HEARTBREAK TO HAPPILY EVER AFTER

YOUR TOOLS
BY ADRIENNE EVERHEART
YOUR DIAMOND
GIRL TOOLBOX
 KNOW YOUR TOOLS -- PACK YOUR TOOLS --
PRACTICE YOUR TOOLS

Dancers Pose: Drop shoulders down, Place one foot

behind the other & breathe 3 deep breaths. Feel your
tummy rise and fall.

Now, relax your vagina. Allow your birth canal to widen

from hip bone to hip bone, Allow outer labia and vagina
to ‘bloom’ and open like a flower.

Next, wiggle your bottom a few shakes. Return to your

shoulders and drop them down again.

Feeling Statements: MUST BEGIN WITH: I feel, I’m

feeling, I felt, or I sense, I'm sensing…

Aim to make the first thing 'on the record' each day with
a man to be POSITIVE.

Feeling Statements of Poetry: Unfold the beauty of

factual events in your day and let them be spoken as
poetry. This takes practice! Practice All the Time!

Examples of POETRY:
I felt sparkling energy all day… tingling from head to toe.
I felt mesmerized by the setting sun and fluffy pink sky.
I'm feeling every delicious caramel drop of this coffee,
and my tongue feels so good.
I feel like giggling. A funny movie would feel lovely.

The GOLDEN SCRIPT: I feel... I

don't want...What do you
think?

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Leaning Back: this means you are allowing male energy

to flow to you effortlessly. You are not forcing it or
controlling it. You are trusting the man to figure it out
and pursue you, or not.

Surround yourself with male energy by getting

ACCLIMATED to RECEIVING it.

This includes flirting with men, making eye contact,

smiling, going on lots of coffee dates and spending time
in places where men circulate such as bike stores,
outdoor stores, hiking events or sporting events,

Physically lean back in your seat or chair when on a date

or talking to a man on the phone.

Allow the man to call, text and reach out to you first 80%
of the time.

In early dating, do not initiate adding him on SM, or

asking him out on a date via the 'innocent question.'

Distance and warmth: Warmth is something most

women need lots of practice with. We can get angry
when a man isn't around as much as we like, then we
treat him with a chilly vibe.

Instead, practice allowing the man to come to you when

he's curious or ready and when he does, respond with
warmth.

Warmth is being appreciative, approachable, having

compassion and being open to others with curiosity and
care.

Warmth does not mean

waiting weeks and weeks for
a man to finally call.
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Heart Unzipped: Being unzipped means allowing all

men in. Treating all men the same. Stay unzipped and
open, fall in love with something about every man you
meet.

Accept a man's arrows graciously.

You need not date him again, or find a man attractive to

accept his arrows and respond with warmth. A simple
smile or 'oh hi' can move your energy upwards.

Being unzipped means instead of checking out and

running or shutting down, you feel your way through
calmly and slowly. SLOW DOWN everything!

Being Unzipped is perhaps the bravest tool a Diamond

Girl can use.

Whole Body Listening/Snap Shot/Really Get Him: Listen

to the man and hear what he is saying aside from things
just about you, or dating/seeing you. Go deeper into the
man.

Hear his words and meet him where he is at.

If you have trouble connecting to what the man is

feeling, take a 'snap shot' of his face as he is telling you
the event or words. Visualizing his face will help you
connect and relate to his present emotional state

Then whatever the man brings you, argument, judgment,

observation, or just news about his day – you'll meet him
where he's at and he will feel like you're the only woman
that really 'gets him.'

Be sure to review the Man

Magnet Triangle Trifecta!
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Nasty Voice/Radical Acceptance: NV often sounds like a

critical parent inside your head. NV deeply loves you and
shows it the best way she can, usually by protecting you
from intimacy which can 'hurt' your heart.

NV is often developed when we are quite young and as a

childlike identity, she is not capable of having adult
relationships with men.

When you radically accept yourself and drop punishing

or judging yourself, the man notices. When you love
yourself just as you are and accept all parts of you, the
man feels safe and accepted with you too.

Tools for Radical Acceptance: Noticing what is going on

inside of you without judgement. Tracking your body,
naming your feelings, finding the meaning you give to
words and feelings. Noticing if your 'thinking' is in the
past, present or future.

Riding the Wave: Perhaps the most challenging, this

means hanging in when you get triggered by a man.
Letting the man be who he is without judgement.
Allowing yourself to be triggered and find your feelings
and speak them or not. Letting the man off the hook.
Allowing him the space to mess up and be a man.

Boundaries: It's best to know your boundaries in

ADVANCE. How far you will go sexually. If you want to
talk about exes. If you want to be picked up, or meet
halfway, or meet somewhere public. Know your
boundaries and figure this out as you go! Speak
boundaries with warmth yet be firm if pressed.

Boundaries, more than any

other tool, will often need
repeating to a man.
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