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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
List of Figures.................................................................................................xi
List of Abbreviations.....................................................................................xiii
Preface..........................................................................................................xv
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8.3. Managing Same-Sex Divorces.......................................................... 189
8.4. Continuing Discrimination Against Same-Sex Couples..................... 191
8.5. Towards Universal Marriage Equality............................................... 193
Chapter 8 Summary................................................................................ 195
Bibliography........................................................................................... 199
Index...................................................................................................... 207
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LIST OF FIGURES
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LIST OF ABBREVIATIONS
There was a time when merely expressing same-sex attractions could get you hanged
in many countries across the globe. Now, we are talking about same-sex marriage.
If someone living on earth in the 1930s was brought back to life today, they would
be amazed at the changes in attitudes towards sexual minorities. Homosexuality used
to be considered one of the most heinous crimes, even in the enlightened countries
of Europe. The harshest punishments were prescribed for known homosexuals. In the
literary world, we have the example of Oscar Wilde, who was carted off to prison with
hard labor for engaging in “sodomy.”
The so-called “sodomites” were seen as an embarrassment, and this “love that dare
not speak its name” was punished wherever and whenever it was identified. Populist
homophobia took hold of many nations, and the moralists were arguing that to support
homosexuals in any way was to allow for the destruction of society as we know it.
Then there was the AIDS (acquired immunodeficiency syndrome) scourge of the 1980s
when medical practitioners were talking about a deadly “Gay Cancer,” and the US
Administration (headed by the perpetually popular Ronald Reagan) was accused of not
responding fast enough to the plight of largely gay men who were dying at alarming
rates. True help only came from the state when white heterosexual people started
developing AIDS.
In the meantime, the gay community had to contend with discrimination in virtually all
spheres of life. Members were denied job opportunities and even accommodation for
no other reason other than their assumed or confirmed sexuality. Casually homophobic
stereotypes and insults polluted our television screens and popular media without any
complaint. Indeed, any portrayal of gay people was controversial unless they were
laughed at or getting their assumed “comeuppance” for being sexually immoral. All
things considered, it seems that sexual minorities in general and gay people were
destined to remain on the margins of society. Discrimination against them was readily
accepted as a societal norm.
Those who were overly optimistic at the time considered the possibility of acceptance
as citizens who could be so without threats of state-sponsored and vigilante violence
or extermination as the Nazis had once proposed. The evolution from that modest
ambition to the acceptance of same-sex marriage is nothing short of remarkable. It all
started in a handful of progressive nations and then started moving forward with a speed
that campaigners could hardly have anticipated 40 years ago. Young people were at the
heart of this evolution in terms of letting the older generations know that bigotry and
intolerance of sexual minorities were no longer going to be an acceptable norm for the
Millennials and beyond.
This book charts the debates and evolution of same-sex marriage as a key point and
process in the acceptance of sexual minorities. The book also raises questions about
as-yet-unanswered questions about the future of LGBT people and marriage in general.
For example, it is not yet clear that religious authorities are willing to fully accept
LGBT people. Meanwhile, there is a contingent of socially conservative nations that
are going through something of a backlash against LGBT rights. In doing so, this book
re-evaluates the meaning and implications of same-sex marriage.
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CHAPTER 1
INTRODUCTION TO THE
INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE
CONTENTS
1.1. Initial Conceptualizations of Marriage................................................. 2
1.2. The Implications of Marriage................................................................ 6
1.3. Typologies of Marriage....................................................................... 12
1.4. Selecting a Marriage Partner.............................................................. 18
1.5. The Economics of Marriage................................................................ 22
Chapter 1 Summary.................................................................................. 27
2 Debating Same Sex Marriage: An Example of a Cultural Revolution
The first chapter in this book will explore the institution of marriage as a
precursor to defining who and what exactly is included or excluded from
that institution. The first section of this initial chapter will highlight a range
of conceptualizations of marriage. In the second section, we will highlight
some implications of the state of being married. The third section summarizes
some typologies of marriage. In the 4th section, we will explore the process
of selecting potential and actual marriage partners. The last section in this
chapter will summarize the economic considerations in marriage. By the
end of this initial chapter, the reader should have a good understanding
of the heterosexist or alternatively homophobic foundations of traditional
marriage, which have in many instances rendered it an unfriendly place for
non-heterosexual and non-cisgender people.
sex. In that warped interpretation, marriage was open to them if they could
put up the façade of being a heterosexual, cisgender couple. Indeed, such
an assertion is particularly problematic given the fact that one of the key
requirements for a valid marriage is that it is “consummated.” That means
that an LGBT person would have to deny their sexuality and engage in the
process of self-deception to enjoy the rights and obligations of marriage.
Those who generally campaigned for an equal society argued that traditional
marriage was a discriminatory institution by its very definition and therefore
had to be reformed. There is also something somewhat unnerving about the
possibility that marriage and its intimate relationships will be subject to
community sanction and subsequent judgments. Some might argue that it is
never acceptable for outsiders to litigate the intimate details of a marriage,
regardless of their level of knowledge or even their claim of an intricate
knowledge of the institution.
Those who argue for strict protection for traditional marriage argue that
it is such a special institution that only a select few should enter it (Sherkat
et al., 2011; Shulman, Gotta, and Green, 2012; Smith, DeSantis, and Kassel,
2006; Smith, 2005). Of course, such an argument immediately falls when
one considers how many times people marry and divorce within a lifetime.
If marriage was a uniquely special privilege of such importance that only a
few were entitled to it, divorce would be very rare. After all, what kind of
wrong-headed people would willingly give up on such an ideal situation?
The nuances of traditional marriage are riddled with such contradictions that
it has eventually fallen under the scrutiny of the law in terms of its deliberate
exclusion of those that are neither heterosexual nor cisgender. Besides,
marriage was a social concern since it impacted on other secondary parties
such as children, in-laws, and the society at large. For example, children that
were born outside wedlock to non-cisgender or non-heterosexual people could
face significant discrimination and social exclusion for circumstances that are
entirely beyond their control. Those that wished to oppress sexual minorities
used marriage as a tool for demonstrating the exclusivity of certain sexual
majorities. For instance, patriarchy enthusiastically embraced marriage as
a means of controlling the sexualities of women. Racists introduced the
anti-miscegenation notion to prevent the mixing of races through sexual
intercourse and even marriage. Of course, some of the most enthusiastic
anti-miscegenation advocates regularly slept with and impregnated slaves.
This is a perfect example of the inherent hypocrisy that mars debates about
traditional and modern marriage. Advocates of traditional marriage have
failed to persuasively argue that it is not an oppressive institution from the
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Riggle, and Rostosky, 2011; Flores, 2015; Franke, 2006; Gaines and Garand,
2010; Gerstmann, 2017). Indeed, the failure to respond to and execute those
responsibilities might mean that the marriage is nullified. For example, one
of the grounds for annulment of marriage (rendering it non-existent from
the beginning) is if one of the partners is impotent or deliberately denies the
other sexual intercourse. As Figure 1.2 shows, even the reasons for getting
married can vary across a population. Nevertheless, love and commitment
rank highly as motivators, while financial stability remains a low motivator
in developed countries like the USA.
in which marriage has been refined over hundreds of years, there is still
disagreement about its conceptualizations and implications. In recent times,
the very notion of marriage has become contested as people begin to question
some of the dogmatic conservative notions associated with marriage in its
most traditional sense. For example, the notion of a submissive wife and
dominant wife are sexist and therefore socially inappropriate in a modern
context where the expectation is that couples will have a modicum of
equality. Society has changed in ways that were not envisaged by traditional
marriage. For example, many women are now breadwinners and will not
tolerate any insinuation that they are somehow inferior in the relationship.
The enactment of divorce laws that are inherently favorable to mothers also
means that women may be in a much more powerful position than before.
This is a divergence from the customary laws that are used to develop
frameworks for conceptualizing marriage.
Virtually all customary laws in the world recognized marriage, although
the exact forms of its enactment vary from culture to culture (Hogg, 2006;
Hooghe and Meeusen, 2013; Hull, 2001, 2003; Hull and Hull, 2006; Hunter,
2012; Josephson, 2005). It is intended that marriage is durable and brings
happiness to all parties to it. Marriage is not just a matter of propagation
since the notions of premarital and extramarital sexual intercourse litter the
entirety of history. Whereas the sexual union between (traditionally male and
female) is celebrated, marriage is meant to endure beyond the immediacy of
sexual gratification. It is a commitment that involves resilience, tolerance,
and hopefully love on both sides. In some traditional societies, particularly
within Africa and the global South, marriage is not just a matter of a
couple joining together but rather families linking together to form lifelong
bonds. In-laws are part of the family and will act as members of the family
in terms of providing nurturing and other forms of social capital. At the
same time, there is an implicit recognition that marriage can occur among
more than two people. Once again, the sexual inequalities that are seen in
other spheres of life are experienced in traditional marriage. For example,
where polygamy allows men to take more than one wife; women that take
more than one husband are frowned upon as a social aberration. This is
yet another example of the differential outcomes for men and women in
their roles in the marriage. Behavior that is acceptable in the male sex is
completely frowned upon in the female sex, even if it means that women
are held in an institutional framework that is harmful to their health and
wellbeing. Part of the challenging facing couples is the need to meet certain
standards that are set by society. Marriage is therefore only valid when
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society. Indeed, there are African traditional societies in which the notion
of “bastards” is unknown since children are highly valued as a source of
prestige, wealth, and social capital. In these cases, all children are sired by
a man regardless of whether their mother is his legal wife. Moreover, many
countries are now recognizing certain traditional and religious marriages
that are polygamous in nature.
The challenge for orthodox thinking about marriage primarily stems
from those cultures that do not subscribe to a hetero-monogamous nuclear
family unit in which the man is always dominant, and the woman is always
submissive (Olson, Cadge, and Harrison, 2006; Onuche, 2013; Pearl and
Galupo, 2007; Pierceson, 2014; Pinello, 2006). For example, the Nuer
tribe in Sudan has a unique form of marriage which is known as a “ghost
marriage,” under which the woman acts as the man in certain instances.
Besides, the reality of non-heterosexual and non-cisgender people means
that the heterosexist interpretations of marriage are fast losing relevancy
in the modern age, even though this remains by far the most dominant
form of marriage. There are cultures in Africa under which a man may
have an official wife that is married in Church and then take on several
mistresses or quasi-concubines that allow them to practice some form of
polygamy without alerting the Church authorities. In fact, there have been
problems in cases where the Church has sanctioned and advocated for the
marriage of a single woman among the many “wives” and “mistresses” that
a man may have. This becomes a real disadvantage for those women that
are left behind and, by extension, their now illegitimate children. That is
why some countries insist that the distribution of property recognizes all
children without distinguishing legitimate ones from illegitimate ones.
This is a useful instrumentality in countries that recognize polygamy and
common law marriages. Creating differences between official and non-
official children would create and exaggerate social tensions concerning
property distribution when a parent dies. Besides, declaring a child to be a
“bastard” or “illegitimate” is a form of punishment against them for actions
or omissions that are the exclusive responsibility of their parents.
Whereas the traditionalists are strongly against the notion of polygamy, or
even polyandry for that matter; there are some societies, such as the Nayar
of India, in which polyandry is practice (Rosenfeld, 2014; Rothblum, 2005;
Saez, 2011; Sanders, 2012; Schragger, 2005; Sherkat, De Vries, and Creek,
2010). In this society, there is no conventional “husband” that would make
sense for a Western society which is heavily influenced by Christian and
Jewish traditions. The Nayar have developed their own unitary role that
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amended that same-sex couples felt confident that they would be protected.
In modern times, children born to so-called “rainbow families” (defined
as families where one or more of the parents is non-heterosexual or non-
cisgender) have had to deal with questions about their legitimacy (Sullivan,
2004; Tamagawa, 2016; Trandafir, 2014; Trosino, 1993; Vanita, 2005; Walls,
2010; Wardle, 1996; Webb and Chonody, 2014). In addition, these children
also must deal with transferred prejudice where they must deal with sexism
and homophobia on account of their parentage or lack of clear parentage.
The government can only legislate up to a certain point. If we are to become
a truly inclusive society; there must be an overhaul of our values, norms,
and behavior. This is a process that takes time, and it was once thought
that the wider acceptance of same-sex marriage would eventually trigger the
necessary changes in society. If anything, there has been a backlash against
non-heterosexual and non-cisgender people, particularly in the developing
world. A case in point is Uganda which once ignored homosexuality but
has now attempted to enact draconian legislation against sexual minorities
that even includes the death penalty. In this instance, the religious influence
of evangelicals, particularly from the USA, cannot be underestimated.
Ironically, there is a new form of colonization through the actions of modern
missionaries who have failed to make a mark in their home countries
and thereafter choose Africa as a destination that is ripe for ideological
exploitation. The effect of these evangelists is that an African LGBT person
has worse rights than any other race in Africa or even an LGBT person in
developed countries. This is oppression that persists in a modern age when
there have been significant social reforms that have opened opportunities for
many people. The next section explores some typologies of marriage.
be a lot of latent and blatant resentment that can negatively impact on the
ability to found new bonds in the new relationship. Nevertheless, blended
families must negotiate the intricacies and difficulties of reconciling different
interests within the context of an overarching institution such as marriage.
These relationships might also involve a transfer of money in terms
of alimony, maintenance, and other costs that can put pressure on the new
family (Boertien and Vignoli, 2019; Gaines and Garand, 2010; Kandaswamy,
2008; Lupia et al., 2010; Schragger, 2005). The United Kingdom has created
extended families that are quite different from those in Africa since they are
based on the consequences of serial monogamy as opposed to polygamy
or a traditional extended family. Then there is the case of mobile children
resulting from new links to an ex-wife or even an ex-in-law. The modern
world must contend with these families that are completely different from
the traditional nuclear family, which has been idealized in Western literature.
In fact, when all these households are connected by unclear bonds; it is akin
to a polygamous family where mothers maintain their own households and
then change male partners. The children are tied to males who are either
currently married or has divorced the mother. Bonds are maintained for
mutuality. However, it could also be the case of familial relationships being
preferable to forced institutionalization when there is a breakdown of an
adult relationship whilst the resultant children are still below the age of
adulthood. Whereas the state may support some of those bonds, it is always
a secondary option to the traditional nuclear family that includes cisgender
heterosexual couples. One of the most challenging alternative marriage
forms is that of polygamy.
Polygamy is a type of marriage in which a man has multiple partners, often
incrementally and simultaneously (Cahill and Cahill, 2004; McVeigh and
Maria-Elena, 2009; Tamagawa, 2016; Webb and Chonody, 2014). Polygyny
refers to situations in which the polygamous marriage is simultaneous, but
there is no marriage bond between the wives. Polyandry occurs when a
woman has more than one husband, and there is a marriage bond between
her husband. Group marriage occurs when there is a collection of multiple
husbands and wives who are linked together. This type of marriage is
the antithesis of the nuclear family that has been popularized in Western
societies. All partners in the marriage are assumed to be heterosexual,
even though there may be non-heterosexual and non-cisgender people
who are part of these group marriages. There have been molecular genetic
studies indicated that the level of global human genetic diversity is due to
the naturalness of sexual polygyny. It was only after the shift to sedentary
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families that the system was changed. Such changes happened as recently as
5000 years ago as early as 10,000 years ago in a range of communities that
are in Asia, Europe, the Americas, and Africa. Other confirmatory studies
have shown that the absence of the plow was the only reliable predictor
of polygamy. However, there are other factors that are involved, including
the increasing rate of male mortality due to participation in wars among
non-state societies. Among the state societies, it was pathogen stress that
impacted on the changes in family structure.
The number of legal spouses that an individual has or is entitled to will
determine some classifications of marriages (Chambers, 1997; Chamie and
Mirkin, 2011; Coolidge, 1997; Corvino and Gallagher, 2012; Cox, Navarro-
Rivera, and Jones, 2014). However, there are unions that are considered
by the participants to be marriages since they involve commitment yet not
fulfilling all the legal requirements in the jurisdiction. A case in point is those
couples that have gone through commitment ceremonies with friends and
families as witnesses, regardless of whether there is a certificate or formal
solemnization of the union. There is significant variability in the level of
acceptance of polygamy of non-traditional marriages. Such variances are
informed by attitudes, behavior, experience, and beliefs. For purposes of
illustration, a relatively recent Ethnographic Atlas identified 1,234 societies,
of which only 186 were monogamous. Another 453 reported occasional
polygyny. However, a significant number of 588 reported frequent polygyny.
Reflecting the generalized controls over women, only 4 societies reported
polyandry.
Some experts argue that there is a difference between tolerance of
polygamy and the actual practice of polygamy (Ball, 2015; Dorf, 2011;
Hull, 2001; Lannutti, 2005; Pierceson, 2014; Shulman, Gotta, and Green,
2012). The demands of modern life, such as the need to provide schooling
for children lasting at least 12 years, means that many families cannot
really afford the burden of polygamy even if it is tolerated in their society.
The reality is that most people living in societies that practice polygamy
tend to practice monogamy. Moreover, research around polygamy can be
complicated by the fact that it is banned in many countries, and the participants
do not wish to admit to engaging in what is tantamount to criminality.
One area of interest is the clandestine practice of de facto polygamy in
Western liberal democracies, where it is effectively banned. This could lead
to the development of an underclass of women who have no legal rights
and yet they are married in practice. Additionally, there is a tendency to
minimize the realities of polygamy (including family conflict and poverty)
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condone any kind of same-sex union will bring too much social shame to
the family.
put off having children later through storing their eggs. Some cultures are
concerned about the ability to bring up children when the couple is old, and
this has been an issue for those that opt to adopt after 60 years of age. In
the most extreme cases, children are forced into marriage because they are
assumed to be fertile and disease-free. This has been one of the key causes
of HIV/AIDS among youth. There is a high level of ageism and sexism
when dealing with multigenerational relationships.
There are cultures that are more liberal in their approach to the selection
of marriage partner, while others are far stricter (Cahill and Cahill, 2004;
McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009; Tamagawa, 2016; Webb and Chonody,
2014). A case in point is those cultures that do not allow marriage into the
father’s and mother’s clans. The concept of a clan is very extensive and
includes people with whom one shares affinity going back over 500 years
ago but where there is really no blood relationship. From a biological point
of view, there are serious impediments to marriage based on consanguinity,
yet society insists that no marriage can occur between people who are related
in this way. Then there are cultures that allow for marriage between cousins
who share blood, and this can lead to an increase in birth defects. There
was a time in Europe when Church authorities were given the power to
allow marriages to take place despite some blood relation as long as proper
dispensation was received. In these instances, there is an interplay between
concerns about the biological consequences of incestuous relationships and
the socially defined boundaries of an acceptable degree of consanguinity
when getting married.
There is a lot of social stigma against people that fail to conform to
societal conventions on marriage and the selection of partners (Berg, 2010;
Hogg, 2006; MacDougall, 2000; Soule, 2004). For example, those that
engage in sexual relationships with underage people are called pedophiles
and can be prosecuted for what is a crime. Other problems may result
due to marriages where the age gap is significantly longer than 10 years.
For example, society may ostracize the couple. Younger partners to such
multigenerational marriages are accused of being predatory and taking
advantage of vulnerable older people. Meanwhile, the older partner is
accused of using their money and power to exploit the youth of their partner.
Where the older partner is a woman, members of the community will openly
express distress at the fact that the woman is unable to give their spouse
children. Eventually, the couple may buckle under pressure and decide to
separate. Others may remain together but take lovers within their own age
group to conform with society’s expectations of them.
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The need for social status may influence marriage decisions, but also open
those that reference this issue when selecting a partner to ridicule (Bernstein
and Taylor, 2013; Boertien and Vignoli, 2019; Brandzel, 2005; Brewer and
Wilcox, 2005; Brown, 1994; Buchanan, 1984). There is particular interest in
the causes and effects of hypergamy as well as the notion of the “gold digger”
and their “sugar daddy” or “sugar mummy.” Some individuals specifically
seek partners who are either higher or lower than their socioeconomic
status, whereas others will not tolerate partners that are outside their social
status. Any of these decisions can lead to compatibility issues, particularly
when children are eventually involved. For women, the societal expectation
might be that they marry someone of a higher status to lift themselves and
their families from a lower socioeconomic status. Other communities insist
that women are supposed to be perpetual dependents that are not expected
to earn, inherit, or pass on wealth except through bride price and dowry.
Society, in general, makes very subjective judgments about the motivations
for a particular marriage. For example, there is general disapproval of
transactional relationships that are based on the desire for financial security
rather than love. Others refer to them as marriages of convenience without
any deep commitment to the other partner. Courts have developed many
protective mechanisms, including prenuptial agreements and separate party
clauses when settling divorces.
Most societies place restrictions on the selection of relatives for marriage,
as informed by the experience of dealing with increasing deformities
among the resultant offspring and generalized societal disapproval of incest
(Pierceson, 2014; Pinello, 2006; Powell, Quadlin, and Pizmony-Levy, 2015;
Rimmerman and Wilcox, 2007). One of the key taboos is any kind of sexual
relationship between parents and children, which is universal. Similarly,
virtually all societies forbid marriage between siblings. In some instances,
there are no direct blood relationships, but society will look down on such
relationships. A case in point is members of a blended family (step-siblings
who do not share any blood) who may not be forbidden from marrying
by law but choose not to do so because it is not socially acceptable. It is
nevertheless important to note that many marriages throughout history have
been conducted between and among distant relatives. For example, some
experts argue that 8 out of 10 marriages in the past involved people who
shared some level of genetic heredity. This is particularly true as near as
second cousins in some societies. Families may not wish to disburse their
wealth and professional expertise beyond their own circle when choosing to
marry. However, over time society has become less approving of marriages
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own social circles so that there were cross-cultural challenges in the marriage
and to maintain a certain standard of living. Over time, society became more
egalitarian, and it is now possible for people to jump social barriers to get
married. One of the interesting aspects concerning the introduction of same-
sex marriage is the fact that many of the economic dynamics experienced
in traditional marriage are transferred to alternative forms of marriage. For
example, there have been bitter same-sex divorce cases that follow well-
known patterns of acrimony and bickering over assets.
One of the most contentious aspects of marriage is the management
of divorce, particularly if one of the participants has come to the union
with significantly more resources than the other (Kail, Acosta, and Wright,
2015; Kandaswamy, 2008; Klarman, 2012; Kogan, 2003; Koppelman,
1996). Moreover, there was a particular challenge for homemakers (who
were typically wives) who spent their entire life looking after the home;
only to discover that during divorce proceedings, their contribution was
undervalued. Basically, the patriarchal approach was to argue that the
man as the breadwinner was the only one entitled to take property; with
notable exemptions for children who had to be protected in their minority.
Later, feminists successfully argued that homemakers were as important
as breadwinners when it came to running the home and that without their
contribution, men would not be able to achieve the corporate heights
that allowed them to earn more income than women. Some women saw
the homemaker position as a disempowering gendered role and therefore
sought to combine work and reproductive responsibilities. The introduction
of flexible working hours and part-time work was partly a response to the
needs of these women. LGBT couples face similar challenges when dividing
up property and may even have the additional issue of not having children
to link them together. That means that the person that is required to pay
alimony is particularly embittered about having to maintain someone with
whom they no longer have any meaningful connection.
