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A Guide To Blowing
BY Kate Spring Her Mind In Bed
 So, you’ve done your homework, you’ve taken it slow. You got the girl
– and you know she’s into you. You’ve played it patiently, and taken
each step one by one until you can almost see the electricity in the air
between you. The tension has been building for a while now. The time
for your first sexual encounter is so close you can taste it.

The date has been made, the stage has been set. You both know
what’s going to happen and when. No matter what, you’re not going
to mess this up. The way she looks at you, her body language – it’s all
quite plain to see. And, of course, you reciprocate those feelings too.
But … to be absolutely certain that you’re going to blow her mind, you
might need a little help that only another woman can give you.

Why get advice from another

woman other than the object of
your desire?
It’s simple, really. You don’t want to be asking directions on the way
to the big show, do you? And do you really trust your guy friends to
give you something you can use?

Face it, guys like to talk. And sometimes, it’s just that: talk. Do they
really know how to please a woman, or have they just convinced
themselves that they do? In reality, you’ll never know. And you don’t
really want to be trying out something you’re not sure about on your
new girl – not unless you have it on good authority that it really,
really works!

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What women really want
What women really want is not so dissimilar to what you want. They want to be
excited, they want to be desired, they want to be worshiped in bed, and despite what
they say – they want to be satisfied, just like you. It absolutely does matter!

While every woman has different appetites, different preferences, and different tastes,
there is one thing (okay, maybe two or three things) they all have in common: the
places on her body that give her pleasure. Over the long term, you will probably learn
more specifically what they like and how they like it, but knowing what really works is
a great place to start.

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 A couple of tips before you get
started
A little anxiety is normal. You might be tempted to calm your
nerves with alcohol or maybe something a little stronger, but this
is probably the worst thing you can do! Alcohol is a depressant
and for many men, it causes them to either lose their erection, lose
sensation, lose interest, or lose their stamina during sex.

Drugs can be even more unpredictable, so you should avoid them

completely. You should show up to this occasion with the full force
of your vitality. That way, you’ll be completely in the moment when
the magic happens.

Save that awesome bottle of wine for after.

Sex tip #1: Foreplay, and how to do it right

You’ve probably heard this a thousand different times before, but
foreplay is 90% of arousal. Done right, she will be begging for it –
maybe even before you’re ready to give it!

In just about every sex study imaginable, most say that they would
prefer if their men spent more time on foreplay. Foreplay heightens
a woman’s sexual arousal and makes her produce more vaginal
lubrication, which is the key to great sex.

Foreplay takes on many different aspects but first and foremost, it’s
got to include kissing. Kissing is one of the most intimate acts you
can do together that isn’t sex. It can even be hotter than sex if you
approach it the right way.

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 Are you a good kisser? You’ll know pretty quickly based on how
she responds. Chances are, you’ve already kissed or made out a
little, so start there. Start slowly, and pay close attention to how she
responds. Let your mouth wander, but only as she allows. You’ll
begin to notice the areas she likes to be kissed the most by the way
she melts into your kiss, the intensity she gives back to you, and
certain other indicators, like:

Notice the sounds she makes: if your kisses are getting her hot, you’ll
hear her breath quicken and she may moan in pleasure.

BUT not every woman makes sounds during sex, so you should be
aware of the other signs of arousal, too. Some are physiological and
some are more subtle:

Her heart rate will quicken. Her breathing will become shallow. Her
body temperature may rise and she may become flushed. She may
get goosebumps. Her pupils will dilate. Her nipples will get hard.
And your job is to keep going.

Kiss her neck softly. Whisper her name softly into her ears and let
her hear you breathing. Knowing that you are turned on by this is
a turn-on in itself. Don’t be afraid to use your teeth, but be gentle.
While some women like love-bites, there is nothing worse than one
that leaves a mark on their skin. Simply feeling your teeth gently
nibbling at their earlobe or on their neck is enough to drive some
women wild.

Keep your lips above the shoulders for a while, but use your hands
for emphasis.

For instance: While you are kissing her, take her head in both your
hands. Hold the back of her head, entwine your fingers in her hair

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 and gently push her into your kiss. If it starts to get intense, wrap a
lock of her hair around your fingers and pull it ever so slightly.

Every new thing that you try, notice how she is responding before
you move on to the next. Remember the things she likes the best
and try to spend more time there. Always hold a little back, no
matter how much you want to take it all the way. The hotter she is,
the hotter the sex is going to be for both of you, guaranteed!

Hot tip: Always start slowly to see if she likes what you’re
doing before becoming too forceful. In the initial stages of
your relationship there may still be some bridges you will have
to cross and you don’t want to step over any lines or push it
too far.

