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'EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE RECENT - PDF'
'EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE RECENT - PDF'
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AUTHOR’S INFORMATION
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January, 2018.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
1. CROSSED ARMS AND LEGS SIGNAL RESISTANCE TO YOUR IDEAS. THEY SUGGEST
PHYSICAL BARRIERS.
2. REAL SMILE CRINKLES THE EYES. THE MOUTH CAN LIE BUT THE EYES CANT. REAL
SMILES REACH THE EYES.
3. WHEN SOMEONE COPIES YOUR BODY LANGUAGE, IT’S A GOOD THING. IT SHOWS A
BOND WITH THE OTHER PERSON AND THAT THE PERSON IS RECEPTIVE TO YOUR
MESSAGE.
5. EYES THAT LIE – IF YOU ARE TALKING TO SOMEONE WHOSE STARE ISS MAKING YOU
SQUIRM, ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE VERY STILL AND UNBLINKING – SOMETHING IS UP
AND THEY MIGHT BE LYING TO YOU.
CONFIDENCE SPEAKS
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7. EXAGGERATED NODDING SIGNALS ANXIETY ABOUT APPROVAL. WHEN YOU ARRE
HAVING A CONVERSATION AND PEOPLE NOD EXCESSIVELY, IT MEANS THEY ARE
WORRIED ABOUT WHAT YOU THINK OF THEM.
TAKEAWAY: EVEN IF YOU CANT READ PEOPLES THOUGHTS, YOU CAN LEARN A LOT FROM
THEIR BODY LANGUAGE (TRAVIS BRADBERRY).
SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE
TAKEAWAY: ARE YOU CONVINCED ENOUGH ABOUT YOUR MISSION TO SURVIVE THE WORLD
AND ITS NAYSAYERS?
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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (DAY 6)
IN ORDER TO BE MORE PRODUCTIVE, YOU MUST SHED THE FOLLOWING BAD HABITS
TAKEAWAY: “BY CONSTANT SELF DISCIPLINE AND SELF CONTROL, YOU CAN DEVELOP
GREATNESS OF CHARACTER”. – GREENVILLE KLEISER
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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (DAY 7)
1. AN ENTREPRENEURIAL MINDSET
2. BEEN A TEAM PLAYER
3. RESEARCH
4. WILLINGNESS TO TRY NEW APPROACHES
5. BEING PASSIONATE ABOUT YOUR MISSION
6. CREATE A COMPELLING VISSION AND FUN CULTURE
7. CLEARLY “DEFINE THE WIN” AND DEVELOP A PLAN TO GET THERE
8. STAY FOCUSED ON THE “WIN”
9. PROTECT YOUR IDEA
10. RECOGNIZE THE RISKS AND CHOOSE A PATH
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TAKEAWAY: AS A PROFFESSIONAL, LEARN TO EMBRACE THE ENTREPRENEURRIAL MINDSET.
BETHEBOSS.
BE EXCEPTIONAL
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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (DAY 9)
1. ONCE A LOYAL AUDIENCE IS BUILT, ONE THAT LOVES YOU AND THE INFORMATION
YOU SEND, YOU CAN MOST LIKELY, SELL TO YOUR AUDIENCE ANYTHING YOU WANT.
2. BENEFITS OF THE AUDIENCE FIRST STRATEGY INCLUDE:
• ACCELERATED GROWTH DUE TO PRE-CUSTOMER DATABASE
• NO NEED TO PIVOT LATER
• LESS STARTUP CAPITAL NEEDED
• LOW MARKETING COSTS
THAT’S RIGHT, EVEN IF YOU HAVE A BOSS, YOU CAN AND SHOULD BE IN CHARGE OF YOUR
CAREER DESTINY. HOW?
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CHOOSE TO BE THE LOYAL BOSS EMPLOYEE
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TAKEAWAY: BE WILLING TO PUT IN TIME AND EFFORT IN WHATEVER YOU DO. BE
OUTSTANDING.
LEADERSHIP POSITION COMES WITH ISSUES ESPECIALLY FOR WOMEN, HOW CAN WE COPE?
1. DON’T SHY AWAY FROM LEADERSHIP POSITION (NOBODY LIKES FEMALE BOSSES)
2. GO INTO THE ACTIVE RISK MANAGEMENT MODE (IDENTIFY THE UPSIDE AND THE
DOWNSIDE, THEN WORK TO REDUCE RISK)
3. FORGET ABOUT “US” AND WORK ON “ME”
4. WORK WITH TEAMS THAT BRING OUT THE BEST IN YOU
5. BE HUMILIATION AND FAILURE-AVERSE
6. BE READY TO TAKE TOUGH DECISIONS LIKE BREAKING RELATIONSHIPS
7. BE READY TO BE EXCLUDED FROM ACTIVITIES SO DEVELOP A THICK SHELL.
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TAKEAWAY: LEADERSHIP IS AN OPPORTUNITY TO HELP OTHERS (ESPECIALLY OTHER
WOMEN) REACH THEIR GOALS (SALLIE KRAWCHECK).
