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2-3 Long-Distance Relationships 39 2-5 Living Apart Together 43
2-5a Advantages of LAT 44
2-4 Cohabitation 41
2-5b Disadvantages of LAT 45
2-4a Nine Types of Cohabitation Relationships 41
2-6 Trends in Singlehood 46
2-4b Does Cohabitation Result in Marriages
That Last? 43
3 Gender in Relationships 48
3-3c Religion 57
3-3d Education 58
3-3e Economy 58
3-3f Mass Media 58
3-4 Consequences of Traditional Gender
Role Socialization 59 3-5 Changing Gender Roles 64
3-4a Traditional Female 3-5a Androgyny 64
Role Socialization 59 3-5b Gender Role Transcendence 64
3-4b Consequences of Traditional Male Role 3-5c Gender Postmodernism 64
Socialization 62 3-6 Trends in Gender Roles 66
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4-3d Psychosexual Theory 77 4-8 Psychological Factors in Relationship
4-3e Biochemical Theory 77 Development 86
4-3f Attachment Theory 77 4-8a Complementary-Needs Theory 86
4-4 Love as a Context for Problems 78 4-8b Exchange Theory 86
4-4a Unrequited/Unreciprocated Love 78 4-8c Role Theory 87
4-4b Making Risky, Dangerous Choices 78 4-8d Attachment Theory 87
4-4c Ending the Relationship with One’s 4-8e Undesirable Personality Characteristics of
Parents 79 a Potential Mate 88
4-4d Simultaneous Loves 79 4-8f Female Attraction to “Bad Boys” 89
4-4e Abusive Relationships 79 4-9 Engagement 90
4-4f Profound Sadness/Depression When a 4-9a Premarital Counseling 90
Love Relationship Ends 79 4-9b Visiting Your Partner’s Parents 91
4-5 How Love Develops in a New 4-10 Delay or Call Off the Wedding If... 91
Relationship 80 4-10a Age 18 or Younger 91
4-5a Social Conditions for Love 80 4-10b Known Partner Less Than Two Years 91
4-5b Psychological Conditions for Love 80 4-10c Abusive Relationship 92
4-5c What Makes Love Last 81 4-10d High Frequency of Negative Comments/
4-6 Cultural Factors in Relationship Low Frequency of Positive Comments 92
Development 82 4-10e Numerous Significant Differences 92
4-10f On-and-Off Relationship 92
4-6a Endogamy 82 4-10g Dramatic Parental Disapproval 93
4-6b Exogamy 82 4-10h Low Sexual Satisfaction 93
4-7 Sociological Factors in Relationship 4-10i Limited Relationship Knowledge 93
Development 83 4-10j Wrong Reasons for Getting Married 93
4-7a Homogamy 83 4-11 Trends in Love Relationships 94
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5-5b Secrets in Romantic Relationships 108 5-8 Fighting Fair: Steps in Conflict
5-5c Family Secrets 110 Resolution 112
5-6 Dishonesty, Lying, and Cheating 110 5-8a Address Recurring, Disturbing Issues 113
5-8b Identify New Desired Behaviors 113
5-6a Dishonesty 110
5-8c Identify Perceptions to Change 113
5-6b Lying in American Society 110
5-8d Summarize Your Partner’s Perspective 113
5-6c Lying and Cheating in Romantic
5-8e Generate Alternative Win–Win
Relationships 111
Solutions 113
5-7 Theories of Relationship 5-8f Forgive 114
Communication 112 5-8g Avoid Defense Mechanisms 114
5-7a Symbolic Interactionism 112 5-9 Trends in Communication
5-7b Social Exchange 112 and Technology 115
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6-4b Sexual Relationships among Married 6-5d Condom Assertiveness 130
Individuals 128 6-5e Open Sexual Communication (Sexual
6-4c Sexual Relationships among Divorced Self-Disclosure) and Feedback 131
Individuals 128 6-5f Frequent Initiation of Sexual Behavior 131
6-4d Sexual Problems: General 129 6-5g Having Realistic Expectations 131
6-4e Sexual Problems: Pornography 129 6-5h Sexual Compliance 132
6-5 Sexual Fulfillment: Some 6-5i Job Satisfaction 132
Prerequisites 129 6-5j Avoiding Spectatoring 132
6-5k Female Vibrator Use, Orgasm,
6-5a Self-Knowledge, Body Image,
and Partner Comfort 133
and Health 129
6-5b A Committed Loving Relationship 130 6-6 Trends in Sexuality in
6-5c An Equal Relationship 130 Relationships 133
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8 Marriage Relationships 154
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9-5 Balancing Work and Family Life 186 9-5d Time Management 188
9-5a Superperson Strategy 186 9-5e Role Compartmentalization 188
9-5b Cognitive Restructuring 187 9-6 Trends in Money, Work, and
9-5c Delegation of Responsibility and Limiting Family Life 188
Commitments 187
10-1 Types of Relationship Abuse 190 10-3c Alcohol and Rape 201
10-1a Violence as Abuse 190 10-3d Rophypnol: The Date Rape Drug 201
10-1b Emotional Abuse 193 10-4 Abuse in Marriage Relationships 201
10-1c Mutual or Unilateral Abuse? 194 10-4a General Abuse in Marriage 201
10-1d Female Abuse of Partner 194 10-4b Men Who Abuse 202
10-1e Stalking 194 10-4c Rape in Marriage 203