The touch: spend enough time kissing, touching, caressing, and

exploring her face, her neck, and her shoulders before moving down
to discover the rest of her body. Always touch gently until you know
how she wants it. If you have done a great job with kissing, she will
no doubt tell you – or show you – how she wants to be touched.
Always listen to her needs first and you will never be disappointed.
Perfecting your foreplay kissing style will send a clear message –
that you want her – and that is what she really needs to know.

Your hands should caress her body as if you are trying to

communicate with her through your touch. Notice her skin, how soft
it is. Use your sense of smell to breathe her in as you explore her
body with your hands:

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 Her breasts: the nipples are where she has the most sensation. You
can make them hard simply by blowing on them, by brushing them
with your hand, or by pinching them gently between your thumb
and forefinger. Use your hands, use your mouth, your lips, your
tongue to tease her.

Undress her: when removing her clothes, undress her slowly,

like you are unwrapping a present, slowly revealing what’s
beneath. Undressing should be a seduction and it should
involve much more than simply taking her clothes off. Notice
every part of her as you slowly and methodically remove her
clothes. Seeing your desire and appreciation is a huge turn-on
and should never be rushed.

At this stage, you should follow every touch of your hands with your
lips, building anticipation as you go. This will lead you easily into
the next phase of your lovemaking.

How long should you spend on foreplay?

Many men wonder “how long” they should spend on foreplay, but if
you’re doing it right, the answer should be evident. Spend as much
time as you can, as much as she can handle before moving on to
the next thing that’s going to blow her mind. This might take ten
minutes, it might be 30 minutes or even an hour. You should be
enjoying how much pleasure she is getting out of it, so ditch the
timer and just go by how she feels. If you are fully engaged in the
process, you probably won’t notice the time.

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Sex Tip #2: Oral Sex
Once you have covered every inch of skin with your lips, your hands, and your tongue,
now it’s time to really light her fire. If you don’t have a lot of experience performing
oral sex on a woman, don’t sweat it. Once you master a few key moves you’ll have her
in the palm of your hand.

A woman’s genitalia may seem complex, but it’s not. There are certain areas that have
more sensation than others and this is where you will want to pay most attention.
However, too much attention or attention of the wrong kind is unpleasant, so let’s get
down to the nitty-gritty.

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 You’ve probably all heard about “the man in the boat”, right? This
is how some people describe the vagina, vulva, and clitoris. If the
vagina is the boat, the vulva is the sides of the boat, and the clitoris
is the little man sitting in the boat.

A word about lubrication

Touching any of these areas with your fingers or your tongue is
going to get an immediate response – but – if there is no lubrication,
you might be in for a difficult time. If you have thoroughly seduced
your lover with a long, sexy foreplay session, she should be well-
lubricated. However, some women have trouble with lubrication
for various reasons – some medications dry out bodily fluids, and
hormonal changes (such as in older women) might slow down the
lubricating process.

If this is the case, trying to have any kind of sex, even touching and
oral sex can be painful or uncomfortable. To help matters along,
you might want to use an intimate lubricant to make the process
more pleasurable. There are many different types of lube available,
some that heat up a little or make the skin tingle with contact, some
are even flavored. Once you get to know each other better you can
experiment to see what works for the two of you.

Getting started
Start with your fingers. Explore her gently and completely, sliding
your fingers with subtle motion over her clitoris. Don’t make the
mistake of rubbing too hard, being too rough or scratching with
your fingernails. Use your fingers, use your thumb, and make sure
she is well lubricated before you slip any fingers inside of her.

When performing oral sex on her, use your whole tongue and taste
her inside and out before you begin to focus on the “little man”. The
clitoris is the most sensitive part of her and for some women, it is

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 very easy to bring them to orgasm quickly. However, if it doesn’t
happen right away, don’t be discouraged! Take your time. Like
foreplay, it is a process that is best worked up to. Start slowly and
gently and respond to her movements.

Fully aroused, her back will arch and she will let you know how
much she is enjoying it. As you intensify your tongue movements,
gently explore her insides with your fingers. The combination is a
huge turn-on and will absolutely drive her wild!

Let her know how much what you’re doing is turning you on. Tell
her how beautiful and sexy she is, and when she seems like she’s
about to have an orgasm, pull back. Take a short break. Stop for a
moment and let her catch her breath before you begin again. By this
time, you might need a little cooling off yourself, so practice some
restraint. You don’t want to “get there” before she does!

