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Kaity Tackett
Brother Rane
sexually abused as a child has lasting effects on children both physically and mentally. These
effects last a lifetime and is something the child will have to always carry with them. It has been
stated that 1 in 4 women have been sexually abused in their lifetime (Zimmerman, 2009, para. 2).
That is 1 in 4 women whose lives have been forever altered by a choice that was made for them
or against their will. We need to protect children so that they can grow and develop in
appropriate ways at appropriate times. Childhood sexual abuse can be prevented by teaching
children proper body terminology, having open communication, and teaching children body
autonomy.
The biggest prevention of childhood sexual abuse is teaching children the correct terms
for their body parts. Researchers suggest that “when parents allow children to call their sexual
and reproductive body parts slang names, they send the message that there is something
shameful about those body parts” (Baker, 2012, p. 2). Penis and vagina are not bad words and
shouldn’t be treated any differently than arm or leg. Children should be taught this from a young
age, at the same time as when they are taught to respect their bodies. As a parent is talking with
their child asking them where their eyes are, or where their head is, it should be perfectly normal
to ask them where their vagina or their penis is. This way children can learn the names of their
How does this help children? Children who know the names of their body parts are then
able to vocalize to an adult when something is wrong. Just like they can say “mommy my arm
hurts” and you look to make sure everything is ok, they can say “mommy my vagina itches” and
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you can know something is wrong and be able to take action. This is critical in helping children
take control of their body. This is also true when children try to disclose sexual abuse that has
already happened. For example, if Sally went up to her teacher and stated, “my Uncle Johnny
touched my cookie and made me sad.” The teacher could easily misinterpret what Sally was
telling her and not know that Sally was trying to tell her that Johnny touched her inappropriately.
On the contrary, if Sally goes up to her teacher and told her “Uncle Johnny touched my vagina
and it made me sad,” Sally’s teacher would understand her and know to get Sally some help right
away.
Another reason teaching children the proper names of their genitals is important, is
because it can help stop sexual abuse as its happening. If a child is being sexually abused and
knows to speak up it gives them power. Someone who is abusing a child will stop and think
twice if that child loudly says, “Stop touching my penis! I don’t like that!” It shows that the child
has been educated and can more easily tell someone what happened.
Teaching children the proper names of their body parts gives them power but can also be
taken a step further in court. When a child goes to court to face their abuser, it's extremely scary
and nerve-racking. By not knowing their body or being taught that it's inappropriate to talk about
their body, it can cause the child to feel even more nervous and embarrassed to talk about the
situation. Also, if a child can say exactly what happened and where they were touched, it gives
them more credibility than just saying, “they touched me down there.” There is more power, and
confidence given to the child by using and having the knowledge of appropriate body
terminology.
Another way to help prevent childhood sexual abuse is to have open communication with
children about sex. Start the conversations at a young age, adding more information as they get
older and making it age appropriate. You don’t have to go into detail at a young age, but it is
important to explain to them how we respect our bodies and the body of others as well. It’s
normal for children to be curious and have questions. Parents who beat around the bush are
doing more harm than good for their children. Researchers have stated, “there are strong
indications that early and open communication can impact positively in terms of sexual safety
and outcomes” (Stone, 2013, p. 1). When children have questions, if they feel like they can't go
to their parents, they will go to the internet, friends at school, or any other source that they may
have access to. This can be very dangerous, as they will not receive the best, most age-
appropriate answers.
Having open communication also means being there for children when they want to talk.
It's important for children to feel like they have someone who can answer their questions in a
nonjudgmental way. This will allow them to feel comfortable talking to adults when undesirable
things happen. This can start by teaching children what is considered “appropriate touches” and
when they need to reach out for help. Appropriate touches help a child feel safe and loved.
Inappropriate touches are touches that make them feel uncomfortable or unsafe and need to be
reported to an adult. A good way to help children know areas of the body that shouldn’t be
touched is by using the swimsuit rule. This rule teaches children that anywhere a swimsuit
touches, should not be touched by or shown to others. It's also important to teach the exception to
this rule. Some examples of this may include when a parent must help a child change or bathe, or
when a doctor has to examine the child. It should be explained though, that for both of these
instances a parent/guardian will be present to make sure nothing happens to the child (Medsker,
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2020, para. 6). This will help strengthen the relationship between the child and parent by
building trust. The child will feel like the parent is truly there for them and will make having
Another form of open communication is teaching children that there are no secrets from
mom and dad. A perpetrator will try and tell a child, “This is a secret between me and you, don’t
tell anyone.” When a child hears something like this, they will get the impression that they need
to listen to this person because they are an adult. It can also prevent the child from reaching out
because they will get the impression that they can trust this person. This can be avoided by
children being taught and learning how to recognize when someone tells them that this is a
secret, to tell mom and dad right away. Children keeping secrets between mom and dad at a
young age can lead to children keeping bigger secrets once they are older. If they feel like they
can talk to their parents when they are young, they will feel like they can talk to them when they
A second form of “secrets” kept between children and adults is when they come across
pornography on the internet. Pornography is everywhere and it’s not an IF they encounter it, but
a WHEN. Today we are surrounded by pornography that we may or may not pay attention to
because we are so used to seeing it. It is important that children are not exposed to pornography,
but if they are, they need to know the correct actions to take in order to get rid of it. Parents
talking to their child about pornography can help them know what to do in these situations. An
example might include, shutting the computer or device off and telling mom and dad right away.