Same-sex relationships provide a conundrum for the institution of
marriage, which has always been gendered in such a way as to make women
subservient and men dominant (Ball, 2015; Barclay and Fisher, 2003; Barker,
2012; Baunach, 2012; Beck, 2013; Berg, 2010; Bernstein and Taylor, 2013).
If you have a situation of two men, then there is a dilemma about who is to
be treated as dominant and who is to be treated as subservient. Over time,
the LGBT community has attempted to negotiate these power relationships
bearing in mind the heterosexist schema under which the more “masculine”
partner is considered to be the dominant husband while the more effeminate
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is differentiated from those inheritance that happens upon the death of any
of the parents (Mortis causa). For new families, the dowry creates the basis
of a conjugal fund that can assist in the upbringing of children and fulfilling
other marital commitments. The actual nature of the fund and its usage will
largely depend on the norms and customs of that community. For example,
the conjugal fund may be used as a foundation of the endowment that the
woman will enjoy during her widowhood. If there is any residue left, it can
go to either her sons or daughters, depending on any restrictions that are
placed on expending that fund.
In countries like Sri Lanka, India, Turkey, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Nepal,
and Morocco, there is an expectation that dowry will have to be paid before
the marriage can take place (Gerstmann, 2017; Gher, 2007; Goldberg-Hiller,
2009; Hester and Gibson, 2007; Hogg, 2006; Hooghe and Meeusen, 2013).
This can cause significant pressures for the bride and her relatives since they
must come up with this money, or else their daughter runs the risk of never
getting married at all. India is an example of a country that has reported
significant statistics of deaths that are related to the payment and receipt
of dowry, with some estimates talking in terms of thousands of people per
annum. In response, there are jurisdictions that have enacted legislation
that either curtails or redefines dowry so that it does place an unsustainable
burden on women and their families. The Dowry Law in India is an example
of this type of reform that is gradually taking place. Nepal definitively makes
dowry illegal under its jurisdiction since 2009, but it is not clear that these
rules are adhered to in a country that is deeply traditional in many ways. One
of the main attractions of dowry is that it can be used to indicate social status
and the loss of the same if a woman is unable to come up with the requisite
sums. Hence, the failure to produce dowry is not perceived as a case of
conscientious objection but rather the attempt to save face after failing to
afford the true expense of a wedding. So far, there have been no indications
of dowry being paid in these countries for same-sex couples. This makes
sense given the fact that, by and large, these countries also have laws against
homosexuality.
Certain gender roles underpin the ways in which exchange takes place
before, during, and after marriage (Alderson, 2004; Chamie and Mirkin,
2011; Gher, 2007; Koppelman, 2014; Moskowitz, Rieger, and Roloff,
2010). For example, there are contrasts in the ways that transactional costs
are meet during the marriage negotiations depending on the sex and gender
of the parties. The dower is the masculine version of dowry in as far as
it is the money that is paid by the groom and his family to the parents of
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the bride. There is also an indirect form of dowry or dower whereby some
property from the husband’s side is given to the bride. This property remains
under the control of the woman and can therefore act as an insurance policy
against the dissolution of the marriage. Some traditions foresaw some of the
challenges that couples face during the conduct of their marriage. A case in
point is the notion of the “ketubah,” which is traditionally included in Jewish
weddings where the rabbis in ancient times ensured that this prenuptial
agreement was in place before they could officiate at the ceremonies. One of
the terms of such an arrangement is that there is a stipulated amount that the
husband must pay to the wife in case of a divorce of his death. This acts as
an additional level of protection for women who may be otherwise relatively
weak in their marital relationships. Some commentators have argued that the
Ketubah is an example of a traditional practice being updated to deal with
a modern problem of young people who would like to get married but are
unable to do so because they cannot afford all the costs involved. Using the
Ketubah was a form of promissory note for a bride price or even dowry.
CHAPTER 1 SUMMARY
The initial chapter has attempted to introduce the conceptualization of
marriage as a social institution that allows men and women to join in a union
with aspects of sexual intercourse, relationships, and commitments. Such
a schema is traditionally associated with heterosexual unions of cisgender
people. However, the modern notions of personal freedom and egalitarianism
have embraced new forms of marriage, which are incrementally gaining
acceptance across the globe. The chapter also touched on the implications
of marriage, including the requisite financial obligations and benefits. In
doing so, this chapter introduced the notion that marriage has been turned
into an exclusive club that does not admit outsiders, particularly those who
are neither heterosexual nor cisgender. This exclusion stems from the very
processes that underpin marriage include the involvement of the extended
family or community, typologies of marriage, the selection of a partner, and
the economics of marriage. To achieve true legality, same-sex marriage has
had to convince traditionalists that it does not infringe on the space that was
allocated to traditional marriage. Moreover, as we shall see later in the book,
there is an ongoing debate as to whether to grant the full benefits of marriage
to same-sex couples. This will be a theme that is briefly touched on in the
next chapter will focus on the legal frameworks that support marriage.
CHAPTER 2
CONTENTS
2.1. Standard Requirements for an Effective Marriage............................... 30
2.2. Race, Gender in Marriage.................................................................. 35
2.3. Civil Unions and Power Relations in Marriage................................... 41
2.4. Regulation of Sexual Relations in Marriage........................................ 47
2.5. Legitimacy of Children Born in and Outside Marriage....................... 53
Chapter 2 Summary.................................................................................. 59
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This second chapter examines the legal framework under which marriage
occurs and is accepted by society. It will also highlight the systematic
exclusion of LGBT people from this legal framework, until recently
when the notion of same-sex marriage was introduced into mainly liberal
democracies. The first section of this chapter will examine the standard legal
requirements of a marriage. In the second section, we will consider how
gender and race determine power relations in a marriage. The third section
covers the rationale and process for civil marriage in terms of their ability
to alter the power relations among couples. The 4th section in this chapter
is concerned with the regulation of sexual relationships among married
couples. The chapter will then close with a section on the legitimacy status
of children depending on whether they are born inside or outside wedlock.
There are certain privileges and responsibilities that come with marriage
(Kramer, 1996; Kreitzer, Hamilton, and Tolbert, 2014; Lahey and Alderson,
2004; Langbein and Yost, 2009). It is important for each of the parties to
understand their obligations, while at the same time ensuring that their
wellbeing and interests are protected. For example, there was once a time
when the term “marital rape” was deemed impossible since marriage
entitled one to sexual intercourse with their spouse. However, a more
progressive approach took sway in which women had the right to say no
and that their “no” was to be always taken seriously. Similarly, the spouses
must understand that they are creating new familiar ties that might obligate
them in ways that they had not previously considered. For example, they
will be socially prevented from marrying certain people from the opposite
side of the family, including brothers and sisters-in-law. In some cultures,
the son-in-law is expected to provide financing to his in-law or otherwise
contribute to the family finances. Meanwhile, women may be required to
take on the role of caregivers in both families. One of the more problematic
obligations was to engage in sexual relations with in-laws, such as would
occur in widow inheritance and the sharing of wives. This has been deemed
to be a serious form of marital abuse in many Western liberal democracies,
and yet it still occurs in some communities.
Most jurisdictions will have a social contract that accompanies marriage,
and this contract can have legal consequences because it places certain
obligations on a person because they are married (Meezan and Rauch, 2005;
Moskowitz, Rieger, and Roloff, 2010; Olson, Cadge, and Harrison, 2006;
Onuche, 2013). For example, marriage may be assumed to allow for couples
to surrender their sexualities to the other partner. Other communities insist
that a married person also offers up their labor to the other party to build the
finances of the family. Indeed, some religious ceremonies specify that the
couples are now one and must share equally all their properties. The spouses
may be required to take on debt obligations, and there are countries that
have made it illegal to secure debts on marital property without obtaining
the consent of the other parties. As one can glean from the examples
provided above, the social contracts involved in marriage can be onerous
for individuals and communities that do not necessarily conform to what
the majority pattern is. For LGBT couples, there is a false and ultimately
damaging dichotomy of choices between forced celibacy and engaging
in a conventional marriage that is contrary to their tastes and preferences.
Besides, there have been changes in the law that imply that it is no longer
tenable to coerce people into relationships of convenience for the purpose
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may be at risk of abuse and neglect. Others even suggest that the mere
fact of adopting children is a recruitment strategy for LGBT people so that
they can indoctrinate young children into their lifestyle. These stereotypes
and falsehoods were used to emphasize the notion that LGBT people were
inherently unworthy of being formal spouses and the responsibilities that
stem from that status. In the next section, we will briefly explore the role of
race and gender in the marriage equality movement.
America. It did not matter about the character of the people involved. All that
the state was interested in was maintaining white supremacy as the dominant
social force in America. Then there were those states that prohibited any
marriage between a white person and anyone of Asian or Native-American
origin. It is estimated that between 1913 and 1948, nearly three-quarters of the
USA was under anti-miscegenation laws. Certainly, 30 out of 50 states that
make the USA enacted legislation to this effect. Others did not legislate, but
there was a generalized societal revulsion against “race traitors” that crossed
racial lines. Despite the proposal of an anti-miscegenation amendment to the
constitution, it did not pass into law, and this remained a state issue. Indeed,
the abolition of anti-miscegenation law took a long time under the states,
even where the federal government had implicitly expressed support for
some form of reform. The advent of same-sex marriage followed a similar
trajectory in which the federal government calls for action, and the states
take a long time to finally enact the appropriate legislation.
The courts have traditionally played a critical role in extending marriage
rights, sometimes to the chagrin of social conservatives who argue that any
reforms should be the exclusive right of elected politicians (Pierceson, 2014;
Pinello, 2006; Powell, Quadlin, and Pizmony-Levy, 2015; Rimmerman
and Wilcox, 2007). However, the courts have increasingly found that the
democratic majority should not legislate to infringe on the human rights of
minorities. This protection is especially important for LGBT people who
otherwise would have to take on highly entrenched institutions to successfully
argue for same-sex marriage. A circular argument had developed in which
LGBT people had to go to authorities for their rights, yet those authorities
had been conditioned and instructed not to offer those rights. Then some
argued that LGBT people had to persuade the wider community about
the justice of their cause. However, that same society had been influenced
by homophobic and sexist attitudes, which ensured that any plebiscite to
offer equality to LGBT people would ultimately fail. Hence, LGBT people
were degraded to second-class citizenship that was insidious as it was
perpetual. In the USA, the Supreme Court considered the very foundation
of anti-miscegenation laws in the aptly titled case “Loving v. Virginia.” In
a surprisingly unanimous decision, the usually socially conservative court
ruled that anti-miscegenation laws were unconstitutional. The ruling meant
that the last remaining 16 states with these laws in the USA had to nullify
them to comply with the ruling of the court. Although seemingly impossible
at the time, the same logic would later lead to same-sex marriage decades
later when the same court found that it was unconstitutional to bar LGBT
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couples from marriage though insisting that this privilege is the exclusive
right of heterosexual couples.
The Nazis in Germany had even more sinister motives in trying to
purify an idealized Aryan race, a process which excluded non-Europeans,
homosexuals, and people with any kind of disability (Lewis and Gossett,
2008; Lodola and Corral, 2010; Lupia et al., 2010; MacDougall, 2000;
McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009). This was an overarching narrative of
white heterosexual and cisgender supremacy. In the search for perfection,
human beings can be meticulous in their ostracization of those who do not
conform to what is deemed to be the norm. Members of the community that
once lived relatively peacefully in a country can suddenly find themselves
on the receiving end of hateful and discriminatory policies. Sociologists
and psychologists have identified various causes of this collective hate. For
example, it has been speculated that the dehumanization of other people
allows the majority to engage in otherwise unacceptable behavior. Others
argue that pre-existing tensions within the society are exploited by politicians
to create an atmosphere of intolerance and fascists attitudes. At other times,
certain voices in the community may be worried about change and express
this worry in violent ways against those who are vulnerable. German was
the scene of many outrages that were hardly consistent with an otherwise
civilized country.
The battle cry for discrimination is often led by a group with vested
interests that can only be expressed in the most violent of ways, and this
can impact the ability to enact equality legislation (Boertien and Vignoli,
2019; Brandzel, 2005; Brewer and Wilcox, 2005; Brown, 1994; Buchanan,
1984; Buffie, 2011). Obviously, Nazi Germany one of the worst examples,
with serious consequences for the entire society. The consequences for those
groups in Nazi Germany went beyond being denied basic human rights
such as the right to work, marry, or access social services. Instead, the Nazi
regime embarked on a process of extermination which was meant to purify
the nation. The official ban on interracial marriage was ushered in by law
during the month of September in 1935, later become an intrinsic part of
the Nuremberg Laws. This law was titled “The Law for the Protection of
German Blood and German Honor.” The implication was that any kind of
interaction with any of the groups that were considered dishonorable could
taint German heritage and identity. Although it was never clear that Jews
were a race, the Nazi regime classified them as such and hence forbade
them from any kind of sexual intercourse with German people, including
marriage. Initially, the law focused on anyone of Jewish descent because
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these were the most threatening minority in German society. Later, the Nazis
included “negroes,” gypsies, and any of their offspring in any generation;
hence reflecting the overall bigotry of the regime. Anyone who crossed
racial lines in this way was considered to have committed a race disgrace.
The culprits were imprisoned, deported to prison camps, or sentenced to
execution.
It is interesting to note the relationship between genocidal-racist
regimes and negative attitudes towards homosexuality (Lupia et al., 2010;
MacDougall, 2000; McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009; Meezan and Rauch,
2005). Together, these form a network of intolerance and discrimination
that can negatively impact people and communities. At the heart of this
discriminatory practice are regimes that have made the calculus that there
is political capital in targeting minorities. These regimes deliberately target
minorities for abuse and rely on the ignorance, complacency, or even active
participation of the majority. Indeed, the electoral process itself may serve
to disenfranchise those that are ostracized by their communities. It is only
through collective advocacy that some of these issues can be addressed.
Only a generalized community conscience will start the process towards
healing and the acceptance of difference. In Africa, we have the examples
of South Africa and Rwanda, two countries that have had their fair share of
racial tensions and dictatorial governments.
Nevertheless, the journey towards racial reconciliation also heralded a
move towards a much laxer attitude towards LGBT people in general and
even the possibility of same-sex marriage (Walls, 2010; Wardle, 1996; Webb
and Chonody, 2014; Wedgwood, 1999; Widiss, Rosenblatt, and NeJaime,
2007). During apartheid, the main dividing line was race. However, the
government was generally hostile to sexual minorities. In Rwanda, the issue
of sexual minorities was only a minor issue when compared to the main
issue of two tribes that were willing to go to extremes to exterminate each
other. The “Rainbow Nation” that South Africa aspired to, at least in the
immediate aftermath of apartheid, also became one of the beacons of sexual
freedom. Gay relationships and marriages are now permitted in South Africa.
Whereas Rwanda is yet to resolve its racial tensions, the experience of being
a minority under attack persuaded the Tutsi tribal grouping that LGBT people
should not be put to death because of their sexuality. Whereas traditional
African values still detest homosexuality in Rwanda, the government is not
actively trying to execute its LGBT communities. Sex and gender are keys
in the validation and conduct of marriage (Lannutti, 2005, 2007; Lee and
Hicks, 2011; Lenhardt, 2008; Lewis, 2005; Lewis and Gossett, 2008). For
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example, those that are struggling with their sexual identity are sometimes
placed in a marriage construct that is disrespectful to them generally. That
means that they must conform with the expectations of society in terms of
their cisgender roles. Besides, the discrimination and violence that is faced
by those questioning their sex and gender are often ignored or minimized as
not being important. There are health issues that remain specific to intersex
and transsexual people, including higher than average HIV/AIDS rates in
certain parts of the world. Moreover, these communities face continuous
violence from their partners and in public spaces. Yet, there are limited
levels of psychosocial support, and the systemic discrimination that intersex
or transsexual people face is deemed to be a fraction of the overall trend of
discrimination against sexual minorities.
The lack of understanding of issues that are important to minorities plays
an important role in the development of policies that are not necessarily
cognizant of the entirety of the community (Badgett, 2009; Flores, 2015;
Lannutti, 2007; Schragger, 2005). In doing so, there is a tendency to focus on
the majority because politicians think of majorities as the priority. However,
a humanist perspective on these issues would dictate that all members
of the community are entitled to some basic rights. Besides, it would be
unfair to subject the rights of the minority to a democratic process that is
inherently rigged against equality. Nevertheless, governments intervene in
ways that are complicit or negligent when it comes to inequalities. They
do so safely in the knowledge that the majority of the populace will not be
against such moves. Hence, the interventionist action that is taken is often
limited and inappropriate to the needs of this vulnerable community. It is
only recently that pro-LGBT activism has focused on the experiences of
intersex and transsexual people as a unique subset of intersectionality that
must be addressed in a specific way and with an appropriate focus. That is
not meant to break up the LGBT community, but to ensure that every aspect
of that community is recognized and addressed appropriately.
Legislation that introduces same-sex marriage tends to focus on the right
to engage in the ceremony and legal recognition of the union, together with
all the benefits and responsibilities that that status entails (Shulman, Gotta,
and Green, 2012; Smith, DeSantis, and Kassel, 2006; Smith, 2005, 2007).
However, there is less legislative work concerning issues of gender and race
in same-sex marriage. It is clearly not enough for someone to engage in
a meaningless ceremony when their other rights are being systematically
trampled on. LGBT people are looking for real change and are not necessarily
interested in tokenism that serves to assuage the moral misgivings of those
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that have been the beneficiaries of a heterosexist societal norm. In doing so,
LGBT people may be facing certain challenges within their community.
It is not accurate to suggest that discrimination and anti-equality views
do not exist in the LGBT community(Kogan, 2003; Koppelman, 1996, 1997,
2014; Kramer, 1996; Kreitzer, Hamilton, and Tolbert, 2014). The victim can
very easily turn into the aggressor through commission or omission. For
example, there has been research suggesting that internalized homophobia
and casual racism are very much part of the LGBT. For example, Italian
and Latin gay and bisexual men are sexualized and objectified through
negative stereotyping. Similarly, African American gay and bisexual men
are portrayed as being over-sexualized and uncouth. Indeed, there have been
reports of ethnic minorities being completely ignored in the LGBT agenda,
or otherwise being denied access to spaces that have been opened to white
LGBT people. One of the deadly consequences of these inequalities has been
the explosion of HIV/AIDS among African American gay and bisexual men,
despite all the strides that have been taken to combat the epidemic within the
USA. Those who live in Southern states with a history of institutionalized
racism are at an even bigger disadvantage given the dearth of support
services available to them. The next section examines the kinds of reforms
that have been instituted through the offer of civil unions.
accepted this compromise, others argued for complete equal marriage. They
highlighted the fact that cisgender heterosexual couples could always obtain
civil unions if they wanted, but LGBT people could not obtain traditional
weddings and marriages if that is what they wished to have. Instead, they
were placed in the second class of couples that could never move beyond
the civil ceremony. Figure 2.3 illustrates some of the power dynamics in an
intimate relationship or marriage.
the concerns from some in the LGBT community that they are being given a
second-class form of marriage when they are allotted civil weddings as their
only choice. Some religious institutions have started offering some form of
marriage for same-sex couples, and this has led to doctrinal disagreements.
Perhaps the most significant and consequential of these disagreements
is that which is happening in the Anglican Communion (Pinello, 2006;
Powell, Quadlin, and Pizmony-Levy, 2015; Rimmerman and Wilcox, 2007;
Rosenfeld, 2014; Rothblum, 2005). This is a Church that has struggled with
issues of doctrinal purity as far back as the break from Rome, which took
place in the reign of the notorious King Henry VIII, who had no fewer than
seven wives, or six wives if you discard the one that was annulled because
he did not think the prospective bride pretty enough. The Church was
established because of royal supremacy. In those early days, adherence to the
Church was enforced through the persecution of Catholics by way of fines
and confiscations. Eventually, the Anglican Church because institutionalized
and was active in the coronation of English and British monarchs. Over the
years, the Anglican Church has been presented as the more liberal alternative
to the Catholic Church. However, there was a European and African divide
during colonial times. The African Anglican Church was decidedly more
conservative than its European counterpart. Eventually, this schism became
fertile ground for the Pentecostal Church that rejected a lot of the religious
symbolism that had been associated with both the Catholic and Anglican
Church.
This divide continues today, with European Churches decidedly
far more liberal than their African counterparts (Ball, 2015; Gaines and
Garand, 2010; Lenhardt, 2008; Sherkat et al., 2011). Of course, it must be
acknowledged that these Churches operate within their contexts and cannot
be seen to be overtly or covertly breaking social conventions and laws. For
example, churches that discriminate against LGBT people in certain areas
may be liable for legal sanctions. However, there are social patterns that have
influenced the Church and its policies. Besides, the Church has been evolving
over time and adjusting some of its strict doctrinals believes accordingly.
The European Anglican community is broadly supportive of some rights for
LGBT people, including some form of marriage. However, the conservative
dioceses in Africa and the USA are strongly against any acknowledgment of
same-sex marriage. Indeed, some churches have threatened to separate from
the Church of England if they continue to tolerate same-sex marriage. So far,
Church authorities in Europe have attempted to mask this schism because
they are within a context that finds any form of institutionalized homophobia
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to be unacceptable. That is not to say that all religious institutions are against
providing any rights for LGBT people (Beck, 2013; Berg, 2010; Bernstein
and Taylor, 2013; Boertien and Vignoli, 2019; Brandzel, 2005; Brewer and
Wilcox, 2005). In fact, the Catholic Church in Rome has spoken out about
the maltreatment of people who are “struggling with same-sex attraction.”
Nevertheless, some of the solutions that the Catholic Church has offered
are impractical and dehumanizing. For example, the Church has suggested
celibacy as a solution for those Catholics that have a same-sex attraction.
Such a solution is not workable because it fails to recognize the rights of
individuals to engage in sexual activity and to form unions with people of
their choice. Moreover, the Church itself has ruled those marriages which
are not consummated (sexless marriages) are invalid before the Church and
that it would annul them upon request or discovery. Some states are very
particular about the secular nature of weddings, and that is why they allow
the civil aspects to take place simultaneously with the religious ceremonies.
In that way, there is no public perception that the state is supporting religious
marriages in a special way. Indeed, there are states which do not recognize
religious marriages at all. Without the civil aspect of the marriage (including
signing registers), the marriage is not recognized by the state.
Although civil unions are critical marital procedures, they are often less
formalized and elaborate than traditional or religious weddings (Boertien
and Vignoli, 2019; Brandzel, 2005; Brewer and Wilcox, 2005; Brown, 1994;
Buchanan, 1984; Buffie, 2011). For example, whereas Churches insist on
having weddings in a designated Church; civil unions can be conducted in
a private venue, including homes, if they are open to the public to raise
objections. In England and Wales, the system moved away from the
requirement of a register’s office and instead opened the possibility of using
any public venue if it received the requisite licenses. A special emergency
license can be granted in the United Kingdom when through illness or
disability, a member of the couple or both is unable to attend a designated
place. A case in point is those weddings that take place on the deathbed
of one of the partners. However, it is also important to note that the state
can determine that some areas are appropriate for civil weddings while
others are not. In that sense, the state is always in charge of marriage as an
institution because of the power of recognition. Even religious weddings can
only become valid if they are recognized by the state. One of the challenges
that have been faced in making reforms is the fact that some of the issues
which were addressed by previous requirements remain unanswered in the
reformed framework. In that sense, marriage cannot be completely open to
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by the law even if the parties did not elect to be married. Notably, such
provisions have not been applied to same-sex couples who had cohabited
due to the lack of an alternative even if when they wanted to get married.
