Mastering Your Abundance Mindset:

Reprogramming Your Relationship to Money

THAIS GIBSON
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Exercise 1: Self-Discovery Q&A

Purpose: In order to solve any problem we first have to identify what that problem is.
In this exercise we will go through deep, introspective questions to start seeing your
relationship to money.

Discovery: See what comes up in your first responses to these questions:

1. BELIEFS: What do I believe about money? (Money is good, bad, "doesn't grow on
trees," the root of all evil etc.)

2. ASSOCIATIONS: What relationship was modelled to me regarding money growing

up? (Parents, television, any pain points regarding money/traumas you saw with
money regarding mom and dad)

3. EMOTIONS: What is your "why" for money? They say we give money four different
meanings (power, freedom, security, pleasure) - Which of these stands out for you?

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4. Our relationship to money actually often reflects our relationship to ourselves.

(How we treat money often largely reflects how we treat ourselves). What shows up
for you here? (We will dive into this together more deeply)

5. What are your boundaries like with money? What action do you take to improve
your relationship to money?

6. What do you believe about giving and receiving money with loved ones (family
members and romantic relationships)?

Integration: See what comes up for you in your beliefs before you learn the common
beliefs about money later in the course.

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Exercise 2: The Meaning You Give to Money

Purpose: The meaning we give to money either expands our drive and naturally
motivates us or can make us complacent. If we don’t have a strong subconscious
motivator for why we want money, then our relationship to money will naturally be
one of apathy. We want to find these associations so we can create the impact we
want to have.

Discovery:

For Parts A) and B) below, rate the most important drivers for you in chronological
order regarding the meaning you give to money.

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Part A): What does money mean to you? What do you equate money to?

1. Freedom

2. Safety

3. Power

4. Pleasure

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Part B): Which of the following human needs do you find yourself using money for?
(Example: I spend money on growing my business à Growth // I spend money on
my family and friends à Love and Connection). Look specifically at your behavioral
patterns regarding how you already spend your money.

1. Love and Connection

2. Growth

3. Certainty/Security

4. Novelty

5. Contribution

6. Significance

Building your “why” is most powerful when you specifically link it to the hierarchy of
needs that is naturally wired into your subconscious mind. Grab a loose-leaf sheet of
paper and fill in the blanks with your surface need, followed by the deeper human
need that it is subconsciously connected to.

Ex. “I want to create more abundance in my life so that I can travel more often so
that I can meet the need for variety and connection.

I want to create more abundance in my life so that

so that

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This is you linking your conscious desire to the subconscious human needs that are
important to you. Aim to complete 5-10 for each human need and use the space on
the following page. If you feel as though you need more space, use a journal or a
piece of loose-leaf paper.

Integration: Programming or reprogramming the subconscious mind always

involves repetition + emotion. Get very clear on what you want specifically and the
reason why. You then want to elicit multiple, repetitive emotional associations.

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Exercise 3: Personal BTEA Question

Purpose: To make conscious what our own personal (B)eliefs (T)houghts (E)motions
and (A)ctions are when triggered. By uncovering these we can than work to
reprogram and re-pattern any limiting beliefs.

Discovery: In the chart on the following page, write out your BTEA patterns that you
tend to follow specifically around money. Refer to the core belief patterns around
money above.

Thought patterns that accompany these? What core beliefs are they related to (refer
above)? What coping mechanisms do you turn to when you’re triggered? (ex. Avoid
spending, spend more etc.)

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Examples of Beliefs Thoughts Emotions Actions

Triggering (Ex. I am alone) (Nobody cares (Sadness, (Behaviors to
Events: about me) Hurt, Fear) Cope)

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Exercise 4: Cognitive Reframes for Belief Reprogramming Chart

Purpose: A cognitive reframe is simply a new way of looking at an old belief or

challenging a thought pattern we have in order to produce a different emotional
response and thus action or behavioral output.

Discovery: Use the following charts to reframe your abundance-blocking beliefs.

Refer to the back of your workbook under Additional Materials and Resources for
sample abundance-blocking beliefs.

