MARRIAGE

MATTERS

MARCH 2021
online Workshop
Surah al-a’raf (7:188)

‫�ُ ۚ َوﻟَ ْو‬ ‫ﺿ �را ِإ ﱠﻻ َﻣﺎ ﺷَﺎ َء ﱠ‬ َ ‫ﻻ‬ َ ‫و‬ َ ‫ﺎ‬ ً ‫ﻌ‬ ‫ﻔ‬ ْ َ ‫ﻧ‬ ‫ﻲ‬ ‫ﺳ‬
ِ ْ
‫ﻔ‬ َ ‫ﻧ‬ ‫ﻟ‬
ِ ُ
‫ك‬ ‫ﻠ‬
ِ ‫ﻣ‬ ْ َ ‫أ‬ ‫ﱠ‬
‫ﻻ‬ ‫ل‬ُ ‫ﻗ‬
‫ﻲ‬َ ‫ﻧ‬
ِ ‫ﺳ‬
‫ﱠ‬ ‫ﻣ‬
َ ‫ﺎ‬ ‫ﻣ‬
َ ‫و‬
َ ‫ْر‬
ِ ‫ﯾ‬ َ
‫ﺧ‬ ْ
‫اﻟ‬ ‫ن‬َ ‫ﻣ‬
ِ ‫ت‬ُ ‫ر‬
ْ َ ‫ﺛ‬ ْ
‫ﻛ‬ َ ‫ﺗ‬ ‫ﺳ‬ْ ‫ﻻ‬ َ ‫ْب‬
َ ‫ﯾ‬ َ ‫ﻐ‬ ْ
‫اﻟ‬ ‫م‬
ُ َ ‫ﻠ‬‫ﻋ‬ْ َ ‫أ‬ ُ
‫ﻧت‬ ُ
‫ﻛ‬
َ ُ‫ﯾر ِﻟّﻘَ ْو ٍم ﯾُؤْ ِﻣﻧ‬
‫ون‬ ‫ﺷ‬ ِ
ٌ َ َ ٌ ‫ﺑ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﯾر‬ ‫ذ‬
ِ َ ‫ﻧ‬ ‫ﻻ‬ ‫ﱠ‬ ‫إ‬ ‫َﺎ‬ ‫ﻧ‬َ
ِ ‫ﺳو ُء ۚ ِإ ْن أ‬ ‫اﻟ ﱡ‬
Say, “I have no power to benefit or protect myself, except by the Will
of Allah. If I had known the unknown, I would have benefited myself
enormously, and no harm would have ever touched me. I am only a
warner and deliverer of good news for those who believe.”
Surah al-a’raf (7:189)

ِ ‫ُھ َو اﻟﱠ ِذي َﺧﻠَﻘَ ُﻛم ِ ّﻣن ﻧﱠ ْﻔ ٍس َو‬

‫اﺣ َدةٍ َو َﺟﻌَ َل ِﻣ ْﻧ َﮭﺎ زَ ْو َﺟ َﮭﺎ ِﻟﯾَ ْﺳ ُﻛ َن‬
‫ت ِﺑ ِﮫ ۖ ﻓَﻠَ ﱠﻣﺎ أَﺛْﻘَﻠَت‬ْ ‫ت َﺣ ْﻣ ًﻼ َﺧ ِﻔﯾﻔًﺎ ﻓَ َﻣ ﱠر‬ ْ َ‫ﺷﺎ َھﺎ َﺣ َﻣﻠ‬ ‫ِإﻟَ ْﯾ َﮭﺎ ۖ ﻓَﻠَ ﱠﻣﺎ ﺗَﻐَ ﱠ‬
‫ﯾن‬
َ ‫ﺷﺎ ِﻛ ِر‬ ‫ﺻﺎ ِﻟ ًﺣﺎ ﻟﱠﻧَ ُﻛوﻧ ﱠَن ِﻣ َن اﻟ ﱠ‬
َ ‫� َرﺑﱠ ُﮭ َﻣﺎ ﻟَﺋِ ْن آﺗ َ ْﯾﺗَﻧَﺎ‬
َ ‫ﻋ َوا ﱠ‬ َ ‫ﱠد‬
He is the One Who created you from a single soul, then from it
made its spouse so he may find comfort in her. After he had been
united with her, she carried a light burden that developed
gradually. When it grew heavy, they prayed to Allah, their Lord,
“If you grant us good offspring, we will certainly be grateful.”
Surah al-a’raf (7:190)

