Intimacy involves different types of close relationships between people including emotional, physical, intellectual, and those formed through shared activities. Emotional intimacy involves sharing feelings, physical intimacy refers to contact with family members, intellectual intimacy is engaging in meaningful idea exchange, and shared activities can strengthen bonds. One's self-concept and self-esteem, which involve perceptions and evaluations of self-worth, are shaped through social interactions and reflected appraisals from others starting in childhood. High self-esteem typically leads to more successful communication while low self-esteem can hinder relationships.
Intimacy involves different types of close relationships between people including emotional, physical, intellectual, and those formed through shared activities. Emotional intimacy involves sharing feelings, physical intimacy refers to contact with family members, intellectual intimacy is engaging in meaningful idea exchange, and shared activities can strengthen bonds. One's self-concept and self-esteem, which involve perceptions and evaluations of self-worth, are shaped through social interactions and reflected appraisals from others starting in childhood. High self-esteem typically leads to more successful communication while low self-esteem can hinder relationships.
Intimacy involves different types of close relationships between people including emotional, physical, intellectual, and those formed through shared activities. Emotional intimacy involves sharing feelings, physical intimacy refers to contact with family members, intellectual intimacy is engaging in meaningful idea exchange, and shared activities can strengthen bonds. One's self-concept and self-esteem, which involve perceptions and evaluations of self-worth, are shaped through social interactions and reflected appraisals from others starting in childhood. High self-esteem typically leads to more successful communication while low self-esteem can hinder relationships.
Intimacy is the close union, contact, association or
acquaintance of people living together. Types of intimacy 1. Emotional intimacy- it is the sharing of important information and feelings. 2. Physical intimacy- it is the physical closeness to people who you are related to e.g parents and siblings. Fortunate children are continually nourished by physical intimacy; being rocked, fed, hugged and held. Cont’d As we grow older, the opportunities of physical intimacy are less regular, but still possible and important, i.e through hugs, kisses and sex from partners. 3. Intellectual intimacy- not every exchange of ideas counts as intimacy, engaging another person in an exchange of important ideas, a kind of closeness develops that can be powerful and exciting. Cont’d 4. Shared activities- this can provide a fourth way of emotional closeness. According to Wood and Inman (1993) not all shared activities lead to intimacy, some shared experiences, struggling together against obstacles or living together as housemates are good examples to create strong bonds. Dimensions of distance in Intimacy According to Hess (2000) intimacy in a relationship is important, but so is distance. Sometimes we create physical and emotional space between ourselves and others whose behavior we find bothersome. At times we also feel the need to distance ourselves, at least temporarily from people we genuinely care for. Strategies for creating distance Withdrawal and Avoidance- someone moves away from unwanted contact physically or via other means. Shortening interactions- avoiding asking of questions that may lead to big interactions. Restricting topics- restricting of topics that are personal or that may include your attention. Restraint- not joking. Male and female intimacy styles According to Impelt and Peplau (2006) they noted that most social scientists believed that women were more concerned with and better than men at developing and maintaining intimate relationships. This is because they are more relational in nature, while the men are more problem solvers. EXERCISE Make a list of ten words and phrases that describe the most important features of who you are. (Using social roles, eg student , son daughter, etc) You could define yourself using physical characteristics-skinny, plump, tall short, beautiful etc. Intellectual characteristics eg- smart, stupid, everage, etc Emotionally-moods, feelings, optimistic, etc Social characteristics- outgoing, shy, defensive, In terms of your belief systems- Christian, vegetarian, Particular skills or lack of them- swimmer, artiist, etc. Reorganize the list from the most desirable to the least desirable. Keep removing the items from the worst and retain the best in your opinion. Return them all back…. Gives you a clear picture of who you actually are. SELF CONCEPT-
• Relatively stable set of perceptions you hold of yourself.
