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Love& Marriage
Love& Marriage
Love& Marriage
Pre-Intermediate
Intermediate
You’re expected to answer the following questions by the end of this lesson:
It’s easy to learn English. Supporting each other when things are good
Learning English is easier than what you think. and bad makes the relationship safer.
Learning >> Learn + ing Gerund = Noun Being able to handle changes in life and face
challenges together make the relationship
stronger.
Listen to the audio files below and answer the
questions below:
How long each couple is married for?
What is their secret for a long-lasting relationship?
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The importance of open communication in a healthy
relationship:
Talking openly and honestly is really important in a relationship. It means sharing your
thoughts and feelings without hiding anything. When people do this, they build trust
and understanding with each other. It's like creating a strong base for a good and lasting
relationship. When you talk openly and honestly, you can solve problems better, handle
tough times, and make decisions together. It helps partners really know each other and
builds respect and closeness.
• On the one hand, I love the freedom of being single, but on the other hand, the
idea of being married and having a family is very attractive.
• On the one hand, I'd like a job that pays more, but on the other hand, I enjoy
the work I’m doing at the moment.
• On the one hand they'd love to have kids, but on the other, they don't want to
give up their freedom.
Trust is like the glue that holds a marriage together!
It's super important because it creates a strong foundation for a healthy and lasting
relationship. When you trust your partner, it means you believe in their honesty, and
dependability. This belief makes you feel secure and confident in the connection you
share. In a marriage, trust allows both partners to be open with each other and share
their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment. It builds a sense of
dependability, knowing that you can count on your partner to always be there for
you. Without trust, misunderstandings can happen, and the foundation of the
marriage may weaken. So, trust is not just about believing in your partner but also
about creating a safe environment where the relationship can grow and be successful.
A strong foundation: The foundation of something such as a belief or way of life is the things on which it is
based.
Lasting: continuing to exist for a long time or for ever
Dependability: the quality of being able to be trusted and being very likely to do what people expect
To count on sb: to depend on sb
To weaken: to make sth weaker
Abdel Kader Al Ahmar, 56 (Algeria) and Natalie, 52 (France) explain the secrets of a
successful cross-cultural marriage:
to get married: this talks about the time two people got married. It makes us think of the
wedding.
• Are you getting married?
to get married to (someone): We think of who was married in the wedding. Do not say I got
married with someone. It is incorrect.
• We got married to each other 5 years ago in Korea.
to be married: This means a state of being. Are you married or are you single?
• Are you married? Oh, you’re not?! I though you guys were married to each other.
to be married (to someone): Also state of being.
• I’ve been married to my husband for 10 years.
to marry (someone): this is the general verb. It is the time when people come together as
husband and wife. Do not say I married with someone. It is not correct. And do not say I
married to someone.
• He’s marrying his girlfriend of 8 years.
• Will you marry me?
• I married him 10 years ago.
Fill in the blanks:
1. Is Jim single or married? He
2. Who did he marry? He Susan.
3. Where did he get married? He London.
4. Is Anna single? No, she
5. Who is Anna married to? She Juan.
6. What is Jolene going to do this Saturday? She is going to Mike.
7. When did you parents each other?
8. How long have you two been ?
Thinking about getting married?
Here's some advice to consider. First and foremost, make sure you and your
partner can communicate openly and honestly. Discuss your feelings, plans, and
any worries you might have. Take the time to really understand each other. Know
your partner's values, goals, and expectations. When disagreements happen, and
they will, deal with them with respect and work together to find solutions.
Secondly, always support each other. A strong partnership means being there for your spouse during both good times
and challenges. Don't forget to keep the romance alive by regularly expressing love and appreciation for each other.
Discuss your long-term goals and plans, such as where you want to live and whether you want children. Be transparent
about money matters, discussing financial goals and how you'll manage finances together. It's also essential to have
some independence while being part of a couple. Allow each other space to follow personal interests and grow
individually. Get advice from trusted sources if needed, and always celebrate each other's achievements and successes.
