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5 - How To End Your Fears
5 - How To End Your Fears
This doesn’t mean that all fears are bad or negative. Throughout
human history, fear has helped humankind to survive and evolve.
Cavemen were afraid of dinosaurs because of the harm they
could cause; therefore, cavemen avoided them as much as
possible and devised weapons to try to defend themselves when
a confrontation couldn’t be avoided. Today, humans are fearful of
volcanoes, hurricanes, tornadoes, and earthquakes because of
the devastation they can do and the loss of human life that can
result from these natural disasters. As a result of that fear,
humans have devised early detection methods, communication
systems, and evacuation strategies in an effort to try to minimize
the damage and prevent the loss of human life. Therefore, fear
can help humankind be better.
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reaching our inner greatness. This is why we must find a way to
overcome our fears and not let them stand in the way of our
greatness and our best possible potential.
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we won’t achieve as much as we are expected to. This constant
fear comes from the fact that we want to belong, we want to be
accepted by others for who we are and what we do. When we fail
to live up to those expectations (such as making mistakes), we
fear rejection by others and isolation by others as a result.
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goals. It’s harder to accomplish great things when we are always
fearful of what other people think of us. It’s harder to achieve our
inner greatness and have the most satisfying and fulfilling life
possible.
Knowing and understanding your fear can help you to learn why
you have this fear, as well as rationalize a way to end the fear. If
you are afraid of public speaking, you may wish to take some
communication courses that allow you to make speeches in front
of a small group in order to gain more confidence in public
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speaking so you can do it in front of larger groups and in more
critical situations. If you are afraid of making mistakes, rationalize
that making mistakes actually helps you to learn how to improve
yourself as an individual. Virtually no invention or discovery was
found the first time the creator tried to find it; he/she had to go
through many tests and tries (i.e. mistakes or failures) before
finding the invention or discovery. This is further proof that
mistakes are not bad in themselves, unlike what society often tells
us, but only if we learn from them and learn to improve ourselves
by analyzing them and learning how to avoid similar mistakes in
the future.
In fact, when you have a fear, attempt to see the fear in a positive
light. For instance, if you fear public speaking, instead of fearing
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you’re going to make a mistake and do poorly at it, focus on the
idea that you’re going to speak well and that the speech will be a
success. Many say that thinking positively leads to positive
results. Oftentimes, when we think something is going to happen,
it most often does. Therefore, if we think we’re going to speak
poorly and make mistakes, chances are high that we are going to
find a way to make it happen. However, if we are confident in the
material we plan to speak on and think positively and confidently
about the speech we’re going to make, chances are high that the
speech will go well.
A family member or close friend can reassure you when you are
fearful of something that you can overcome the fear and do great
things. For instance, if you are fearful of speaking in front of a
crowd, he/she can help you to become more confident at public
speaking by helping you with your speech and giving advice on
making it better. Many times, a family member or close friend can
see how our fear forms and why it’s something that should not
stand in our way of our goals, as they may reassure us that we
are stronger and better in the task we fear than we think. They
can often rationally see our strengths and our abilities better than
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we can; where we fear ourselves as being a poor public speaker,
they can show us that we are much better than we think and point
to past examples where we have spoken well in front of large
groups.
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us sort out why we are having this fear and develop a plan to
overcome this fear.
Another noted method that can help you overcome fear is the
Sedona Method. The Sedona Method involves you asking
yourself a few simple questions while you focus on your fear.
This can help to reduce and eliminate the power that the fear has
over you. Another similar method to The Sedona Method in that
you ask questions while focusing on your fear is known as The
Work.
While this method doesn’t work for everyone dealing with fears,
undergoing hypnosis is another option. Programming the right
thoughts into your mind and eliminating negative thoughts and
beliefs can help you find a way to overcome your fears and not let
them hamper your focus, work, and efforts to achieve your goals
and your best possible potential.
As you can see, there are many ways to overcome fears, which
are unpleasant emotions caused by the belief that someone or
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something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. Fears
are something we do not like to experience because they make
us uncomfortable and cause us to lose focus in what we are
doing, making us less efficient and effective in our everyday lives.
While fear has helped humankind to evolve and become better, it
can often lead to paralysis for us and avoiding to do the
necessary tasks we need to do in order to achieve our goals and
find our inner greatness.
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To rid ourselves of fear and to enable us to regain our focus and
efficiency, we need to see the fear in a positive light. We need to
think positively instead of negatively when we think about a fear.
If we fear public speaking, instead of thinking we’re going to do
badly, think that the speech will be a success.
It often helps to get the fear out in the open. Talking about it with
friends/family and/or writing about it and any associated thoughts
in a journal/diary can help us to learn why we have that fear and
find a way to overcome it.
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