This interpretation of the law caused significant distress when the couple
discovered that they had no rights at all over the other’s life and property
despite having lived together for many years. The next section explores the
regulation of sexual relations within a marriage.
Baunach, 2012; Beck, 2013; Berg, 2010; Bernstein and Taylor, 2013;
Boertien and Vignoli, 2019; Brandzel, 2005). It is anticipated that they
will have more partners than heterosexual, cisgender couples. Indeed, the
responses to health crises in the LGBT community, such as HIV/AIDS,
have been hampered by these negative stereotypes and assumptions. Such
attitudes have seeped into the debates about same-sex marriage, with some
opponents focusing on the sex act between a man and another man as being
particularly problematic. These opponents of marriage equality argue that
the mere fact of being an LGBT person exposes one to sexual practices that
are risky and could lead to the spread of sexually transmitted diseases across
the general population.
The generalized marginalization and minimizing of the LGBT life
continues even when treatment solutions are provided to the HIV/AIDS
pandemic. Recently, when new Anti-Retroviral Treatments were discovered
that could reduce the transmission of HIV, the notion of a “Truvada Whore”
arose (Rosenfeld, 2014; Rothblum, 2005; Saez, 2011; Sanders, 2012;
Schragger, 2005; Sherkat, De Vries, and Creek, 2010). These so-called
Truvada Whores were mainly gay and bisexual men that were prescribed
this medication because of the heightened risk that they face. For example,
someone that is married to an HIV (human immunodeficiency viruses)-a
positive person may be eligible, as well as someone that is working in the
sex industry. Interestingly, the label of “Truvada Whores” is never applied to
heterosexual, cisgender people. In effect, moral outrage at the LGBT lifestyle
is deeply embedded within myths and moralistic judgments concerning the
conduct of sexual relations within and outside marriage.
Such studies are often tinged with the reality that women are generally
unwilling to admit to extramarital affairs given the serious consequences for
them and their extramarital children (Auchmuty, 2004; Badgett, 2009; Ball,
2014, 2015; Barclay and Fisher, 2003; Barker, 2012; Baunach, 2012; Beck,
2013). Indeed, women are generally reluctant to admit to the full number of
sexual partners they have had because of the fear of being judged. The label
of promiscuity seems to somehow have a much more serious connotation
for women than men. Apart from LGBT men who are sometimes referred
to as “whores,” men, in general, are expected to be “sow their wild oats.”
The only main limits on male promiscuity arise when they are married
in religions that do not accept polygamy, such as Christianity. Even then,
accommodations may be made for men when they fall short of the high
standards that are set out in the Biblical texts. For women, failing to be
faithful to your husband is seen as a major character flaw and is often taken
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as carte-blanche for the man to take lovers. Even more problematic are the
questions surrounding the parentage of children in the family when a woman
is suspected of being unfaithful or even admits to the fact. Some religions,
such as Islam, have gone as far as accommodating the sexual desires of men
through polygamy, whereas women are not allowed to take more than one
husband or even to have lovers during a marriage.
The influence of religion on state affairs has meant that there are
occasions where sexist laws are enacted under the guise of protecting the
sanctity of marriage (Coolidge, 1997; Corvino and Gallagher, 2012; Cox,
Navarro-Rivera, and Jones, 2014; Damslet, 1992; Dorf, 2011). The effect
of these laws is to first exclude the undesirable members of the community,
such as LGBT people. The second objective is to control the sexuality of
women to ensure that the paternity of the children in a marriage is never
questioned. Most of the world’s religions take a dim view of extramarital
sex, more so for women than men. Having extramarital affairs is seen as a
betrayal of the vows of faithfulness that are required to bless the marriage.
Non-secular states and theocracies may enact family law that is very much
in line with religious principles. An example is Iran and Saudi Arabia,
where adultery can lead to severe criminal penalties. This contrasts with
Western liberal democracies in which adultery is taken as a social failing
but rarely attracts criminals. The penalties, if they come, arise mainly during
divorce proceedings when adulterous partners are treated as being at fault
and therefore less deserving of consideration during the dissolution of the
marriage.
Adultery is not only a social abomination in many societies, but also
grounds for divorce and can attract criminal penalties for all parties involved
(Trandafir, 2014; Trosino, 1993; Vanita, 2005; Walls, 2010; Wardle, 1996;
Webb and Chonody, 2014). For example, there have been instances of
adulterers being flogged in Muslim-majority countries. In Islam, the husband
has a lot of leeways when it comes to occasioning a divorce. They need
only recite the divorce statement a given number of times, and the divorce
is triggered. That means that Muslim women who commit adultery place
themselves at a profoundly serious risk of being divorced against their will
and not getting the kind of protection that marriage might otherwise provide
during a separation. The countries that have criminalized extramarital sexual
activity include Yemen, Sudan, United Arab Emirates, Mauritania, Oman,
Morocco, Afghanistan, Saudi Arabia, Iran, Pakistan, Maldives, and Kuwait.
Notably, these countries have a strong Islamic religious influence in their
family law, and that means that even harsher penalties are placed on LGBT
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couples. The USA used to have anti-sodomy laws that criminalized virtually
all sexual activity outside marriage and specifically by LGBT people. This
chapter will close by exploring the thorny issue of legitimacy as it applies to
children who are born in and outside wedlock.
Figure 2.5: Race and children born out of wedlock in the USA.
Source: Yale University.
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Kreitzer, Hamilton, and Tolbert, 2014; Lahey and Alderson, 2004). For
example, there was a case in Germany in 2010 which involved a paternal
request for access to twins born to a married woman and fathered by a third
party. The European Court of Human Rights acknowledges the rights of the
father in these cases, even where the mother is married to someone else.
In such cases, the courts will intervene to ensure that both parents have
access to the children since the man who is married to the mother may try
to prevent the biological parent from having any contact with the family.
Some jurisdictions, like the United Kingdom, for example, reference the
name on the birth certificate to authenticate parental rights. Hence, a man
that is listed on the birth certificate is entitled to parental rights unless there
is scientific proof that he is not the parent. Even then, that scientific proof
must be presented to the court to make a ruling.
The jurisdictional variations in the enforcement of paternity can be
difficult for migrants and even people that were born in a particular place.
It also means that it is exceedingly difficult to enforce an international
standard. For example, there is no automatic right of fatherhood if the man
is not listed on the birth certificate in the UK (Rosenfeld, 2014; Rothblum,
2005; Saez, 2011; Sanders, 2012; Schragger, 2005; Sherkat, De Vries, and
Creek, 2010). Ireland, a neighboring country, has adopted a different stance
in as far as being on a birth certificate is not enough to enforce the rights of
the father. The father must take additional steps such as obtaining consent
from the mother to make a statutory declaration of parentage. Where the
mother refuses to agree, the father can apply to the court, and the courts may
ask for a DNA report to confirm paternity. These cases demonstrate that
children born out of wedlock are subject to disputes about parental rights
and responsibilities which ultimately end up in the courts of law. Rather than
adopting a uniform international standard, each jurisdiction has established
normative processes through which these issues can be resolved.
Despite the historical stigma that they face, children born out of wedlock
are increasing in number and proportion across a range of countries (Lewis
and Gossett, 2008; Lodola and Corral, 2010; Lupia et al., 2010; MacDougall,
2000; McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009). Some have argued that this reflects
the difficulties of getting married and the ease of getting divorced. Others
have highlighted the role of increasingly liberal societal values in which
marriage is no longer an essential requirement. According to the latest
statistics, Colombia has one of the largest percentages of children born out
of wedlock at 74%, even though this is a heavily catholic region. Similarly,
Peru, Brazil, and Chile have at least 65% of all children born out of wedlock.
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These children are the majority in other Latin countries such as Argentina
and Mexico. Every 4 in 10 children born within the European Union is born
to parents who are not currently married. This is like the statistic for the USA,
despite all the efforts to encourage marriage. Nearly half of all children born
in the United Kingdom are what would have been labeled “bastards” in the
old language. These changes reflect a new reality in which the institution of
marriage is no longer holding as much influence as it once had.
Given the fact that LGBT parents were until recently forbidden to marry,
the statistics of so-called “bastards” will include many children born to
committed and healthy rainbow families (Beck, 2013; Fingerhut, Riggle,
and Rostosky, 2011; Josephson, 2005; Lewis, 2005; Rosenfeld, 2014;
Smith, 2005). Indeed, most children born to out LGBT parents in the pre-
same-sex marriage era are “illegitimate.” However, there are also children
born by LGBT people who were in the closet and conforming to societal
definitions of marriage. Sometimes, the LGBT parent decides to come out
later in life, and this can cause trauma to children who must reconstruct
family dynamics. Children may perceive it as a betrayal that one of their
parents has effectively been living a lie for most of their family life. Others
may face the stigma that arises from public knowledge about the sexuality
and identity of their parent. In fact, there have been instances where schools
have turned away children born or raised by LGBT parents. This seems like
an irrational response, even where the school has presented arguments about
a religious principle or doctrine. Increasingly, there is concern that any child
from rainbow families is getting a raw deal in a system that was designed
to primarily support heterosexual couples. Besides, the parent themselves
may have gone through personal torment and mental health challenges
because of having to mask their identity to suit societal values. If the other
parent is heterosexual and cisgender, they may feel betrayed and abandoned.
Others are embarrassed by the possibility that they were never good enough
to sustain the idealized traditional marriage. The challenges of children
who are born out of relationships that are born out of non-conventional
relationships have been in existence for a long period. In fact, single mothers
were already experiencing a similar form of ostracization, marginalization,
and abandonment.
For women, the increased acceptance of children born out of wedlock
is a welcome relief from the times when these women were coerced into
giving up their children who were born out of wedlock (Rosenfeld, 2014;
Rothblum, 2005; Saez, 2011; Sanders, 2012; Schragger, 2005; Sherkat,
De Vries, and Creek, 2010). In the first instance, it means that women are
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not tied to unhappy marriages for the sole purpose of ensuring that their
children are not delegitimized. For a long time, women were trapped in
abusive relationships for fear of divorcing their husbands and placing a
social stigma on their children. The men who were the abusers were aware
of the challenges that single mothers faced. Hence, they created situations
in which women were completely subjugated for purposes of keeping the
family together. In the worst-case scenario, some religious institutions even
offered the possibility of annulment where the marriage was retrospectively
treated as being null and void. One of the most serious consequences of such
a decision is that children would effectively become “bastardized.” During
divorce proceedings, women were criticized for not being sufficiently
humble to keep the loyalty of their husbands. Others were counseled to
tolerate abuse and infidelity for the purpose of retaining the legitimacy
of their children. Following certain debates concerning societal attitudes
towards marriage, there are countries that have made adjustments to their
family law to reflect the reality that all children are valuable members of
society regardless of their so-called legitimacy.
Marriage law has sometimes been used to achieve societal goals that
are not necessarily altruistic (Onuche, 2013; Pearl and Galupo, 2007;
Pierceson, 2014; Pinello, 2006; Powell, Quadlin, and Pizmony-Levy, 2015).
For example, Australia was particularly pernicious in its forced adoption
program, which targeted Aboriginals as supported by racists social workers.
The thinking was that aboriginals were too uncivilized to be given the
opportunity to raise children regardless of whether the children were their
biological offspring. This was a continuation of racist and colonial attitudes
towards indigenous people for the purposes of dehumanizing them and
denying them their basic rights. What was even more frustrating was the
fact that the government repeatedly refused to acknowledge its role in the
scandal. Calls for apologies were brushed off as “sins of the father” guilt
trips. Some politicians made it a point not to apologize for the mistakes
that were committed by their predecessors. Then there was concern that if
the government acknowledged complicity, it would herald a slippery slope
which would end with significant compensation claims. It is only recently
that the Australian Prime Minister has delivered a public apology for these
human rights abuses.
Marriage in its traditional sense has been discriminatory since it
contains certain ideals which some people are never able to attain (Eskridge,
1993, 1999; Fingerhut, Riggle, and Rostosky, 2011; Flores, 2015; Franke,
2006; Gaines and Garand, 2010). For example, the law on marriage was
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not particularly kind to couples who opted not to have children. They were
denied certain benefits and considered to be a cost to society, even though
they put in more into the system than they took out. Most of the benefit and
welfare programs targeting families tended to support heterosexual married
couples with children. Anyone that did not fit this mold would effectively
be excluded. Meanwhile, tax allowances and other benefits were provided
to married couples, yet LGBT people were forbidden from marrying on
their own terms in many jurisdictions. The assumption that marriage would
always lead to children created high expectations for those that we’re unable
to produce children naturally. They would be made to feel as if they were
failures and a burden to society. Then the politicians would play their role
by idealizing traditional marriage well beyond any reality. Some of the
challenges that are associated with this institution were swept under the
carpet.
There are cultures that impose requirements on married women to
have children, and those who fail to do so are consequently ostracized
(Alderson, 2004; Chamie and Mirkin, 2011; Gher, 2007; Koppelman, 2014;
Moskowitz, Rieger, and Roloff, 2010). It is a primary duty for women, under
the traditional configuration of marriage at the very least, is to have children.
Hence, those that never have children are accused of being selfish or even
irresponsible. The payment of bridewealth in some countries is significant
because it implies that the women must repay that price in some way,
including having as many children as the husband desires. Those women
who use birth control are then subjected to social abuse and condemnation
for failing in their duties.
CHAPTER 2 SUMMARY
This chapter has examined the legal framework that underpins marriage
to understand how LGBT people are consistently excluded from this
institution. The standard requirements for marriage are onerous, exclusive,
and often oppressive. Marriage reflects the unequal gendered and racialized
power structures of society. The offer of a civil union as a substitute for
traditional marriage has been rejected by some LGBT people as an implicit
acknowledgment of inferiority. Besides, the strict regulations of sex within
and outside marriage helps to systematically exclude LGBT people from
the institution. The chapter then closed by considering the legitimacy of
children, which often ignores the plight of children that are existing in
rainbow families. The next chapter will explore the religiosity of marriage.
CHAPTER 3
RELIGIOSITY OF MARRIAGE
CONTENTS
3.1. Christian Conceptualization of Marriage............................................ 62
3.2. Islamic Conceptualization of Marriage............................................... 67
3.3. Judaism and Marriage Law................................................................. 72
3.4. Denominational Diversity in Marriage............................................... 77
3.5. Theological Views on Marriage.......................................................... 82
Chapter 3 Summary.................................................................................. 87
62 Debating Same Sex Marriage: An Example of a Cultural Revolution
Barclay and Fisher, 2003; Barker, 2012; Baunach, 2012; Beck, 2013; Berg,
2010; Bernstein and Taylor, 2013). The Catholic Church is particularly clear
about the importance of bearing children who will later become Catholics
to continue God’s work. This is one of the reasons why the Catholic Church
has been particularly vocal against abortion and the use of contraceptives.
Ideally, a Catholic should have as many children as a wife’s womb will carry
during her lifetime. Of course, the reality is that modern lifestyles call for
a considerable expense which is only possible by having smaller families.
An unlimited family would be completely inappropriate for the expense
involved.
Moreover, the Catholic Church has been accused of a doctrinal rigidity
that prevents people from making use of protection against deadly sexually
transmitted diseases such as HIV (Ball, 2014; Damslet, 1992; Hooghe and
Meeusen, 2013; Langbein and Yost, 2009; Pearl and Galupo, 2007). In terms
of the lives of LGBT people, the teachings by the Catholic Church do not
make much sense since the criterion of heterosexuality and fecundity are
not always applicable to this community. Therefore, the Christian Church is
moving further and further away from LGBT people. The only exceptions
are those denominations that have been accepting sexual minorities in their
congregations. Even then, these denominations may be ostracized from the
wider Christian Churches. A case in point is how the African dioceses of
the Anglican Church have rebelled against their European counterparts for
being accepting of LGBT people.
Whereas there may be certain doctrinal and procedural differences
among the Christian denominations, they are remarkably consistent about
the minimum standards expected of a married couple (Brewer and Wilcox,
2005; Brown, 1994; Buchanan, 1984; Buffie, 2011; Cahill and Cahill, 2004;
Chambers, 1997; Chamie and Mirkin, 2011). For example, faithfulness
is a basic tenant, and divorce is not encouraged. However, the Catholic
Church is stricter on issues of divorce than the protestant Church. In general
terms, the Protestant churches have been more willing than their Catholic
counterparts to engage with the LGBT community in terms of finding a way
of accommodating them within the congregation.
It is therefore not surprising that many of the churches that have
welcomed LGBT people are closer to the Protestant movement than they are
to the Catholic movement (Meezan and Rauch, 2005; Moskowitz, Rieger,
and Roloff, 2010; Olson, Cadge, and Harrison, 2006; Onuche, 2013). Most
modern Christians are guided by the teachings of Jesus Christ as interpreted
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Josephson, 2005). Hence, LGBT people are welcomed into the communion
if they repent their sins and vow not to continue committing those sins. The
problem is that to do so would imply denying one’s sexuality and identity.
In fact, some Church officials have encouraged LGBT people to remain
celibate to remain holy despite their proclivities, preferences, and nature.
For their part, some LGBT people have made considerable efforts (at
great personal cost) to escape their LGBT identity (Kreitzer, Hamilton,
and Tolbert, 2014; Lahey and Alderson, 2004; Langbein and Yost, 2009;
Lannutti, 2005). Some have attended so-called “conversion therapy,” which
has been found to be not only ineffective, but also profoundly harmful to the
wellbeing of the person that goes through such programs. That is why some
jurisdictions have specifically banned the use of conversion therapy.
Christians have complained about the campaigns inspired and run by the
LGBT community, which seem to turn into an outright attack on conservative
Christians (Lenhardt, 2008; Lewis, 2005; Lewis and Gossett, 2008; Lodola
and Corral, 2010; Lupia et al., 2010; MacDougall, 2000). There have, for
example, been instances in which Christian-owned businesses have been
taken to court for failing to produce goods and services that support the
LGBT causes, such as same-sex marriage. Others have complained about
being deliberately entrapped by agent-provocateurs within the LGBT
movement who target Christian-owned businesses to bring the religion into
disrepute.
Then there are those that feel that their freedom of expression has been
curtailed through political correctness (Gher, 2007; Goldberg-Hiller, 2009;
Hester and Gibson, 2007; Hogg, 2006; Hooghe and Meeusen, 2013; Hull,
2001). In other words, Christians are not allowed to critique public policy
on LGBT issues because they do not wish to be labeled as bigots or even to
have their businesses destroyed through malicious lawsuits. For its part, the
LGBT community generally advocates for an inclusive society in which no
members are ostracized based on their sexuality, identity, and preferences.
Those that sue Christian-owned businesses argue that it is appropriate
to expose the hypocrisy of a religion that preaches love but shows none
for the LGBT community (Brandzel, 2005; Hull, 2003; Moskowitz, Rieger,
and Roloff, 2010; Tamagawa, 2016). Then there are those of the view that
targeting bigots for lawsuits can be exemplary in as far as it discourages
others from engaging in similar activities for fear of reprisals. Bearing in
mind the traditional definitions of Christian marriage; it is highly unlikely
that the Church will fully embrace same-sex marriage in the foreseeable
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future. All that the LGBT community can hope for is tolerance, and covert
support from the more liberal congregations. In the next section, we will
consider the Islamic conceptualization of marriage and its implications for
public policy.
Some interpretations were that female slaves were not free until they had
a child with their master (Judge, Manion, and De Waal, 2008; Kail, Acosta,
and Wright, 2015; Kandaswamy, 2008; Klarman, 2012). The requirements
of the man are that he is able willing to participate in this web of sexual
relationships. The implication that the man must have the time and resources
that are necessary to satisfy his wives, concubines, and sex slaves. When it
comes to the division of wealth, the man must be able and willing to share it
or divide it among all his partners upon death.
Some interpretations show that the division of the wealth is equal
regardless of the status of the woman (Dorf, 2011; Ellison, Acevedo,
and Ramos‐Wada, 2011; Eskridge, 1993, 1999; Fingerhut, Riggle, and
Rostosky, 2011). Modern Islamic scholars have disputed the relevance of
this traditionalist view of concubinage which is at odds with a modern world
in which slavery, for example, is completely forbidden. Similarly, the notion
that men have free reign over women to use sexually is regressive and
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2006; Gaines and Garand, 2010; Gerstmann, 2017; Gher, 2007; Goldberg-
Hiller, 2009; Hester and Gibson, 2007). They will then recite the requisite
words that are extracted from the Koran. However, there must be a suitable
Muslim witness to make the recitation valid. Later, there will be a public
wedding. However, the time lag between the so-called “Urf marriage” and
the wedding ceremony can run months. The eventual wedding ceremony
will occur when both families wish to do so. It is important that the Urf
marriage should not be concealed since the recitation is meant to be a public
notification. A witness is required to verify the proceedings.
Shia has alternative arrangements in which a marriage may occur, even
when there are no witnesses (Ellison, Acevedo, and Ramos‐Wada, 2011;
Eskridge, 1993, 1999; Fingerhut, Riggle, and Rostosky, 2011). This is
what is known as a temporary marriage or “Nikah mut’ah.” Sunni Islam
specifically forbids these types of marriages. There has been concern that
these marriages are sometimes used to entrap women and young girls into a
form of sexual slavery. An older man that wishes to sexually exploit a young
woman will induce her into a so-called temporary marriage. Once he has
satisfied his desires, the man will divorce the woman.
It has been one of the ways of avoiding the oversight of moral authorities
when conducting marriages for the purposes of exploiting young people
(Olson, Cadge, and Harrison, 2006; Onuche, 2013; Pearl and Galupo, 2007;
Pierceson, 2014; Pinello, 2006). “Nikah mut’ah” requires consent on both
parties, and the marriage can be consummated after the temporary marriage.
However, it is not clear that the women who are victimized in this way give
any kind of meaningful informed consent. Temporary marriage has been
exposed as a potential loophole that can be abused by unscrupulous men to
exploit young women.
Unfortunately, there are Imams and other officials that are engaged in
facilitating these types of marriage for purposes of scheming off a profit
from the proceedings (Kail, Acosta, and Wright, 2015; Kandaswamy, 2008;
Klarman, 2012; Kogan, 2003; Koppelman, 1996). From the perspective
of reform, the existence of “Nikah mut’ah” is a clear example of how
the high standards that are set by religious scripts are not always met by
followers. Indeed, some of these standards may be exploited in a deliberate
way to achieve goals that are entirely outside the initial conceptualization
of marriage. Those who wish to defend the heritage and values of Islam
argue that these abuses are anomalies that should not be adopted as accurate
representations of the religion. In fact, it is possible that the enemies of Islam
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cherry-pick these incidents and abuses to convince the world that religion is
incurably bad.
The most common marriage in Islam is known as “Nikāh,” which
loosely translates into collecting and binding together (Lahey and Alderson,
2004; Langbein and Yost, 2009; Lannutti, 2005, 2007; Lee and Hicks, 2011;
Lenhardt, 2008). This marriage has been described in the Koran under Surah
4:4. There are important regulations that underpin this marriage, some of
which have been adopted in the family under within Muslim-majority
countries or even Islamic Theocracies like Iran. Although the “Nikāh” is
meant to be a permanent state, it gives the man unbridled powers to easily
divorce his wife with nothing more than a proclamation.
