Stop Telling People Everything

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My experience
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You know when people say don’t reveal your next move or your plans
to people, or stop telling people everything, In a way, I have always
found this saying hard to grasp because, if you don’t tell people your
situation, how will they know when and how help you? What I’m
saying is no man is born to be an island and you’ll need people at some
point in your life. You’ll need people to put you through, guide you, and
show you directions.

Let me use myself as an example. About three years ago, when I was
still studying at my undergraduate level, I was given a very small
project to work on and I decided that you know what I’m going to test
this saying out and see how well I perform in the end, so I told no one
about the project.

Of course, I did my research on the project, and I went online to get

guidance and I was pretty confident that it would turn out to be a really
wonderful project.

The day came for me to present my work and when I got up to begin
my presentation, a lot of my friends and even the people around me, I
would say, were a bit shocked to find out that I was given the project to
work on and didn’t mention anything about it because it was quite a
huge deal.

I could hear whispers of *why didn’t she tell us* but what’s done is
done and I was going to present it. As I began my presentation, I wasn’t
confident and bold enough to speak well, my body language was giving
a totally different message, I rushed everything and a presentation that
was supposed to take 45 minutes of simple and clear explanation was
done in under 15 minutes.

The lecturers were not happy, and as a matter of fact, if I could

translate the expression on their faces into words, it would be, *we
should have given it to somebody else.

After I was done with the presentation, a friend of mine came over and
asked, “why didn’t you tell us and then we would have helped you or
guided you on how to do it". I couldn’t say a word because I thought I
was doing the right thing, but my performance and judgment of the
whole situation was below average and underwhelming.

In all fairness, I would have asked somebody to show me how to do it.

What did I learn from that experience? It is this, if you don’t know how
to do something, reach out to people who can help you and don’t rely
on yourself thinking that you can do a great job.

"Stop revealing your plans to people"

I don’t think I understand this thing well enough or maybe I apply it in

the wrong situations. I even read books on really successful people in
life and they say the same thing too, but I don’t understand what they
mean.

I’m still struggling to come to terms with what the saying truly means
and how to apply it. If you can help me with a clearer understanding, I
would really appreciate it because lately I’ve been going through tough
challenges and, in all honesty, I need help.

So do I agree with the saying? Not entirely. I feel like if you need help
with your plans, you should reach out to people who know better and
have pure intentions.