Dear Self by Patience Tamarra

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Dear Self by Patience Tamarra
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dear self,

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author’s note:
these words came to me over many sleepless nights

and draining days of feeling unworthy, unloved and
undeserving. i have turned my heart inside out time
and time again to make others feel loved, but failed
to return that love back into myself. this is me 昀椀nally
doing just that.
these words got me through my darkest of days when

giving up seemed like the best option, and i hope
they do the same for you. just remember that you are
enough, you are loved deeply and you are everything
that you need, always.
with love,
patience tamarra

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for mady.
everything i do is for you.
i love you.

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dear self,
you are deserving

and worthy of love.
and love is worthy

and deserving of you.

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patience tamarra
the love that lives in you

can cure the most
aching heart
including your own.

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dear self,
you are loved

and protected.
always.

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patience tamarra
you are allowed

to grow
at your own pace.

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dear self,
within your body lies

all that you need and desire.
there is no need to seek it

elsewhere.

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patience tamarra
today give yourself

the space to feel
your emotions
without judgement.

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dear self,
when the dust settles

you’ll thank god
for the storm.

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patience tamarra
embrace every part

of you that they
forgot to.

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dear self,
there is a
heaven
in you
waiting to be
witnessed.

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patience tamarra
open your heart.
it deserves to feel
love again.
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dear self,
it is safe for you

to be your
authentic self.
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patience tamarra
you are allowed

to feel joy
even when others

do not.
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dear self,
you can receive new love

even if you haven’t
completely healed from
old wounds.
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patience tamarra
hold your heart
and say
“i love you”.
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dear self,
you convince yourself

you’ve failed
before even trying.
stop doing that.
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patience tamarra
if the dream wasn’t

meant for you
the universe would’ve
never planted it in you
to bloom.
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dear self,
your heart never

belonged to them.
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patience tamarra
your body is your

sacred temple.
it deserves all of
your worship.
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dear self,
you no longer have to

rest in the pain.
you’re allowed to
move on.
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patience tamarra
the threads that tie

you to your trauma are
burning away
with 昀氀ames of joy.
bask in the celebration.
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dear self,
you are allowed

to show up
fully — without
apology.
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patience tamarra
hold onto the lesson

not the person.
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dear self,
you are whole and complete.

there is no need to
pretend to be something
you already are.
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patience tamarra
reminder —
self-love is also telling

yourself that you deserve
better from you.
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dear self,
you will fall short

at times
and that’s okay.
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patience tamarra
your softness
does not strip you
of your strength.
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dear self,
pour into yourself

before you pour
into others.
even if that means

your cup
over昀氀ows.
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patience tamarra
forgive those that

made you feel
worthless.
they couldn’t see

your worth because
no one told them of
their own.
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dear self,
forgive yourself
for choosing
pain when peace
was always an option.
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patience tamarra
by loving yourself
unconditionally
you are teaching others
how you deserve
to be loved.
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dear self,
still in your woundedness

you are worthy.
still in your pain
you are strong.
still in your loneliness
you are loved.
always.
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patience tamarra
the universe can only

give you what you have
space to hold.
so maybe it’s time

to put some stuff down.
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dear self,
your body.
your home.
they are the same.
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patience tamarra
i pray that you embrace

every part of you.
even the parts you

try hard to forget.
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dear self,
sit with your joy

the same way
you sit with your
pain.
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patience tamarra
be gentle with yourself —
you’re slowly growing into

the person you’ve always
wanted to become.
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dear self,
your superpower is
that you are still here.
despite everything
you are still
standing strong.
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patience tamarra
you deserve a love

that you can
heal in.
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dear self,
let self-love
be the root
to your rise.
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patience tamarra
it’s time for you

to be for yourself
what you begged
them to be for you.
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dear self,
you already know

the answer.
now you have

to decide if
you’ll listen.
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patience tamarra
forgive yourself
for choosing
dysfunction...
again.
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dear self,
these seeds
will take time
to bloom.
appreciate
the process
until they do.
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patience tamarra
allow yourself to shine

without the desire
to be seen.
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dear self,
you belong in
every room
you walk into.
period.
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patience tamarra
don’t shrink.
don’t shrink.
don’t shrink.
don’t shrink.
don’t shrink.
don’t shrink.
ever.
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dear self,
stop trying to 昀椀nd

peace of mind
in people that
never brought you
peace.
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patience tamarra
you are allowed

to say no
without an
explanation.
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dear self,
listen to your
emotions.
they come with

many lessons.
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patience tamarra
you are healing the

generational trauma
your ancestors never
got the chance to.
don’t give up.
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dear self,
hold space
for yourself
today.
what do you need?
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patience tamarra
reminder —
you can’t love people

out of dysfunction.
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dear self,
you have to be
okay with
leaving people
behind.
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patience tamarra
give it to the moon.