This is what is known as the “Talaq” process, a divorce proceeding that
is common in many cultures with the important difference being the consent
(or lack) of the wife (Brown, 1994; Buchanan, 1984; Buffie, 2011; Cahill
and Cahill, 2004; Chambers, 1997; Chamie and Mirkin, 2011; Coolidge,
1997). The wife may initiate divorce proceedings as well under the “Khula”
framework. One of the effects of “Nikāh” is that the couple can inherit from
each other, and this protects in many instances when the family of the groom
wishes to dispossess her of the man’s property when he is deceased.
Islamic marriage necessarily entails a legal contract under Shariat Law
(Moskowitz, Rieger, and Roloff, 2010; Olson, Cadge, and Harrison, 2006;
Onuche, 2013; Pearl and Galupo, 2007). However, there is no specific
requirement that the agreement be in writing. Hence, enforcement is largely
dependent on the goodwill of the parties involved. That can be problematic
if there is an acrimonious separation, and one party is seeking to injure the
other in some way. At the same time, the lack of enforced written contracts
means that even those that are functionally illiterate can contract marriages
under Shariat Law.
For those that have immigrated to Western liberal democracies with a
strong Christian influence or background; it seems highly unlikely that such
marriages that are only memorialized through oral contracts can be enforced
in a court of law (Hull and Hull, 2006; Hunter, 2012; Josephson, 2005;
Judge, Manion, and De Waal, 2008; Kail, Acosta, and Wright, 2015). Some
marriages have an end date for certain clauses and obligations, something
that is virtually unheard of in a Western context. The disagreement over
temporary marriages indicates doctrinal diversities in the interpretation
of marriage. Although Islam is largely opposed to the notion of same-
sex marriage, there are some denominations that are beginning to accept
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people with same-sex attractions and partnerships. One of the most notable
examples is in South Africa, probably on account of the liberal government
policy on LGBT unions in that country when compared to the rest of Africa.
The Muslim marriage is decidedly heterosexual, although Iran does
help some transgender people to transition through state facilities (Langbein
and Yost, 2009; Lannutti, 2005, 2007; Lee and Hicks, 2011; Lenhardt,
2008; Lewis, 2005). Where Islamic law reigns, homophobia has been
institutionalized with LGBT people humiliated, insulted, excluded, and
even killed for nothing more than their sexuality and identity. Even more
concerning is the notion that when Islam gains influence in the West, there
is a concerted effort to bring those values that are against LGBT rights. The
eventuality or suspicion that there are “Muslim areas” in Europe and North
America where LGBT people are not welcome has outright many and led to
calls for more controls on the religion as well as its adherents.
Besides, there has been resistance among western Liberal democracies
against incorporating any aspect of Shariat Law since it may lead to serious
discrimination against LGBT citizens (Bernstein and Taylor, 2013; Franke,
2006; Kail, Acosta, and Wright, 2015; Lodola and Corral, 2010; Sanders,
2012). The thinking behind this has a surprising diversity twist. According
to those that are against the Islamification of Europe, the world ought to be
a diverse place, which is not dominated by one religion. Hence, Europe is
a primarily Christian region. Muslim migrants would then be required to
moderate their religious practices so that they are consistent with the liberal
democratic principles that prevail in Europe. The next section considers
marriage in Judaism.
Source: Haaretz.
Jews believe that one of the critical (although not sole) purposes of
marriage are procreation (Badgett, 2009; Ball, 2014, 2015; Barclay and
Fisher, 2003; Barker, 2012; Baunach, 2012; Beck, 2013; Berg, 2010). Hence,
there is a covenant to the unborn children that must be fulfilled. Because
LGBT people are less likely to procreate “naturally,” they were typically
excluded from the traditional Jewish marriage. However, Israel remains an
important beacon of LGBT rights in the Middle East despite the existence of
a sizeable conservative community in the country.
According to Jewish tradition, marriage involves merging the couple into
a single soul (Smith, DeSantis, and Kassel, 2006; Smith, 2005, 2007; Soule,
2004; Strasser, 2018; Sullivan, 2004; Tamagawa, 2016). It is for this reason
that unmarried men are “incomplete” under Jewish tradition. Of course,
such an assumption also puts pressure on the “confirmed bachelors” that do
not get married because their potential sexual partners are excluded from
marriage when following the rules laid down by the Torah. The exclusion of
LGBT people from Orthodox marriages has not stopped Israel as a country
from adopting the most pro-LGBT policies in Europe. In fact, compared to
its neighbor Israel remains a beacon of LGBT rights.
There are many typologies of marriages that are described in the Hebrew
Bible which roughly equates to the Old Testament in the Christian Bible
(Badgett, 2009; Ball, 2014, 2015; Barclay and Fisher, 2003; Barker, 2012;
Baunach, 2012; Beck, 2013; Berg, 2010). The marriages are intricately
linked to historical figures such as Samson, Jacob, and Isaac. Typically, men
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DeSantis, and Kassel, 2006; Smith, 2005, 2007). Some LGBT people have
created their own religious communities as a counterculture to the mainstream
that has rejected them. Other liberal views have also created denominations
that are more welcoming to LGBT people. This denominational diversity is
occurring in a context of significant changes in religious communities. For
example, Figure 3.4 shows that many traditional religions are experiencing
a decline in adherents while the number of people with no religion is rising.
Source: MDPI.
In the case of the Anglican Union, the disagreements over same-sex
marriage have inspired debates about a permanent schism (Kandaswamy,
2008; Klarman, 2012; Kogan, 2003; Koppelman, 1996, 1997, 2014). For
example, those churches based in Africa and the developing world, in
general, are much more conservative on LGBT issues than those in Europe
and North America. However, the liberal churches in the more industrialized
nations are not willing to compromise the rights and welfare of their LGBT
congregations at the altar of doctrinal uniformity.
In fact, some countries specifically ban same-sex relationships while
others ban discrimination against LGBT people (Pierceson, 2014; Pinello,
2006; Powell, Quadlin, and Pizmony-Levy, 2015; Rimmerman and Wilcox,
2007). In such circumstances, the communion is faced with an unpalatable
set of choices which all point to a potential schism. Nevertheless,
denominational diversity has meant that LGBT people still have a place
in religious communities and that there is no universal policy of exclusion,
discrimination, and harassment. This belies the damaging stereotype of
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couples that are still believers despite being generally excluded from this
institution (Damslet, 1992; Dorf, 2011; Ellison, Acevedo, and Ramos‐Wada,
2011; Eskridge, 1993, 1999). For example, under the provisions of the 24th
Session of the Council of Trent in 1563; a priest and two witnesses were
necessary for a wedding to be valid. The problem for LGBT couples is that
many priests refuse to wed them or even countenance the validity of their
relationships. Then there are the legacy issues that need to be reinterpreted
for a modern age.
A case in the need for parental consent which became a sticking point
for legislation in the United Kingdom when raising the minimum age for
consent for same-sex relationships (Bernstein and Taylor, 2013; Boertien
and Vignoli, 2019; Brandzel, 2005; Brewer and Wilcox, 2005; Brown, 1994;
Buchanan, 1984). Another issue is that of the right to remarry after divorce.
Traditionally, marriage was a contract that lasted until one or both of the
parties to it died. That meant that even after divorce, some conservative
denominations refused to remarry the individuals to other spouses. Hence,
the ridiculous situation of people that had been divorced for nearly a quarter
of a century but could still not get remarried to other people.
At a time when the divorce rates are quite high in many industrialized
nations, such a requirement is superfluous (Alderson, 2004; Chamie and
Mirkin, 2011; Gher, 2007; Koppelman, 2014; Moskowitz, Rieger, and
Roloff, 2010). When LGBT marriages were introduced, the courts were
faced with the task of dealing with a new form of divorce that never followed
traditional lines. For example, many LGBT couples did not have children
to link them after divorce, and yet there were substantial marital assets to
be shared. There were concerns that any attempt to restrict divorce could
increase domestic violence and gender-based.
Certainly, research those unhappy marriages are worse than singlehood
and that is something that has taken an exceptionally long time to embed
within society (Onuche, 2013; Pearl and Galupo, 2007; Pierceson, 2014;
Pinello, 2006; Powell, Quadlin, and Pizmony-Levy, 2015). There were
unscrupulous partners that used the provisions of the Church to hold their
spouse captive and would take every opportunity to sabotage their ex-
partners by refusing to grant a divorce or making an unexpected appearance
at a new wedding to disrupt it. The use of children as a bargaining chip
was common, and certainly parental alienation occurred where no steps
were taken to ensure that both parents had reasonable access to children.
LGBT couples were not willing to enter one trap after fighting for their
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freedom over a considerable period. Hence, the divorce rates among same-
sex couples are fast catching up with that of traditional marriage.
There have been subtle but important changes in marriage over the
years, and these have become tradition (Cox, Navarro-Rivera, and Jones,
2014; Ellison, Acevedo, and Ramos‐Wada, 2011; Koppelman, 1997; Wight,
LeBlanc, and Lee Badgett, 2013). Those that argue for LGBT rights suggest
that since tradition can be changed over time, acceptance of same-sex
marriage should become a matter of course with time. Even doctrinally
stringent religions such as Catholicism have been subject to change. Some of
these changes appear trivial such as marrying the Church instead of outside
it. However, they are overall indicators that some of the doctrinal certainties
that have prevented acceptance of LGBT marriages can be changed with the
will of the congregations.
The congregations themselves are divided between the young and old,
traditionalists, and liberals (Lewis and Gossett, 2008; Lodola and Corral,
2010; Lupia et al., 2010; MacDougall, 2000; McVeigh and Maria-Elena,
2009). Hence, it is almost impossible to come up with a consensus on how
the issue of reform should be handled with regard to same-sex marriage. The
Church or any other religious institution may also be grappling within a legal
context that is decidedly much more liberal than the most orthodox adherents
of the faith. Hence, there are jurisdictions in which a religious ceremony
is not recognized as a marriage until the civil aspects of a contract are
completed. Moreover, the complementarity notions in a traditional marriage
may be criticized for allowing gendered stereotypes and discrimination to
continue under the guise of maintaining the traditional marriage structure.
Protestantism has generally had a more liberal approach to doctrine,
including with reference to same-sex couples (Chambers, 1997; Chamie and
Mirkin, 2011; Coolidge, 1997; Corvino and Gallagher, 2012; Cox, Navarro-
Rivera, and Jones, 2014). Although certain protestants (a notable example
being the Southern Baptists and the Pentecostal churches of the developing
world) are quite conservative on issues of same-sex marriage; the Protestant
Movement has been in favor of gradual reform. Of course, some of the
stipulations (such as celibacy) placed on same-sex couples are impractical.
Nevertheless, there is denominational diversity in the Protestant churches
which allows them to welcome LGBT couples and even countenance same-
sex marriage.
That does not mean that there is complete acceptance of LGBT people,
a community that still must deal with factions that are reactionary and even
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the authorities may assume that a divorce has taken place. The challenge
is in ensuring that alimony rights are enforced if the absconding partner is
located.
Some researchers are of the view that eventually the divorce rate among
younger Christians will reach the endemic levels that it is in the wider
communities within the industrialized world (Gher, 2007; Goldberg-Hiller,
2009; Hester and Gibson, 2007; Hogg, 2006; Hooghe and Meeusen, 2013;
Hull, 2001). This is because younger people are no longer willing to sacrifice
their personal freedom and happiness at the altar of certain doctrinal dogmas.
Indeed, many are questioning the very objections to same-sex marriage,
which were once held to be sacrosanct. If religious institutions are to retain
their hold over the younger generation, they must ensure that their values
and practices reflect the priorities of a modern society.
For example, young people strongly associated with the LGBT
community, and many are beginning to question why their friends are being
denied the right to marriage for being themselves and expressing their
identity (Goldberg-Hiller, 2009; Hester and Gibson, 2007; Hogg, 2006;
Hooghe and Meeusen, 2013; Hull, 2001, 2003). Others are disillusioned
by the seeming hypocrisy of religious institutions that have prioritized
certain sins over others. For instance, the Catholic Church cannot really
claim the moral high ground on human sexuality when the institution has
faced significant and serious accusations of child abuse among its priests.
Young people are keenly aware of these inconsistencies and are not afraid to
highlight them if they feel that the religious institutions are not responding
to the community in an appropriate way.
Even within a single institution such as the Christian, there are competing
notions of marriage and the resultant responses to the possibilities of same-
sex marriage (Boertien and Vignoli, 2019; Hull, 2001; Meezan and Rauch,
2005; Sullivan, 2004). These divisions are not only doctrinal but also practical
in terms of how they relate to the ways in which the congregation leads its
life. Some adherents have found themselves in an unenviable position of
having to choose between their faith and family members who happen to be
part of the LGBT community. Those that do not take a Conservative view
of marriage have been accused of apostasy and even betrayal against the
Church.
Then there are those who believe that their own interpretation is the
correct one, even if it means “hating the sin, but loving the sinner” with
regards to the LGBT community (Brewer and Wilcox, 2005; Hull and Hull,
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2006; Olson, Cadge, and Harrison, 2006; Trandafir, 2014). A church may
be forced by its congregation to take on a much more conservative view
of same-sex marriage when its followers threaten to leave if there is no
hardening of attitudes. Reform can only occur if there is a meeting of minds
over same-sex marriage across the different interest groups within a given
church or denomination. Of course, the reality is that personal perspectives
vary significantly, and that means that consensus is incredibly difficult to
achieve.
Some institutions are on the verge of breaking up because there is no
consensus on the issue of same-sex marriage and no consensus can be
foreseen soon (Sherkat et al., 2011; Shulman, Gotta, and Green, 2012;
Smith, DeSantis, and Kassel, 2006; Smith, 2005, 2007). Because doctrines
are ultimately about belief systems in a higher power, some members
of a congregation may feel that no price is too high to please their God
even if it means breaking away from their parent congregations. Religious
institutions are struggling with the divide between the traditionalists and the
modernists. On the one hand, the institution must retain some of its identity
if it is to survive. On the other hand, there must be reform to appeal to new
and younger congregations. That balancing act has proved to be fatal for
some institutions.
As a case in point, we can examine the competing views of marriage
in Christianity today (Bernstein and Taylor, 2013; Hooghe and Meeusen,
2013; McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009; Strasser, 2018). On one end is the
egalitarian point of view, which borrows heavily from the New Testament.
In these cases, marriage requires complete equality of responsibility and
authority between the spouses. On the other end of the spectrum is the
Patriarchal point of view in which marriage is for the comfort of the man
and involves him completely dominating his wife, or wives.
Egalitarianism is at odds with patriarchy because it does not believe in
any authority differentials among couples (Pierceson, 2014; Pinello, 2006;
Powell, Quadlin, and Pizmony-Levy, 2015; Rimmerman and Wilcox, 2007).
There is no leader or head of the family, but rather each member of the
couple takes on any roles that are pre-agreed by the parties. Egalitarians
base their belief system on the Biblical principle of reciprocal love and
equality before the eyes of God. This contrasts with the patriarchal view
in which women are the originators of sin and therefore are condemned to
remain subordinate to their husbands. Egalitarians reject any claim of a
principle or theological justification for achieving a certain status based on
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class, race, or gender (Ball, 2014, 2015; Barclay and Fisher, 2003; Barker,
2012; Baunach, 2012; Beck, 2013; Berg, 2010; Bernstein and Taylor, 2013).
In contrast, the Complementarian perspective believes in a male-dominated
hierarchy. However, the husband is supposed to prove loving and humble
leadership while the wife offers intelligent and willing submission. Hence,
the assumption that accepting these roles will bring complementarity and
harmony to the relationship.
Over time, Biblical patriarchy is becoming less and less popular with
mainstream Christians (Chamie and Mirkin, 2011; Coolidge, 1997; Corvino
and Gallagher, 2012; Cox, Navarro-Rivera, and Jones, 2014). Many consider
to be a violation of the human rights of a wife and an elevation of masculinity
beyond any rational limits. A strict male-dominant hierarchy has become
increasingly superfluous in a world where work and earn a living. Indeed,
the revelation that God was masculine and therefore could only be properly
served by men is being challenged by the elevation of women Bishops and
clergy. The husband as a sovereign of the household is being challenged
by divorce courts that tend to favor women when it comes to alimony and
childcare.
Many men are no longer the providers and protectors that the Bible
talked about (Sullivan, 2004; Tamagawa, 2016; Trandafir, 2014; Trosino,
1993; Vanita, 2005; Walls, 2010; Wardle, 1996; Webb and Chonody, 2014).
Indeed, many are abandoning their families when there are challenges,
and this has given women renewed independence. At the same time, the
existence of a powerful and vocal LGBT community means that the gender
power relations that were defined by patriarchy are no longer relevant to
many societies. That is not to say that there are no men who follow the
patriarchal model.
In Muslim-majority countries, it is common for men to rule their
families and womenfolk with an iron fist (Lee and Hicks, 2011; Lenhardt,
2008; Lewis, 2005; Lewis and Gossett, 2008; Lodola and Corral, 2010;
Lupia et al., 2010). For example, it was only recently that women in Saudi
Arabia could drive, let alone going out alone without the company of a male
relative. Those living in liberal Western democracies consider such behavior
to be backward and inappropriate in an egalitarian age.
It is also important to acknowledge that not all women are willing to
overturn the vestiges of patriarchy in the new egalitarian age (Damslet,
1992; Dorf, 2011; Ellison, Acevedo, and Ramos‐Wada, 2011; Eskridge,
1993, 1999). For example, there are many so-called “surrendered wives”
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who make the conscious effort to allow their husbands to take the leadership
role in the home. Others are willing to fall under the strict rules of their
religion, such as covering up their entire bodies under Islamic law, despite
that these women may be living in liberal democracies in which such control
is never acceptable under the law.
The women who choose to follow the patriarchal model of marriage have
complained that they are ostracized as letting down their feminist sisters
(Alderson, 2004; Appleton, 2005; Auchmuty, 2004; Badgett, 2009; Ball,
2014, 2015; Barclay and Fisher, 2003). Others are of the view that they are
not understood because those that advocate for change are not really taking
the time to examine the lives and perspectives of Conservative-minded
people. Hence, there is an intolerance of anyone that has traditionalist views
about marriage. Of course, those that defend equality before the law may
argue that this anti-religious fervor has arisen because religious extremists
were active in enforcing anti-LGBT attitudes and behavior in the community.
As a case in point, we may consider some religious institutions
which have been supportive of the imprisonment of LGBT people in
the developing world despite their gospel of “love” (MacDougall, 2000;
McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009; Meezan and Rauch, 2005; Moskowitz,
Rieger, and Roloff, 2010). Often these are Pentecostal congregations and
leaders who adopt an otherwise liberal view of Church orthodoxy. Their
attitude becomes autocratic and reactionary when discussing issues of
human sexuality. However, reformers have successfully redefined marriage
as a state institution rather than a religious one. This has allowed authorities
to make many of the necessary reforms without having to engage a reluctant
Church. Once religion loses its moral authority to define marriage, then
there is no turning back in terms of reforming the definition of the institution
(Koppelman, 1997, 2014; Kramer, 1996; Kreitzer, Hamilton, and Tolbert,
2014; Lahey and Alderson, 2004).
CHAPTER 3 SUMMARY
This chapter has explored the religiosity of marriage and its impact on
attitudes towards the institution. The chapter has shown that the Christian
conceptualization of a monogamous lifelong commitment has held sway
in large parts of the world. However, that influence is waning with the
increasing divorce rates and a consciousness about the gender inequality
that is inherent within traditional marriage. Such questions that cover other
religions, including Judaism and Islamism, have opened the opportunity to
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CONTENTS
4.1. Christian, Hindu, and Jewish Influences............................................. 90
4.2. Islamic, Chinese, and Humanist Perspectives..................................... 93
4.3. Typologies of Weddings..................................................................... 99
4.4. Participation in Weddings and the Marriage Industry....................... 106
4.5. Issues of Health and Wellbeing in Marriage..................................... 110
Chapter 4 Summary................................................................................ 117
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This 4th chapter explores some of the norms and customs concerning the
institution of marriage. The first section will explore Jewish, Hindu, and
Christian customs. This will then be followed by Chinese, Islamic, and
Humanist perspectives in the second section. The third section will summarize
some typologies of weddings as a key ritual in marriage. The 4th section will
discuss participation requirements in weddings and the development of the
marriage industry. The chapter will close with a section on how marriage
impacts on health and wellbeing. By the end of this chapter, the reader
should be able to compare various norms and customs surrounding marriage
in a range of typologies. At the same time, readers will be able to understand
how these norms and customs exclude same-sex couples.
2000; McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009). The entirety of the wedding can
take several days. However, the actual celebrated is interpreted in a diverse
range of ways. The actual ceremony will depend on the caste, denomination,
and region to which the couples belong to. One of the traditional ceremonies
that are undertaken is the Mehndi during which Henna is applied to the
bride’s legs and hands prior to the main wedding. The couple is likely to
wear a garland at the main event. Most guests at a Hindu wedding will only
see a short part before they are entertained and leave.
minimizing women (Ball, 2014; Franke, 2006; Lee and Hicks, 2011;
Sherkat, De Vries, and Creek, 2010). Certainly, Islam (especially in its more
radical forms) has been associated with intolerance towards LGBT people.
A case in point are the reports in some parts of the Middle East where LGBT
people are harassed and even killed because of their identity and sexuality.
For example, ISIS threw LGBT people off buildings and stoned them to
death if they were accused of being non-heterosexual.
Nevertheless, it is also important to remember that Islam is not
completely monolithic (Lewis, 2005; Lewis and Gossett, 2008; Lodola and
Corral, 2010; Lupia et al., 2010; MacDougall, 2000; McVeigh and Maria-
Elena, 2009). For instance, there is an LGBT-friendly mosque in South
Africa and Iran provides funding for transgender operations under certain
restrictions. Hence, the generalized stereotype of Muslim intolerance may
be changing, particularly among the younger generations that have been
exposed to a Western lifestyle. That goes in tandem with the radicalization
of some young people who would like to go back to some of the more radical
versions of the religion.
Indeed, many authorities in the West are concerned about the
radicalization of young Muslims who deliberately restrict their lives to
so-called Muslim-only enclaves in Europe and America (Beck, 2013;
Hester and Gibson, 2007; Lupia et al., 2010; Smith, 2007). Moreover, it is
important to note that in some parts of Africa, Muslim traditions that have
been reinterpreted so that they better fit into the mold of traditional cultural
practice. Like all religions, Islam evolves over time in line with modern
practices. For example, the absolute ban on women driving in Saudia Arabia
is a modern invention and was later moderated by modern concerns about
equality and perceptions across the globe. There may yet come a time when
Islam recognizes the futility of enforcing a heterosexist marriage on LGBT
people.
For Muslims, the wedding is a joyous time that can also provide an
opportunity for families to reconnect (Alderson, 2004; Eskridge, 1993;
Lahey and Alderson, 2004; Rothblum, 2005). Each locality may add new
embellishments that are meant to emphasize the happiness of the couple
and the community at large. A case in point are the variations in dress and
customs that are meant to reflect African traditional culture. Of course,
Muslim culture has also influenced parts of the world such that it becomes
part of the “traditional culture” in those parts of the world, even if they are
no longer Muslim-majority countries.
