“Acads first sa ko”

“Studies first muna ko.”

“Di sa ko anang love2. Mag focus sa ko sa akong pagskwela.”

Familiar? I bet a lot of us already heard these lines from someone we like na wala nakagusto sa ato. And
if wala pa, pag ingnan gani ka ani my dear friend then rejected ka. Welcome to rejection 101.

Ngano nakaingon ko ani? Oh well. I’ve experienced it. And a lot of my friends kay naka experience na
pud ani. “Studies first” kuno tapos magulantang na lang imong world kay naa nay ka MU or uyab after
pila ka weeks or naa nay ginapormahan diay. Makakanta na lang jud kag bakakon ka liar evil kaaaaaaa
at the top of your lungs.

Overused na kaayo siya na excuse to the point na if nay muingon sa imo ani kay sa way pagduha-duha
magsugod na kag move on even though wala pa siya nahuman sa iyang “studies muna ako” speech.

Palihog lang, do not use it to reject someone. Especially if you are just using it as an excuse. di jud siya
maayo na way of rejecting kay madaming tanga sa mundo. Isa na ko didto. The person I like said this to
me and as an inexperienced human being, a neophyte sa gugma gugma, nituo sad ko na magfocus siya
sa iyang studies. I have no clue na I was rejected na. So I decided not to move on kay I’ll wait. I’ll wait
until we‘ll be able to finish our degree. Paningkamot ug study dira kay maningkamot pud ko diri. Turns
out naa siyay laing gusto. And who knows na gusto pud siya ato.

I’m not saying na focusing on your studies is wrong kay as a student that should always be our main
priority. My point here is do not sugarcoat please. If you can’t return back the feelings then tell that
person right away. I know it’s hard na mang reject kay you don’t wanna hurt his/her feelings pero it’s
better if you tell the truth. “I’m sorry but you’re not my type.” Pila ra gud ingon ana. Why look for other
excuses?