she’ll know what
to do with it.
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dear self,
you are never alone.

even when your heart
feels the most
lonely.
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patience tamarra
i can’t tell you that this

healing will be easy
but i can assure you

that it will be worth it.
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dear self,
love shouldn’t
feel that way.
let them go.
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patience tamarra
you are still

seeking perfection.
that’s the problem.
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dear self,
them not seeing your worth

makes them unworthy —
not you.
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patience tamarra
you are capable of being

in healthy relationships.
the ones that do not

require you to fold.
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dear self,
there is nothing wrong

with not always rising.
sometimes it’s best to

sit with the pain and
rise once it passes.
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patience tamarra
you will
always
be enough
for you.
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dear self,
choose you —
even when
no one else does.
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patience tamarra
be patient with yourself.

becoming takes time.
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dear self,
if you’re tired of
reliving the pain
try harder to
learn the lesson.
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patience tamarra
your heart is tender

from past pain
but it’s still worthy

of feeling strong love.
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dear self,
stop worrying about

what was so you can
receive what was
always meant to be.
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patience tamarra
some friendships
aren’t meant to last.
so don’t make them.
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dear self,
you can put your

savior cape
away for today
and let someone
save you for once.
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patience tamarra
you survived
the very pain
that you thought
would end you.
i’m so proud of you.
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dear self,
forgive them not because

they deserve your forgiveness
but because you deserve
the freedom that
will come from it.
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patience tamarra
it’s okay to not know

where to go from here.
maybe this is where

you’re meant to
stay for a while.
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dear self,
sometimes when
things break
you aren’t meant
to 昀椀x them.
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patience tamarra
don’t expect them to

be for you what you
haven’t decided
to consistently
be for yourself.
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dear self,
let your only regret

be that you didn’t
leave sooner.
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patience tamarra
your season
of hurting is
ending.
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dear self,
your season
of healing is
beginning.
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patience tamarra
your worth is
not based on
your mistakes.
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dear self,
love doesn’t have

to be hard.
love
doesn’t
have
to
be
hard.
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patience tamarra
there won’t always

be light to bask in.
sometimes the darkness

will be the only place
to reside.
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dear self,
昀椀nd comfort
in knowing
that you made
the right choice.
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patience tamarra
pull out the weeds

cut the dead 昀氀owers
and plant love in the
tender soil of your heart.
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dear self,
forgive yourself for going back

when you shouldn’t have.
forgive yourself for choosing
them instead of you.
forgive yourself for loving people
who could never love you back.
forgive yourself for thinking pain
was the only thing you were
capable of feeling.
i forgive you.
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patience tamarra
you deserve the same love

you give out freely
to others.
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dear self,
you don’t have to shrink

to feel seen.
to be heard.
to be loved.
someone will love you
in your fullness.
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patience tamarra
sometimes the most

you can do
is try.
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dear self,
the only fairytale worth

remembering is the one
that lives in you.
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patience tamarra
how they treat others

is how they will
treat you.
don’t think you

can change them.
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dear self,
it’s okay to not be happy

with how your story is going.
even if everyone else

says it’s going well.
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patience tamarra
new beginnings
often feel like
sad endings.
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dear self,
if they make you feel like

your love is too much
tell them that it is —
too much for them.
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patience tamarra
you are allowed

to kiss your wounds
until they heal.
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dear self,
reminder —
your love will be

too big for some people
to hold.
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patience tamarra
a 昀氀ower may
bloom overnight
but the foundation
below the soil
took time to settle in.
be patient.
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dear self,
you don’t have to

hurt anymore.
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patience tamarra
don’t expect people to

always show up for you
when they’re still

昀椀guring out how to
show up for themselves.
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dear self,
let your faith in love

outweigh any doubts
that surround it.
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patience tamarra
the world needs you.

every single part
and piece of you.
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dear self,
some people will see

that your cup is full
and purposely spill theirs
just to take from yours.
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patience tamarra
who are you when the door

closes behind you?
when the armor is placed
back on its hanger?
when the drapes are closed?
be that person all the time.
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dear self,
when one door closes

昀椀nd a new way in.
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patience tamarra
you are alive.
let that be
enough
today.
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dear self,
stop pretending
the red 昀氀ags
are green.
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patience tamarra
you don’t have to

accept less than what
you know you deserve
just because it is all
they have to offer.
someone else will

offer you more.
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dear self,
someone can hold

your hand through
this struggle
but you have

to let them.
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patience tamarra
if you feel lost