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FOR A NICE PERSON, CONFLICTS CAN BE A CHALLENGE. HOW YOU HANDLE CONFLICT CAN
MAKE OR MAR YOUR CAREER. HOW CAN WE MASTER CONFLICTS?
WHEN YOU ARE CLOSE TO SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE, YOU GET RICH INFORMATION FROM THEM
ABOUT WHAT MAKES THEM TICK. THEY INCLUDE:
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1. THEY FOCUS ON MINUTES NOT HOURS (KEVIN KRUSE)
2. THEY FOCUS ON ONLY ONE THING “THEIR MOST IMPORTANT TASK”
3. THEY DON’T USE TO-DO LISTS, THEY SCHEDULE EVERYTHING ON THE CALENDAR
4. THEY BEAT PROCASTINATION WITH TIME TRAVEL (THEY TRY TO PREDICT THE
FUTURE)
5. THEY MAKE IT HOME FOR DINNER BECAUSE THERE WILL ALWAYS BE MORE TO DO
(ANDY GROVE). THEY KNOW WHAT THEY VALUE.
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6. THEY USE A NOTEBOOK WHEREVER THEY GO (RICHARD BRANSON)
7. THEY PROCESS EMAILS ONLY A FEW TIMES A DAY
8. THEY AVOID MEETINGS AT ALL COST, UNLESS SOMEONE IS WRITING A CHECK (MARK
CUBAN)
9. THEY SAY “NO” TO ALMOST EVERYTHING. THEY DON’T GIVE OUT THEIR TIME
ANYHOW. (WARREN BUFFET).
10. THEY FOLLOW THE 80/20 RULE (CARRY OUT THE MOST IMPORTANT ACTIVITIES AND
IGNORE THE REST)
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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (DAY 17)
TAKEAWAY: A LOT OF PEOPLE MAKE THE MISTAKE OF THINKING THEY CAN ONLYY DAMAGE
THEIR CAREERS BY MAKING A HUGE MISSTEP, BUT THE REALITY IS THAT IT IS NOT USUALLY
DRAMATIC (BRADBERRY AND GREAVES).
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TAKEWAY: HOW WELL DO YOU UNDERSTAND YOUR OWN PARTICULAR “HOT BUTTONS” –
SITUATIONS WHICH TRIGGER SPECIFIC FEELINGS? TO BE EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT, WE
NEED TO UNDERSTAND WHAT OUR EMOTIONS LOOK LIKE IN ACTION AND WHAT PROVOKES
EACH FEELING (DANIEL GOLEMAN).
IF YOUR ONLY GOALS ARE MONEY-CENTRIC AND FINANCIAL GAIN IS ALL YOU EVER FOCUS
ON SOMEWHERE ALONG THE WAY YOU MAY LOSE YOUR SOUL TO MARKETING THAT IS
EITHER DECEPTIVE OR NOT CONGRUENT WITH YOUR CORE VALUES IN ORDER TO MEET
LOFTY SALES GOALS.
1. SIMPLY MAKING MONEY SHOULD NEVER BE THE EXCLUSIVE GOAL OF ANY BUSINESS.
FOCUSING ON INCREASING REVENUE WITHOUT CONCERN FOR BRAND AND
CORPORATE VISION IS A COMMON MISTAKE BUDDING ENTREPRENEURS END UP
MAKING WHEN THEIR INITIAL SUCCESS ATTRACTS INVESTORS WHO MAY OFFER
ENTICING SUMS OF CASH IN EXCHANGE FOR THEIR SAY IN HOW YOU MARKET YOUR
BUSINESS.
TAKEAWAY: THE SAYING “PRIDE COMES BEFORE A FALL” HOLDS TRUE WHEN IT COMES TO
MAKING BUSINESS DECISIONS – BEING TOO FULL OF YOUR OWN SUCCESSES CAN LEAD YOU
TO A PATH OF TOO RAPID EXPANSION THAT IS NOT SUSTAINABLE IN THE LONG RUN (LAHLE
WOLFE).
1. THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU LIKE TO DO AND WHAT YOU ARE GOOD AT DOING - NOT
JUST THE POTENTIAL INCOME. WHAT DO YOU HOPE TO GET OUT OF THE BUSINESS
BESIDES INCOME? IF YOU ANSWER, "NOTHING," YOU MAY NOT MAKE IT AS AN
ENTREPRENEUR NO MATTER HOW GOOD YOUR IDEA IS.
