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Gender and Society-Annotated1
Gender and Society-Annotated1
Gender and Society-Annotated1
2.
Define love, attraction, intimacy, relationship, and other
related terms.
Discuss different Theories of Love.
Experience
3. Identify needs, issues, and concerns experienced by people
4.
who are in a romantic relationship.
Reflect upon one\s attitudes towards love, intimacy, and
1. Love as a Culture Universal
relationship. Love is connected to culture universal. A culture
universal is a phenomenon experienced similarly by the
people across time and culture. This means that humans,
whether those who lived in the past or who are living
In February 15, 2015, an article featuring about the study now and regardless of their geographic location and
of McCann World Group came out for a national paper, socio-cultural identities, have experience love, in one
bannering the title: “Filipino most expressive about love way or another.
among Asia Pacific Countries” (Hegina 2015). In the
article an interesting result says that Filipino says “I love
you” approximately 17 times per week. 2. Love as a Social Phenomenon
Love is viewed as social phenomenon. Social
Robert Sternberg – A renowned psychologist for his Phenomenon are events or experiences which ensue
Triangular theory of Love says in 1986 paper: “What within our interaction and relationships with other people.
does it feel to Love someone? Does it always mean the Loving entails communication – the process of giving
same, if not, in what ways does it differ from each and receiving information between and among people. It
other?” also entails the use of language.
3. Love as an Emotion
Love is also construed as an emotion. Emotions are
physiological responses thaw we evaluate
physiologically as we experience particular life events.
There are basic emotions such as joy, sadness, fear,
disgust, and anger among others. There are also
complex emotions which are combination of basic
emotions in varying magnitudes and are made intricate
by circumstances surrounding the experience.
Theories on Love
growing slowly out of friendship and based more
on similar interests and a commitment to one
another rather than on passion.
Lodus (playful love) is playful, noncommittal
Since love is a rather complex idea that can be love. Lee uses the term to describe those who
described, defined, and experienced in a myriad of ways, see love as a desire to want.
several theories and frameworks offer diverse
perspectives on how it can be understood and explained. The three secondary styles of love are;
Just as there are three primary colors, Lee suggested the long term)
that there are three primary styles of love, namely;
Different stages and types of love can be explained as
different combinations of these three elements. For
example, the relative emphasis of each component consummate love may be even harder
changes over time as an adult romantic relationship than achieving it. He stresses the
develops. importance of translating the
components of love into action. "Without
a) Liking (intimacy) in this case is not used expression," he warns, "even the
in a trivial sense. Sternberg says that greatest of loves can die" (1987, p.341).
this intimate liking characterizes true Consummate love may not be
friendships, in which a person feels a permanent. For example, if passion is
bondedness, a warmth, and a closeness lost over time, it may change into
with another but not intense passion or companionate love.
long-term commitment.
b) Infatuated love (passion) is often what
is felt as “love at first sight”. But without 4. Romantic and Companionate Love
the intimacy and the commitment
Hatfield and Rapson, suggests that there are two
components of love, infatuated love may
general types of love: romantic and companionate love.
disappear suddenly.
c) Empty love (commitment): Sometimes,
a) Hatfield defines romantic love as
a stronger love deteriorates into empty
"characterized by intense passion - a
love, in which the commitment remains, state of intense longing for union with
but the intimacy and passion have died. another." This type of love tends to be
In cultures in which arranged marriages more common at the outset of a
are common, relationships often begin relationship. People in this state of love
as empty love. tend to experience very powerful
d) Romantic love (passion + intimacy): feelings for each other.
lovers are bonded emotionally (as in
liking) and physically through passionate Romantic love also comes in two
arousal. These couples may be at the different forms.
point where long-term commitment or
future plans are still undecided. Requited love occurs when the
e) Companionate love (intimacy + two individuals share mutual
commitment) is often found in marriages attraction and feelings for one
another.
in which the passion has gone out of the
Unrequited love (one-sided love)
relationship, but a deep affection and is love that is not openly
commitment remain. Companionate love reciprocated or understood as
is generally a personal relation you build such by the beloved.
with somebody you share your life with,
but with no sexual or physical desire. b) Companionate love is characterized by
It is stronger than friendship because of intense intimacy - emotional closeness -
the extra element of commitment. The which is also characterized of liking.
love ideally shared between family People who are in compassionate love
members is a form of companionate still feel passionate about one another,
love, as is the love between deep but the intensity typically feels less
friends or those who spend a lot of time overwhelming and urgent. This type of
together in any asexual but friendly love involves caring deeply for the other
relationship. person, truly knowing the other
f) Fatuous love (passion + commitment) individual, and is committed to the other
person through both good times and
can be exemplified by a whirlwind
bad.
courtship and marriage in which a
commitment is motivated largely by
passion, without the stabilizing influence
of intimacy.
g) Consummate love (passion + intimacy
+ commitment) is the complete form of
5. Love Languages
love, representing the ideal relationship Gary Chapman, a world renowned author, suggested
toward which many people strive but that people have various ways trough which we give and
receive love. He referred to these unique ways as love
which apparently few achieve.
languages. Chapman posited that there are generally
Sternberg cautions that maintaining a
five love languages namely;
a) "Words of affirmation" is about
expressing affection through spoken
words, praise, or appreciation. When
this is someone's primary love language,
they enjoy kind words and
encouragement, uplifting quotes, love
notes, and cute text messages. You can
make this person's day by
complimenting them or pointing out what
they do well.
b) Physical touch as a love language is a
non-verbal way of showing love (uses
body language and touch). A person
1. Acquaintance
Intimate human relationships start in acquaintance. We
meet up through circumstances and first learn about the
basic information about one another.
2. Buildup
Some acquaintances build up into deeper relationships.
Frequency of interaction increases. Kinds of activities
share become diverse. The involved parties begin to
introduce one another to each other's friends and
families, thus making the social network larger and
interconnected. This is the stage when two (2) persons Humans are social beings, and interacting with and
test their boundaries. They test the waters before
connecting with others is at the heart of our nature. The
engaging fully and so committedly in the relationship.
concept of love, an experience so abstract yet so
meaningful to many people, is central to understanding
human relationships. However, love is diversely defined
because it appears and is experienced in various ways.
This chapter delves into the numerous ideas that explain
3. Consolidation and love and its varied forms. It also addresses the stages
that people in love and intimate relationships go through
Continuation as they advance from acquaintances to a deeper form of
This stage is when people commits to a long-term consenting partnership.
relationship with one agreement (i.e., marriage). What
makes people commit to a relationship, to the point of Reasons for the discontinuation of an intimate
legitimizing it through marriage? Often, people set relationship, as well as its eventual demise, are also
standards that are sustainable (e.g., ability of each other discussed. In general, we are all urged to reflect on our
to maintain a family or a household, readiness of each human relationships in order to forge healthy, successful,
other to raise children, career, and financial capacities). and concern ties with others.
4. Decline or Deterioration
Unfortunately, some intimate partnerships are unable to
sustain and maintain their commitment or attraction. For
one, there may be a change in priorities between the
individual couple, such that the conjoint value of the
partnership is not anymore sufficient.
5. Ending
For those intimate partnerships that are unable to
address the causes and circumstances leading to the
deterioration of their relationships, the stages culminate
in the ending or termination of the agreements made
through informal (e.g., a collective decision to end the
relationship) or formal (e.g., marriage dissolution) means.