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Such is the case in parts of Southern Europe that had been conquered by
the Moors many centuries ago where some remnants of Islamic culture have
been Europeanized and adopted as local culture (Hooghe and Meeusen,
2013; Hull, 2001, 2003; Hull and Hull, 2006; Hunter, 2012; Josephson,
2005; Judge, Manion, and De Waal, 2008). Generally, Muslim marriages
emphasize the importance and dominance of the man as a husband, father,
grandparent, or guardian. For example, the consent of the guardian is
a critical step of the marriage, and in some instances, the guardian may
even override the wishes of the wife. There are other examples of male
influence, such as the requirement for two male witnesses for the Nikah to
take place. However, the Koran also calls on the couple to act as comforters
and protectors for each other. These ambiguities mean that each locality
is free to reintegrate the wedding ceremonies according to its needs and
perspectives.
The public aspects of a Muslim are especially important, and hence
the tendency away from secretive weddings (Lodola and Corral, 2010;
Lupia et al., 2010; MacDougall, 2000; McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009;
Meezan and Rauch, 2005). A secret marriage is illegitimate in many Muslim
interpretations. For most adherents, the ceremony itself is the wedding rather
than the preliminaries. However, many jurisdictions require that there be
conformation of the marriage at the registry.
Some complications have arisen when Muslims have contracted
polygynous marriages in Muslim-majority countries where they are legal
and then move to Western liberal democracies where such marriages are
illegal (Lodola and Corral, 2010; Lupia et al., 2010; MacDougall, 2000;
McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009). In some instances, the family has
decided to select one wife to be the official wife on government forms
even if there are other wives who are living in the same homestead. That
is why some advocates called for the incorporation of Shariat Law and
Muslim Jurisprudence in western countries like France with large Muslim
populations. Such suggestions have been strongly resisted by nationalists
who argue that any concessions granted to Muslim citizenry is a slippery
slope that might eventually end in the Islamization of Europe.
Meanwhile, Muslims living in these countries must continuously
straddle the fine line between cultural adherence and social exclusion (Smith,
2005, 2007; Soule, 2004; Strasser, 2018; Sullivan, 2004; Tamagawa, 2016;
Trandafir, 2014). There is concern that there is a lot of homophobia and
sexism within Muslim communities and that such patterns are not compatible
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in rural areas (Coolidge, 1997; Corvino and Gallagher, 2012; Cox, Navarro-
Rivera, and Jones, 2014; Damslet, 1992; Dorf, 2011). Younger people who
are living in modern localities such as Malaysia, Hong Kong, Singapore,
and Taiwan will often combine a Western-style wedding with the tea
ceremony depending on resources, socialization, and context. One of the
changing perspectives relating to the role and status of women. For example,
Figure 4.2 demonstrates some of these attitudes that may not be acceptable
in a modern context where women are increasingly critical participants in
Chinese society.
Specific procedures and role underpin a traditional Chinese wedding
(Baunach, 2012; Eskridge, 1999; Hunter, 2012; Lenhardt, 2008; Rimmerman
and Wilcox, 2007; Smith, DeSantis, and Kassel, 2006). For example, there
is a designated so-called “good luck woman” who holds an umbrella over
the bride as she leaves her family home to the home of her new husband.
To be a good luck woman, one must have a good marriage and children
who are healthy. The husband of the good luck woman should be alive,
and she should have parents who are living. Other relatives have a role to
play in the wedding, such as scattering beans and rice in front of the bride.
The umbrella that is held by the good luck woman is meant to protect the
bride from evil spirits. The scattered beans and rice are meant to attract
the attention of the so-called “golden chicken.” The bride and groom will
kneel in front of their parents to presenting the tea made by the good luck
woman. During the process of making the tea, the good luck woman will
speak auspicious phrases to the family as well as the newlyweds. Then the
couple will present tea to each other by raising the cups high in a show of
respect. There are attendants who also receive the tea, and these will provide
gifts to the bride, including a red envelope and some jewelry.
The tea ceremony provides an important social function in introducing
the couple to their respective in-laws (Moskowitz, Rieger, and Roloff, 2010;
Olson, Cadge, and Harrison, 2006; Onuche, 2013; Pearl and Galupo, 2007).
It is also an opportunity for the couple to show respect to their respective
parents. Parents reciprocate by blessing the couple and the union, as well
as offering gifts to them. In these cases, marriage is a deep celebration of
culture and opportunity for two families to come together to form a stronger
community. Chinese marriage emphasizes the notion of respect of ritual.
These are qualities that are anticipated in other areas of the marriage.
Such a rich tradition does not lend itself to same-sex weddings, which
are really based on legal freedoms that are provided by the state (Kreitzer,
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Hamilton, and Tolbert, 2014; Lahey and Alderson, 2004; Langbein and Yost,
2009; Lannutti, 2005). Hence, the fact that most Chinese LGBT couples do
not opt for the traditional ceremony. Certainly, there are many conservative
voices that do not even want to acknowledge the existence of LGBT people,
let alone allowing them the privilege of a traditional Chinese wedding.
Humanist weddings take an altogether different approach in
understanding the need for LGBT couples to share their happiness with
the community. Humanists heavily borrow from traditional and religious
weddings (Lenhardt, 2008; Lewis, 2005; Lewis and Gossett, 2008; Lodola
and Corral, 2010; Lupia et al., 2010; MacDougall, 2000). However, they also
adopt procedures and rituals that are distinctly modern in terms of accepting
the person as they are rather than attempting to mold them into a particular
image. In fact, some humanist marriages are much older than Christian or
Islamic marriages.
They are appealing to those people that are not religious, but still
wanted to have a wedding celebration (Gher, 2007; Goldberg-Hiller, 2009;
Hester and Gibson, 2007; Hogg, 2006; Hooghe and Meeusen, 2013; Hull,
2001). Hence, most humanist weddings are secular affairs that may be later
confirmed through attendance at a designated registry office to memorialize
the wedding. There is increasing demand for human weddings, not least
because of their perceived and actual inclusiveness. For example, in some
communities across the globe, LGBT people can only get married using the
humanist tradition.
It is tempting to think that these weddings are just a product of this
century (Chamie and Mirkin, 2011; Klarman, 2012; Rimmerman and Wilcox,
2007; Wedgwood, 1999). In fact, such weddings took place as far back as
the 1890s, even when there was any recognition of same-sex marriage in
many of these jurisdictions. A lot of the heterosexist attitudes and policy that
we witness in the modern age is a product of new generations. Sometimes,
heterosexism can arise due to younger generations trying to recapture an
idealized past that no longer exists.
Many countries undertake humanist weddings depending on the
demand and the specific cultural contexts (Barker, 2012; Baunach, 2012;
Beck, 2013; Berg, 2010; Bernstein and Taylor, 2013; Boertien and Vignoli,
2019; Brandzel, 2005). Hence, it is not the case that these weddings are
carried out in a monolithic manner. There may be important diversities, even
with regards to same-sex marriages. As the humanist tradition has led the
acceptance of LGBT couples, its institutions have been swelled by LGBT
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people and their families who feel accepted for the very first time. At the
same time, this ready acceptance of LGBT people has led to a backlash from
the more traditional religions and denominations who feel that the humanist
tradition is far too liberal (Auchmuty, 2004; Corvino and Gallagher, 2012;
Hester and Gibson, 2007; Kreitzer, Hamilton, and Tolbert, 2014). One of
the arguments is that there is no strong doctrinal background to this tradition
and that is willing to accept those that are on the margins of society. Besides,
the humanist tradition is filling a gap that has been left behind by the rigidity
of some of the established religions in terms of accepting those that are non-
heterosexual and non-cisgender.
It is important to note that there are relatively few countries that grant
legal status to humanist ceremonies even if they continue to be carried out in
some countries such as Brazil, Canada, and the USA (Flores, 2015; Franke,
2006; Gaines and Garand, 2010; Gerstmann, 2017; Gher, 2007; Goldberg-
Hiller, 2009). Others like the Republic of Ireland allow humanists to perform
civil marriages and civil partnerships using procedures that are consistent
with the humanist tradition. More importantly, these ceremonies are given
legal recognition in Ireland. In fact, Ireland is an example of the waning
influence of the Catholic Church and the increasing visibility of alternative
religions such as the humanist tradition.
This could be demonstrated by the increased secularization of weddings
and marriages (Judge, Manion, and De Waal, 2008; Kail, Acosta, and
Wright, 2015; Kandaswamy, 2008; Klarman, 2012). By 2015, humanists
were conducting more weddings than the Church of Ireland. This trend has
alarmed some traditionalists who have sought to pragmatically compromise
on the issue of LGBT communities so that they do not end up losing relevance
to large swathes of society. Others see it as a sign of necessary progress to
overcome the traditional intolerance that had held back LGBT people for a
long time. In the next section, we summarize some typologies of weddings.
LGBT couples that wanted to get married but were still not fully accepted
by the mainstream and traditional religious institutions.
The civil wedding is a demonstrate that the state recognizes the
marriage and hence entitling its participants to all the privileges, rights,
and responsibilities that are associated with the institution of marriage in
that jurisdiction (Buchanan, 1984; Josephson, 2005; Pearl and Galupo,
2007; Vanita, 2005). In many developed countries, opposite-sex marriage
dominates, but there is a noticeable increase in same-sex marriage. For
example, Figure 4.3 shows that in Sweden, same-sex marriage shows signs
of increasing and yet opposite-sex marriage has stagnated, albeit it a much
higher level.
celebratory aspect that is much more vibrant and secular than the traditional
religious wedding or the standard civil wedding. The invited guests are
required to travel to the location and arrange to stay for a few days.
A case in point is the increasing popularity of weddings on exclusive
beaches or within idyllic settings (Cahill and Cahill, 2004; Kail, Acosta,
and Wright, 2015; Pinello, 2006; Wardle, 1996). Others escape cold weather
to have their weddings in the tropics. Those with the resources may select
a lavish setting within a metropolitan resort. Then there are those that may
elect a much simpler ceremony that is conducted within the home of a friend
or relative that is in a distant locality.
The recessions of 2008–2009 heralded an increase in destination
weddings despite the overall decline in traditional weddings (Auchmuty,
2004; Fingerhut, Riggle, and Rostosky, 2011; Lannutti, 2005; Sanders,
2012). Some research suggests that these weddings have lower costs when
compared to traditional weddings because they have a limited guest list.
Moreover, such weddings are particularly ideal for same-sex couples who
may move away from a homophobic home context and arrange their wedding
in a much friendlier setting.
There is a particularly lavish version of destination weddings that will
be held in locations that are distinctly privileged (Brandzel, 2005; Brewer
and Wilcox, 2005; Brown, 1994; Buchanan, 1984; Buffie, 2011; Cahill and
Cahill, 2004). For example, the couple may elect to have their wedding
at a historical castle or a famous stately home. This is a reflection of the
transition from old to new money. Those that own these heritage sites may
struggle to keep up with their maintenance costs following the abolition of
slavery, servitude, and the changing nature of the workforce. Rather than
letting them fall into disrepair, the owners may adopt a business plan in
which part of or the entire property is rented out as a holiday destination or
a venue for weddings.
For those that are newly wealthy, it offers the opportunity to relive the
glories of the ancient aristocracy without having to face the mundane tasks
of maintaining a crumbling yet sprawling property (Lahey and Alderson,
2004; Langbein and Yost, 2009; Lannutti, 2005, 2007; Lee and Hicks, 2011;
Lenhardt, 2008). Hence, there is a kind of symbiosis in these weddings
which allows them to prosper even in periods of economic distress. European
countries such as France, UK, and Germany have reported an increase in
these types of weddings as the power balance in social relations begins to
shift away from the old aristocracy to the new aristocracy. Of course, there
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Auchmuty, 2004; Badgett, 2009; Ball, 2014, 2015; Barclay and Fisher,
2003; Barker, 2012). The micro wedding could incorporate any activities
and traditions that the couple prefers, including the attendance of a priest,
judge, Imam, or Rabai. All the modern routines associated with a wedding
such as photography, refreshments, and dancing can be part of the micro
wedding. Whereas the cost of entertaining each guest is higher in micro
weddings (primarily because of the loss of economies of scale), the overall
cost is much lower than any traditional wedding because of the limited guest
list.
LGBT couples may elect to plan a micro wedding if they are facing
opposition from the wider community (Hull and Hull, 2006; Hunter, 2012;
Josephson, 2005; Judge, Manion, and De Waal, 2008; Kail, Acosta, and
Wright, 2015). In such cases, the guest list will typically only include
those people that are accepting of the couple. It can be argued that the
liberalization of the wedding industry has offered LGBT couples some
choices that they never had before. This has acted as a complementary,
rather than supplementary, approach to the ongoing efforts to legalize same-
sex marriage. The next section considers participation at weddings and its
implications.
The religious and cultural background of the couple will have an influence
on the composition and activities of the wedding party. For example, there
may be bridesmaids and supporters of the groom. Others include people of
honor, flower girls, supports, ring bearers, page boys, attendants, matrons,
and best men.
The wedding party will have different roles to play, and some of them
may have significant legal implicants (Schragger, 2005; Sherkat, De Vries,
and Creek, 2010; Sherkat et al., 2011; Shulman, Gotta, and Green, 2012).
For example, in many jurisdictions, the officiant must be licensed to do that
work, or else the entire proceedings are considered null and void. Religious
and cultural weddings will also make certain stipulations about the people
that can officiate at a wedding and the roles that they are supposed to play.
Civil weddings will incorporate some official such as a judge to
officiate the wedding (Beck, 2013; Fingerhut, Riggle, and Rostosky, 2011;
Josephson, 2005; Lewis, 2005; Rosenfeld, 2014; Smith, 2005). There may
also be specifications about the venue of the wedding because the state may
license certain premises. It is considered odd if someone does not have
family members at their wedding. However, that can happen when there is
some family dysfunction or if the person has been rejected by the family.
The entire process of organizing and managing a wedding has spawned
a lucrative industry which will be discussed in more detail later in the book
(Boertien and Vignoli, 2019; Hull, 2001; Meezan and Rauch, 2005; Sullivan,
2004). Some estimates indicate that the wedding industry is worth at least
$300 billion every. The USA is one of the biggest markets for weddings
and currently boasts an industry that is worth $60 billion every year. More
than 1 million people are employed in this industry. It is anticipated that this
industry will continue to grow at a rate of 2%.
Of course, the global COVID-19 pandemic has reduced the appetite
for large weddings (Bernstein and Taylor, 2013; Hooghe and Meeusen,
2013; McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009; Strasser, 2018). However, there are
alternatives such as virtual weddings and micro weddings, which might offer
yet another avenue to connect many people across the globe. The advent of
technology has drastically changed the industry, and there are many more
options for organizing the wedding with remote working tools. For example,
there is a cottage industry in bridal online content including blogs, forums,
and related social media.
This content drives spending and trends in the wedding industry
(Brandzel, 2005; Brewer and Wilcox, 2005; Brown, 1994; Buchanan, 1984;
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Buffie, 2011; Cahill and Cahill, 2004). So far, the online industry has been
welcoming to LGBT couples. However, there are still establishments that
will not serve or support same-sex weddings because they are against their
religious or moral perspectives. Such courts have led to a series of serious
disputes that have sometimes ended up in court. The court then must balance
the right of LGBT people to enjoy services and the protection of principles
that are deeply held for religious reasons. Other countries adopt a decidedly
directive approach in which heterosexist discrimination is prohibited in all
public places.
The commercialization of the wedding industry is not without its
consequences (Fingerhut, Riggle, and Rostosky, 2011; Flores, 2015; Franke,
2006; Gaines and Garand, 2010; Gerstmann, 2017). Many young people are
eschewing marriage, partly because it seems so expensive. Besides, there is
concern that the divorce process helps to break up families and causes a lot
of financial problems for male partners because they are deemed to be the
providers. The average wedding in the USA can cost as much as $40,000 in
the USA. That is quite significant for young people that are coming out of
college with significant student debt and reducing job prospects.
There is social pressure to engage in extravagant wedding spending even
if the couple cannot afford it (Gher, 2007; Goldberg-Hiller, 2009; Hester
and Gibson, 2007; Hogg, 2006; Hooghe and Meeusen, 2013; Hull, 2001).
The option of fundraising for weddings is costly in terms of straining social
capital. Some social research suggests that excessive wedding spending is
associated with high debt stress and that can lead to marital breakdown.
However, those that spend less but had more guests tended to last longer in
the marriage. This may suggest that the presence of many friends and family
who are not attracted by extravagant spending provides a social network for
the couple (Hunter, 2012; Josephson, 2005; Judge, Manion, and De Waal,
2008; Kail, Acosta, and Wright, 2015; Kandaswamy, 2008). It may also
indicate more sociability and hence suitability for long term relationships.
This is an area that is under-researched in terms of understanding how and
why people get married. This chapter will close by examining how marriage
impacts on human wellbeing.
Wilcox, 2007; Rosenfeld, 2014; Rothblum, 2005; Saez, 2011). This has
been the foundation of government efforts to support those who are married.
The contradiction is in denying LGBT couples the opportunity to enjoy the
benefits of marriage on account of their sexuality, identity, and preferences.
Whereas the benefits of marriage are generally accepted in existing literature,
critics argue that they are equally applicable to LGBT couples.
Hence, the notion that only heterosexual cisgender people in nuclear
families can be happy has been challenged (Fingerhut, Riggle, and Rostosky,
2011; Flores, 2015; Franke, 2006; Gaines and Garand, 2010; Gerstmann,
2017). Indeed, there are studies indicating that some people living in
polygynous communities are happier than many people living in nuclear
families where the extended family is excluded. Moreover, the benefits of
marriage are premised on the supposition of marital accord and happiness.
Indeed, research has shown that marital discord can lead to serious health
problems (see Figure 4.5 for examples).
Those who are single or even LGBT couples (in the pre-same-sex
marriage era) argued that they were being forced to support married couples
through taxes, yet they were being systematically excluded from the same
benefits (Moskowitz, Rieger, and Roloff, 2010; Olson, Cadge, and Harrison,
2006; Onuche, 2013; Pearl and Galupo, 2007). Those who opposed same-
sex marriage tried to suggest that it would not accrue the same benefits as
heterosexual relationships. However, research disproved this myth. There
has been increased focus on improving the lives of rainbow families where
one or more members are from the LGBT community.
Nevertheless, the benefits of marriage are not disputed in terms of
reducing mortality and morbidity in a range of health situations such as heart
attacks, cancer, and surgery (Hull, 2003; Hull and Hull, 2006; Hunter, 2012;
Josephson, 2005; Judge, Manion, and De Waal, 2008; Kail, Acosta, and
Wright, 2015). However, there is a difference in the level of benefits for men
and women. This could be a reflection of the gendered marital relationships
in the traditional marriage in which women are always at a disadvantage in
most areas. Unfortunately, some of these gendered relationships have been
transferred to same-sex marriages in which the more “feminine-presenting”
spouses are at a disadvantage when compared to their more “masculine-
presenting” counterparts.
It is not surprising that most of the research concerning wellbeing in
marriage has focused on heterosexual couples and the experiences of
cisgender people (Webb and Chonody, 2014; Wedgwood, 1999; Widiss,
Rosenblatt, and NeJaime, 2007; Wight, LeBlanc, and Lee Badgett, 2013).
Hence, the full impact of same-sex marriage on members of the LGBT
community is not yet fully understood. However, experts argue that
simply being married brings certain benefits which are enjoyed by couples
regardless of their identity or orientation. The downside for LGBT couples
is that once they are married, they are out in the open, and that can attract a
lot of prejudice from non-accepting members of their community.
In fact, some of these bigots may attack the LGBT couples because they
are seen to be encroaching on the exclusive terrain of marriage (Appleton,
2005; Coolidge, 1997; Goldberg-Hiller, 2009; Kramer, 1996; Olson, Cadge,
and Harrison, 2006; Sherkat et al., 2011). All these factors may contribute to
the wellbeing of LGBT couples, even if the mechanisms of that contribution
are yet to be fully explored. Nevertheless, it is generally understood that the
links between wellbeing and the status of marriage tend to be experienced
in the dimensions of behavioral, emotional, biological, and social-cognitive
wellbeing.
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explain these differences. For example, a man as the breadwinner may have
options to find mistresses and alternative sources of comfort compared to a
stay-at-home wife who relies on her husband for companionship.
In both animals and humans, a low status portends greater physiological
reactions to social stress (Sullivan, 2004; Tamagawa, 2016; Trandafir,
2014; Trosino, 1993; Vanita, 2005; Walls, 2010; Wardle, 1996; Webb and
Chonody, 2014). Nevertheless, both men and women have demonstrated
strong physiological reactions when marital arguments relate to a change
in their partner. It may be that the gendered nature of marriage continues to
impact women in ways that are not fully understood. In fact, some research
suggests that same-sex couples will experience some of these differences
in experiences of health and wellbeing, depending on who takes on the
masculine and feminine roles.
Others query the vary basis of comparison, arguing that health is a much
wider term that physical, emotional, and psychological wellbeing (Boertien
and Vignoli, 2019; Brandzel, 2005; Brewer and Wilcox, 2005; Brown, 1994;
Buchanan, 1984; Buffie, 2011). There are many outcomes that could be
explored, including clinical ones, surrogate ones, and biological mediators.
A case in point are the clinical endpoints which impact on the way that
people function, feel, and survive. For example, these variables may include
heart attacks and hospitalizations.
The surrogate endpoints and biological mediators are known as typologies
of biomarkers which are objective indicators of pathology or normality with
reference to physiological processes (Beck, 2013; Berg, 2010; Bernstein
and Taylor, 2013; Boertien and Vignoli, 2019; Brandzel, 2005; Brewer and
Wilcox, 2005). The surrogate endpoints are the ones that can substitute
clinical points and can predict them based on scientific evidence. A case
in point is how high blood pressure predicates cardiovascular disease. The
biological mediators reflect any short-term stress that might impact on health
outcomes if they are repeatedly and persistently activated.
Nevertheless, it is important to note that the biological mediators lack
sufficiently robust evidence to link them to clinical endpoints. Examples may
include immune measures and hormonal changes (Smith, 2007; Soule, 2004;
Strasser, 2018; Sullivan, 2004; Tamagawa, 2016; Trandafir, 2014; Trosino,
1993). All these are complex factors that determine whether married couples
are healthy, regardless of their sexuality, identity, and preference (Goldberg-
Hiller, 2009; Hester and Gibson, 2007; Hogg, 2006; Hooghe and Meeusen,
2013; Hull, 2001, 2003).
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CHAPTER 4 SUMMARY
This chapter has explored the norms and customers that determine our
understanding and experience of marriage. Some of the cultural categories
explored include Judaism, Hinduism, Christianity, Islam, Confucianism,
Daoism, and Humanism. The chapter also explored a range of wedding
typologies and their implications for the wedding industry. Finally, the
chapter introduced current debates about the impact of marriage on health
and wellbeing. The chapter advanced the argument that same-sex couples
can enjoy the health benefits that accrue to conventional cisgender and
heterosexual married couples. The next chapter explores the religious
objections to same-sex marriages.
