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Rader Heritage Essay
Rader Heritage Essay
around 4 years later, I saw a family photo and realized I was quite a bit darker in skin tone and
eye color than the entire family. I asked my adoptive father about it and he admitted that he
was not my biological dad. Months after that conversation, interactions with the family started
making more sense. Things like my sister getting more food than me at meals, better quality and
higher quantity of presents at Christmas, why she and my 34 cousins all had birthday parties but
I didn’t. It had never occurred to me that they treated me differently not because I was
possessed by a demon (that is a whole other fun story about my grandmother that doesn’t
really apply here), but because I was a brownish beacon constantly reminding them I was not
part of the family. Later that year I was unadopted, or “rehomed” as it is called now, to an
elderly couple.
father’s name on it, and find his work information. I found out through contacting him, and later
confirmed through DNA testing, that I am primarily of Mediterranean and Irish descent.
Ironically, I later got into contact with my sister from my adoptive family who had also done the
DNA test. She gleefully informed me that the family that had been so proud of their Irish
heritage and spurned me for not being part of that heritage, were of primarily German ancestry
and only 3% Irish, where I am 58% Irish with living cousins currently in Dublin, (this according to
Today I identify with aspects of my French, Italian and Irish heritage, embracing all three.
father and his mother, that he was born in the US but his French mother moved back to France
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Josette Rader Heritage Essay
and his Mediterranean father never left Italy. So neither of those heritages truly emigrated from
their home countries. My father grew up American and lives as part of the Hispanic community
with his Latina wife and my two half-siblings. From the historical podcasts I’ve listened to like
The Dollop episode 546 - The Greek Town Riot and 106 – The Fenian Raids, as well as my general
Since my father’s wife and kids identify primarily as Latinx, they don’t do anything that
speaks to our Italian or French heritage. However, since meeting my brother Maximo when I
was 17 and he was 10, we have bonded over many things, one of which is learning and speaking
Italian and French together. I wanted to learn Spanish as well, since he and his family speak it so
often, but I harbor just a little resentment toward my stepmother who enjoys forgetting to
invite me to important family events like my only brother’s high school and college graduations.
I don’t drink typically celebrate St. Patrick’s day because I am not a huge fan of celebrating the
expulsion of an entire religion from their country, in this case, the Druids. I have noticed my
natural diet tends toward Mediterranean dishes and pastas, so I try to look up recipes and get a
taste of them. My husband and I have agreed to visit Nice, Ireland, Italy and Greece after I finish
school. We hope to do a European tour of the places my family hail from and get a feel for the
Over time people have become more accepting of the Irish, even the Catholic ones,
though I suspect this was more in the face of increasing numbers of darker skinned immigrants
rather than tolerance. Even Italians have seen a change in treatment for the better. I have
noticed, however, a huge difference between how people treat myself and my brother, who
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Josette Rader Heritage Essay
both currently present white, and my sister and my younger self, who present brown. As a
young teenager, I was regularly called Hispanic slurs by my schoolmates and I noticed as I
entered college and spent less time outdoors, my skin lightened, and my number of white
suitors increased, something my sister has not experienced. My sister, father and stepmother
cannot go to restaurants with myself and my brother without people asking them how we are
related, then disbelieving them when they are told. I acknowledge that it is much easier to
navigate society presenting as white like Max and I do, than it is to live with dark skin as the rest
When I first learned of my heritage, I had a friend who saw my excitement and bought
me a book called How to be Parisian Wherever You Are: Love, Style, and Bad Habits by Anne
Berest, Audrey Diwan, Caroline De Maigret, and Sophie Mas. To this day that book delights me
and I still pick it up from time to time and try to implement aspects of being a Parisienne into
my life. Of course practicing Italian and French make me feel more connected to the cultures. I