Abundance-Blocking Belief Cognitive Reframe

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Abundance-Blocking Belief Cognitive Reframe

Integration: Create reframes that are believable to you and push you slightly out of
your comfort zone. Pick 5-10 reframes and read them first thing when you wake up
and last thing when you go to bed. By doing this repetitively you will create a new
emotional response in your relationship to money. After 21 days of reading and re-
reading these cognitive reframes, go back and update them to another reframe
closer to the positive belief you want.

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Exercise 5: Mini Belief Check-In

Purpose: The purpose of this exercise is to explore your belief patterns around
abundance. This exercise is designed to uncover ‘abundance blocks.’

Discovery:

1. I’m not financially free, because:

2. I’d love to have more money, but:

Refer to the Seven (7) Areas of Life found in the back of your workbook. Write down
any negative emotions you experience in any of these areas of life. Refer to the
emotions list in the back of your workbook. What are these emotions
communicating to you about your thoughts or beliefs? Trace your emotions
BACKWARDS using the BTEA Equation. Write out both the feeling you experience,
followed by the thought or belief pattern that accompanies it.

Notice that your beliefs in other areas of life often spill into the financial area of life.
(Ex. Career à Insecurity à I feel like I’m never doing enough)

Note: This shows up with money also.

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BTEA à E à T à B

Career Financial Mental Emotional Spiritual Physical Relationships

(Incl. Friends
& Family

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3. Write a list of strategies to create change in each of these areas.

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Exercise 6: Exposure-Response Reprogramming

Purpose: Exposure-Response is the essence of a behavioral reprogramming tool.

Exposing yourself to creating a new behavior intentionally with your conscious mind
repetitively over time eventually produces a new output.

Discovery: In the chart on the following page, write the autopilot behaviors your have
in your relationship to money. In the next column, write incremental action steps
you can take in order to create change. Using REPETITION + EMOTION, take daily
action to reprogram these behaviors.

Integration: By lacing a new behavior with a new emotion repetitively over time we
are using a behavioral reprogramming tool to change what no longer serves us at
the action level.

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Autopilot Coping Mechanism/Behavior Reprogramming Action

(Ex. Spending when stressed) (Ex. Meditating when stressed, creating
intentional spending habits to spend
slightly less each time)

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Exercise 7: Healthy Habits with Money

Purpose: To identify ways to support our abundance mindset. The more intentional
our actions are, the better chances we can see change in our lives.

Discovery: Get off autopilot! Write down daily actions and healthy habits from this
course that will help reprogram your behaviors:

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Exercise 8: Creating Conscious Goals in Your Relationship with Money

Purpose: The purpose of this exercise is to create conscious and intentional habits in
your relationship with money and to include steps and strategies to achieve this
goal.

Discovery: Follow the questions outlined below to become clear and intentional
about what you want to create. Follow up by using the chart to develop steps and
strategies to support yourself in achieving this goal.

1. How much money do I want to earn?

2. How much money do I want to save?

3. What changes do I want to make in my relationship to money?

4. What reprogramming strategies will I use to create changes in this area of life?

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Goal Step to Achieve Goal Strategy to Achieve Goal

Ex. I want to save an
extra $1000 per month
Ex. I am going to eat out
less. I am going to also
start a Youtube channel
or pick up a second job.
Ex. I will start eating out
less as of this week. I will
tell my family and
friends to come over
more often instead.

5. What is your “WHY” for each of the goals listed above?

Integration: Carve out at least three hours a week for this area of your life in some
form. Have conscious strategies and be consistent with them.

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Exercise 9: Reflect on Your Financial Boundaries

Purpose: Learning your financial boundaries is important to creating abundance.

We need to communicate our needs, get clear about what our boundaries are and
stand behind them.

Discovery:

1. Where do you need better boundaries with money?

2. Where do you say yes when you want to say no? Why?

3. Where are you not conscious or intentional about your spending habits?

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4. Where do you struggle to be conscious or intentional about your relationship to

money and how you would like to earn more money?

5. Where do you need better boundaries with your thinking patterns, emotional
patterns, decisions?

6. Where do you need to be more conscientious about your spending in the

relationships you have to others? What does it cost you long-term not to be?

