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Introduction
All the psychological concepts of how gender roles are formed and
learned by children stress the central role of the family. The family is the
child’s fundamental socializing group and natural environment for
growing into maleness and femaleness. Various questions have been
raised in terms of family beliefs which influence gender determination,
discriminatory practices for or against the girl child and over-all gender
role expectations.
The literature search was guided by key words such as: child-rearing
practices; beliefs; attitudes; methods; gendered home environments;
gender role socialization; and the like. A total of 131 studies were found
to be relevant to the research. An abstract for each study was prepared
complete with bibliographic information, research objectives, data-
gathering process methods, significant findings/results and conclusions.
These were then analyzed on the bases of common results and themes.
Several studies have shown that Filipino families prefer sons over
daughters (Bulatao, 1975; Jurilla, 1986), especially for the first born
(Mendez and Jocano, 1979a; Estrada, 1983). This is expressed strongly
by fathers (Mendez & Jocano, 1979a; Estrada, 1983).
During the prenatal and infancy stages, the expectant mother’s looks
are associated with the gender of the unborn child. The unborn girl-child
is associated with the mother’s looks –pretty and not so heavy
(Sobritchea, 1990 ); the unborn boy-child is believed to be strong, to eat
more and to grow faster.
Childhood
It has been reported that boys and girls are treated are alike until 5 or 6
years of age (Guthrie and Jacobs, 1966) and that gender socialization
begins at about age 10 (Stoodley, 1957).
Adolescence
Generally, “household chores are not assigned to them unless there are
no girls in the family.” (Mendez and Jocano, 1979a). Furthermore, “…
boys are generally excluded from participating in tasks attributed to as
feminine.” (Estrada, 1983), and “…no male is expected to do household
chores which are considered to be female undertaking.” (Ramirez,
1988). But they also provide some relief to their mothers as boys are
required to put in child care hours when the girls’ services are not
available (Lagmay, 1983).
Among urban streetchildren in Metro Manila and Cebu they watch cars,
shine shoes, peddle cigarettes, newspapers and candies.
Cabanero (1977) found that sons of low-wage and middle- wage mothers
represent net financial gains to their families by ages 12 to 14 years,
while high-wage mothers realize positive returns from their sons at the
age of 15 to 17.
A review of the studies shows how Filipino mothers and fathers act
differently even when both are exercising their child-rearing
responsibilities. The mother is still ranked as the primary caretaker of
her children (Mendez and Jocano, 1979a; Licuanan, 1979; Lagmay,
1983; Minoza et. al., 1984; UP-CHE, 1985). Hollnsteiner (1979) noted
that “…In the rural areas, the roles of family members are clearly
prescribed ... in the urban or urbanized families, the roles and privileges
are less clearly delineated, especially since the mother’s role has
become multifaceted and less structured.” Middle Socio-Economic
Status (SES) working mothers (Sycip, 1982) still carried the greater bulk
of the responsibility for the home and the children. Thus, a majority of
the respondents experienced difficulty in combining and balancing their
multiple roles of wife, mother, and worker. Child care time significantly
affected the mother’s leisure time. Gomez (1988) found that children of
all ages experiences longer child care hours from mothers and fathers. It
was observed that over-protection was the most pervasive attitude that
mothers exhibit towards their children (Espina, 1996).
The Filipino father’s main role is that family provider. His role as a child
caretaker is considered only secondary. Father’s affection towards their
children is limited to carrying them, talking, and playing with them
(Licuanan, 1979). Lapuz (1987) described the Filipino father as a “…
remote person…feeling awkward in getting close (to his sons)”.
Discipline is one aspect of child-rearing where fathers figure
prominently; either on their own parental capacity or in concert with
their wives (Porio, Lynch and Hollnsteiner, 1978; Licuanan, 1979;
Lagmay, 1983; Minoza et.al. , 1984; UP-CHE, 1985; David, 1994).
