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Com 200 RP 1 Paper
Com 200 RP 1 Paper
Jilly DiMartino
Jill Garnett
Christine Morris
Kirsten Starkloff
When enduring a move, especially across the country, there are many elements of one’s
life that are impacted both negatively and positively. Jill moved from California to North
Carolina in a cross-country move with her parents at 23 years old. Communication methods and
techniques are often shaken due to being forced to adapt and mentally adjust to being in a new
environment. Studies on moving and mental health suggest that “children who move homes
report poorer mental health than those who remain residentially stable” (Morris, 2017). Mental
struggles certainly impact how an individual communicates. A move can cause communication
struggles, general anxiety, social anxiety, depression and other mental health struggles, similar to
Social anxiety is often a result of a move, as one’s life is uprooted and moved, yet their
friend's and family members linger behind. This can cause a newly relocated individual to face
feelings of anxiety when in new environments. In an article on moving and mental health, it is
found that moving often can create a struggle to accept new relationships, as one may fear that
these new relationships could end ("How Moving", 2018). This article continues to state that
many individuals who move create a mental and emotional distance, which can cause the
development of social anxiety or even just anxiety as a whole which can create a decline in one's
communication. In the interview, we uncover details about Jill's move and her experiences with
In the interview, our group aimed to answer some questions about communication
challenges as a result of moving that have not been researched much in the past. Our group
learned after research and conducting an interview with Jill, a 23 year old who moved from
California to North Carolina, that a cross-country move would come with multiple different
communication challenges in different forms. Throughout our interview, we were able to identify
One of the first aspects we aimed to gain insights on was the differences in cultural
communication from North Carolina to California. Being on opposite coasts, North Carolina and
California had many differences in communication norms that Jill was able to identify for our
group. Much of the communication culture in North Carolina was learned and created through
interaction, which Jill was not familiar with. By interviewing Jill, we gained valuable insight on
being an 'outsider' to this culture, and what kind of communication processes she experienced
and used to adjust to life in North Carolina. Navigating these cultural differences and norms are
part of what made integration into her new community more difficult. According to research
innuendo, and double meanings" that make miscommunication and confusion common in these
situations ("Cross-Cultural", n.d.). This also played a role in Jill's internal dialogue as she felt
that she needed to "take an observant role rather than a participant role" in order to learn the
communication culture and norms of her new surroundings. When asked to give examples of the
cultural differences she experienced, Jill could provide many illustrations. One of the main
differences between North Carolina and California, as told by Jill, was how socialization was
more formal in North Carolina. Jill describes that in California, communication was very
relaxed, that there she rarely experienced any formal introductions. She stated that in North
Carolina, she was shocked by the differences in formality, and specifically stated that there was
"a change in communication as a whole". Some examples that Jill mentioned are the changes in
body language and greetings that made it obvious to her whether people were friends, family, or
acquaintances. One specific cultural difference that was noted by Jill was the presence of more
morals and values in North Carolina. She described this difference as "southern charm" which is
a term many use to refer to Southerners as being witty and friendly with anyone who crosses
their path.
Jill described that she felt like an outsider, and wanted to immerse. To adjust to these
changes, Jill felt she had become hyper-focused on her actions, what she did, and what she said.
She felt she had to be aware of these things as she was not yet familiar with the norms of the
community, and didn't want "room for error". In an article examining group norms, it is noted
that 'group norms' are expectations between group members on the correct way to act,
specifically, what the acceptable behaviors in a group are (Mclean and Venditti, 2014). This
information is relevant in a community context as well, and Jill was unaware of the norms in her
new community, causing her to feel the need to be cautious in her interactions. She also
described how she felt she had to adjust her clothing style, and be aware that there was a "time
and place" for certain attire. She found that in North Carolina, "self expression wasn't as open
and fluid". Many times she felt she had to ask herself whether she was dressed appropriately,
when she had not had to do that previously in California. This says a lot about the differences in
non-verbal cues, such as clothing, that Jill was able to discern between North Carolina and
California. When around groups of people, Jill observed carefully the topics of discussion and
content of the conversations. She stated earlier in the interview that she didn't know how to start
conversations with others as she had trouble identifying any mutual topics of interest to discuss.
