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CONTENTS
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PREFACE
LIFE
Life is awesome and can be scary.
Life is beautiful and can be ugly.
That’s life.
Life is just being Life.
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ACT ONE
WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?
A man’s heart deviseth his way: But the LORD directeth
his steps.
Proverbs 16:9 KJV
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NARRATOR:
Lena really got us there, didn’t she? How can the
single season be likened to a disease, a sad season,
a death - wishing season? Well, you can’t blame
Lena, that’s the narrative the society feeds us with,
and unfortunately, we take it in hook, line, and
sinker. It is the narrative most singles are running
from, and hence rushed into a marital union
without purpose and without exploring the
blessing of their single season. After all, who wants
to experience such a diseased season? Is your single
season indeed a disease or a gift? This book will
help you in identifying the bliss and superpowers
in your single season despite what society says.
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ACT TWO
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Also, in.
Deuteronomy 32:30a, the scripture says; how should one
chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight,
KJV.
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ACT THREE
THE PURPOSE
Without purpose, life has no meaning.
Rick Warren
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Purpose
The season of the single i.e., the unmarried season,
is not the same as the married season. Each has its
own purpose and cannot be interchanged for the
other. Therefore, when the purpose of a thing is
unknown, abuse of same is inevitable. Little
wonder singles place no expectation on themselves
and their single season.
In as much as you crave for marriage, your single
season matters a lot. You can’t place an object on
nothing and expect it to stand; it will crumble. You
cannot desire a productive married season when
your single season is left void and purposeless.
Even if your single season is for a year or more, it’s
not without purpose.
Your married season should build on the
foundation and terraces you had in your single
season. Life doesn’t start at married life, rather, life
continues. Some think that marriage itself is life's
purpose. Little wonder there's a lot of divorce
today.
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ACT FOUR
UNASHAMEDLY SINGLE
You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to
anybody.
Maya Angelou
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Unashamedly Single
There are singles who can't boldly say they are
single, some will even tell you they are in a
relationship and will be talking about their
fictitious relationship, when clearly, they aren't in
any. Single hood is not a season to be ashamed of.
If you are not in a relationship, you are not. Love
yourself enough to be who you are. It isn't the time
to go into hiding, neither is it the time to fold your
hands akimbo wishing on.
Single hood is not a time to be busy so as not to be
lonely. Rather, it is a time to be living. It's the time
to embrace life and live. You must be unashamedly
proud of your single hood. Single season is a time
to learn to love your own company.
Single hood is not a ‘Stop’ nor is it a ‘Wait’. It is a
journey. Single hood is life, it is living, it is time.
Life and time do not stop because you are single.
Time does not stop or pause for you to be married
and then pick up again. The issue is while some
complain in waiting, some get purposeful in their
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You First
Seek to live for you first. The Bible says, love your
neighbour as YOURSELF. (Matthew 22:39)
there's a reason the Bible makes yourself as the
reference, as the standard.
Love your neighbour as yourself, but do you even
love yourself? You rather prefer to love someone
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ACT FIVE
THE BLESSEDNESS OF YOUR SINGLE
SEASON
I love being single. It’s almost like being rich.
Sue Grafton
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ACT SIX
HOW TO UTILIZE YOUR SINGLE SEASON
The poor wish to be rich, the rich wish to be happy, the single wish
to be married, and the married wish to be dead.
Ann Landers
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Tina: I’m glad you’re walking this life with me, I’m
totally influenced.
Lena: That’s so sweet of you.
Tina: So, this glow is from being appreciative?
Lena: You won’t give up! And yes, being
appreciative and more.
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ACT EIGHT
A GREATER SOURCE
Success isn't about how your life looks to others.
It's about how it feels to you.
Michelle Obama
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A Greater Source
One friend accused his single friend of being too
comfortable, so happy being single. Laughing out
loud, the friend replied that his happiness is
attached to a greater source. A source, greater than
the single season and far greater than any human
relationship.
When you have a greater source, your happiness
and purpose will be unlimited. It won’t be limited
to a particular season of your life. The greater
source transcends all season.
As a single person, I ask you why are you sad?
“Why am I sad you said?” you replied “Don’t you
know that singlehood can be lonely? Sometimes
when I see my married friends I feel so left out.
Sometimes I crave intimate communication with
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ACT NINE
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Stop Waiting, Start Occupying
The kingdom of God is imminent, be prepared,
don't be caught unawares. While waiting for the
coming of our Lord Jesus Christ, occupy till He
comes, like the Bible admonishes. While we wait,
we are to be occupied. When a space is occupied,
there can't be emptiness. The substance keeps the
space filled and busy; there is therefore no place for
idleness, no space for anything that isn't
substantial. There must be an occupation if not
there will be emptiness.
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