When talking to children who have encountered pornography, it's important not to get upset as
the parent. Children need to feel like they are not in trouble because if they do, they won't come
talk to you if it happens again. The first time a child encounters pornography, they haven’t been
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looking for it. It sneaks up on them, and if they don’t know what to do, pornography can lead
children down a slippery path. It can start a terrible addiction that a child may have to deal with
for the rest of their life. By having this addiction, it can cause life changing consequences like
being sexually active at a younger age, having STDs and teen pregnancy. These are normal
consequences that happen all the time and children need to be educated on it so they can be
childhood sexual abuse. Body autonomy is “the concept that individuals have control over
their bodies, what happens to them and who is allowed to touch them. We need to respect
children’s wishes about tickling, kissing, cuddling, and hugging – they should not be forced to
hug or kiss anyone. We need to teach our children that if someone says, “No,” to being
touched, that request should immediately be respected, and the behavior needs to stop” (Sutton,
2021, p. 35). This helps children learn what consent is and helps them take control of their
bodies. Wanting children to respect their bodies starts with the adults around them respecting
their bodies. The adults are the ones that need to be an example for their children. By children
seeing that their parents or other adults around them respect their body they will want to do that
too.
How exactly can adults instill body autonomy in their children? This can be done by
teaching children phrases such as “It's my body and I don’t like how you're treating it” or “I
don’t want a hug right now, but I can give you a high-five.” This helps children feel like they
have control over their bodies. Children want to have a sense of agency, and body autonomy
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gives them that agency. They have a say in what happens to their body and teaching them that at
a young age will help them have respect for their bodies as they get older.
It's also important for parents to show examples of consent to their children. If they are
playing tickle monster with their child and they say stop, the parents should stop right away even
if the child is still giggling. This is a way that children can use their consent which should be
respected by their parent. When the child says they are ok with it, the tickling can continue, but
once the child says stop, it stops. No matter how many times this happens, it should be
acknowledged and respected. This is a skill that will improve the child’s future relationships.
They will already know about consent, and will know that if in a relationship, someone says stop
you stop. They will also know that if they say stop, and the person doesn’t, something is wrong,
Another way for parents to respect their child’s body autonomy is by giving them their
privacy. Once a child is old enough to shower or go to the bathroom independently, they should
be given the opportunity to do so. When a child wants to enter a room, they need to learn how to
knock first before they enter. Parents need to do this as well because that way both the parent and
child have given boundaries and respect to one another. Everyone needs personal space and
alone time and teaching children at a young age these types of behaviors will lead to a healthy
parent and child relationship. Relationships thrive on boundaries and respect and that includes a
parent-child relationship. Just because they are children doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t be
Sometimes parents must help children, even if they don’t want it. How can body
autonomy still be respected? It can be respected as you talk to children about what is going on
and by getting them involved as much as possible. “It’s not about them giving permission,
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because these caregiving acts are point blank necessary. It’s about including them and treating
them like we would want to be treated” (Massey, 2019, para. 10). Diaper changes for instance
are a necessary thing that have to happen for personal hygiene reasons, as well as comfort. But
children should be involved and doing so will help them understand and minimize the tantrums.
For example, Sally’s mom is trying to change her diaper, but Sally keeps freaking out. Instead of
getting frustrated and yelling, Sally’s mom can take the time to explain why the bum change
needs to happen. She can also get Sally involved by having her go grab her new diaper and
wipes. This can help Sally feel a part of the bum changing process and she will be more willing
to cooperate with her mom. The same can be said when it comes to bath time. Most of the time
when parents are giving their child a bath, mom and dad are in control and doing everything. If
Sally’s mom asks her if she wants to wet her hair by herself or wants her mom to do it for her
Sally now has a sense of control. Examples like these are ways that parents can give their
What happens if a family member decides they don’t want to respect a child’s body
autonomy? When getting ready to leave, Aunt Danielle wants Susie to give her a hug, but Susie
doesn’t want one. Aunt Danielle gets upset because she feels like Sally is disrespecting her for
not giving hugs. This situation can be handled in different ways. If Sally is old enough to speak
up, she could tell Aunt Danielle that she would rather have a high-five or fist bump and maybe
next time she could give a hug. If Sally is not old enough, you as the parent can speak up and
explain to Aunt Danielle that you are teaching Sally that she has a right to her body and can say
who can and can't touch her. It’s nothing personal towards Aunt Danielle, but just like she
doesn’t always want hugs, neither does Sally. This will help Sally know that she has the right to
speak up, and that you as her parent have her back and is someone she can trust. Body autonomy
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doesn’t come naturally to children, it's something that needs to be taught and takes time to fully
understand.
Conclusion
Childhood sexual abuse can be prevented by teaching children proper body terminology,
having open communication, and teaching children body autonomy. These things can be taught
to children from infancy and built upon as the child ages. By doing so, it will feel more normal
and natural to talk about as they get older. Children are smarter than we give them credit for and
understand more than we think they do. People might be hesitant to talk about these things with
their children because they don’t know how to approach the topic, but it can save a child’s
childhood. It takes one minute to ruin a child’s life, but these tools can help children advocate for
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