CHAPTER 5
RELIGIOUS OBJECTIONS TO
NON-HETEROSEXUAL COUPLES
CONTENTS
5.1. Lgbt Perspectives on Religion........................................................... 120
5.2. Buddhist Perspectives on LGBT Communities.................................. 127
5.3. Christian Perspectives on LGBT Communities.................................. 130
5.4. Perspectives of Unitarian Universalists and Unitarians on
LGBT Communities....................................................................... 137
5.5. Islamic Perspectives on LGBT Communities..................................... 139
Chapter 5 Summary................................................................................ 141
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Wilcox, 2005). European societies have for example made it clear that
discrimination against LGBT people is no longer acceptable. The same
process is taking place in the Americas. Some have termed these as the
cultural wars. When religious communities have lost cultural wars, they
have turned to the potentially fertile world of the developing nations. Here,
they can preach some of the most extremist versions of their religion in the
hope that ignorant people will naively follow them. So far, the pattern has
been that religious influence is soon followed by heterosexist discrimination.
It is notable that different cultures have adopted diverse approaches
to LGBT people. In this, they are reflecting the priorities of their own
people. For example, different religions and sects may experience changing
perspectives on LGBT people over time and in different cultures (Sherkat et
al., 2011; Shulman, Gotta, and Green, 2012; Smith, DeSantis, and Kassel,
2006; Smith, 2005, 2007). Some segments, such as white evangelicals see
their religion as being incompatible with homosexuality or even same-sex
marriage (see Figure 5.1).
heterosexist bigots may not take kindly to facing the same intrusion in their
private lives as they advocate for LGBT people.
It is unfortunate that the love and acceptance preached by religious
institutions does not accord the same privileges to LGBT communities. Where
religious institutions hold influence, there can be a marked deterioration in
the rights and lives of LGBT people (Vanita, 2005; Walls, 2010; Wardle,
1996; Webb and Chonody, 2014; Wedgwood, 1999). Even where these
religious institutions have been involved in civil rights campaigns, they
explicitly exclude LGBT people. One of their justifications is the erroneous
assumption that human sexuality and identity is set in stone. Hence, those
that have different identities and orientations must have made a conscious
decision. Any objections to these erroneous assumptions are dismissed as
propaganda.
Having been rejected, LGBT people feel that they are not obliged to
give religious institutions any precedence. It is therefore not surprising that
LGBT communities have sometimes clashed with organized religion or even
left religion altogether (Sherkat, De Vries, and Creek, 2010; Sherkat et al.,
2011; Shulman, Gotta, and Green, 2012; Smith, DeSantis, and Kassel, 2006).
Many have become atheists and agnostics. Others have actively worked to
delegitimize traditional organized religions. Therefore, communities of faith
are seen as adversaries to the process of legalizing same-sex marriage. The
feelings of animosity are reciprocated since religious communities feel that
the LGBT community wants to impose its proclivities and interests on the
wider community.
There is a range of responses to LGBT people and LGBT lifestyles from
the different religions (Buffie, 2011; Meezan and Rauch, 2005; Trosino,
1993; Wilson, 2013). This reflects the diversity within the LGBT community
itself. For instance, during the same-sex marriage debate, there were some
LGBT voices that were not supportive of the liberalization of marriage.
Indeed, some even gave testimony that the so-called LGBT lifestyle was not
suitable for raising children. Socially conservative institutions such as the
Republican Party in the USA have membership from the LGBT community
even though some of the party’s policy orientations are not advantageous to
the LGBT community.
Among the responses, are those that are not confrontational and
look for the path of least resistance. For example, some engage in quiet
discouragement but are not overtly anti-LGBT (Lannutti, 2005, 2007; Lee
and Hicks, 2011; Lenhardt, 2008; Lewis, 2005; Lewis and Gossett, 2008).
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protecting the cultural heritage of the wider community and its morals. Many
members of the wider community are willing to ignore the implications of
these approaches unless it actively affects a member of their own family or
someone that they know and love. Hence, the use of coming out to ensure
that many families recognized that they may have an LGBT person in their
midst.
There are countries where heterosexism is so deeply entrenched that
virtually all aspects of community life are distinctly unwelcoming to LGBT
people. In Iran, for example, there is a definite homophobic slant to virtually
aspects of community life, yet this country pays for gender reassignment in
some cases (Shulman, Gotta, and Green, 2012; Smith, DeSantis, and Kassel,
2006; Smith, 2005, 2007). Some have highlighted this contradiction as an
indicator of the complexities within Europe which cannot be reduced to
tropes about Islam.
Then there are examples of developed countries engaging in heterosexist
behavior. For example, a seemingly liberal democracy in the form of
Japan creates significant hurdles for anyone wishing to engage in gender
reassignment (Franke, 2006; Gaines and Garand, 2010; Gerstmann, 2017;
Gher, 2007; Goldberg-Hiller, 2009; Hester and Gibson, 2007). Japan ranks
very highly on the human development index. It is therefore surprising that
the country has adopted reactionary approaches to gender realignment. This
is particularly puzzling given that the Conservative theocracy of Iran has a
much more liberal approach to this issue.
Despite the generalized antipathy towards LGBT people, there are
pockets of liberal thought in the worlds’ major religions and smaller sects
(Hull, 2003; Hull and Hull, 2006; Hunter, 2012; Josephson, 2005; Judge,
Manion, and De Waal, 2008; Kail, Acosta, and Wright, 2015). This reflects
the fact that not every follower is willing to adopt all the most extremist
interpretations of doctrinal dictates. Some engage in a process of analysis
and critique, which allows them to arrive at conclusions that are decidedly
far more liberal than their community. Those that have alternative views on
LGBT people have actively welcomed this community, even if there is a
threat of excommunication and exclusion.
In turn, the LGBT community has responded to these overtures by moving
away from the more conservative segments of the religious community and
towards those segments that are more accepting and welcoming (Brown,
1994; Buchanan, 1984; Buffie, 2011; Cahill and Cahill, 2004; Chambers,
1997; Chamie and Mirkin, 2011; Coolidge, 1997). This is a natural
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progression in which people seek comfort from areas and communities that
are more welcoming of them. It is therefore not surprising that traditional
and conservative sects in organized religion are losing LGBT members of
their congregation. At the same time, there are LGBT people that would
not like to leave their traditional religious upbringing, and yet they wish
to express their identity. This has led to internalized conflicts that severely
affect the mental health of religious LGBT people.
There are those religious members of the LGBT community that advocate
for change within those conservative communities (Lenhardt, 2008; Lewis,
2005; Lewis and Gossett, 2008; Lodola and Corral, 2010; Lupia et al., 2010;
MacDougall, 2000). This strategy is based on the calculus that it may be
easier to change an institution from the inside rather than becoming an
outside agitator. Besides, those LGBT members of the religious congregation
may resent the possibility that they are being driven out of their faith for no
other reason other than their identity, orientation, and preference. Hence,
they make a decision to remain within the institutions and fight the prejudice
from within its sources.
Instead of running away from prejudice and bigotry, these activist LGBT
voices call for confrontation to change attitudes, if not behavior (Barclay
and Fisher, 2003; Ellison, Acevedo, and Ramos‐Wada, 2011; Hull, 2003;
Lannutti, 2007; Pinello, 2006). It takes a lot of courage to confront people
who are in a position of privilege and have no intention of moderating or
giving up that privileged position. The numbers may also not be on the
side of the reformers who often constitute a relatively small segment of the
religious community. It is also not always clear as to the kind of responses
that they will be getting. Some religious communities have been known to
become even more conservative and closed when they are challenged on
any doctrinal issues.
One of the acts of defiance against prejudice has been to conduct religious
same-sex weddings (Goldberg-Hiller, 2009; Hester and Gibson, 2007; Hogg,
2006; Hooghe and Meeusen, 2013; Hull, 2001, 2003). In these instances,
the LGBT people are not willing to accept a second-class position within
their religious community. They will then conduct a religious ceremony
with willing participants. However, the religious institution itself may not
recognize the union as such. The main point for the LGBT community is
that to conduct a wedding ceremony on their terms.
There is a sense in which marginalized LGBT couples are responding
to the established religion with vigor and determination. That is why some
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from Islam and Christianity, where conservative voices can point to specific
parts of the religious texts that condemn same-sex relationships.
The liberal and accepting interpretation of Buddhism has opened
opportunities for greater acceptance of sexual minorities. Some voices argue
that in the absence of any condemnation of same-sex marriages in Buddhism,
it is possible to undertake marriage ceremonies for LGBT people. Others
have used Buddhist principles to call for an acceptance of LGBT people
and the institution of their marriages (Barker, 2012; Baunach, 2012; Beck,
2013; Berg, 2010; Bernstein and Taylor, 2013; Boertien and Vignoli, 2019).
Such advocacy work has cemented the Buddhist reputation for tolerance
and acceptance. For young people, this is an attractive proposition when
compared to traditional religions that are increasingly reactionary in response
to any gains made by the LGBT community in terms of marriage equality.
The notions of human dignity in Buddhist traditions are particularly
attractive when making a proposition for marriage equality. Figure 5.2
highlights some of the Buddhist principles that have formed the basis of
accepting same-sex marriage. For example, there is an emphasis on accepting
difference, accepting oneself, and a social response that is accepting (Hogg,
2006; Hooghe and Meeusen, 2013; Hull, 2001, 2003; Hull and Hull, 2006;
Hunter, 2012; Josephson, 2005).
Source: MDPI.
Some liberal voices have taken the liberty to provide opinions in
support same-sex marriage, a case in point being the testimony given to
the Commission on Sexual Orientation and the Law which took place on
the 11th of October 1995 (Auchmuty, 2004; Corvino and Gallagher, 2012;
Hester and Gibson, 2007; Kreitzer, Hamilton, and Tolbert, 2014). Other
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liberal voices include Robert Aitken of the Honolulu Diamond Sangha. One
of the explanations that is provided is through reference to the Four Noble
Abodes which include compassion, loving-kindness, equanimity, and joy
in the attainment of others. Hence, these voices call for compassion when
engaging with LGBT people who wish to formalize their relationships
through marriage.
Some people in the Buddhist traditional respectfully call on LGBT
people not to lead selfish lives (Chamie and Mirkin, 2011; Coolidge, 1997;
Corvino and Gallagher, 2012; Cox, Navarro-Rivera, and Jones, 2014). This
advice has sometimes been interpreted as an implicit condemnation of
LGBT sexuality. In doing so there is an assumption that sexual expression
outside marriage and within the LGBT community is a form of self-centered
sexual conduct. Others disagree and believe that the self-centered conduct is
one which is non-consensual, harmful, or exploitative.
All these elements of self-centered sexual conduct can occur within a
heterosexual marriage as well as a same-sex marriage (Bernstein and Taylor,
2013; Boertien and Vignoli, 2019; Brandzel, 2005; Brewer and Wilcox, 2005;
Brown, 1994; Buchanan, 1984). Buddhism also condemns discrimination,
and some voices have been vocal about the anomaly of certain sexual
rights that are accorded to heterosexual couples but not accorded to same-
sex relationships. Hence Buddhism inadvertently challenges the notion
that heterosexist narratives are somehow more valid than LGBT lives and
experiences. It also means that the rules concerning marriage are applied
consistently and fairly without necessarily favoring one type of relationship
over others.
Those within the Buddhist communities that advocate for the acceptance
of same-sex relationships argue that they would become more settled and
healthier if they were acknowledged with the same rights as those offered to
heterosexual couples (Sherkat et al., 2011; Shulman, Gotta, and Green, 2012;
Smith, DeSantis, and Kassel, 2006; Smith, 2005, 2007). Hence, the continued
discrimination against LGBT people is recast as an injustice in the Buddhist
tradition. Such injustice can only be properly addressed by accepting LGBT
people in the wider Buddhist community. These progressive attitudes are
one of the main reasons for the increased popularity of Buddhist among
younger generations. The religion takes on a socially conscious approach
to the human condition, which is virtually unmatched by other established
religions. Buddhism generally accepts diversity, and the LGBT community
is seen as being part of the diversity of humanity (Chamie and Mirkin, 2011;
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of laws against same-sex marriages. Some laws are so extreme that they
call for the death penalty against LGBT people for no other reason other
than their identity, sexuality, and preferences. The traditional churches may
not be as extreme as this position, but they have stood back as increasingly
heterosexist legislation has been passed.
The divide that some churches are facing is definitively associated with
changes in values across different regions(Dorf, 2011; Koppelman, 1996;
Koppelman, 2014; Wilson, 2013). As Europe became more liberal, other
parts of the world became more conservative. Figure 5.3 demonstrates
the polarization between Europe and Africa on LGBT rights as a case in
point. The contrasting points of view have raised debates about the role
of coloniality and the need to allow different regions to develop their own
perspectives on same-sex relationships.
Source: DW MDPI.
As a result, there are advocates for LGBT people as well as those that
are distinctly anti-LGBT in their teachings or practices (Pinello, 2006;
Powell, Quadlin, and Pizmony-Levy, 2015; Rimmerman and Wilcox, 2007;
Rosenfeld, 2014; Rothblum, 2005). The Church is not a monolithic institution
with homogenous perspectives on same-sex relationships. Indeed, the
diversity of perspectives can be so extreme, ranging from those that conduct
same-sex marriages to those that are calling for the institutionalized murder
of LGBT people. This diversity of perspectives then must be reconciled with
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the fact that attitudes towards human sexuality are changing, and they have
impacted on our generalized conceptualization of marriage.
Some Christian denominations have focused on the practice of
homosexuality as being distinct from the person. Hence, it is possible for a
person to be a homosexual without engaging in sexual activity and therefore
remaining faithful to the religion (Chamie and Mirkin, 2011; Coolidge, 1997;
Corvino and Gallagher, 2012; Cox, Navarro-Rivera, and Jones, 2014). Such
compromises have been presented as a possibility to include members of the
Church congregation who are struggling with same-sex attraction. However,
LGBT advocates have criticized this approach because it turns human
sexuality into a disease or failing that must be cured. These campaigners are
looking for acceptance that does not unfairly judge LGBT people.
In this case, the principle of “hating the sin, but loving the sinner” is
referenced (Brandzel, 2005; Brewer and Wilcox, 2005; Brown, 1994;
Buchanan, 1984; Buffie, 2011; Cahill and Cahill, 2004; Chambers, 1997).
However, there are those who are of the view that this compromise is about
ensuring that Christians can engage in heterosexist behavior whilst avoiding
accountability for their hateful actions. For the victims of this discrimination,
it does not matter whether the perpetrator has good intentions or not. The
outcome is still negative for them, and they consider it an outrage that such
issues remain common aspects of modern society.
The LGBT community has been largely outraged by the suggestion that
it must suppress its sexuality to meet the demands of religious conservatives
who have never been friendly to the community (Badgett, 2009; Ball,
2014, 2015; Barclay and Fisher, 2003; Barker, 2012; Baunach, 2012; Beck,
2013; Berg, 2010). The Catholic Church specifically called for celibacy as
a response to homosexuality in the Church. Similarly, the Anglican Church
had initially suggested that same-sex couples could live together if they
practiced celibacy. Such a level of intrusion in the personal lives of adults
has since been inappropriate and unworkable. For instance, it is practically
impossible to ascertain whether couples are celibate.
The Christian Church has often reflected the prejudices and predilections
of the community it serves (Brewer and Wilcox, 2005; Kogan, 2003;
Smith, 2007; Walls, 2010). Some have criticized this approach because
it is complacence. For them, the Church has a duty and responsibility to
challenge the status quo if it is harmful to a segment of the population.
Part of that challenge may be confronting powerful institutional forces that
threaten the very existence of the Church. They argue that the Church must
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not fall into the same trap as during the times of commercial slavery when
Biblical texts were used to justify one of the worst crimes against humanity.
Churches are required to adhere to the national and regional laws of
their context. A case in point are those churches in the European Union
which cannot be seen to be undermining the values of that part of the world.
Hence, European Churches are distinctly more liberal than their African
counterparts (Josephson, 2005; Judge, Manion, and De Waal, 2008; Kail,
Acosta, and Wright, 2015; Kandaswamy, 2008). By way of contrast, the
African Church is set in a context that has been fervent in its pursuit of
Pentecostal renewals. Hence, it becomes virtually impossible for any Church
in Africa to successfully advocate for same-sex marriages. The critics might
highlight the fact that a lot of the homophobia that exists in Africa today is
the result of missionary work. So, in a sense, the Church is responsible for
the problem it is trying to resolve.
Churches have sometimes chosen to moderate their doctrinal
interpretations to suit their contexts. For example, the Church of Sweden
might be a lot more tolerate than the Church of Uganda. Yet they all belong to
the same Anglican Union. Some might argue that this is a pragmatic decision
because congregations emanate from the community (Kandaswamy, 2008;
Klarman, 2012; Kogan, 2003; Koppelman, 1996, 1997, 2014). Others might
see it as another failing on the Church which will not confront prejudice
even when ample opportunities are presented.
There is a danger in becoming a campaigning institution. This is a
danger which the Church is uniquely sensitive to. If the Church is perceived
to be against the norms and values of its potential congregation, then there
is every chance that the Church will struggle to fill its pews (Beck, 2013;
Hester and Gibson, 2007; Lupia et al., 2010; Smith, 2007). The days when
the government could force congregations into Churches are long gone.
Younger people are taking this opportunity to reject churches that do not
align with their personal values.
Where the Church has sought to develop an opinion and practice outside
the mainstream, it has faced calls for disestablishment and even abolishment
(Brandzel, 2005; Gerstmann, 2017; Klarman, 2012; MacDougall, 2000;
Sherkat, De Vries, and Creek, 2010). Nowhere is this clearer than the
Church of England. Henry VIII broke ties with Rome because it did not
grant him divorce. Since then, the Church has rarely dared to challenge
royal supremacy. Even where the conduct of the monarch and the family
go against church teachings, a compromise is always found. The advocates
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for same-sex marriage can then not understand why their cause should be
subjected to scrutiny when the causes of others (such as kings and princes)
are welcomed with compromise.
The churches that go against popular opinion may face revolts and even
calls for closure. This affects both liberal and conservative contexts. For
instance, those Churches that advocate for same-sex marriages are assumed
to be anti-Biblical in Africa and will face significant hostility (Alderson,
2004; Appleton, 2005; Auchmuty, 2004; Badgett, 2009; Ball, 2014, 2015;
Barclay and Fisher, 2003). Threats have been made against priests and clergy
who are perceived to be lenient when it comes to LGBT issues. Indeed, there
could be a threat of being outed in the national newspapers and accused of
being a homosexual.
Liberal contexts can be equally intolerant of alternative opinions. When
some African countries enacted heterosexist legislation that sought to
murder LGBT people, there was an outcry about intolerance from Western
Europe and North America. By way of contrast, any Church in Europe that
advocates strongly against LGBT rights is likely to be ostracized and may
even lose its tax benefits (Baunach, 2012; Goldberg-Hiller, 2009; Lodola
and Corral, 2010; Smith, 2005). It could then be argued that intolerance is
not the exclusive proclivity of conservative regions. Liberals can be equally
intolerant of conservative voices.
The failure to reconcile cultural differences has fractured the Church.
Each side is deeply entrenched in its perspectives and is convinced that it is
in the right. There is virtually no room for compromise. In some instances,
the Church has faced calls for schism when there is no agreement on the
issue of same-sex marriage (Koppelman, 2014; Kramer, 1996; Kreitzer,
Hamilton, and Tolbert, 2014; Lahey and Alderson, 2004; Langbein and Yost,
2009). Some see this as the sad demise of a once strong religion. Meanwhile,
alternative religions such as Islam are advancing, yet they are in many ways
more heterosexist than the Christian Church.
Whereas religious conservatives are of the determined view that
homosexuality is a grievous sin against God, others have more liberal
interpretations (Brewer and Wilcox, 2005; Brown, 1994; Buchanan, 1984;
Buffie, 2011; Cahill and Cahill, 2004; Chambers, 1997; Chamie and Mirkin,
2011). This has led to ongoing debates and conflicts that have sometimes
ended in court. Conservatives believe that they are the true representatives of
what the Church must be to be consistent with Biblical teaching. Meanwhile,
liberals believe they represent what the Church ought to be when interpreting
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Biblical texts with a modern lens. The two sides are engaged in what appears
to be an intractable battle.
Surprisingly, some Churches have gone even beyond the expectations
of LGBT campaigners in terms of welcoming diversity. The Metropolitan
Community Church is an example of such an organization that roots its
support of LGBT couples in scripture, albeit with a different interpretation
from the one preferred by the more conservative denominations (Smith,
2005, 2007; Soule, 2004; Strasser, 2018; Sullivan, 2004; Tamagawa, 2016;
Trandafir, 2014). This Church has been criticized for watering down the
gospel to attract liberal followers. However, it remains an option for LGBT
people that have been ostracized in mainstream Christianity.
One of the foundations is that the world “homosexual” is a relative
creation and is not to be found in the original versions of the sacred texts
(Ball, 2014; Damslet, 1992; Hooghe and Meeusen, 2013; Langbein and Yost,
2009; Pearl and Galupo, 2007). Hence, what is deemed to be a condemnation
of homosexuality is a condemnation of licentiousness and other ungodly
acts such as incest, idolatry, greed, sloth, theft, promiscuity, and adultery.
Others argue for a complete removal of old texts that are no longer relevant
to a modern congregation that cannot accept the stoning or murder of people
because of their sexuality.
Those that believe in the Bible not condemning homosexuality argue
that the command to form families and be in communion are for all
couples regardless of whether they are heterosexual or homosexual (Dorf,
2011; Ellison, Acevedo, and Ramos‐Wada, 2011; Eskridge, 1993, 1999;
Fingerhut, Riggle, and Rostosky, 2011). Another arm of their argument is
that Christianity calls for brotherhood, empathy, equality, and dignity. That
means that the Church must be inclusive of LGBT people, otherwise it is
diverging away from the vision of a united community that was envisaged
by scripture.
Because God is perfection, he cannot create that which is imperfect
(Kogan, 2003; Koppelman, 1996, 1997, 2014; Kramer, 1996; Kreitzer,
Hamilton, and Tolbert, 2014). Therefore, heterosexuality, bisexuality, and
being transgender are part of God’s perfection in creation. Hence, people
from the LGBT community should be treated as a gift from God rather than
treating them as outcasts to be reviled and ostracized. This argument calls
for a compassionate understanding of LGBT people and the struggles they
face due to discrimination. There is significant debate on the true nature of
homosexuality in the Bible and how Christians are supposed to respond to
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with open arms regardless of their identity, orientation, and preference. One
such institutional is the community of Unitarian Universalists.
Other parts of the world followed what was happening in the USA in
the Universalist communion. Similarly, Canadian Unitarian Universalist
congregations took the same liberal stance to LGBT communities (Brandzel,
2005; Gerstmann, 2017; Klarman, 2012; MacDougall, 2000; Sherkat, De
Vries, and Creek, 2010). The British congregation advocated for same-sex
marriage, even if unable to perform legally permissible ceremonies. Figure
5.4 summarizes the universalist principles upon which the acceptance of
LGBT couples is founded.
Source: Pinterest.
The Universalist congregation has also ordained LGBT priests and
officers within the institution, hence cementing its reputation as a gay-friendly
Church (Beck, 2013; Berg, 2010; Bernstein and Taylor, 2013; Boertien and
Vignoli, 2019; Brandzel, 2005; Brewer and Wilcox, 2005). That acceptance
has come at the cost of being shunned by other more conservative Christian
denominations. Indeed, some refer to the Universalists as a cult without core
Christian principles.
