THE LEWIS COLLEGE

479 Magsaysay St., Cogon, Sorsogon City

HIGHER EDUCATION DEPARTMENT

KIM D. DINEROS
Bachelor of Secondary Education Major in English- 3A
Subject: Campus Journalism
Date Submitted: April 14, 2023

A Good Parent

Kristin Zolte and Nicholas Long wrote that "communication between parents and children
that is ineffective or negative can lead children to believe that they are unimportant, unheard, or
misunderstood."

I grew up in a family that doesn’t talk about things in life. We barely ask each other how our
day went or even the problems that we encounter daily. It is either up to you if you will share
things or just suppress your emotions. If there are arguments inside the house, you will hear
shouting instead of discussing things quietly and properly. Even saying the word "sorry" is not
even normal for us. After an argument, things will just go back to normal as if nothing happened.

Last week, I saw a video of a four-year-old kid that circulated online while having a heart-
to-heart talk with her Fil-Canadian mom about how weird his emotions were: "You know, earlier,
I cannot go outside so I was a little sad. But after I was a little bit sad, I was a little bit upset—
more than you know.” His mom explained to him very well that it is normal to have to feel
different kinds of emotions all at once.
To be honest, I somewhat envy the kid for being able to express freely his feelings towards
his parents. His mother didn’t invalidate his feelings; instead, she explained to him that it was
okay to feel that way, which my parents could never do. Children should not be left wondering
why because their minds are in a critical stage of development. They are exploring things not
only physically but also mentally.
Even Kriz Uy, a popular Filipino YouTuber, said on one of her vlogs explaining why their
firstborn, Scottie, is so bright and too advanced for his age despite not being in a formal school:
“What really helps Scottie is us, really talking to him like as if he's an adult. Like, every time he
asks me why, I will try to answer him to the best of my ability in a way that he cannot
understand. I never think that he is too small to understand. Like in my head, he can understand
all of the concepts, it's just a challenge for me to explain things to him," she added.
I think effective communication is the key to good parenting. Parents and children who
effectively communicate can have a wide range of benefits: they can build trust; strengthen
bonds, and enhance overall health and well-being. Even in times of difficult situations, children
who feel listened to and understood are more likely to have a positive sense of self-esteem, be
able to express emotions in a way that is comfortable for them, and develop better-coping
mechanisms.
Good parenting seems hard, but healthy communication between parent-and-child is all
what we need.