It’s all about her

At this point, you may be wondering when it’s going to get to be
your turn. Relax, your time will come. You’re reading this because
you want to be a sex god in her eyes, right? That means you’re
going to have to be a little selfless – at least to begin with. As you
get to know each other better, she will have plenty of chances to
reciprocate and will be far more eager to do so if she knows that in
your eyes, her pleasure comes first.

Hot tip: If you always put her pleasure first, you will be a
sex god in her eyes. The intimacy and pleasure of oral sex are
unmatched and represents absolute trust between two people.
Since 75% of women cannot reach orgasm by intercourse alone,
learning how to master this area will always serve you well.

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 The G-Spot
Whether you have or have not heard about it, the second most
pleasurable part of a woman’s body is the G-Spot. It’s another way
for them to experience an orgasm and if you know where it is you
can get her there very quickly.

It’s unfortunate that many women have not had the experience of a
G-Spot orgasm and even more men tend to think it’s a myth. It’s a
difficult spot to reach on their own and fumbling around isn’t going
to get you anywhere – you need to know exactly where it is and use
it wisely!

The G-Spot is essentially the “other end” of the clitoris. Located

inside the vagina, it is at least as sensitive if not more so than the
clitoris itself. Imagine how it would feel if you could get them both
working at the same time!

Here’s how to find it – although I don’t suggest experimenting too

much, that would be awkward. You’ll either get it or you won’t and
if you do – by golly, you’ll know! So … you’ll need to curl your finger
towards you as if you’re motioning someone to “come over here”.
This means you’ll need to have your palm facing up as you slide
your fingers inside of her. About three inches up on the front wall
(belly side) of her vagina you’ll feel a little indentation. When you
curl your finger towards you (“come over here”) you should feel it
– and so should she. To give her one of the most intense orgasms
she’s ever had in her life, bring her close to orgasm with your tongue
and when things are reaching a climax, stealthily find that G-Spot
and give her an explosion of pleasure she will never forget!

Now that’s the way to do it.

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 Sex Tip #3: Doing the Deed
Okay, so maybe all of this is actually part of doing the deed, but the
two of you still haven’t had actual intercourse yet, right?

While we all know how to do it, it’s the way you do it that’s going to
leave a lasting impression.

Let’s review what we’ve learned so far:

Taking it slow and building up the excitement ramps up the
hotness and desire
Lots of kissing
Look at her, appreciate and pay attention to every part of her
The signs of arousal will be self-evident if you know what to
look for:
Rapid, shallow breathing
Dilated pupils
Audible cues (moaning)
Erect nipples
Goosebumps
Vaginal lubrication

And lastly, don’t be so quick to bring her to orgasm – building up to

the moment will intensify the sensation – and it doesn’t hurt to have
a few tricks up your sleeve!

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 Hot tip: Many women say that they prefer to have an orgasm at the same time
as the man, but that’s not always possible. The logistics of an orgasm are very
different for a man and a woman, so if you want to make sure she is completely
satisfied, make sure she comes first. After that, she will be putty in your hands.

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 Whether or not you decide to satisfy her before you have
intercourse is something you can decide together. If it’s your first
time with each other, I highly suggest going the route of making
sure she’s happy before you finish. That way, nobody can say you
were a selfish lover or that you didn’t care about her pleasure. One
thing is for sure, you will never hear a woman complaining that you
made her come first.
The act of sex itself is fairly simple, granted. But it’s all about how
you approach it that can make it memorable … or not so much.

At the outset, avoid the mindless BAM-BAM-BAM-BAM banging

away until it’s over. There is nothing more unromantic and …
clinical, if you will. Like the rest of your efforts, start slowly and work
up. There will be moments when aggressive banging will be what
you both want, but remember – this is all about what she wants, so
let her lead the way.

Notice how her body thrusts forward to meet yours and match her
intensity. Go shallow, then go deep. Be strong. Be forceful, but not
aggressive. Take control. Imagine that you possess her, body and
soul. Look into her eyes – really look at her. Look at her body, touch
her face, run your fingers over her lips and kiss her passionately as
you look deep into her eyes.

Use a variety of motion and movement and don’t be afraid to try

different positions. It’s difficult to comment on what positions
are good ones to try because everybody is different. I can say,
however, that women are better able to achieve an orgasm while
they are on top.

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 Hot tip: Use your fingers to touch her clitoris while you are
having sex. This is a super-hot move that gives some women
multiple orgasms. Oh yes, you are so all that!

And finally, let her take control if she wants to. Many women find
it a huge turn-on to be in control or even to role-play, but that’s a
discussion for another day.

Have fun ravaging each other and revisit all the techniques you
used during foreplay to intensify the experience.

Good luck!
Now … go knock it out of the park!

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