Jill relays that she now feels well adjusted to communication culture in North Carolina. She
states that immersing herself in the lifestyle and paying attention she found it easier to adjust to
the new norms. To aid in this, she attended what she described as "native" events, tried to make
practices finds that "managing uncertainty and anxiety are central processes that affect our
communication with strangers" (Duronto, Nishida, & Nakayama, 2005). In the interview, it
became apparent that many of the struggles Jill experienced during her integration into her new
community involved heavy internal dialogue stemming from her anxiety. Jill said in our
interview that she’d been aware of her mental health struggles before her move, but the move
had caused her to have further struggles with social anxiety that impacted her integration and in
turn, the way she perceived and communicated. When moving, Jill felt that she had put her
mental health on the 'back-burner' and states that she used all the tasks of settling into her new
house and community as a distraction from what was her new reality. As a result, Jill felt that
once all those things were done and she was settling in she realized that her mental health was
struggling because of the move. During our interview, while learning about this period of Jill's
life, when she had just moved, was struggling mentally, and attempting to settle in her new
environment, it was observed that these aspects changed the way that Jill was attempting to
socialize. One particular detail that our group picked up on was how much of Jill's
communication challenges involved internal dialogue with herself. For example, when Jill was
asked about what factors made integration into a new place easier or more difficult, Jill focused
on the fact that she felt everyone around her was already established in the community. She also
spoke about feeling that she was too old to be starting over in a new place at the age of 23. She
described that she felt that she "was at that pivotal age, where this move is going to make or
break things". Looking at this from an outside perspective, it was fairly clear that this was a
mental block for Jill in her attempt to make new friends and find her place in the new
community. Jill described not wanting to "re-brand" herself, yet realizing that she had what she
perceived as blank canvas. She put pressure on herself to make friends and get involved in the
community. She relayed that she felt that this pressure was coming from her parents, but later
realized that it wasn't her parents who were putting pressure on her, but herself. Jill stated that, "I
was putting non-existent pressures on myself, that I felt they had, because I wanted to prove to
myself that the move was the right call, and that I could grow and thrive the way I could have in
California." As stated before, this is a primary illustration of how Jill's internal dialogue and
communication with herself, caused by her social anxiety with the move, served to hinder her
development in the community and communication with new people around her. She stated in
the interview that because of the pressures she was putting on herself, she would take many of
the emotions manifested from this thought-process out on her family members, as they were her
Interviewee Reflection
Even though it was easy for me to open up and share my general experience with my
group members, I found it very frustrating because I could not fully convey my past experience
or recount the details since I am now a different person, more evolved and more aware. More
specifically, I could not put myself back in those shoes of the past and therefore, duplicating the
emotional experience of that time was problematic. In fact, it almost seemed artificial to
associate the emotional baggage with the past experience, since my emotional state has morphed.
This struggle was due to the utilization of Contrast questions, which, “help understand the
differences between and the relative importance of informants’ concepts” (Treadwell, 2017, p.
263). Although I was frustrated with my lack of emotional connection, I now realize that this is
evidence of my growth as a communicator. I recognize there will always be some level of social
anxiety present, however it’s comforting to know that over time you can effectively manage it.
Overall, it’s thanks to my group members’ patience and comfort that made for a positive and
productive experience.
Before beginning the official interview, we told Jill that if there was ever a moment that
she needed to take a break or that she felt uncomfortable, to tell us right away so we can change
directions or stop the interview. Our main goal before we began was to make sure Jill felt
comfortable in her environment, especially because this is a very personal topic for her. In the
future I think it would be best to offer an option of anonymity because of this topic. Jill was very
open about this topic which was very helpful to the interview process. However, this is also a
very personal topic to speak about, and making it anonymous could help to make her feel more
comfortable. We conducted this interview over zoom with Jill being our interviewee. At the
time, having the interview over zoom was our best option for all group members. Though, next
time it may be better to have it in person because it could give Jill a more welcoming feeling, and
we could possibly get different results. Assigning each group member a different role was very
helpful in conducting this interview. Since we had the interviewer focus on asking the questions
and participating in the conversation, it allowed her to fully engage and be in the moment. Thus,
making Jill feel more comfortable, as if it was a normal conversation. During that, the observers
were taking descriptive notes of the comments that were being made and the interaction as a
whole. This was very helpful, because they were able to completely focus on that and give a
Conclusion
After interviewing our group member, Jill Garnett, and conducting research as a group,
we have concluded that we all learned that communication is largely impacted and even altered
when moving. Key factors that contribute to why communication is impacted by a move include
mental health struggles such as anxiety, having to learn new ways to communicate with those left
behind, and also having to adapt to the unfamiliar ways of communication in a new environment.
In Jill’s experience, she instantly noticed a change in the dialogue and communication styles of
Californians and North Carolinians. Jill experienced a change in cultural communication and
norms, as well as changes in her internal dialogue that she had to learn to navigate. Throughout
the research process, we were able to identify the specific ways in which these changes
influenced Jill's struggles with social anxiety and integration when it came to communicating in
Jill did a wonderful job throughout her interview of opening up about her move, mental
health, and the ways that she had to adapt not only her personal life, but her communication
methods as a new North Carolina resident. Throughout the interview, our observers, interviewee,
and interviewer were able to make a strong connection between the ways that a cross-country
move can create struggles with mental health, internal dialogue, and communication processes.
In Jill’s situation, she became more socially anxious to meet new people and initiate
communication with them due to a fear of not fitting into her new environment. Jill did state that
her fear was eventually diminished and she became more familiar with the communication
norms in the community. Due to this, Jill was able to quickly meet friend's, start over, and grow
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● Knowledge: When did you first become aware of your mental wellness?
● Local Knowledge: Did you seek to make new friends and build your community
● Behavior: Is there anything that others did to make you feel welcome or unwelcome in
● Experience: Did the stressors of moving have an impact on how effectively you
● Opinion: Did you find it easy or difficult to integrate into your new environment?
● Local Knowledge: In what ways did your mental health affect your communication
skills with other people? (Duronto, Nishida, & Nakayama, 2005, 549-560).
● Contrast: Are there any specific changes in communication norms that you found more
● Experience: Were there any specific external factors that influenced your
● Structural: How did you navigate the changes in cultural communication and
communication norms when you moved to a new place? (Mclean and Venditti, 2014).
● Do you feel that you have adjusted completely to your new environment now?
● Do you feel like you were able to relay all the information you wanted to?