Religious Objections to Non-Heterosexual Couples 139
The ordination of James Stoll in 1969 as the first gay minister was
controversial in the wider Christian community (Buchanan, 1984; Buffie,
2011; Cahill and Cahill, 2004; Chambers, 1997; Chamie and Mirkin, 2011;
Coolidge, 1997). However, the Universalists have been passing resolutions
that support people regardless of their orientation and identity. In fact, the
Universalists were one of the first to accept transgender people as part of
their clergy.
Services of union between LGBT couples have been performed in this
Church as far back as 1984 (Corvino and Gallagher, 2012; Damslet, 1992;
Kramer, 1996; Kreitzer, Hamilton, and Tolbert, 2014). The importance
of the Universalists is that they demonstrate the possibilities of accepting
LGBT people and yet remaining religious within the Christian communion.
However, the level of animosity that Universalists have faced from other
Christian denominations also demonstrates the dangers for any Christian
organization that seeks to welcome LGBT people with open arms. Unlike
Christianity, Islam is fairly consistent in its heterosexist views towards
same-sex marriages.
Source: BBC.
CHAPTER 5 SUMMARY
This chapter has briefly compared the religious perspectives on
homosexuality, including perspectives from Buddhist, Christian, and Islamic
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CONTENTS
6.1. Lgbt Rights in Africa......................................................................... 144
6.2. History of LGBT Communities in Africa........................................... 148
6.3. Case Study of Uganda and Kenya.................................................... 151
6.4. Schism in the Anglican Union Over Same-Sex Marriage.................. 157
6.5. Case Study of LGBT Rights in South Africa....................................... 163
Chapter 6 Summary................................................................................ 165
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foreign aid, there is evidence that individual people are still as heterosexist
as ever.
This contrasts with the progression of LGBT rights in Western Europe,
the Americas, and Oceania (Gher, 2007; Goldberg-Hiller, 2009; Hester and
Gibson, 2007; Hogg, 2006; Hooghe and Meeusen, 2013; Hull, 2001). Africa
is lagging behind the world in LGBT rights, with the possible exception
of Muslim-majority countries in the Middle East which have even worse
records on these issues. Figure 6.1 is a summary of the situation of LGBT
rings in Africa, which compares very unfavorably with Europe, North
America, South America, and parts of Asia (Beck, 2013; Fingerhut, Riggle,
and Rostosky, 2011; Josephson, 2005; Lewis, 2005; Rosenfeld, 2014; Smith,
2005).
Schragger, 2005; Sherkat, De Vries, and Creek, 2010; Sherkat et al., 2011;
Shulman, Gotta, and Green, 2012).
The bans are fully supported by vast majorities in African countries.
Many members of these communities call for even more extreme measures
against LGBT people. In Uganda, for example, there was support for sacking
LGBT people, denying them housing, not serving them in shops, reporting
them to authorities, and intermittently imprisoning them.
Even where homosexuality is not outlawed, there will be other forms
of discrimination that hurt LGBT people. Such as is the case in the Central
African Republic and Benin, there is a distinct divide in the application
of certain laws which results in discrimination against LGBT people and
the simultaneous privileging of heterosexual people (Badgett, 2009; Cox,
Navarro-Rivera, and Jones, 2014; Hogg, 2006; Lahey and Alderson, 2004;
Onuche, 2013). In qualitative and even quantitative terms, the restrictions
on LGBT people mean that they are not full citizens in terms of enjoying
all the benefits that should arise out of that status. However, the government
can avoid scrutiny by claiming that there are no laws against LGBT people.
This community is then marginalized and hidden.
Other countries have not criminalized homosexuality. However, there
are still pockets of conservative activism that calls for such a ban. For
example, Rwanda, Mali, Equatorial Guinea, Niger, Ivory Coast, Djibouti,
Madagascar, Burkina Faso, and Benin have not criminalized homosexuality
(Pinello, 2006; Powell, Quadlin, and Pizmony-Levy, 2015; Rimmerman
and Wilcox, 2007; Rosenfeld, 2014; Rothblum, 2005). However, that does
not mean that it is socially accepted or that there is no discrimination.
Members of the wider community look down on LGBT people and take
every opportunity to marginalize them. Meanwhile, the state has no defined
strategy for responding to these issues in an affirming and positive way.
Other countries have decriminalized homosexuality including South
Africa, Angola, Mozambique, Cape Verde, Lesotho, Guinea-Bissau, Gabon,
Botswana, Seychelles, São Tomé, and Príncipe (Barclay and Fisher, 2003;
Gerstmann, 2017; Lewis, 2005; Shulman, Gotta, and Green, 2012). These
countries are a rarity in a continent where homophobia is taking root.
Once the evangelicals lit the fire on heterosexism in Africa, they withdrew
and watched the aftermath from the sidelines. Any attempt to hold them
accountable is met with vague reassurances about the need for Africans to
be allowed to make decisions about their lives without Western influences.
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The overall outlook on African for LGBT rights is bleak, despite the
small pockets of liberal policy formulation (Lodola and Corral, 2010; Lupia
et al., 2010; MacDougall, 2000; McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009; Meezan
and Rauch, 2005). The population itself is largely supportive of these anti-
LGBT overtures. There are no specific support frameworks for helping those
that are being discriminated against. Even the traditional protections have
been degraded with time in the name of “modernity.” If anything, Africa is
trying to go back to the colonial era of anti-sodomy laws.
Africa is following the patterns of other deprived communities that
have turned on some members to mete out their frustrations. There have
been developing countries that have considered the option of outlawing
homosexuality as far back as 2005 (Lodola and Corral, 2010; Lupia et
al., 2010; MacDougall, 2000; McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009). These
overtures are presented as a means of protecting local culture from foreign
influences. Religious leaders are often at the heart of campaign. However,
these anti-LGBT initiatives can also be co-opted be co-opted by opportunistic
politicians who use them to distract the public.
For instance, some have argued that Africa’s problem is not a small
minority of LGBT people who are largely peaceful and going about their
lives (Badgett, 2009; Flores, 2015; Lannutti, 2007; Schragger, 2005). The
real enemies of Africa are the corrupt politicians who have frittered away
every natural resource of opportunity that the continent has. However,
politicians can be compelling in focusing minds on the LGBT community
as a common enemy. Hence, the society forgets its problems and scapegoats
the sexual minority that has been selected for targeting.
In response, developing countries started considering the option of
limiting budget support to countries that discriminate against LGBT people
since 2011 (Buchanan, 1984; Josephson, 2005; Pearl and Galupo, 2007;
Vanita, 2005). Whereas some see this as an example of neo-colonialism,
others see it as a necessary evil. The only langue that oppressive governments
listen to is that language that involves them losing power. Without budgetary
support to buy patronage, these regimes would collapse. Hence, the
moderation of some of the more violent responses to LGBT emancipation.
Many African countries have resisted the pressure to liberalize colonial-
era laws that criminalized homosexual, often with disproportionate and
inhuman punishments for those that are convicted (Judge, Manion, and De
Waal, 2008; Kail, Acosta, and Wright, 2015; Kandaswamy, 2008; Klarman,
2012). In some sense, this represents a regression. Whereas colonial laws were
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meant to control the sexualities of the natives, the modern laws target sexual
minorities. The language of the colonial laws is dehumanizing to the LGBT
community. For example, it contains phrases such as “sexual intercourse
against the order of nature,” “unnatural acts,” “sodomy,” “pedophilia,” and
even “bestiality.” All these are designed to create an impression that LGBT
people are really beyond the pale.
There are politicians who have used homophobias as a campaign tool
(Lee and Hicks, 2011; Lenhardt, 2008; Lewis, 2005; Lewis and Gossett,
2008; Lodola and Corral, 2010; Lupia et al., 2010). In doing so, these
politicians have clocked homophobia as a protection of African-traditional
values. This is despite evidence to suggest that homosexuality has long been
an aspect of African communities. The fact that LGBT people are vulnerable
gives politicians the courage to attack them without fear.
Other countries have fallen prey to white evangelicals from the USA
who have exported the largely illegal homophobic policy from the USA to
Africa, where they have found fertile ground in a continent that is dominated
by religious fervor (Kogan, 2003; Koppelman, 1996, 1997, 2014; Kramer,
1996; Kreitzer, Hamilton, and Tolbert, 2014). The pressure from developed
nations to liberalize anti-LGBT laws has been viewed with suspicion,
yet another example of neo-colonialism in which white people try to tell
Africans how to believe and live. All this anti-LGBT action takes place in a
context where there are African citizens and residents that identify as LGBT
people. Such extreme reactions bely the reality that Africa has a long history
of LGBT communities with varying levels of acceptance.
1903) was said to engage in sexual contact with his male pages (Bernstein
and Taylor, 2013; Franke, 2006; Kail, Acosta, and Wright, 2015; Lodola and
Corral, 2010; Sanders, 2012). However, that charge is disputed because it
is colored by colonial narratives that sought to traduce Mwanga because of
his conflicts with the Christian missionaries. Mwanga resisted colonial rule
and was punished by being traduced as much as possible by the colonial
powers who wrested the history of the kingdom from the natives. Any
strong resistance to colonial rule would be met with extreme violence or
propaganda. Unfortunately, many of these disreputable tactics are now used
by modern-day rogue regimes in Africa.
A significant portion of the world has moved on from some of the worst
persecutions of LGBT people. Yet, many of the harsh penalties against
homosexuality in modern Africa (see Figure 6.2) are based on the myth that
this is a uniquely Western white culture and nonexistent in Africa (Sherkat,
De Vries, and Creek, 2010; Sherkat et al., 2011; Shulman, Gotta, and Green,
2012; Smith, DeSantis, and Kassel, 2006). There is a sense in which Africa
is regressing instead of progressing on these issues.
2005). This was particularly prevalent during the era of Mamluk rule. There
was Arabic poetry in literate and cosmopolitan societies which described the
pleasures of pederastic relationships. It is clear that homosexuality or the
notion of same-sex attraction was deeply embedded in these cultures despite
attempts to present it as a modern invention from foreign sources.
Indeed, stories have emerged of Christian boys being sent from Europe to
be deployed as sex workers in Egypt (Lewis and Gossett, 2008; Lodola and
Corral, 2010; Lupia et al., 2010; MacDougall, 2000; McVeigh and Maria-
Elena, 2009). Cairo had reports of cross-dressing men who would entertain
guests with dancing and singing. The Siwa Oasis was strongly associated
with homosexuality for travelers. In all these stories, there is some element
of exploitation. LGBT people are objectified and sensationalized as sources
of sexual pleasure. Those same narratives have seeped into the modern age
where LGBT people are suspected of being incurably promiscuous and
riddled with dangerous diseases.
Some sources indicated that the homosexuality of sections of the
community in historical Africa would try to mimic the traditional heterosexual
marriage. This was done in a ritualistic sense. For example, there was a
group of warriors in the Siwa Oasis that paid dowry for younger men until
the practice was outlawed in the 1940s (Brewer and Wilcox, 2005; Kogan,
2003; Smith, 2007; Walls, 2010). The Nuba tribes in Sudan and the Otoro
experienced transvestic behavior. All this is evidence of a community that
knew of LGBT people and lived with them in relative harmony. That is until
an evangelical revival turned Africa into a hostile place for LGBT people.
Uganda and Kenya two of those countries that were caught up in the fervor.
the community(Barker, 2012; Gher, 2007; Lewis and Gossett, 2008; Smith,
DeSantis, and Kassel, 2006). For example, the Langi had effeminate males
and some even played religious roles among the Banyoro. In the Buganda
kingdom, young male pages entertained the elite. Homosexuality was only
criminalized in 1902 and many of the anti-LGBT laws date back to that area.
That is not to say that LGBT people were widely embraced or that it was
the norm. These were overwhelmingly heterosexual societies. However, the
kind of virulent homophobia that is a current feature of African society was
not pronounced in those early traditional African societies.
Recently, Uganda has experienced an evangelical reawakening that
was inspired by rightwing pastors from the USA (Badgett, 2009; Flores,
2015; Lannutti, 2007; Schragger, 2005). These pastors had been prominent
actors in the bruising culture wars that have been taking place in the USA
for the past half-century. Eventually, it became untenable to deny LGBT
people their rights. The courts sided with the LGBT community. Although
not definitively won, the cultural wars seemingly favor the liberals in the
USA. These pastors identified Africa as an alternative to fight out cultural
wars. Here was fertile ground with a largely under-exposed population with
a tiny fraction of LGBT people who were mostly in the closet. It was a much
easier battle to win that dealing with the highly organized American LGBT
activists that had forced Ronald Reagan and Bill Clinton to pay attention to
the HIV/AIDS crisis in America.
Consequently, the government was persuaded to pass an anti-
homosexuality act in 2014 whose provisions were extreme (MacDougall,
2000; McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009; Meezan and Rauch, 2005; Moskowitz,
Rieger, and Roloff, 2010). A close examination of the legislation proved it
to be a pernicious mixture of religious fervor and a clear misunderstanding
of what it means to be an LGBT person. The legislation was critiqued for
its extreme measures and haphazard preparation. However, the originator
of the legislation was roundly praised in the local community as a savior
of traditional African values. Nevertheless, some skeptical commentators
suspected that this was an attempt to shore up public support against a
common enemy in the form of LGBT people whilst the government could
mask its incompetence and brutality.
On the international stage, there was an outcry. However, that outcry
was steeped in colonial superior and met a negative response from the local
populace. The Western powers exerted economic and diplomatic pressure
on the government (Lannutti, 2007; Lee and Hicks, 2011; Lenhardt, 2008;
Lewis, 2005; Lewis and Gossett, 2008; Lodola and Corral, 2010). This was
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2014; Lahey and Alderson, 2004; Langbein and Yost, 2009). Hence, the
incidences of cross-gender homosexuality in traditional societies became
taboo. Societies that had previously been tolerant were now encouraged to
shun LGBT people. The laws that were put in place were designed to control
everything about the natives, including their sexuality. This was based on
colonial assumptions that African people were somehow subhuman and
deserving of subjugation by the seemingly more advanced Europeans.
Between 1895 and 1963, the colonial government instituted many
anti-sodomy laws that were fashioned on Victorian values of moral
chastity (Boertien and Vignoli, 2019; Brandzel, 2005; Brewer and Wilcox,
2005; Brown, 1994; Buchanan, 1984; Buffie, 2011). All these laws were
supported by and sometimes informed by European Christian missionaries.
The missionaries considered these laws appropriate because they were
consistent with their own interpretation of the Bible. However, the laws also
served to subjugate and control the population in such a way that it would be
susceptible to the message of the gospel. People who are suffering under the
yoke of colonialism may look favorably upon a savior that promises to take
them out of their misery with the possibility of eternal life.
Eventually, the Kenyans had enough of the colonialists. They had seen
through their hypocrisies and misdeeds (Ball, 2014; Franke, 2006; Lee and
Hicks, 2011; Sherkat, De Vries, and Creek, 2010). Calls for independence
were followed by violent struggles. A notable example was the Mau Mau
rebellion which forced European settlers into unspeakable acts of personal
degradation. After some resistance, the British government relented and
Kenya was free of the colonialist, if only on the surface. Like many other
countries, Kenyan remained a dependent on international aid and therefore
subject to patronizing directives from the old colonial masters. In turn,
local politicians invariably presented themselves as worthy custodians of
the independence movement. Part of this assumed role was in buffering
the population against the onslaught of colonial directives via international
institutions. Following independence, virtually all the anti-sodomy laws were
retained by Jomo Kenyatta who argued that since there was no formal word
for homosexuality in the African language, it was a foreign phenomenon
(Hogg, 2006; Hooghe and Meeusen, 2013; Hull, 2001, 2003; Hull and Hull,
2006; Hunter, 2012; Josephson, 2005). Similarly, homophobic statements
were made by President Moi, who took over. Some of the more outrageous
homophobic acts involve the public “outing” of people in major newspapers
and tabloids, which exposes them to violence (see Figure 6.3 for an example).
Case Study of Institutionalized Homophobia in Africa 155
Figure 6.3: Case study of public outing of LGBT people in Kenyan media.
Roloff, 2010). The harsh realities of operating in Africa have not stopped
LGBT advocates from constantly pushing the boundaries. Africa has been
prominent in other controversies surrounding LGBT people. One such case
is the schism of the Anglican Church over the treatment of homosexuality.
Source: BBC.
The Anglican leadership has since been struggling to reconcile the
various factions (Appleton, 2005; Auchmuty, 2004; Badgett, 2009; Ball,
2014, 2015; Barclay and Fisher, 2003; Barker, 2012). It had been accused of
being either neglectful or complicit in the gradual erosion of Christian values
in Europe. Others felt that the idea of a global Anglican church was outdated
since the congregation was so diverse. It would be difficult to reconcile
all the differences in the regions. The fact that the leader was always the
Archbishop of Canterbury also rankled with African congregations who felt
that this was yet another colonial institution that was refusing to let go of
Africa.
Some of the solutions suggested, such as lifetime celibacy, have angered
the LGBT community and not satisfied the Christian Right (Lannutti, 2007;
Lee and Hicks, 2011; Lenhardt, 2008; Lewis, 2005; Lewis and Gossett,
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2008; Lodola and Corral, 2010). Those that were living in Europe and North
America felt that they had struggled too much to acquire freedoms that they
were not willing to sacrifice to appease congregations in Africa. There was a
feeling that Africa was incurably heterosexist, and it was not worthwhile to
try to “civilize” the continent. The critics of African traditions and practices
failed to fully acknowledge the role that the European missionaries had
played in spreading a particular brand of Christianity.
Initially, the position was clear cut following the 13th Lambeth
Conference of 1998 when a resolution was passed rejecting homosexual
practice as being incompatible with Scripture (Brewer and Wilcox, 2005;
Kogan, 2003; Smith, 2007; Walls, 2010). Whereas such a resolution would
satisfy the conservatives, it was bound to annoy the liberals. There would
only be a brief respite before they were calls for the resolution to be clarified.
It was not even certain that such a resolution would not fall foul of European
equality legislation. The Church was on the horns of a dilemma that was
very hard to overcome.
The next challenge was in nuancing the rejection so that it would “hate
the sin but love the sinner” (Rothblum, 2005; Saez, 2011; Sanders, 2012;
Schragger, 2005; Sherkat, De Vries, and Creek, 2010; Sherkat et al., 2011).
This was an old compromise that had achieved the unique position of annoying
all sides but the middle. Conservatives felt that it was not a strong enough
condemnation of homosexuality. Liberals felt that it was an outrageous
form of self-deceit in which the Church could pretend that its discrimination
against LGBT people could be separated from its consequences. Indeed,
many of the people that purported to “love the sinner,” ended up hateful
things to that “sinner.”
It was becoming clear that the Church was not clear as to how to
navigate this sensitive issue. However, the Anglican Communion had
temporarily sided with the conservatives in rejecting the LGBT community.
Such a rejection risked alienating all LGBT Christians, their friends, allies,
and families (Auchmuty, 2004; Corvino and Gallagher, 2012; Hester
and Gibson, 2007; Kreitzer, Hamilton, and Tolbert, 2014). Indeed, some
previous members of the Church felt that this rejection of LGBT people
represented the pinnacle of the intolerance, hypocrisy, and bigotry of the
Church. Many felt that the values of the Church no longer chimed with
their personal beliefs. Others felt betrayed by a seemingly feeble clergy
that was willing to move with any winds. Many defected because they felt
that they had no place in the Church. They then came to the conclusion
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that the faith was no longer compatible with their personal values, and they
could not accept the compromises that were being offered (Kandaswamy,
2008; Klarman, 2012; Kogan, 2003; Koppelman, 1996, 1997, 2014). The
mainstream Anglican community was not very proactive in preventing these
defections. Part of their confidence was in the African communion that was
steady, if perhaps challenged by the new Pentecostal movements that were
poaching its congregations.
Many drifted to more liberal sects and denominations, while others
became atheist or agnostic (Hull, 2003; Hull and Hull, 2006; Hunter,
2012; Josephson, 2005; Judge, Manion, and De Waal, 2008; Kail, Acosta,
and Wright, 2015). These sects had been consistently supportive of the
LGBT community. Whereas the mainstream Church dismissed them
as cults, their growing numbers threatened the long-term future of the
Anglican Communion. Nowhere was this more felt than among the younger
generations who voted with their feet.
Younger people were moving to more liberal religions such as Buddhism
or joining liberal churches such as the Universalists (Boertien and Vignoli,
2019; Brandzel, 2005; Brewer and Wilcox, 2005; Brown, 1994; Buchanan,
1984; Buffie, 2011). Without a young generation, any religious institution
is bound to eventually fade away. One possible solution is to embrace that
segment of the young population that was even more radical than the older
generations on issues of human sexuality. That strategy was not particularly
helpful since it would radicalize the Church even more than it already is.
Besides, some argued that the Lambeth resolution was not legally binding
and could not have the force of law in every jurisdiction. Indeed, to continue
discriminating against LGBT people could potentially be illegal in some
jurisdictions (Chamie and Mirkin, 2011; Klarman, 2012; Rimmerman and
Wilcox, 2007; Wedgwood, 1999). That then created a potentially unenviable
situation in which the Anglican Church was legislating for its UK base and
completely neglecting the other congregations in the former colonies. The
ultimate impact would be to separate the Church even if that is not what the
traditionalists wanted.
Despite the resolutions, several Churches have consequently celebrated
same-sex relationships, including the national Churches of Canada, New
Zealand, South India, South Africa, and Brazil (Baunach, 2012; Goldberg-
Hiller, 2009; Lodola and Corral, 2010; Smith, 2005). This is a reflection
of the strong local priorities which valued LGBT people. These Anglican
Churches have developed a formula that is suited to the context. Yet, another
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Local Pentecostal churches were taking full advantage of the new pan
Africanist fervor to call for a schism away from the traditional Anglican
Church. Those who had remained faithful to the Church were seeing betrayal
in its failure to defend their beliefs. Hence, African conservatives see a
double standard and excusing the LGBT community for refusing to give up
aspects of their sexuality to remain consistent with Scripture (Cox, Navarro-
Rivera, and Jones, 2014; Damslet, 1992; Dorf, 2011; Ellison, Acevedo,
and Ramos‐Wada, 2011). The Church was not providing clear answers to
challenging questions. Instead, it was presenting muddled compromises that
virtually annoyed all the parties involved.
Then there were nuances about acceptance of same-sex people without
allowing them to be married. The conservatives were clear about the “gay
lifestyle” not being compatible with scripture. Others are more willing to
welcome LGBT people but are unwilling to extend that welcome to marriage
(Lupia et al., 2010; MacDougall, 2000; McVeigh and Maria-Elena, 2009;
Meezan and Rauch, 2005). Depending on location, people could get entirely
different perspectives on marriage. This inconsistency was weakening the
Church and making it ripe for a major collapse.
Conservatives may be cognizant of the wins that the liberal wing has
achieved. However, they feel that same-sex marriage is a compromise too far.
They argue that marriage is such a sacred institution that it must be protected
in a special way even if that course of action means excluding LGBT people
from the institution (Vanita, 2005; Walls, 2010; Wardle, 1996; Webb and
Chonody, 2014; Wedgwood, 1999; Widiss, Rosenblatt, and NeJaime, 2007).
