“Attraction to Commitment”

BONUS
SIMPLE SCRIPTS FOR MAKE-OR-BREAK
C O N V E R S AT I O N S
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As you’ve probably noticed throughout the main program

of “Attraction To Commitment”, so much of attracting and
maintaining a great relationship is about the conversations
you’re willing to have with a guy.

The words we speak can affect how seriously someone takes

us, how drawn to us they are, and save us MONTHS or YEARS
by communicating our standards early on.

So with that in mind, I’ve put together the complete list of

essential scripts from the program to use as your personal
cheat sheet for whenever you need them.

You’ll see they are a little messy at times because they are
a true reflection of the scripts I said on stage. As opposed
to being designed for the written page, they are designed to
sound organic out loud.

Disclaimer: There is no reason to learn or recite these exactly

word-for-word. This is real life after all, not a stage play. I’ve
written these scripts out in full for you, but feel free to shorten
them, just use a single line, or use the principles behind them
to turn them into your own words.

Also, bear in mind, that we all receive language differently

depending on our culture, our history, and the type of
language we use in our individual relationships. What is
sweet and romantic to me in the context of your relationship
may give you a toothache. It’s essential to know WHY these
scripts work (which I provide you with context for in the main
modules of the program). With that ‘why’ in mind, you can
always adapt them to suit your vernacular. These scripts are

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intended to help you see what you need to communicate in

a particular dating scenario – but the exact phrasing should
feel AUTHENTIC to you.

A word of caution – if you change any of these conversations,

make sure you’re changing them to sound more natural (like
the way you speak) and NOT because it’s more comfortable
for you. If you are merely trying to stay in your comfort zone,
you aren’t going to change things. And if you aren’t changing
things, you are not going to change the results you are
getting.

Let’s make this cheat sheet your model for what bold and
confident communication looks like – so you can begin to
practice the art of “charming candor” at every stage of the
relationship.

I’ve also added the module number from the main program
where specific scripts can be found, where appropriate so
that you can quickly locate the video version for more context.

“Attraction-To-Commitment”
Scripts

#1 – When You’re “Stuck in The Casual Trap”…

You’re in a scenario with someone who treats you like a
girlfriend, but there’s no real progression, and you have no
sense of what you actually are…

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What to Say:

“I’m looking for something special. And I see glimpses of that

with you. But I still really don’t know what this is. And it’s okay if
this isn’t “a relationship” to you, but if it’s not, I need to separate
myself from this and keep doing my thing…keep living. Because
seeing you is getting in the way of finding that person. I think
you’re amazing and I’m having a great time with you. But
nothing is going to be a great enough time for me to sacrifice
something deeper that I want.” (Module 7)

Key line = “I’m looking for something real/exciting/that’s going

somewhere. If you’re not that person, that’s totally fine.”

Give him the freedom to walk away, but stand your ground.

If you haven’t had this conversation until now, this is your

moment to express exactly what you need going forward, and
if he can’t offer that, then you’re happy to say goodbye and
move on without him. Don’t let him feel you’ll be waiting on
the sidelines until he makes a decision.

#2 The Conversation to Take Back Your

Power (When You See RED FLAGS)
If you see signs that the guy you’re dating is flaking, being
hot and cold, or just being vague about what he wants…

LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”
M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 10)

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#3 When You Feel Like He’s Casual

He seems to like you, and maybe you’re dating in the early
stages, but he doesn’t seem to want to be more…

LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”
M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 11)

#4 When He Says, “I’m Not Ready.”

You’re dating or in early stages with a guy, but he says he’s
“not ready”…

LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”
MEMBERS

#5 How to Figure Out If You’re Exclusive

If you feel like things are going well, but you’re not totally
sure where you stand…

LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”
M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 34)

#6 How to Have The “What Are We?”

Conversation (Even After Months or Years)
If you’ve been seeing him and you’ve been in limbo for a
long time (months or years), this is the one you need.

LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”
M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 12)

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#7 Handling His Response to the

“What Are We?” Conversation
(Especially If It’s Confusing or Negative)
If you’ve said how you feel, but he’s STILL giving you
confusing and vague answers…

LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”
M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 13)

#8 He Calls/Comes Back Saying,

“I Really Want to See You.”
You’ve had the conversation from Scenario #5, but he
eventually calls/texts and says he wants to see you again…

LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”
M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 14)

#9 When He’s Treating You Casually, but

Moving Fast Physically (Early Dating)
If he seems like he only is chasing sex, or isn’t trying to get
you to know you better…

LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”
MEMBERS

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#10 How to Respond to The Booty Call Text

If he sends you a late night message asking you to come
over (and you are not willing to be intimate at this stage)…

LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”
M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 11A)

#11 He Asks You to Come Over to “Watch

Some Netflix And Chill” Too Quickly
LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”
M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 11A)

#12 How to Communicate You Only Want

to Have Sex If You’re in a Committed
Relationship
You’re dating and getting more intimate, but don’t want to
have sex until you know the two of you are exclusive.

LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”
M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 25A + 33)

#13 You’ve Been Hooking Up with Him,

but Don’t Want to Keep Doing It Unless
the Relationship Goes Somewhere…
The next time he tries to see you/get intimate:

LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”
M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 25)

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PLUS: Miscellaneous Conversations

• Good Questions for a Date:

• Talking About Your Past:

• Getting Him to Call You:

• If He Talks About Other Women in Front of You:

• He Tries “Sexting” Too Soon

(i.e., sending risqué sexual texts)

• Getting Him to Live Up to Your Standards

• Ways to Show You’re Relationship-Worthy

• How to Talk About the Future (Marriage & Kids)

LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”
MEMBERS

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