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Why Family Matters
Why Family Matters
Why Family Matters
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In 1534, the already elderly Alessandro Farnese was elected Pope and
took the name of Paul III. One of the first things he did was to elevate his
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But we have to admit that the idea of bias towards relatives possesses –
in the emotional as opposed to the professional sense – a deeply
reassuring and attractive side as well. What is more, we have all
ineluctably been the beneficiaries of the starkest, grossest nepotism
already. We wouldnʼt have got here without it. Thatʼs because when we
were born, despite the millions of other children in the world,
irrespective of our merits (we didnʼt really have any), our parents and
wider family made the decision to take care of us: to devote huge
amounts of time, love and money to our well being: not because we had
done anything to deserve it – at that time, we were barely capable of
holding a spoon let alone saying hello – but simply because we were
related to them.
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Within families, thereʼs often a welcome disregard not just for demerits,
but for merits as well. Within the family, it may not really matter how well
or how badly youʼre doing in the world of money and work outside. The
daughter who becomes a high court judge is probably not going to be
loved any more than the son who has a little stall in the market selling
origami dragons; the steely negotiator and demanding boss in charge of
the livelihoods of thousands will be endlessly teased by their relatives
for their poor taste in jumpers and tendency to belch at inopportune
moments.
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Once we define family like this, a strange thing can happen: we realise
we donʼt have to restrict the concept of family to its basic biological
limits. In reality, anyone who takes a deeply supportive attitude towards
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– Knowledge
Our family members are probably the only people in the world who ever
deeply understand key bits of us. Perhaps we donʼt always get on better
with them than with other people. They might not know the details of our
current friendships or the precise state of our finances. But they have a
knowledge of the underlying atmosphere of our lives that others will
always lack.
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With family members, the knowledge tends to be the other way round.
They might not know too much about our present and they werenʼt
necessarily always ideally wise or intelligent witnesses, but they were
there – which gives them a definitive edge in grasping a lot about who
we might be. Relationships in adult life are so often complicated by a
lack of knowledge of our respective pasts. If we had been the brother or
sister to the loud, domineering figure over dinner, we would of course
have understood that they were, still – at root – trying to get heard by
their inattentive mother. And, as a result, weʼd know the perfect
response ( ‘Iʼm listening nowʼ) that would instantly calm them down. Or
if we had shared a bath with the tough exacting chief financial officer
when we were three, weʼd know that their highly rigorous, inquisitorial
approach (which can appear so off-putting) was really nothing more
than an attempt to stave off the chaos that surrounded him at home
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after the messy divorce. The full facts would make us so much readier to
forgive.
– Safe Strangeness
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