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LBST Interview Paper
LBST Interview Paper
LBST 2301
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11/5/2023
A Good Life
What defines a “Good Life” and how does one go about living it? These are just a few of the questions I
searched for the answers to in my interview. A good life is something that can be very subjective so it is
hard to put a definite answer on either of these questions. Although it is tough to find an answer for these
questions I still decided to find out the perspective and thoughts on this topic from one individual in my
interview.
For my paper I decided to interview my mother, Tanya Hennessee. She is a follower of Christ and
a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and that if you work hard you will be rewarded. The
most important thing to her is family and she would do anything for the ones she loves. She was born in
Lexington, North Carolina, December 21st, 1973 and has lived there her entire life. Growing up in a small
town she decided to leave for college to become a veterinarian but ultimately switched to, and got a
degree in, nursing. After graduating she returned back to Lexington to be close to family and began to
work at the county health department where she has worked for the last 24 years. She has worked
tirelessly to help people as much as she can and she is an amazing person who has given so much of her
own time to help other people who she does not even know.
Over the time between her college graduation and the present day she met and married my father,
had me and my older brother, divorced my father and then met and married my step father with whom she
has been married to for the past 12 years. During my time growing up, especially during the time between
her and my fathers divorce and the marriage of her and my step father, my mother had sacrificed
everything in her own life to make sure me and my brother were taken care of. I never noticed it at the
time because I was a child but when I look back I realize everything she has done for the two of us.
Waking up at five in the morning everyday to get ready for work herself, then wake me and my brother
up, get us ready for school, go to work for nine hours, come home, make dinner, clean the house, take
care of animals, help my grandparents, help with homework and everything else that needed to be done
just to go to bed and do the same thing the next day. She sacrificed friendships, a social life, romantic
relationships and many other things that I am sure she would have loved to have done or experienced but
she did it to help her family and the ones she loves. After giving all of this up she still tells us how happy
she is and that she would not have changed anything so I knew she would be perfect for an interview on
this topic.
During the interview I asked my mother the following questions and she gave the corresponding
answers:
“ To me a good life is one that has balance between work, family, personal, physical, and
spiritual. I believe you need to have an inner peace with yourself where you can have those quiet times to
really connect with your inner thoughts and your own personal relationship with God. I think you also
need to have those close family relationships where you have support and can offer that to others, but also
“ I think you live day by day. There are some things that need to be planned out like big
vacations, etc. because we all need things to look forward to, but we need to live day by day. Appreciate
“I think this depends on the person. I think happiness is what makes the individual feel good
about themselves and where they are in life with other people as well as themselves. As far as being
understood, I think it is all in how people express it. Everyone is different so everyone will understand or
comprehend it in a different way. I think in general most would agree happiness would generate an overall
“My best experiences were probably the birth of my children. Just realizing I had a part in
bringing them into the world was a miracle. Looking in their face and holding them the first time, in my
opinion, would be the happiest experience I could ever imagine. My worst experience would probably be
having to care for people in the medical field that were given detrimental news like a miscarriage or
diagnosed with cancer. Watching their family go through the stress and emotions while caring for them
and at times losing them was very difficult. It makes you really appreciate things in life.”
“If I could add anything right now, I would probably add more time for my family. My parents
are getting older and need more assistance at times. It would be nice to help them. It would also be nice to
“In some ways I wish I had stayed in Veterinary Science and became a Veterinarian. But, for the
“I figured I would live near my family for the most part, even though we would like to eventually
move to the mountains. I didn’t see myself in public health per se but it has been good for my family over
the years.”
“I would go back to my university college graduation event. I skipped it to go to the beach and
“I would say to live day by day. Don’t stress stuff down the road because it won’t change things
and stress and the work will be there every day. Work hard. Anything worth having is worth working for.
Stand up for yourself but don’t be afraid to admit when you're wrong. Be humble but stand up for what’s
right.”
Throughout my interview with my mother I noticed that many of the things she said aligned with
some of the main points in “The Happiness Hypothesis” by Jonathan Haidt. A few of the points that Haidt
writes about in his book and my mother also talked about in her interview is reciprocity, social
connections and relationships, and the role of religion in someone's happiness. In chapter three of his
book Haidt discusses reciprocity and humans benign ultrasocial creatures. Haidt writes that “people
experienced longer lasting improvements in mood from the kindness and gratitude activities than from
those in which they indulged themselves”'(Happiness Hypothesis pg. 97). This represents the main basis
of reciprocity which is that human beings tend to treat others the way they either want to be treated or the
way they are treated. I think that my mother displayed this concept in the interview, caring for many
people that she does not know at all and always trying to do what is right and benefits other people even if
Another topic discussed in both Haidt's book and my interview is the topic of the value of human
relationships and connections. In chapter five Haidt discusses sources of happiness and uses the Book of
Ecclesiastes to promote the claim that money cannot buy happiness. This theme is also seen in the
responses that my mother provided in her interview. This shows that true happiness comes from
relationships with other people and experiences and not money because when I asked my mother what she
would add to her life if she could add anything she did not respond with millions of dollars. Instead she
said that she would want the ability to spend more time with her family. She also said “I think you also
need to have those close family relationships where you have support and can offer that to others” when
Another common theme between Haidt’s writings and the interview with my mother is the
importance of religion in happiness. In chapter nine of his book Haidt describes the importance religion
can play in individuals lives and when asked my mother said “I believe you need to have an inner peace
with yourself where you can have those quiet times to really connect with your inner thoughts and your
own personal relationship with God”. This shows the connection between Haidt's writings and my
mothers responses to these questions. I enjoyed being able to connect Haidt’s writings to what my mother
had to say because it showed how what he wrote wasn’t just writing but it is also philosophies and ideas
people live their lives by everyday to try and find real happiness. I found that I agree with a lot of what
both of them had to say and that happiness comes from social relationships and being able to have