昀椀nd peace in knowing
that from here
you can only be
found.
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dear self,
there is nothing
left for you
in the past.
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patience tamarra
accept all the

changes that life
throws your way.
even when they

feel achingly
uncomfortable.
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dear self,
you are love.

you are loved.
you are love.

you are loved.
you are love.

you are loved.
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patience tamarra
your search
for belonging
in other people
ends today.
you belong to
no one
but yourself.
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dear self,
stop trying to
昀椀x people
when you’re
still broken
yourself.
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patience tamarra
when your bed

starts to cry out
for them again
don’t forget
why you left.
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dear self,
holding onto past pain

is keeping you from
present peace.
let go.
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patience tamarra
you don’t have

to be a
punching bag
for their
insecurities.
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dear self,
you are not broken

you just need a little
reshaping.
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patience tamarra
love is safe.
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dear self,
you are beautiful.
if anyone tells you

otherwise remind them
that the same power
lives within them too.
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patience tamarra
sometimes the
best reply
is silence.
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dear self,
saying no to things
that don’t 昀椀ll you
is an act of self-love
not sel昀椀shness.
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patience tamarra
loving them
from a distance
doesn’t mean you
love them any less.
it just means you

love you more.
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dear self,
temporary loneliness
will always be better
than permanent scars.
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patience tamarra
maybe the miracle

you’ve been praying for
has been praying for you.
you’re the miracle.
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dear self,
today is a blank canvas.
choose to paint
it with bright
and vibrant colors.
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patience tamarra
not everyone is
out to hurt you.
it’s safe to let

some people in.
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dear self,
be open to your dream

not looking the way
you want it to
because it could be
closer than you think.
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patience tamarra
reminder —
healing requires
patience.
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dear self,
you still shine bright

even when no one is
there to witness
your light.
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patience tamarra
you are not responsible

for anyone’s healing
but your own.
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dear self,
stop
procrastinating
on your dreams.
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patience tamarra
access to your energy

is a privilege
not all are
worthy of receiving.
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dear self,
grow 昀氀owers
in the empty spaces
they planted in
your heart.
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patience tamarra
be the person
your younger self
needed growing up
because they
still do.
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dear self,
you can’t yet see

the light at the end
of the tunnel
because the light
is in you.
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patience tamarra
you can’t
stand in faith
and worry
at the same time.
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dear self,
don’t pretend like

you didn’t cause
them pain too.
you’re not the only

victim in this story.
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patience tamarra
be gentle
with yourself.
you are doing

your best.
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dear self,
what happens next

is out of your hands.
what happens now

is all up to you.
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patience tamarra
reminder —
you should never feel

the need to perform
around people that
claim they love you.
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dear self,
your standards
aren’t high.
they just can’t

reach them.
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patience tamarra
you’ll continue going

through these trials
until you learn the lesson.
take notes this time around.
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dear self,
you can choose

to rise, or not.
either way
your choice
is valid.
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patience tamarra
patience is your way

of showing the universe
you believe in its magic.
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dear self,
remember you did

the best you could
with what you had.
even when you

didn’t have much.
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patience tamarra
that which you require

from others you must
昀椀rst require from
yourself.
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dear self,
whatever you do
never stop
loving hard.
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patience tamarra
it isn’t your
job to 昀椀x
them.
family included.
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dear self,
tell them how you feel

even if they don’t listen.
someone will hear you.
even if that someone

is just you.
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patience tamarra
don’t let them make

you an option
when you deserve
to be a priority.
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dear self,
build tapestries
out of your pain
so you can see
that beauty still
exist in you.
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patience tamarra
reminder —
you can always

start again.
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thank you for growing with me.
patience tamarra
@patiencetamarra

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Dear Self by Patience Tamarra

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these words came to me over many sleepless nights

these words got me through my darkest of days when

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you are deserving

and love is worthy

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the love that lives in you

including your own.

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you are loved

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you are allowed

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within your body lies

there is no need to seek it

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today give yourself

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when the dust settles

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embrace every part

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open your heart.

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it is safe for you

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you are allowed

even when others

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you can receive new love

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hold your heart

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you convince yourself

stop doing that.

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if the dream wasn’t

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your heart never

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your body is your

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you no longer have to

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the threads that tie

bask in the celebration.

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you are allowed

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hold onto the lesson

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you are whole and complete.

you already are.

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self-love is also telling

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you will fall short