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Traditional mothering continues to receive social sanctioning while women who choose not to have
children are oftentimes ignored or criticized. Voluntarily childfree women participated in a quali-
tative investigation in which semi-structured interviews, journals, and a focus group were utilized
to capture their experience of stigmatization. Data source triangulation, member checks, and con-
sultation with a peer debriefer contributed to the authenticity of the results. Two broad themes cap-
turing reasons for the choice not to have children and five categories of stigmatization were delin-
eated from the participants’ narratives. Considerations for mental health counselors who work with
women who do not want children are offered.
Despite the growing number of women who are choosing not to have
children in the United States and abroad (Casey, 1998), current cultural
attitudes and sociopolitical practices continue to lionize traditional par-
enting while dismissing and oftentimes criticizing women who exercise
other options (Burkett, 2000). As “woman” and “mother” have become
largely synonymous, those who do not conform may experience an array
of responses that can include isolation and rejection. While both women
who desire but cannot have children and those who choose not to have
children fall outside the purview of mother, the latter are of particular
interest based on the fact that they actively choose an identity that differs
from the cultural norm.
Reasons for choosing not to have children are complex and responses
to childfree women are likely informed largely by gender role expecta-
tions. How we come to see childfree women is likely juxtaposed with how
we understand what a woman is and moreover, what she should be.
Counseling and psychology as disciplines have primarily reflected nega-
tive depictions of childfree women, as the standard for healthy adult
female development has been equated with mothering (Freud, 1949;
Ireland, 1993).
Debra Mollen, Ph.D., is assistant professor in the Department of Psychology and Philosophy
at Texas Woman’s University. E-mail: dmollen@mail.twu.edu.
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There is some research support for the notion that childfree adults are
perceived less favorably than their parenting peers. LaMastro (2001)
studied 254 undergraduate students to determine perceptions of volun-
tary and involuntary childfreedom. Participants read short passages about
married couples who had either no, one, two, or six children. Perceptions
of childfree adults were more negative compared to perceptions of par-
ents, and adults without children were ascribed poorer marital status than
couples with children and were perceived as less caring, sensitive, and
kind than parents.
Letherby (2002) studied women without children and found that invol-
untarily childfree women were typically regarded by others as desperate,
while voluntarily childfree women were “viewed as selfish and deviant
and portrayed in ways that emphasize this: as aberrant, immature, and
unfeminine” (p. 10). Similarly, Park (2002), who interviewed 24 voluntar-
ily childfree women and men, found that the overwhelming majority of
her participants reported experiencing others as seeing them as selfish,
egotistic, cold, materialistic, peculiar, and abnormal. Byrne (2000) studied
childfree single women living in Ireland and found that the women were
regularly asked about their single status, including their childfreedom.
She noted that the women were often regarded as “too selfish” to have a
child.
Much of the research on childfree women has been conducted by ask-
ing people about their perceptions regarding family size or by querying
childfree women about ways they manage stigma (see, for example,
LaMastro, 2001; Park, 2002) as opposed to explicating phenomenological
accounts of the choice not to have children and the experiences of
approval and stigma. I designed the current investigation to understand
voluntarily childfree women’s reasons for their choice, their experiences
of others’ reactions to their choice, and to provide guidelines to clinicians
in light of these experiences. The focus on women’s experiences specifi-
cally was chosen both because of the significance of the role of mothering
for women in pronatalist cultures and because of gender role implications
for women who make this choice (Eagly, Diekman, Johannesen-Schmidt,
& Koenig, 2004).
METHOD
Participants
Nine voluntarily childfree women in a Midwest state were identified by
key informants and through snowball sampling (Patton, 2002). The nine
women ranged in age from 32 to 51. All but one of the participants were
European American, with the remaining participant identifying as mul-
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PROCEDURE
I examined the reasons women choose not to have children and the
responses women receive from strangers, acquaintances, family members,
friends, and professionals in light of their choice. Approval was granted
from the Institutional Review Board prior to beginning data collection.
Participants’ narratives were collected by three methods: through a semi-
structured interview process, semi-structured journal entries, and a focus
group. Questions were created in order to capture the broad range of
experiences and reasons for the women’s decision not to have children.
Participants were provided with the list of questions before the interviews
were conducted so that they could begin thinking about childfreedom in
their lives. Interviews took place at the researcher’s home, the homes of
the participants, or the workplaces of participants depending on the par-
ticipants’ preference. Each interview lasted between 60 and 90 minutes,
was audiotaped, and was transcribed verbatim. Member checks were per-
formed to ensure accuracy and increase the validity of the study.
Participants received a copy of their transcript and provided commentary
and correction. Participants were provided with paper journals although
all but one chose instead to keep their journals in computerized forms as
Word documents and provided them to the researcher at the end of the
data collection period. All participants completed between two and six
entries in response to the six journal prompts provided.
The one-time focus group occurred after the initial period of analysis
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Note: Copies of the interview questions and journal prompts are available from the author.
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Data Analysis
Narratives were analyzed throughout the study using the grounded the-
ory approach in which themes and categories emerge from the data and
the data are reviewed continuously until they have been exhausted
(Merriam, 2001). Themes and categories were initially identified through
reviews of the verbatim transcripts and participants’ journals. Narrative
excerpts and journal segments were color coded according to the research
questions and formed the basis for the focus group questions. The data
generated by the focus group were then incorporated back into the initial
analysis and provided additional verification of themes and categories.
All narratives generated from each data collection source contributed to
the results and discussion of this study.