Fathers also tend to be more involved in disciplining older children
(David, 1994) and sons rather than daughters (Porio et.al., 1978). With
his role in his domain of discipline, the father –child relationship is
characterized by authority, restriction, obedience and control.
This section inquires about the possible outcomes of the ways in which
Filipino children were raised and described in terms of behavior,
including the social, emotional, cognitive aspects as well as attitudes
and perceptions toward gender-related subjects, and lastly, the issue on
gender identity. A profile of the girl -child is discerned from the various
studies as it concentrated on the girl-child in relation to the boy-child.
Attitudes Toward Own Gender and the Opposite Gender. Among Filipino
children, there seems to be a more positive attitude towards girls (Pablo,
1971). But when asked whether they would rather be a boy or a girl, the
children in the Flores and Gonzales study (1969), regardless of gender,
preferred to be boys. At an early age, both girls and boys are keenly
conscious of the fact that in our society, being male means being
privileged.
Gender Identity
The few studies which focused on gender identity confirm that in the
normal course of gender identity formation, the girl-child and boy-child
identify with their same-sex parent. Mendez and Jocano (1979a)
reported that during their childhood years, girls naturally become closer
to their mothers while boys become closer to their fathers. Lapuz (1987)
made the same observation with respect to mother –daughter
relationship but took exception to the father-son relationship. This is
supported by the McCann Erickson (1993) survey which featured the
Filipino sons’ complaints of their fathers’ emotional distance and lack of
involvement. Studies of parent-child relationship in the context of
gender identity formation have also observed close cross-sex affiliation
between parents and children. Mendez and Jocano (1979a) noted that
fathers were usually fonder of their daughters, while mothers were
fonder of their sons. Cabanero (1977) and Gomez (1988) provided
additional evidence that mothers spent more time with sons at all ages.
In Cotobato, infants received an equal amount of child care time from
their mothers regardless of gender. Infant sons, however, enjoyed
relatively more attention from older siblings, relative and domestic
helpers than infant daughters (Gomez, 1988).
Ramirez (1988) described that the Filipino mother as more likely than
the father to attach to, indulge, and even spoil their son. This could be
the reason why more boys than girls experienced difficulty in
consolidating their sex –role identity as suggested by the observation
that there were more male than female homosexuals (Asprer, 1980).
Yet even as girls may lose out on their parents’ favor when in
competition with their brothers, they demonstrate more positive
attitudes toward their parents than do the boys (Pablo, 1971). This is
understandable given cultural expectations on daughters to be more
unconditionally nurturant and caring.
While the boys and girls both report being closer to their mothers than
their fathers (Mendez and Jocano, 1979b), both (mothers and fathers)
are equally loved (Pablo, 1971; Vajanarat, 1973), and the youth continue
to name their mothers and fathers as the persons they admire most
(McCann Erickson, 1993). This supports the view that Filipino children
easily learn to spend their affections, attachments, and loyalties to both
parental figures (Guthrie and Jacobs, 1966; Carandang, 1979; Shimizu,
1984).
*In terms of play, rough and physical games are associated with boys
while girls often play indoors with dolls, role playing activities performed
in the home. There are some games enjoyed by both girls and boys.
*It was found that boys are given more freedom while girls are more
restricted in terms of rules for social activities.
*Parents are also more permissive towards male children when it comes
to handling aggression.
*Most parents believe girls can be more easily disciplined, obey more
readily, and learn faster from their mistakes.
*Parents have also been reported to model traditional gender roles, e.g.
mother as the caretaker of children, father as provider.
*There is expectation that girls be more nurturant and caring for other
people, especially family members.
*It is more acceptable for girls to express her emotions while boys are
trained not to cry and to “suffer in silence”.
*Children in both genders agree with traditional gender roles and sex-
role stereotyping of occupations but they also perceive change occurring
in this area.
*Both genders agree that being male in Philippine society means having
more privileges, freedom and power.
Conclusions
Recommendations
*Provide equal time and standards for play, fun, leisure and
relaxation both sons and daughters.