‫ﺷ َر َﻛﺎ َء ﻓِﯾ َﻣﺎ آﺗَﺎ ُھ َﻣﺎ ۚ ﻓَﺗَﻌَﺎﻟَﻰ‬

ُ ُ‫ﺻﺎ ِﻟ ًﺣﺎ َﺟﻌَ َﻼ ﻟَﮫ‬
َ ‫ﻓَﻠَ ﱠﻣﺎ آﺗَﺎ ُھ َﻣﺎ‬
َ ‫ﻋ ﱠﻣﺎ ﯾُ ْﺷ ِر ُﻛ‬
‫ون‬ َ ُ� ‫ﱠ‬
But when He granted their descendants good offspring,
they associated false gods in what He has given them.
Exalted is Allah above what they associate ˹with Him˺!
Surah al-a’raf (7:191)

َ ُ‫ﺷ ْﯾﺋًﺎ َو ُھ ْم ﯾُ ْﺧﻠَﻘ‬

‫ون‬ َ ‫أَﯾُ ْﺷ ِر ُﻛ‬
َ ‫ون َﻣﺎ َﻻ ﯾَ ْﺧﻠُ ُﻖ‬

Do they associate ˹with Allah˺ those ˹idols˺ which cannot

create anything, but are in fact created;
Surah al-a’raf (7:192)

‫ون‬
َ ‫ﺻ ُر‬ َُ ‫ﺻ ًرا َو َﻻ أ َﻧﻔ‬
ُ ‫ﺳ ُﮭ ْم ﯾَﻧ‬ ْ َ‫ون ﻟَ ُﮭ ْم ﻧ‬
َ ُ‫َو َﻻ ﯾَ ْﺳﺗ َ ِطﯾﻌ‬

which cannot help them, or even help themselves?

Surah al-a’raf (7:193)

‫ﻋﻠَ ْﯾ ُﻛ ْم‬ ‫ء‬‫ا‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳ‬ ۚ ‫م‬ ُ

‫ﻛ‬
َ ٌ ََ ْ ُ ِ َ ‫و‬ ‫ﻌ‬ ‫ﺑ‬‫ﱠ‬ ‫ﺗ‬ ‫ﯾ‬ ‫ﻻ‬ َ ‫ى‬ ‫د‬
َ ‫ﮭ‬ ْ
ٰ ُ ‫ﻋو ُھ ْم ِإﻟَﻰ‬
‫اﻟ‬ ُ ‫َو ِإن ﺗ َ ْد‬
َ ُ ‫ﺎﻣﺗ‬
‫ون‬ ِ ‫ﺻ‬ ُ
َ ْ ْ ْ ُ َْ ‫أ‬
‫م‬ ‫ﺗ‬ ‫ﻧ‬َ ‫أ‬ ‫م‬َ ‫أ‬ ‫م‬ ُ
‫ھ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣ‬ُ ‫ﺗ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻋ‬‫د‬َ َ
And if you ˹idolaters˺ call upon them for guidance, they
cannot respond to you. It is all the same whether you call
them or remain silent.
Surah al-a’raf (7:194)

ُ ‫� ِﻋﺑَﺎ ٌد أ َ ْﻣﺛَﺎﻟُ ُﻛ ْم ۖ ﻓَﺎ ْد‬

‫ﻋو ُھ ْم‬ ِ ‫ُون ﱠ‬
ِ ‫د‬ ‫ن‬ ‫ﻣ‬ ِ ‫ون‬َ ‫ﻋ‬
ُ ‫د‬ ْ َ ‫ﺗ‬ ‫ﯾن‬
َ ‫ذ‬
ِ ‫ﱠ‬ ‫ِإ ﱠن اﻟ‬
‫ﯾن‬
َ ‫ﺻﺎ ِد ِﻗ‬ َ ْ ‫م‬ ُ ‫ﺗ‬ ‫ﻧ‬ ُ
‫ﻛ‬ ‫ن‬‫إ‬
ِ ْ ‫م‬‫ﻛ‬ُ َ ‫ﻟ‬ ‫وا‬ُ ‫ﺑ‬ ‫ﯾ‬ ‫ﺟ‬
ِ َ ‫ﺗ‬ ‫ﺳ‬
ْ َ ‫ﯾ‬ ْ
‫ﻠ‬ َ‫ﻓ‬
Those ˹idols˺ you invoke besides Allah are created beings
like yourselves. So call upon them and see if they will
answer you, if your claims are true!
• Marriage counselling
• Business disputes
• Family Issues
• Talaaq
• Islamic Finance
• Khula’
• Contracts
• Inheritance matters
HOUSE RULES
• No recording
• Please arrive on time
• Ask question in Q&A or raise hands
• Attend live
• Interact 
schedule
• Thursday 11th Mar: 8pm (Brothers & Sisters)
• Thursday 18th Mar: 8pm (SISTERS ONLY)
• Friday 19th Mar: 8pm (BROTHERS ONLY)
• Thursday 25th Mar: 8pm (Brothers & Sisters)
• Thursday 1st Apr: 7pm (Brothers & Sisters)
SECTION 1