I used several methods of checking themes and categories in order to
provide verification of the findings. The triangulation of data sources
(Merriam, 2001) was one such measure taken to ensure the study’s valid-
ity; themes were verified by consultation with two primary individuals,
each with substantial experience with qualitative design and women’s
issues and neither of whom was voluntarily childfree herself; and emer-
gent themes were also discussed with the consultants in consideration of
the primary researcher’s choice not to have children. Finally, consultants
provided valuable aid by reading and interpreting transcripts, reviewing
and supplementing emerging themes, and aiding in analysis.
RESULTS
For some women, then, the eventual decision not to have children does
not appear rooted in their perceptions of their mothers’ parenting ability
or interest.
Many of the other participants observed either an inequity in parental
roles and/or a sense of deep dissatisfaction or ambivalence about their
mothers’ experiences as parents. Nicole*, while writing in her journal,
reflected back to when she was ten years old and first “realized that my
mother was less valued than my dad because she didn’t work outside the
home.”
Those participants who spoke about their relationships with their
fathers also reported a mixed array of experiences, both positive and neg-
ative, which may have had some impact on the crystallization of their gen-
der identities generally and their later decision not to have children, more
specifically.
Early Experiences with Child Care. I asked participants to discuss early
childhood care-giving experiences that they saw as critical to their deci-
sion not to have children. Again there was a good deal of heterogeneity
among the participants, particularly regarding early childhood experi-
ences with babysitting, within-family child-care, and other caretaking
responsibilities. The commonality among them is pervasiveness of early
responsibilities that seems to have contributed to their eventual conclu-
sion that full-time child-care and parenting were unappealing alterna-
tives. Other women reported indifference or even aversion to childcare
responsibilities but nonetheless found themselves in care-giving roles.
The emergent theme among the women as they reflected back on their
upbringing as perhaps having impacted the eventual choice to remain
childfree was threefold. First, the majority of the women had one or more
experiences in care-giving from young ages. This experience reflects well
the gendered expectation of providing care and nurturance to less able
individuals, whether younger children, incapacitated parents, or elderly
people. Second, the women reported varying responses to providing such
care, ranging from joy and satisfaction to boredom and aversion. Finally,
as the decision not to have children became crystallized, the majority of
the women rejected the mandate to take on the role of full-time care-
giver, at least insofar as becoming mothers was concerned.
detailed varied reasons for their choice that are separated into the vari-
ous categories delineated in this section. As analysis of the results pro-
gressed, it became clear that factors influencing the choice to remain
childfree could be divided into two distinct categories: those internal to
the individual and those external, which were both intimate and more
global. Those factors more intrinsic and personal to the women were
divided into six categories of freedom, while those deemed external
reflected more broad-based concerns about the hazards of bringing a
child into the world.
Freedom. The women in the current investigation appear to have found
a sense of richness and relief in their decision not to have children, and all
nine reported relishing the freedoms they enjoyed as a result of their
choice. The freedom to travel and the unimpeded ability to move freely
through the world were recurring points in eight of the nine participants’
responses. This sense of freedom to move around their world may be
understood on multiple levels. On one level, the women enjoyed leisure
travel, spoke about trips they have taken or anticipated taking in the
future, dreamed of journeying to faraway places, and felt that travel
would be compromised or impossible if they had children.
At another level, the idea of freedom of movement seemed to be
understood as the unencumbered motion throughout the normal routine
of daily life and space to be oneself in one’s environment. Four of the
women equated motherhood with being largely confined to the home and
with being limited to the activities of homemaking. This seemed to con-
jure images of boredom, tedium, and idleness.
Seven of the women cited the freedom to devote ample time and
energy to their careers as additional support for the reasons they have
chosen not to have children. Interestingly, both the upper-middle class
well-educated professional women and the working-class, less-educated
women cited career involvement as one of the compelling benefits of
their decision. For the seven who discussed their careers, it became clear
that the motivation for their work was less about financial gratification
and more about making a contribution, having a creative outlet, and pur-
suing meaningful work that results in increased life satisfaction, feelings
of pride about one’s work, and a sense of personal accomplishment from
having a meaningful job. These accounts make it clear that the partici-
pants relish work as a meaningful extension of themselves and appreciate
the time and energy they can devote to their careers.
Eight of the nine participants in the study were in long-term committed
relationships that included marriage or cohabitation with either an oppo-
site or same-sex partner. Of these eight, six specifically remarked about
the freedom to devote more time, energy, and emotional resources to
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Three participants worried that they would pass along to their children
mental or physical illness that runs in their families. They were aware of
genetically transferable diseases and voiced an apprehension about the
possible effects of these illnesses on any children they might have had.
Five participants named environmental concerns as contributing to
their decision not to have children. Kate’s work with autistic young chil-
dren prompted her to think carefully about the environmental hazards
and the resulting trauma to children and their families. Nicole, Lois, Lucy,
and Jennifer mentioned overpopulation as a concern. Lois, a 46-year-old
lesbian woman of mixed ethnicity, wrote in her journal that by not having
children, she has “not contributed to the overpopulation of the planet.”
Jennifer was impassioned about the environmental impact of her decision
not to have children. Like Lois, she mentioned overpopulation as a signif-
icant concern.
For the women who named environmental reasons as contributing to
their decisions not to have children, their responses ranged from the
stress human life has on natural resources to the effects of overpopulation
on the environment and to the inadequate conditions facing many chil-
dren today. There was a voiced sense among four of the women that the
world is an unsafe place for children these days. They voiced a collective
concern about highly toxic ecological and sociocultural conditions for
children, including abuse, poverty, and terrorism, that contributed to their
decision to remain childfree.”
DISCUSSION
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