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CONV TR Manager Essentials Workbook - Having Difficult Conversations
CONV TR Manager Essentials Workbook - Having Difficult Conversations
CONV TR Manager Essentials Workbook - Having Difficult Conversations
Manager Essentials:
Having Difficult
Conversations
Does the idea of confrontation, conflict, or constructive criticism
send you running in the other direction? It’s a natural reaction.
According to Harvard Business Review, 37% of managers said
they’re uncomfortable giving direct feedback about their employees’
performance if they think the employee is likely to respond negatively.
But ignoring sticky situations doesn’t make them go away. In fact,
by avoiding difficult topics, we actually give them more power.
“I’ve learned that we tend to build these conversations up in our
minds. They take on an outsize role in our thoughts, causing us to
ruminate and stress outside of work,” writes Udemy instructor and
communication coach Andrea Wedell.
Learning to navigate difficult conversations is a critical skill for
managers. After all, it’s one key to helping employees grow and
improve. And it all starts with remembering that conversations go two
ways. When you bring a coaching mindset, listen actively, and ask for
the other person’s interpretation and takeaways, you ensure that both
parties feel seen and heard.
This workbook will help you develop the confidence and clarity you
need to handle difficult conversations.
5 ways to prepare
for difficult conversations
Getting comfortable with difficult conversations is critical to your success as a
manager. There’s also a bonus to developing this skill: It can help you in other
areas of your life. Once you learn these tactics, you can apply them in many
situations. Follow these prompts to plan and prepare for difficult conversations.
1.
Understand when a difficult
conversation is needed
How do you know when it’s time to have a difficult conversation? One
clear sign is if you spend a lot of time thinking about an issue or recurring
theme, especially if you are thinking about it repeatedly outside of work.
Recognizing this phenomenon when it occurs is a skill in and of itself.
Is there a topic (or topics) you need to discuss with someone on your team,
but you’ve been putting it off because you consider it difficult? If this isn’t
currently the case, can you think back to a time when it was?
Consider how much time and energy you are focusing on this
challenging situation. How could you be using those resource instead?
Consider how you can frame your message in terms most likely to resonate
with this person. For example, if they care about career advancement,
can you connect the conversation to that goal?
Distill your message down to the bottom line. What do you want to say in clear
and concise terms?
Being assertive means staying rooted in facts. What evidence and examples
do you have to support your message?
Write out what you would like to say during the conversation, including your
bottom line message and any evidence or examples you want to mention.
Practice saying your message out loud until you feel comfortable, confident,
and grounded. Consider your body language and tone of voice to ensure
you’re clear and firm.