The Anglican Church has so far not been able to identify convincing areas
of commonality. Instead, there is an ongoing conflict between the various
ideological factions within the institution.
Nevertheless, it is important to note that there is no monolithic aversion
to LGBT people in Africa since there are pockets of relative tolerance (Cahill
and Cahill, 2004; Kail, Acosta, and Wright, 2015; Pinello, 2006; Wardle,
1996). Individuals and communities may opt to support LGBT people,
even if they do so in clandestine circumstances. It is true that most African
countries are unfriendly to LGBT people. However, there are exceptions
that merit further exploration. One such exception is South Africa, a case
study that will close this chapter.
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Individuals in South Africa may hold homophobic views and even mete out
violence against members of the LGBT community. Nevertheless, the law
offers some prima facie protection to these communities. The challenge is in
ascertaining whether those protections are sufficient.
Moreover, it is illegal to discriminate against LGBT people based on
their orientation, sexuality, identity, and preference in areas such as service
provision and employment (Saez, 2011; Sanders, 2012; Schragger, 2005;
Sherkat, De Vries, and Creek, 2010; Sherkat et al., 2011). Those LGBT
people living outside the major conurbations continue to face challenges,
including homophobic violence and endemic rates of HIV/AIDS. When
compared to the rest of Africa, South Africa remains a lone beacon of
LGBT rights. There have been calls for laws to be tightened up to reflect
homophobic sentiments within the country and Africa as a whole. However,
the government has resisted such efforts so far.
CHAPTER 6 SUMMARY
This chapter has shown that whereas Africa is currently the epicenter of
a homophobic awakening, the continent has always had some LGBT
communities. By comparing the experiences of LGBT people in Kenya,
Uganda, and South Africa, it becomes clear that the present homophobia
is partly whipped up by colonial influences, religion, and political
considerations. South Africa shows that it is possible to include LGBT
people without creating a complete breakdown of society. The next chapter
explores notions of same-sex marriage.
CHAPTER 7
CONTENTS
7.1. The Status of Same-Sex Couples Today............................................. 168
7.2. Historical Progression Towards Same-Sex Marriage.......................... 171
7.3. Global Treatment of Same-Sex Marriage.......................................... 173
7.4. Case Study of the Same-Sex Marriage in the United Kingdom.......... 177
7.5. Case Study of the Same-Sex Marriage in the USA............................ 179
Chapter 7 Summary................................................................................ 182
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This chapter explores the meanings and connotations associated with same-
sex marriage. The first section focuses on the contemporary lives of same-
sex couples. The second section summarizes the historical progression
towards same-sex marriage. The third section summarizes certain responses
to same-sex marriage across the globe. In the 4th section, we explore the
implementation of same-sex marriage in the UK. This is then compared to a
similar process in the USA to close the chapter.
Those that are living in developed countries have much better outcomes
than LGBT people that are stuck in developing countries where many are
calling for their extermination (Buchanan, 1984; Buffie, 2011; Cahill and
Cahill, 2004; Chambers, 1997; Chamie and Mirkin, 2011; Coolidge, 1997).
They are protected by laws that prevent discrimination. Besides, they are
part of an emancipated and vocal minority that has not lost its agency over
time due to incremental discrimination. These are the kinds of communities
that can challenge governments and institutions to change. In Africa, LGBT
people have already lost their social and personal agency. They can only
hope for pity when it comes to harassing and even executing them.
The legislative efforts to remove discrimination have yet to win
hearts and minds (Eskridge, 1999; Fingerhut, Riggle, and Rostosky, 2011;
Flores, 2015; Franke, 2006; Gaines and Garand, 2010). Many claim the
right to discriminate against LGBT people as being sacred. Those on the
religious Right belief that it is their obligation to push forward measures
that can reverse any gains that LGBT people have made in terms of equal
opportunities.
Even in a highly industrialized country like the USA, there is disagreement
about what LGBT rights mean and how they can be compared to the overall
rights of the community (Barclay and Fisher, 2003; Ellison, Acevedo, and
Ramos‐Wada, 2011; Hull, 2003; Lannutti, 2007; Pinello, 2006). Meanwhile,
there is a generational divide between those LGBT people that are used to
accepting a closeted status and younger people who find it unacceptable
to hide their sexuality. For some LGBT people, it is imperative that they
are accepted as they are. They are no longer willing to take on the role of
second-class citizens that get crumbs of consideration from a heterosexist
majority.
The legalization of same-sex marriage that started in the Netherlands
on the 1st of April 2001 is slowly making its way through many developed
countries (Hull, 2001, 2003; Hull and Hull, 2006; Hunter, 2012; Josephson,
2005; Judge, Manion, and De Waal, 2008). However, there is a long way
before developing countries can generally consider any protections for
LGBT people. Even where achievements have been made, there are still
areas in which equality is not fully achieved, such as health outcomes.
It is wrong to cultivate a rosy picture of the world in which there is a
gradual but irreversible match towards marriage equality. On the contrary,
many developing countries are actively reviewing their laws with a view
to enforcing further discrimination against LGBT people (Chambers, 1997;
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Dorf, 2011). If the person is not granted refugee status, they run the risk of
being harassed when they return home. There have been harrowing stories
of LGBT people being forced to submit to humiliating tests to confirm or
deny their identity and orientation. In some industrialized nations, LGBT
people are well on their way to receiving the same kind of protections as all
other members of the community.
The variance in responses to and treatment of LGBT people is a
functional of societal dynamics such as culture, tradition, norms, values,
and even political manipulation (Tamagawa, 2016; Trandafir, 2014; Trosino,
1993; Vanita, 2005; Walls, 2010; Wardle, 1996; Webb and Chonody, 2014).
One of the harrowing narratives has been that of White evangelicals whose
message of intolerance has been largely debunked and delegitimized in their
home countries. These evangelists then move to Africa to find fertile ground
for radicalizing communities and governments into passing unreasonably
harsh punishments for LGBT people. Afterwards, they return to their home
countries which have better human rights records than Africa.
There is a selective cultural memory in parts of the developing world
where the histories of LGBT people are suppressed (Kandaswamy, 2008;
Klarman, 2012; Kogan, 2003; Koppelman, 1996, 1997, 2014). Some
politicians would prefer it if LGBT people were invisible and did not make
any demands on society despite the discrimination that they face. It is not
uncommon for LGBT people to be insulted, marginalized, institutionalized,
and generally excluded from society for no other reason than who they are.
Such consideration is not a privilege, but a human right. Hence, LGBT
people do not need to prove their worth to be treated with respect with
regards to their identity, sexuality, and preference.
The LGBT identity has been associated with such shame that many
people decide to “remain in the closet” to avoid the inevitable backlash
if they come out as a member of the LGBT community. Societal attitudes
and practices have often lagged legislation when it comes to respecting the
rights of LGBT people (Coolidge, 1997; Kogan, 2003; Rosenfeld, 2014;
Widiss, Rosenblatt, and NeJaime, 2007). Hence, there is a lot of human
suffering in the LGBT community, which never acknowledges or is even
actively minimized. There are politicians that specifically muzzle debates
over LGBT rights because they argue that this is a small minority that should
not be taking up legislative time and resources. The mere fact of addressing
these issues is seen as a major achievement within the LGBT community.
The courts have played active and passive roles in advance of LGBT rights
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generally and same-sex marriage (Brewer and Wilcox, 2005; Hull and
Hull, 2006; Olson, Cadge, and Harrison, 2006; Trandafir, 2014). There are
instances where the courts have refused to get involved in the arguments
because they are deemed too controversial. Such was the polarization on
same-sex marriage that some jurists felt that the impartiality and community
sanction of the courts could be in danger depending on how rulings were
made. Constitutional amendments and provisions were frequently quoted to
support one side or the other. At the heart of the dispute were LGBT people
that were looking for the courts to give them relief from centuries of abuse,
exploitation, marginalization, and discrimination.
Some courts took bold decisions that potentially placed them in danger.
Other courts have decided with whatever the majority is assumed to support,
to avoid further scrutiny that is directed at the courts themselves (Soule,
2004; Strasser, 2018; Sullivan, 2004; Tamagawa, 2016; Trandafir, 2014;
Trosino, 1993; Vanita, 2005; Walls, 2010). Then there are those courts that
have made courageous and revolutionary rulings, which have protected
LGBT people. In either case, the courts were bound to be criticized by one
side.
Those who seek to stop the tide of LGBT acceptance may be offended by
the involvement of the courts (Ball, 2015; Dorf, 2011; Hull, 2001; Lannutti,
2005; Pierceson, 2014; Shulman, Gotta, and Green, 2012). They argue that
this is a political issue that ought to be subjected to a democratic vote. The
problem with such an approach is that it fails to acknowledge the democratic
deficit that LGBT people must overcome when they are no more than 5% of
the potential electorate.
Besides, there are those who are of the view that the human rights of
minorities should never have to be subjected to a democratic vote where they
are bound to lose regardless of the merits of their case (Dorf, 2011; Ellison,
Acevedo, and Ramos‐Wada, 2011; Eskridge, 1993, 1999; Fingerhut, Riggle,
and Rostosky, 2011). This is the same principle that has been applied when
dealing with issues of race and disability-based discrimination. However,
problems were encountered when dealing with sex-based discrimination.
LGBT rights are closely aligned with the latter consideration. The UK
provides an example of a modern European nation grappling with this
sensitive issue.
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outcome would have been impossible 50 years ago, but the world has now
changed considerably.
Source: UK Government.
It has been necessary to compromise on certain issues for the greater
goal of allowing same-sex couples to be married in the UK (Appleton, 2005;
Eskridge, 1999; Langbein and Yost, 2009; Saez, 2011). One of the first
contentions was the contravention of religious freedoms and independence.
There is an established Church in England, Wales, and Northern Ireland
which already had doctrinal objections to same-sex relationships. However,
some argued that an established national Church could not be seen to be
engaging in activities that were in contravention of government policy to
accept same-sex relationships.
Others felt that the Church should be protected from political interference
and should therefore be able to decline to perform same-sex weddings
(Lahey and Alderson, 2004; Langbein and Yost, 2009; Lannutti, 2005, 2007;
Lee and Hicks, 2011; Lenhardt, 2008). The Church proposed that LGBT
people remain celibate to remain godly. Such a suggestion was rejected
by the community, and the Church comes under considerable pressure to
comply with equal protection clauses in the law.
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At the same time, the UK was subject to EU law which was significantly
more liberal on issues of sexuality, identity, and orientation (Shulman, Gotta,
and Green, 2012; Smith, DeSantis, and Kassel, 2006; Smith, 2005, 2007).
Some in the UK resented having to acquiescence to liberal rulings from the
European courts on matters of same-sex marriages. When the government
offered the option of civil partnerships, some LGBT people were not satisfied
with being excluded from traditional wedding ceremonies.
Besides, some heterosexual and cisgender couples argued that they
too should be able to access civil partnerships (Webb and Chonody, 2014;
Wedgwood, 1999; Widiss, Rosenblatt, and NeJaime, 2007; Wight, LeBlanc,
and Lee Badgett, 2013). Eventually, the law progressed to a point when
same-sex marriage was inevitable. One of the signs of change was when
amendments were made to hereditary titles and peerages to reflect the new
reality that some of the most prominent members of the elite were from the
LGBT community and wished to get married. The USA is an example of a
nation with similar values to the UK, but one which has taken an altogether
different approach to LGBT rights.
Figure 7.5: The role of the supreme court in gay marriage bans in the USA.
Source: LA Times.
Nevertheless, there is some disagreement about what equality means
and how it can be operationalized without infringing on the rights of
conscientious objectors (Fingerhut, Riggle, and Rostosky, 2011; Flores,
2015; Franke, 2006; Gaines and Garand, 2010; Gerstmann, 2017). Figure
7.5 highlights the effect of a court ruling on LGBT marriage in a federated
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CHAPTER 7 SUMMARY
This chapter has summarized modern notions of same-sex marriages. It has
also shown the varying degrees of freedom that LGBT people experience
across the globe. One of the emerging issues is the fact that the emancipation
of LGBT people depends on community sanction and legal validation, two
dynamics that are often reactionary in the developing world. This book will
close by looking at the future of same-sex relationships.
CHAPTER 8
CONTENTS
8.1. National Debates About Same-Sex Relationships............................. 184
8.2. Alternatives to Same-Sex Marriage................................................... 187
8.3. Managing Same-Sex Divorces.......................................................... 189
8.4. Continuing Discrimination Against Same-Sex Couples..................... 191
8.5. Towards Universal Marriage Equality............................................... 193
Chapter 8 Summary................................................................................ 195
184 Debating Same Sex Marriage: An Example of a Cultural Revolution
As we close this book, it is pertinent to consider what the future holds for
same-sex relationships. The first section of this final chapter will summarize
some national debates on the issue. The second section will explore
alternatives to same-sex marriage. The third section will explore same-sex
divorces. The 4th section will highlight the continuing discrimination against
LGBT couples. The chapter will then close by summarizing the prospects
for universal marriage equality.
like the Republican Party in the USA would have been outraged at the
idea of the government controlling people’s sexuality. Instead, exceptions
were made ostensibly to protect marriage whilst simultaneously stifling the
aspirations and rights of LGBT people.
However, the reality is that the GOP (grand old party) reflected the
contradictions that underpinned many of the national debates concerning
same-sex marriage (Pierceson, 2014; Pinello, 2006; Powell, Quadlin, and
Pizmony-Levy, 2015; Rimmerman and Wilcox, 2007). On the one hand,
there was a belief in personal freedom and responsibility with limited
government control. On the other hand, social conservatives felt that the
issue of human sexuality was so important that the government had to step
in to prevent people from living LGBT lifestyles without consequence.
Meanwhile, the Liberals started using government agencies to push for
a pro-LGBT agenda, including outlawing discrimination and funding LGBT
support groups (Alderson, 2004; Eskridge, 1993; Lahey and Alderson,
2004; Rothblum, 2005). Instead of becoming a bipartisan issue, same-sex
marriage became popular among members of the political class. For liberal
politicians, it was an opportunity to showcase their generosity and social
consciousness. For conservative politicians, it came to symbolize their
defeat in the cultural wars, and they wished to inflict as much damage as
possible on same-sex marriage.
Across the globe, these debates are being held with varying outcomes
(Wardle, 1996; Webb and Chonody, 2014; Wedgwood, 1999; Widiss,
Rosenblatt, and NeJaime, 2007). Armenia is a case in point where same-
sex marriage was adopted following the Ministry of Justice announced
that it would accept all marriages carried out abroad, including same-sex
marriage. In Bulgaria, the court addressed residency rights for LGBT
couples married abroad and opened the possibility of that claim without
necessarily legitimizing same-sex marriage.
Others have taken a transnational approach such as based on the rulings
of the Inter-American Court of Human Rights for countries in South
America such as Chile (Buffie, 2011; Cahill and Cahill, 2004; Chambers,
1997; Chamie and Mirkin, 2011; Coolidge, 1997; Corvino and Gallagher,
2012). China, for its part, has adopted the 3-Nos approach “No approval;
no disapproval; no promotion.” In Cuba, the Union of Jurists of Cuba is
working on legislation that will address and incorporate same-sex marriage.
In the Czech Republic, as many as 75% of people support same-sex
marriage (Wardle, 1996; Webb and Chonody, 2014; Wedgwood, 1999;
Widiss, Rosenblatt, and NeJaime, 2007). Although industrialized, Japan
is yet to recognize same-sex marriage even as cases challenging the status
quo are being appealed. These cases show the differentiated approach to
same-sex marriage across the globe where no single size fits all countries.
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Besides, there was the psychosocial fear of being ostracized for “wasting”
the hard-won right to marry through a quick divorce (Kramer, 1996;
Kreitzer, Hamilton, and Tolbert, 2014; Lahey and Alderson, 2004; Langbein
and Yost, 2009). Indeed, some anti-LGBT voices were stereotyping LGBT
relationships as being highly transient and sexualized to the point of not
being capable of long-term commitment. It is not just the LGBT community
that struggles with divorce and that ways which is modern procedure are
handled. Many are victims of familial strife and protracted proceedings. The
scrutiny over same-sex divorces could be an indicator of an attitude that
expects LGBT people to be so grateful for the opportunity to marry that they
never waste it through a divorce.
Any unpleasant or protracted public divorce proceedings would then be
quoted as a case in point about the inherent unsuitability of LGBT marriages
(Wedgwood, 1999; Widiss, Rosenblatt, and NeJaime, 2007; Wight,
LeBlanc, and Lee Badgett, 2013; Wilson, 2013). The concern was that if
such stereotypes were not challenged robustly, some of the wins that the
LGBT community had won in the courts and at the ballot could be reversed.
It was relatively easy to socially invalidate LGBT marriages by presenting
them as a gimmick for entitled people that wished to experiment with an
ancient institution. The reality is that some same-sex marriages are more
successful than others. Being an LGBT person is no guarantee that you will
be a successful spouse. Similarly, being heterosexual and cisgender is not
inherently a barrier to divorce. After all, divorce is very much part of our
modern life.
The notion of same-sex divorce was relatively new, and that meant that
the legislative regime had not yet made adequate provisions (Strasser, 2018;
Sullivan, 2004; Tamagawa, 2016; Trandafir, 2014; Trosino, 1993; Vanita,
2005; Walls, 2010; Wardle, 1996). Even the courts had not yet set appropriate
precedents for dealing with such cases. In the USA, state law overrode
federal law on matters of marriage and divorce. This created a complexity
for LGBT couples who lived in the states that had not recognized same-sex
marriage or put restrictions on that institution.
The residency requirements for state marriages meant that couples had
to think about carefully about location (Ball, 2015; Gaines and Garand,
2010; Lenhardt, 2008; Sherkat et al., 2011). Others engaged in jurisdiction-
shopping to be able to access same-sex marriage. Prior to the United States
v. Windsor, states could even refuse to recognize a same-sex marriage
conducted in another state for purposes of divorce. In effect, there were many
The Future of Same-Sex Relationships 191
obstacles put in place for those LGBT couples that wanted to divorce. This
aspect of LGBT marriage is still being finessed across certain jurisdiction,
even while others do not accept same-sex marriage at all.
1997; Corvino and Gallagher, 2012; Cox, Navarro-Rivera, and Jones, 2014;
Damslet, 1992; Dorf, 2011). Others are forcibly outed by their own peers
and then left to face social disapproval. The mental health of LGBT people
has been severely damaged by the experiences they have of community life,
many of which are immensely negative. There are jurisdictions where it is
legal to terminate someone’s employment once it is discovered that they are
part of the LGBT community.
Even where same-sex marriage has been entrenched, there are many
campaigners who are actively working to reverse those changes (Pearl
and Galupo, 2007; Pierceson, 2014; Pinello, 2006; Powell, Quadlin, and
Pizmony-Levy, 2015). The debates about the nature and quality of same-
sex marriage are ongoing. From that perspective, same-sex marriage is a
milestone but not the end of the story of LGBT rights. If discrimination
continues, the LGBT community will never be completely satisfied with its
lot in wider society. Perhaps a more optimist prospect is to consider how
the journey towards equality can be better mapped to hasten its ultimate
destination towards full acceptance of LGBT people.
case that so many people have moved away from anti-LGBT attitudes and
behaviors towards practices that the world has to offer a universal right to
same-sex marriage. Young people have been credited with challenging the
status quo and even encouraging older people to think about the possibility
of achieving equality. They remain the bulwark of the reformist movement.
Hence, any future improvements in equality will have to form meaningful
partnerships with younger people. That is not to say that older people are
incurably heterosexist. For example, there have been instances of baby
boomers taking active steps towards marriage equality. However, in general
terms, the equality movement has been spearheaded by young people.
To win the right to same-sex marriage involve strategic planning and
the building of partners. Working with “straight allies” is going to be of
paramount importance (Koppelman, 1996, 1997, 2014; Kramer, 1996;
Kreitzer, Hamilton, and Tolbert, 2014). Moreover, the next phase of
LGBT rights must address the hearts and minds of people that may have
been vehemently opposed to same-sex marriage. Not everybody will
support LGBT marriage, but they could be persuaded that people from that
community should be discriminated against because of their identity, sex,
and sexuality. There are other priorities (see Figure 8.5 for an example) that
LGBT people might want to be addressed as part of the process of fairness.
CHAPTER 8 SUMMARY
The final chapter has shown that same-sex relationships are increasingly
being accepted. However, there are many parts of the world that still
discriminate against LGBT people. Hence, same-sex marriage is not yet a
universal right. Besides, being allowed to marry is one of the many priorities
that LGBT have in their struggle for fairness, equality, and acceptance.
CHAPTER 9
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INDEX
A Catholicism 81
Catholic region 56
Achievement 191 Christian Church 62, 64, 65
Advancement 184 Christianity 128, 130, 135, 139
Alternative 171, 172 Circumstances 4, 9
Anti-miscegenation 31, 35, 36, 37 Cohabiting 103, 113, 115
Anti-religious 87 Community 2, 4, 6, 11, 20, 22, 24,
Arrangement 92 25, 26, 27, 32, 36, 37, 38, 39,
Athletic program 136 40, 41, 43, 44, 49, 51, 52, 54,
B 62, 64, 65, 66, 67, 73, 76, 77,
79, 81, 82, 83, 84, 86, 87, 144,
Behavior 12, 17, 22, 25 146, 147, 148, 150, 151, 152,
Biblical patriarchy 86 153, 155, 156, 157, 158, 159,
Biological 55, 56, 58, 112, 116 160, 162, 165
Biological consequences 20 Community life 193
Bultigenerational 20 Community sanction 176, 182
C Companionship 130, 137
Compatibility matrix 18, 19
Cardiovascular 113, 116 Complexity 190
Catholic 64, 79, 82, 84
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Human right 31 M
Human sexualities 172
Management 22, 24
Hypocrisy 66, 84, 124
Marginalization 51, 57, 176
I Marriage 29, 31, 47, 58, 59
Masterstroke 153
Identity 94, 103, 111, 112, 116, 174,
Material 172
175, 179, 181
Medical community 181
Ideological 162
Mental health 193
Illegitimate 9, 10, 11, 18
Metropolitan Community 135
Imbalances 184
Microaggression 191
Immigration procedures 174
Modality 2
Implementing 181
Modern society 84
Inequalities 191
Monogamy 62
Influence 65, 71, 72, 87
Monolithic 94, 98, 131
Inheritance 9, 22, 25, 26
Monolithic approach 174
Interestingly 171, 182
Morbidity 112
Intermarriage 76
Mythology 181
Interplay 179
Interpretation 65, 71, 75, 77, 79, 84, N
125, 127, 128, 130, 133, 135,
Neo-colonialism 147, 148
136, 139
Irrational 181 O
L Obligations 2, 3, 4, 11, 27, 71, 72,
79
Leadership 150, 158
Opportunistic 147
Legal framework 30, 59
Opportunities 12
Legal intervention 187
Opportunity 94, 97, 102, 111, 113,
Legalization 170
186, 190, 192
Legal process 32
Organization 156, 164
Legal requirements 30, 31
Organized religion 120
Legitimacy 9, 11, 12, 30, 34, 50, 53,
Organizing 109
54, 58, 59
Orientation 103, 112, 174, 175, 179
Liberal denominations 137
Original interpretation 75
Liberal interpretations 134
Local populace 172 P
Parental right 56
Patriarchy 74
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