Remember, a successful marriage is built on love, respect, and a willingness to grow together.
To discuss: to talk about
Expectation: the feeling of expecting sth to happen
Appreciation: showing that you are grateful for something that person has done
Transparent: open and honest, without secrets
Essential: important, necessary, needed
Achievement: something very good and difficult that you have succeeded in doing
Listen to the audio file and write down the
four habits that the speaker is explaining.
Here are a few extra examples with the words we learned in this lesson:
1. Tough times may need extra effort and commitment to get through.
2. Find enjoyable activities to build respect and build trust in your relationships.
3. Always express your feelings to have a chance to strengthen your friendships.
4. Good friendships are based on a strong foundation of trust and dependability.
5. True friends are those you can count on to be there for you when you need them.
6. Both big and small moments create lasting memories that you'll cherish eventually.
7. It's nice to appreciate even the minor achievements and take the time to celebrate them.
8. In relationships, have genuine talks to discuss your expectations and understand each other.
9.Show appreciation for those who take the time to support you and be transparent about your
own feelings and thoughts.
10.Expectation can sometimes lead to disappointment, so it's important to be transparent and
set realistic goals.
Intermediate
Till death do us part…
All romantic relationships go through ups and downs, and they all take work,
commitment, and a willingness to adapt and change with your partner. But whether
your relationship is just starting out or you’ve been together for years, there are steps
you can take to build a healthy relationship. Successful relationships have a few
important things that make them work well.
First, talking openly and really listening to each other are crucial. This helps build trust, which means you can rely on and
believe in each other. Another big thing is having similar values and goals, which is like having common ground to build
on. Spending good time together, whether doing things or talking, makes the connection stronger. Supporting each other
in good times and bad makes the relationship more secure. Finding solutions together when there are problems is also
crucial. Being emotionally close, which means sharing feelings, is like adding a special layer to the relationship. It's also
important to give each other space to grow individually. Lastly, being able to adapt to changes in life and face challenges
together makes the relationship stronger. Every relationship is different but understanding each other and growing
together are key to making it work well.
To go through ups and downs: to experience both positive and negative aspects in a situation, relationship, or
life in general.
To take a step to do sth: to start an action
To build trust: to develop trust
To have common ground to build on: to have shared interests, beliefs and opinions to make something work
Is love enough?
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship
It goes without saying that communication is vital in any relationship. Without
communication, most relationships fail to work. Communication is not only vital
for growth, but it’s also essential for building a long-lasting and fulfilling
relationship. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship
Communication allows you to effectively share feelings, opinions and
expectations. Many people fail to communicate due to a fear of rejection or the
fear that they’ll end up upsetting or even losing their partner, family members or
friends.
If you’re a sports fan, you know the feeling of wanting to win. When you’re faced
with a challenge, you not only want to overcome that challenge, but also want
to show that you are the winner in that competition (1). That mindset is great
for sports, but for relationships, it’s not successful. Couples that learn how to
resolve their conflicts rather than try to win (2) arguments are more likely to
have successful relationships than partners who try to “beat” each other. Because
no matter how strongly you want to prove that you are right during an argument,
or how much you want to get your way, when one partner wins, both partners
lose.
Fight to Resolve, Not to Win!!
Instead, look to resolve conflicts. Communicate about what you both need from
To resolve conflicts: to solve problems each other, make personal sacrifices if necessary, and see how you can move
Sacrifice: to give up something that is forward without worrying about who wins and who loses. You’ll find that the
valuable to you to help another person outcome of the argument is much better for you and your relationship in the
Outcome: result
future.
Side Note 1: Side Note 2:
• You not only want to overcome that challenge, but also • Couples that learn how to resolve their conflicts rather
want to show that you are the winner in that competition. than try to win arguments are more likely to have
successful relationships
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