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Additional Materials and Resources

Major Emotions and Their Opposites

Impatient – Easy Going, Controlled, Patient

Abandoned – Adopted, Cherished, Defended
Inadequate – Able, Abundant, Capable,
Afraid – Brave, Calm, Composed, Fearless
Enough
Alone – Together
Insecure – At Ease, Calm, Collected, Composed
Annoyed – Gratified, Pleased
Lazy – Active, Careful, Attentive, Energetic
Anxious – Brave, Calm, Collected
Lethargic – Alert, Active, Animated, Lively
Ashamed – Calm, Confident, Happy, Joyful
Lonely – Populated, Close, Loved, Sociable
Betrayed – Assisted, Helped, Loyal, Faithful
Lost – Seen, Alive, Attentive, Aware
Blamed – Approval, Praise
Offended – Flattered, Praised, Complimented
Bored – Energized, Refreshed
Outraged – Complimented, Flattered, Pleased
Burdened – Unloaded
Pressured - Free, Left Alone, At Ease
Cheated – Faithful, Fair
Punished – Cleared, Released, Exonerated
Concerned – Calm, Collected, Composed
Rage – Calm, Love, Peace, Indifference
Confused – Clear, Composed, Organized
Rebellious – Happy, Obedient, Compliant
Crazy – Balanced, Calm, Collected, Sane
Regret – Comfort, Content, Delight, Joy
Despair – Hope, Joy
Rejected - Cherished
Devastated – Create, Construct, Guarded,
Resentment – Delight, Happy, Connected,
Protected
Free
Disappointed – Calm, Cheerful, Comforted,
Sadness – Cheer, Happiness, Joy
Encouraged
Scared – Bold, Brave, Cool, Courageous
Disgusted – Attracted, Delighted, Pleased
Self-Conscious – Calm, Comfortable, Confident
Doubt – Belief, Calm, Clarity, Certainty,
Shame – Pride, Approval, Esteem, Honour,
Confidence
Respect
Embarrassed – Composed
Silly – Intelligent, Mature, Responsible, Wise
Empty – Full
Suffering – Ease, Calm, Relief, Joy
Exhausted – Able, Active, Energized, Strong
Trapped – Free
Guilty – Innocent, Right, Moral, Good
Helpless – Able, Capable, Fit, Powerful Vulnerable – Guarded, Safe, Protected
Horrified – Brave, Calm, Fearless
Worried – Calm, Comforted, Happy, Relaxed
Hurt – Happy, Pleased
Wary – Certain, Careless

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Your Abundance Blocks: Common Subconscious Beliefs Around Money

• I can’t save
• I can’t earn
• I am unworthy/undeserving of abundance
• I am not good enough (skilled, talented, motivated, clear, educated etc)
• I don’t like what I do (therefore am not passionate enough)
• Money is bad/evil
• There isn’t enough to go around
• If I value money, I am greedy/bad
• Money isn’t spiritual
• Money isn’t important
• Money is meant to be spent
• I’m not good with money
• I will lose the money and it will hurt too much so I’d better not have any in the
first place
• Money causes fights or conflict
• Money threatens emotional connection
• I don’t deserve
• I don’t have value
• I don’t trust myself
• People will take from me
• I am “bad”/money or my goal are bad
• I’m too afraid of failing
• I have no control over money
• People will be jealous
• I can’t make money doing what I love
• I will lose friendships or family
• Someone will take care of me financially (avoidance)
• I will feel guilty for having money when others don’t
• People will treat me differently
• It’s too late to have a healthy relationship with money
• I don’t want to take responsibility for my life/it’s too hard
• People will take from me/I’ll be taken advantage of
• Something bad will then happen (waiting for the other shoe to drop)
• This brings up past negative associations/fears (Specific painful memories
around money)
• I don’t know how to receive/feel guilty receiving
• I am not capable of achieving
• I don’t know what to do when I achieve my goal
• Lack is comfortable and predictable (change is threatening)
• Making more money requires me to be someone I’m afraid to become
• Money corrupts people

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The Seven Areas of Life

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