2. STARTING, GROWING AND RUNNING A BUSINESS CAN BE A THANKLESS AND
EXHAUSTING PROCESS, BUT IT CAN ALSO BE VERY REWARDING IN MANY WAYS EVEN
IF YOU DON'T MAKE IT RICH OVERNIGHT.
3. SO WHEN THE MONEY IS NOT (YET) POURING IN, WILL YOU GET DISCOURAGED OR
KEEP PRESSING FORWARD? IF YOU ARE PASSIONATE ABOUT MORE THAN SIMPLY
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MAKING MONEY, YOU ARE MORE LIKELY TO BE WILLING TO CONTINUE MAKING
NECESSARY SACRIFICES UNTIL THE BIG BUCKS DO START ROLLING IN.
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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (DAY 23)
1. OPEN SELF (SELF AWARENESS): YOU KNOW ABOUT YOURSELF AND ABOUT NO OTHER
PERSON. THERE IS GENERAL OPENNESS AND COMPATIBILITY AND LITTLE REASON TO
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BE DEFENSIVE. THIS IS A PART OF YOURSELF YOU ARE READY TO SHARE WITH
OTHERS AND DISCUSS OPENLY (WHAT I/YOU SEE IN ME).
2. HIDDEN SELF (SECRETIVE SELF): YOU UNDERSTAND YOURSELF AND DO NOT KNOW
ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON. YOU HIDE YOUR TRUE FEELINGS OR ATTITUDE AND
REFUSE TO OPEN UP TO OTHER PEOPLE. YOU REMAIN HIDDEN FROM OTHER PEOPLE
BECAUSE OF FEAR OF HOW THE OTHER PERSON MIGHT REACT. THES ARE PARTS OF
URSELVES WE REFUSE TO DISCUSS WITH OTHERS.
1. BLIND SELF (NAÏVE SELF: YOU DO NOT KNOW ABOUT YOURSELF BUT YOU
UNDERSTAND OTHER PEOPLE, UNINTENTIONALLY IRRITATING THEM. PEOPLE CAN
TELL YOU THINGS BUT THEY MAY BE FEARFUL OF HURTING YOUR FEELINGS. FOR
EXAMPLE, A PERSON WHO CONSIDERS THEMSELVES AS INTELLIGENT MAY BE
VIEWED AS ARROGANT AND IGNORANT BY OTHERS.
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TAKEAWAY: WHO ARE YOU? (JOY .N. UGWU)
GOOD PEOPLE DON’T UNDERPERFORM DUE TO THE WRONG PERSONALITY, THE WRONG
BEHAVIOURS OR SOME QUIXOTIC DEFINITION OF CULTURE FIT OR LACK OF INTELLIGENCE
OR WEAK TEAM OR TECHNICAL SKILLS. THEY UNDERPERFORM FOR ONE OR MORE OF THE
FOLLOWING REASONS:
• THEY’RE NOT MOTIVATED TO DO THE ACTUAL WORK REQUIRED SINCE THE JOB
THEY’RE BEING ASKED TO PERFORM AFTER BEING HIRED WAS ILL-DEFINED BEFORE
THEY WERE HIRED.
• BEING COMPETENT TO DO SOMETHING IS NOT THE SAME AS BEING MOTIVATED TO
DO IT.
• BEING MOTIVATED TO GET A JOB IS NOT THE SAME AS BEING MOTIVATED TO DO THE
JOB.
• THE INTERVIEW FOCUSED ON ASSESSING COMPETENCIES, BEHAVIOURS AND DEPTH
OF SKILLS THAT ONLY WEAKLY MAP TO THE ACTUAL WORK REQUIRED TO BE DONE.
• THE HIRING MANAGER AND CANDIDATE DON’T WORK TOO WELL TOGETHER.
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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (DAY 27)
BEING BUSY HAS SOMEHOW BECOME A BADGE OF HONOUR. THE PREVAILING NOTION IS
THAT IF YOU AREN’T SUPER BUSY, YOU AREN’T IMPORTANT OR HARD WORKING. THE TRUTH
IS, BUSYNESS MAKES YOU LESS PRODUCTIVE.
DAVID MEYER FROM THE UNIVERSITY OF MICHIGAN PUBLISHED A STUDY RECENTLY THAT
SHOWED THAT SWITCHING WHAT YOU’RE DOING MID-TASK INCREASES THE TIME IT TAKES
YOU TO FINISH BOTH TASKS BY 25%. “MULTITASKING IS GOING TO SLOW YOU DOWN,
INCREASING THE CHANCES OF MISTAKES,” MEYER SAID. “DISRUPTIONS AND INTERRUPTIONS
ARE A BAD DEAL FROM THE STANDPOINT OF OUR ABILITY TO PROCESS INFORMATION.”
