episode of
by the other person. This is a PhoenixLTHR - he is one of the more
skill that requires practice. intense and extreme Masters I
interviewed. You will be surprised as to
This can shock people new to the importance they had on
the scene - surely the slave has communication. And after 18 years of
no rights and does not say
relationship, you can see it has worked.
anything, and it is all up to the
Master.
STEP 6
MAKE A DECISION ON OWNERSHIP