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Infographic
This infographic presents researched ideas on
supporting goof behavior in children. It gives new
ideas to try to promote rule learning and
development and discusses why common ideas do
not work.

Do This Not This

Make it a game Bribing
Bribing a child with treats or
Create a competition out of
toys may help in a pinch but
the task for more encouragement to
complete it. Even giving a child the
in the long run it is setting
illusion of having choices will make them up to only perform
them feel like they have a say and be good behaviors for rewards
more willing to complete the task.

Say what you see Say “good Job”

Provide judgment free
feedback that simply states what
the child did. Let them express
they joy and satisfaction with it.
You can also ask questions to
prompt the child to share how
they are feeling.
Saying good job to many or all
achievements creates a level of
judgement. Saying good job is the
equivilant level of judgement to saying
bad job. Children should be allowed to
be confident about these
accomplishmentswithout needing adult
praise.

Understand motivation Treat all punishments

for misbehavior
Opening up a conversation with the
child to better understand them can
allow you to see needs that may not be
being met. It also will allow you to
access how to accommodate the child
and help them understand the rules.
equally
Punishments should be based on the
negative action. Punishments should be
correlated with the misbehavior. Having all
punishments be equal can cause a child to
feel shame and believe they are a bad
person.

Combining nag and Only using nag

positive staements
Using a statement to remind the child to stop the
behavior they are doing and then provide them with
what they should be doing and a reminder why. For
example “stop running with your shoes untied. Sit
down and tie them so you can keep playing without
getting hurt” will be much more effective than just
scolding because it is easier to understand
statements
Using these statements
can accidently reinforce the behavior
you're trying to stop by paying too
much attention to it. It can also hurt
the relationship between parent and
child by placing too much criticism on
the child.

Ready?
Use this infographic as a guide to new and more effective parenting
techniques.

References
Feiler, B. (2013). Train a Parent, Spare a Child. New York Times .
Gable, R. A., Hester, P. H., Rock, M. L., & Huges, K. G. (2009).
Back to Basics Rules, Praise, Ignoring, and Reprimands
Revisited.
Kohn, A. (2001). Five Reasons to Stop Saying “Good Job!”