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Note 16 Nov 2022 6 - 02 - 11 AM
Note 16 Nov 2022 6 - 02 - 11 AM
Courtship plays an important role in the life of every homo sapien. Even among the
animal kingdom, different forms of courtship behavior have been observed.
Sociologists, anthropologists, marriage Counselors, youth leaders, church leaders,
college and university administrators, and all other lovers of young people have
contributed their quota in defining courtship. According to Edwin seligma he
defines courtship as "all forms of behavior tending to stimulate sex excitement and
sex activity in the desired mate"
Elizabeth Jean croll also defines courtship as a "Process whereby individuals
awaken their interests in the opposite sex."
courtship activities are not limited to any particular group of living organisms.
Human beings as well as animals are all involved in sexual stimulation and
activity.
HISTORY OF COURTSHIP
The history of courtship is a very old one. Courtship has been in existence even
before man was created. It is found among the animals, particularly the birds where
it seems to be in a highly developed form. The male does its courting and tries to
attract the female by strutting, displaying of feathers, flying about, and also by
uttering melodious songs. As all these are going on, the female assumes a very
passive role. It has been observed that as soon as the male shows signs of
discouragement due to the non-challant attitude of the female, and he wants to go
away, the female would at that moment change her disposition. This would in turn
incite the male to new interest. These plays and counter plays in animal courtship
have important biological functions. They act as stimuli for the female and male as
they prepare for fecundation.
The same elements of play and counter-play appear in human courtship, where it has
social, intellectual and other functions.
Courtship In African Traditional Setting
Traditionally, throughout the African continent, courtship and betrothal
relationships are carried out in different ways. It is worthy to note that in all
circumstances involving courtship, the sexual intercourse is always reserved for
those who are married."In many African societies, the period of courtship,
engagement and betrothal just before the consummation of the actual marriage, the
young man and the young
woman involved are all expected to be both chaste and virginal respectively.
In Yoruba land, great importance was accorded to virginity and chastity. A
lady found Virgo Intacta after her marriage was accorded maximum respect by her
husband, the husband's family and even the whole community. Her own parents and
other relations were also very proud of her for not putting them to shame.
Moral Values
Traditionally, a boy or girl is supposed to be completely ignorant of sexual
matters until she is psychologically and socially mature. This maturity normally
comes with the rite of initiation at the attainment of a particular age.
In many Ghanian societies as well failure tproduce the evidence of virginity, which
was normally a blood stained white cloth, could spell doom to such an already-
consummated marital relationship. It was such a humiliating disaster that such a
girl may be in her father's home all the days of her life. As a matter of fact,
juvenile immorality was severely punished. This punishment could be in the form of
perpetual banishment, confinement in the place of birth and sometimes by death.
BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO
Spotting Danger Signals
Occasions arise when ti is healthier to break off a relationship than to keep
going. Some couples become so wrapped up in each other that they fail to see the
danger signals that could wreck their future.
Few signs that helps in realizing when emotional dependence has overwhelmed common
sense.
1) Extreme Arguing and Fighting
2) Extreme physical involvement
3)Conflicting goals and values
4)Abuse
5)withdrawal
6)Separation
7)Poor combination of personalities
SURVIVING A BREAKUP
1) Try to leave the other person thinking
2) Bow out gracefully with your self-esteem intact
3) Don't be ashamed to feel sad
4)Genuine grief
The What Do You Know About Love Test for Young Lovers'
1 Love at first sight is possible between some people.
2. Premarital sex is acceptable when a couple cares a lot about each other
3. When real love hits, you will know it.
4. When a couple truly loves each other, they will not fight.
5. It is easy to tell the difference between real love and infatuation.
6. It is quite normal for someone to be in love with several persons at the same
time.
7. When you are really in love, you lose interest ni other people, things, and
activities.
8. When you fall head over heels in love with someone, you will know by your
feelings if it is the real thing.