MICROSOFT DECIDED TO STUDY THIS PHENOMENON IN THEIR WORKERS AND FOUND THAT IT
TOOK PEOPLE AN AVERAGE OF 15 MINUTES TO RETURN TO THEIR IMPORTANT PROJECTS
(SUCH AS WRITING REPORTS OR COMPUTER CODE) EVERY TIME THEY WERE INTERRUPTED
BY E-MAILS, PHONE CALLS, OR OTHER MESSAGES. THEY DIDN’T SPEND THE 15 MINUTES ON
THE INTERRUPTING MESSAGES, EITHER; THE INTERRUPTIONS LED THEM TO STRAY TO OTHER
ACTIVITIES, SUCH AS SURFING THE WEB FOR PLEASURE.
WE’RE SO ENAMORED WITH MULTITASKING THAT WE THINK WE’RE GETTING MORE DONE,
EVEN THOUGH OUR BRAINS AREN’T PHYSICALLY CAPABLE OF THIS. REGARDLESS OF WHAT
WE MIGHT THINK, WE ARE MOST PRODUCTIVE WHEN WE MANAGE OUR SCHEDULES ENOUGH
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TO ENSURE THAT WE CAN FOCUS EFFECTIVELY ON THE TASK AT HAND (TRAVIS
BRADBERRY).
1. THE RICH ANND FAMOUS HARDLY WATCH TV: EVEN IF THEY DO, IT WOULD BE FOR
AN HOUR AND THEY SPEND IT WATCHING PROGRAMMES ABOUT HOW TO DOUBLE
THEIR MONEY.
2. THEY GO OVER THEIR LIFE GOALS DAILY: IT HELPS THEM KEEP FOCUSED IN THE
LONG-HAUL DESPITE LIFE CHALLENGES.
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3. THEY LISTEN TO AUDIOBOOKS: SINCE THEY REALIZE THAT BOOKS ARE FOR PEOPLE
WHO ARE NOT ON THE MOVE. THEY ALSO INVEST IN SELF IMPROVEMENT BOOKS.
4. THEY WORK OUT MORE THAN THE AVERAGE GUY: THEY UNDERSTAND THAT A FIT
BODY AND A FIT MIND LEADS TO A FITTER BANK ACCOUNT.
5. THEY DON’T GET MUCH SLEEP: FOR EXAMPLE, DONALD TRUMP REPORTEDLY SLEEPS
ONLY THREE HOURS A DAY TO STAY AHEAD OF THE PACK.
TAKEAWAY: THE PERKS OF LIVING THE RICH LIFE ARE TOO TEMPTING, BUT THERE ARE
SACRIFICES INVOLVED – ANONYMOUS
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7. THEY FORGIVE, BUT THEY DON’T FORGET
AS WE END THIS 30 DAY JOURNEY, I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
INFLUNCES THE WAY WE MANAGE BEHAVIOUR, NAVIGATE SOCIAL COMPLEXITIES, MAKE
PERSONAL DECISIONS AND ACHIEVE POSITIVE RESULTS. AS YOU TRAIN YOUR BRAIN TO
PRACTICE EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE, YOUR BRAIN DEVELOPS A WAY TO MAKE THEM INTO
HABITS AND OLD HABITS DIE OFF. GO AND BE EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT.
Too many people succumb to the misconception that being likeable is natural, for the lucky,
the good looking, the social and the talented. Key behaviours of emotionally intelligent
people that make them likeable are:
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1. THEY ARE GENUINE AND COMFORTABLE IN THEIR OWN SKIN.
2. THEY ASK THOUGHTFUL QUESTIONS
3. THEY HAVE OPEN MINDS AND DO NOT PASS JUDGEMENTS.
4. THEY DON’T SEEK ATTENTION
5. THEY ARE CONSISTENT AND RELIABLE (THEIR MOOD DOES NOT AFFECT HOW THEY
TREAT PEOPLE).
6. THEY USE POSITIVE BODY LANGUAGES E.G ENTHUSIASTIC TONES. EYE CONTACT ETC
7. THEY LEAVE A STRONG FIRST IMPRESSION.
8. THEY GREET PEOPLE BY NAME.
9. THEY SMILE
10. THEY KNOW WHO TO TOUCH (AND THEY TOUCH THEM). A SIMPLE TOUCH ON THE
SHOULDER, A HUG, A FRIENDLY HANDSHAKE IS ALL IT TAKES.
11. THEY BALANCE PASSION AND FUN.
TAKEAWAY: LIKEABLE PEOPLE ARE INVALUABLE AND UNIQUE. THEY NETWORK WITH EASE,
PROMOTE HARMONY IN WORKPLACE, BRING OUT THE BEST IN EVERYONE AROUND THEM,
AND GENERALLY SEEM TO HAVE MORE FUN.
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