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At Peace Tool Kit (Incl CA)
At Peace Tool Kit (Incl CA)
Hello,
Bob and I found peace in acceptance. We were at peace with
the fact that at the end of life comes death. Being at peace
with death allowed us to live and love more fully both before
loving each other fully with preparing for his death and my
survivorship.
details just before and then after his death. I still love Bob and I
miss him every day. And more than four years after his death,
nearly every day, a reason comes up to thank him for doing this
when you and your loved ones will die: have the conversations,
make the plans, and do the organizing that will allow you to live
With hope that this tool kit helps you achieve a sense of peace,
jennifer
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Set Up Your Smart Phone Medical ID
This is easy and quick. Do it right now so that if there is a medical emergency, responders can access key, life-
saving information and emergency contacts from your phone. After loading the information, learn how to access
it when the phone is locked, and then share with others in your family or circle how to do the same.
iPhone
Go to Contacts - at the very top of your contacts there is a place to
put a photo of you and your contact information (my card). When you
tap on that at the very bottom of the form, tap on Complete Medical
ID.
Photo:
Full Name:
Date of Birth:
Medical Conditions:
Medical Notes:
Medications:
Blood Type:
Organ Donor:
Weight:
Height:
Primary Language:
Emergency Contacts:
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Android
Most Android phones do not have a built-in medical ID feature. There are free apps you can download to create a
medical ID.
The following are instructions for the Medical ID (Free) ICE Contacts (Medical ID) app after you have downloaded
it.
In the app you will be asked to allow Medical ID to access your device's location and to make and manage phone
calls. This is so: you can be found in case of emergency; you can find nearby hospitals; and your emergency
contacts can be called through the app.
Create a profile by adding your full name, photo, and all pertinent information including: gender, date of birth,
blood type, height, weight, organ donor, medical conditions, allergies, and medications.
Type any special instructions or medical notes, at least two emergency contacts, name of preferred hospital and
insurance coverage. *Important* To enter your emergency contacts' information, go to the medical notes section.
Here the app will ask for permission to access your contacts. Next, when you enter your emergency contacts'
names the app will find their information in your contacts.
Tap the check mark in the upper right corner to finish your profile.
Once you tap the check mark, you will be on a screen called Profiles. Tap on the three dots in the upper right
corner to look at your Settings.
In your Settings, tap on the Lock screen. The first line is an option to turn Lock screen on. It's important to do this so
your information can be viewed by emergency personnel even when your phone is locked.
Once the Lock screen has been turned on, there is another series of prompts to allow the app to add a Medical ID
banner/icon/widget on your lock screen. This allows emergency personnel to see that you have the Medical ID
information available at a glance.
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Advance Healthcare Directives
Every adult has the right and responsibility to document and communicate advance healthcare directives/advance
care planning and designate a healthcare proxy/medical representative so that if you are unable to communicate
decisions about your healthcare, someone you trust will be able to do it for you. Remember, you can choose every
possible life extending measure, none, or something in between, the choice is YOURS. The “right” healthcare
directives/advance care plans are what you choose. Keep it that way, by documenting it and designating the proxy
who will carry out YOUR choices.
https://www.nhpco.org/advancedirective/ or search
directives.
*In Canada each province has its own laws, documents, etc.
https://www.advancecareplanning.ca/
The American Hospital Association makes this card available for
you to print, complete and carry in your wallet for first responder
Each year money, property and precious items, such as digital photos, get lost or left
behind because people die without organizing and communicating. These losses only
add to the sadness of the death. And because death is one of the few certainties in
life, these losses are entirely avoidable with just a little bit of forethought and effort.
Please use the following prompts to gather, store, and make accessible your assets
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Passwords & Access Codes
Document the access codes to all phones, tablets, laptops, desktops, etc. If something happens to a loved
one, you will want access to all devices if for no other reason than their photos.
Password Management Systems - There are a number of password management systems available including:
NordPass, Keeper, RoboForm, Norton, 1Password, etc. Your smartphone also includes a password tracking
system for those passwords you enter while using your phone. Research what works best for you. Remember,
to provide device access codes so that password storage is available to your loved ones.
Social Media - Accounts left unattended after a death can open your survivors up to scams, fraud, and other
ugly behavior. Some platforms such as Facebook have a Remembrance feature that allows the account to
remain but makes a designation that the individual is deceased. Leave written instructions. Do you want
everything deleted—or do you want your pages to live on? Leave specific instructions in writing, including login
credentials, for the trusted loved one who you want managing the process.
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Accounts
Checking Savings
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Accounts
401K/IRA/Retirement* Investments
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Legal Documents Titles, Deeds & Certificates
Trust(s) Birth
Property) Passports
Land
Other
Automobile(s)
Recreational Vehicles
Firearms
Cemetery
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Insurances Other Important Stuff
Health
Documents for dependents and pets
Employer Life
Storage Facilities
Individual Life
Safe Deposit Box
Long Term Disability
Special Instructions
Annuities
Correspondence
Umbrella
Instructions
There are a number of secure, online estate planning systems such as: Everplans, The Torch, and Estate Map. Some people
find these preferable for a variety of reasons. If you have interest in an online system, research them thoroughly and
Perhaps the most common question I get since releasing my book and becoming an advocate for open discussion about end of life is,
“How do I start the conversation about end-of-life preferences?” First, keep in mind it is likely a series of conversations rather than just
one. Second, try having some baseline conversation while everyone is still healthy. It is much easier to initiate discussions, decisions, and
documents in the abstract. Additionally, following a diagnosis revisiting those conversations, decisions and documents, given the new
circumstances, is easier. If you have not had a conversation and someone is getting on in years or has already received a life-limiting
diagnosis, please initiate the conversations sooner rather than later. Third, the most comprehensive set of resources can be found at
www.theconversationproject.org, please check them out. Below are some ideas for casually initiating the discussion series.
Books - How about saying, “I just read this amazing book called The Life Experiences & Holidays - Inevitably friends, acquaintances, or
Hospice Doctor’s Widow: A Journal, and it has me thinking I would stories in the news will feature those going through illnesses, injuries
like to know and document your end of life wishes so that when the and deaths. Lots of families use a holiday such as Thanksgiving to
time comes, we can express our love for each other in a supportive set aside time for a conversation that might ask each person for a
way like Jen and Bob did.” Of course, this approach is good with favorite family reflection and an end-of-life preference or planning
The Death Deck - A game with 112 cards, each including an open- Death Over Dinner - A dinner with a trained facilitator to guide a
ended or multiple choice question about death. It is a lot of fun as a meaningful conversation about end of life.
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With Gratitude
This is not easy -- nothing worth doing ever is. It may take
later, you can change the documents and tell your person.
jennifer
The only financial or fiduciary interest I have is in the book I authored titled, The Hospice Doctor’s Widow: A Journal. Any and all other organizations,
companies or productions mentioned in this document are simply resources I have discovered as an individual doing my own preparations. 13