Effects
Of
maqasid
EFFECTS OF MAQASID
In this section, you will be employing a reflective model to think about your aims behind marriage.
This model contains five types of question that lead on, one from another:
1. What?
2. So what?
3. Then what?
4. What if?
5. Now what?
We will take the first three together and the last two are for you to think about after today’s
workshop. It is a personal activity and its significance will be explained and should become apparent
towards the end of the session.
YOU AND YOUR AIMS (PART1)

What are your aims

for marriage?
YOU AND YOUR AIMS (PART 1)

What do these
aims mean?
YOU AND YOUR AIMS (PART 1)

What are the

consequences of having
these aims upon your
conduct and behaviour?
The Sunnah of Zawjiya in Creation
• Allah ‫ ﷻ‬created this universe and placed within it many
universal laws and patterns [sunan]
• One of these is the sunnah of zawjiya: pairings
• This sunnah is not specific to one particular kind but to
all of His creation
• Allah ‫ ﷻ‬mentions this sunnah in many āyāt:
The Sunnah of Zawjiya in Creation

ُ ‫ت ٱ ۡﻷ َ ۡر‬
َ ‫ض َو ِﻣ ۡن أَﻧﻔُ ِﺳ ِﮭ ۡم َو ِﻣ ﱠﻣﺎ َﻻ ﯾَﻌۡ ﻠَ ُﻣ‬
‫ون‬ ُ ‫ﺳ ۡﺑ ٰ َﺣ َن ٱﻟﱠ ِذي َﺧﻠَﻖَ ۡٱﻷ َ ۡز ٰ َو َج ُﻛﻠﱠ َﮭﺎ ِﻣ ﱠﻣﺎ ﺗ ُ ۢﻧ ِﺑ‬
ُ

Exalted is He who created all pairs - from what the earth grows and from
themselves and from that which they do not know
(Sūrah Yāsīn (36):36)
The Sunnah of Zawjiya in Creation

َ ‫َو ِﻣن ُﻛ ِّل ﺷ َۡﻲ ٍء َﺧﻠَ ۡﻘﻧَﺎ زَ ۡو َﺟ ۡﯾ ِن ﻟَﻌَﻠﱠ ُﻛ ۡم ﺗَذَ ﱠﻛ ُر‬

‫ون‬
And of all things We created two mates; perhaps you will remember
(Sūrah al-Dhāriyātʾ, 51:49)
Ibn Kathīr (774H) commentates:
(And of all things We created two mates) meaning, all of creation are formed of pairs:
the sky and the earth; night and day; the sun and the moon; land and sea; light and
darkness; faith and disbelief; death and life; misery and happiness; and Paradise and
Hellfire, even the animals and vegetation.
(perhaps you will remember) i.e., so that you know the Creator is One, without any
partner.
(Tafsīr al-Qurʾān al-ʿAẓīm)
The Sunnah of Zawjiya in Creation

‫ٱﻟز ۡو َﺟ ۡﯾ ِن ٱﻟذﱠ َﻛ َر َو ۡٱﻷ ُﻧﺛ َ ٰﻰ‬

‫َوأَﻧﱠﮫُۥ َﺧﻠَﻖَ ﱠ‬

And that He creates the two mates - the male and female

(Sūrah al-Najm, 53:45)

Status & Significance of Marriage in the Qur’an

After the covenant binding the slave to his Lord, there is

no more significant and impactful covenant than the
one the binds the husband and wife to each other
Given the importance and implications of this contract,
Allah ‫ ﷻ‬addressed its rulings and etiquettes extensively.
Status & Significance of Marriage in the Qur’an

• This marriage covenant which binds the spouses is described in the

Qur’an as being ghaliz
• Allah ‫ ﷻ‬instructs and encourages marriage
• He discusses the marriage proposal
• Those who are forbidden to be married
• Multiple Wives
• The rights and responsibilities that come into effect
• Good living and conduct
• Forbids ill treatment and disobedience
• Encourages reconciliation when there is conflict
Aims of Marriage

• Religious
• Social & Familial
• Sensual & Sexual
• Biological
Key Outcomes
1. Determine what the aims of marriage are
2. Remind yourself of the aims and their importance
3. Measure your aims against those the Shari’ah have stated
4. Gain perspective and new understandings on the bigger picture behind marriage
5. Clarify your assumptions and beliefs around aims
6. Promote a positive sense of self-awareness and self-confidence
7. Focus on a philosophy of continuous growth and improvement
8. Adopt a better response and course of action or reaction to the challenges of marital life
9. Support longevity of your marital relationship
10. Develop a clear rationale for actions and approaches
11. Take informed action
You and Your Aims (Part 2)
• What if you were to change your aims? Would
there be any changes to what they are now? What
would those changes be?

• What can you do now to make your aims (new or

old) attainable?