• Self esteem is the part of the self concept that involves evaluations of self worth. • How or low self esteem has a powerful effect of on communication behavior. • People who feel good about themselves have positive expectations of how they will communicate. These feelings increase the chance that the communication will be successful which in turn contributes to positive self evaluations. Self concept is the cognitive thinking aspect of self also related to one’s self-image, it’s the way we see our selves in the mirror. Self concept is the way we choose to see ourselves we are “grown” into our self concept by what we learn when we our young from our parents or our peers. Self concept is changed through out life from how people look at you and tell you what you are to them, if they say a person is nothing then that person will believe it for as long as it takes to get over it. How the self concept develops The self concept does not exist at birth. (Rosenblinth, 1992). Self realization begins at age 7 to 8months. As the child develops, the basic self concept develops too until adulthood. This is facilitated by social interactions of the child. Reflected appraisal Two theories explain how individuals view themselves These are Reflected appraisal and Social comparison. Social Comparison n 1954, psychologist Leon Festinger hypothesized that people compare themselves to others in order to fulfil a basic human desire: the need for self-evaluation. He called this process social comparison theory. At the core of his theory is the idea that people come to know about themselves—their own abilities, successes, and personality—by comparing themselves with others. These comparisons can be divided into two basic categories. In one category, we consider social norms and the opinions of others. Specifically, we compare our own opinions and values to those of others when our own self-evaluation is unclear. The second category of social comparison pertains to our abilities and performance. In these cases, the need for self-evaluation is driven by another fundamental desire: to perform better and better—as Festinger (1954) put it, “a unidirectional drive upward.” In essence, we compare our performance not only to evaluate ourselves but also to benchmark our performance related to another person. Reflective Appraisal The reflected appraisal process is considered one of the influences on the development of self-concept. The term refers to a process where we imagine how other people see us.1 In many instances, the way we believe others perceive us is the way we perceive ourselves. It was sociologist Charles H. Cooley who first described how the reflected appraisal process works in his concept of the looking-glass self.2 Cooley suggested that a person's sense of self emerges based upon their understanding of how they are perceived by others. According to this concept, social interactions play a central role in the development of a sense of self. Exercise Recall someone you know or once knew who helped enhance your self concept, by acting in a way that made you feel accepted and worthwhile, important, appreciated and loved. It could have been a one off or several experiences. Recall someone who acted in a big or small way, to diminish your self esteem. This is a prove that everyone’s self concept is shaped by re-elected appraisal which are perceptions of the judgments of those around us. To the extent that you have received supportive messages, you learn to Appreciate and value yourself. To the degree you have received critical signals, you may feel less valuable, loved and capable. Significant other- a person whose evaluations are especially influential. Messages from parents are an early important influence on a child. SELF-ESTEEM While your self-concept describes who you think you are, self-esteem involves evaluations of self-worth. A hypothetical communicator’s self-concept might include being quiet, argumentative, or self-controlled. His or her self-esteem would be determined by how he or she felt about these qualities. High self-esteem has obvious benefits, but it doesn’t guarantee interpersonal success. People with exaggerated self-esteem may think they make better impressions on others and have better friendships and romantic lives, but neither impartial observers nor objective tests verify these beliefs. Self esteem is the affective or emotional aspect of self and generally refers to how we feel about or how we value ourselves, also known as one’s worth. Educators, parents, business and government leaders agree that we need to develop individuals with healthy or high self-esteem characterized by tolerance and respect for others. Individuals who accept responsibility for their actions, have integrity, take pride in their accomplishments, who are self-motivated, willing to take risks, and are capable of handling criticism Why is it important to discuss self esteem and self concept in Family Communication? Because the family unit is where these two are formed, but they have an impact for a life time. Additionally, if a person is not well adjusted emotionally, they will have a challenge interacting with others both within and without the family. It is important to realize that Family Communication is affected when any family member in the family of origin or of pre-creation is not well adjusted. Even outside the family, issues that have to do with self-concept and self-esteem are still pre-eminent.