10-1f Reacting to the Stalker 195
10-5 Effects of Abuse 203
10-2 Reasons for Violence and Abuse in
Relationships 196 10-5a Effects of Partner Abuse on Victims 203
10-5b Effects of Partner Abuse on Children 203
10-2a Cultural Factors 196
10-2b Community Factors 197 10-6 The Cycle of Abuse 203
10-2c Individual Factors 197 10-6a Why Victims Stay in Abusive
10-2d Relationship Factors 199 Relationships 204
10-2e Family Factors 199 10-6b Fighting Back? What Is the Best
10-3 Sexual Abuse in Undergraduate Strategy? 205
Relationships 199 10-6c How to Leave an Abusive
Relationship 205
10-3a Acquaintance and Date Rape 199
10-3b Sexual Abuse in Same-Sex Relationships 200 10-7 Trends in Abuse in Relationships 206
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11 Deciding About Children 208
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12-4 Parenthood: Some Facts 233 12-5e Use Technology to Monitor Cell Phone/Text
12-4a Views of Children Differ Historically 233 Messaging Use 238
12-4b Parents Create Diverse Learning Contexts 12-5f Set Limits and Discipline Children for
in Which to Rear Their Children 233 Inappropriate Behavior 239
12-4c Parents Are Only One Influence in a Child’s 12-5g Have Family Meals 240
Development 233 12-5h Encourage Responsibility 240
12-4d Each Child Is Unique 234 12-5i Adult Children Living with Parents 240
12-4e Each Gender Is Unique 234 12-5j Establish Norm of Forgiveness 241
12-4f Parenting Styles Differ 234 12-5k Teach Emotional Competence 241
12-5l Provide Sex Education 241
12-5 Principles of Effective Parenting 237
12-5m Express Confidence 242
12-5a Give Time, Love, Praise, Encouragement, 12-5n Respond to the Teen Years Creatively 242
and Acceptance 237
12-6 Single-Parenting Issues 243
12-5b Avoid Overindulgence 237
12-5c Monitor Child’s Activities/Drug Use 238 12-6a Single Mothers by Choice 244
12-5d Monitor Television and Pornography 12-6b Challenges Faced by Single Parents 244
Exposure 238 12-7 Trends in Parenting 245
13-1 Definitions and Sources of Stress 13-2b Choosing a Positive Perspective 249
and Crisis 246 13-2c Exercise 250
13-1a Resilient Families 248 13-2d Family Cohesion, Friends, and
13-1b A Family Stress Model 249 Relatives 250
13-2e Love 250
13-2 Positive Stress-Management 13-2f Religion and Spirituality 250
Strategies 249 13-2g Laughter and Play 251
13-2a Scaling Back and Restructuring Family 13-2h Sleep 251
Roles 249 13-2i Pets 251
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13-3 Harmful Stress-Management 13-5 Marriage (Relationship)
Strategies 251 Therapy 263
13-4 Five Individual, Couple, and Family 13-5a Availability of Marriage/Relationship
Crisis Events 252 Therapists 263
13-5b Effectiveness of Behavioral Couple
13-4a Physical Illness and Disability 252
Therapy 263
13-4b Mental Illness 252
13-5c Telerelationship (Skype) Therapy 264
13-4c Middle-Age Crazy (Midlife Crisis) 253
13-4d Extramarital Affair 254 13-6 Trends Regarding Stress and Crisis in
13-4e Unemployment 260 Relationships 264
13-4f Alcohol/Substance Abuse 261
13-4g Death of Family Member 261
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14-3c Limited Time Together: Video Game Addict 14-4c One Parent May Alienate Their Children
Widow 272 from the Other Parent 277
14-3d Low Frequency of Positive Behavior 272 14-5 Negative and Positive Consequences
14-3e Having an Affair 272 of Divorce for Children 278
14-3f Poor Communication/Conflict Resolution
Skills 272 14-5a How Parents Can Minimize Negative Effects
14-3g Changing Values 273 of Divorce for Children 279
14-3h Onset of Satiation 273 14-6 Prerequisites for Having a “Successful”
14-3i Having the Perception That One Would Be Divorce 281
Happier If Divorced 273 14-7 Remarriage 285
14-3j Top 20 Factors Associated with Divorce 273
14-7a Issues for Those Who Remarry 286
14-4 Consequences of Divorce for Spouses/ 14-7b Stability of Remarriages 287
Parents 276
14-8 Stepfamilies 288
14-4a Financial Consequences of Divorce 276
14-4b Fathers’ Separated from Their 14-8a Developmental Tasks for Stepfamilies 288
Children 277 14-9 Trends in Divorce and Remarriage 290
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M&F C h a p t e r 1
Marriages
and Families:
An Introduction
S ECT IO NS
1-1 Marriage
“Enjoy the little things in life . . . For one
1-2 Family
day you’ll look back and realize they were
1-3 Changes in Marriage and
the big things.” the Family
— K u r t Vo n n Eg u t, w r i t E r 1-4 Theoretical Frameworks
for Viewing Marriage and
the Family
1-5 Choices in Relationships:
View of the Text
A
s the title of this chapter implies, there is no longer one 1-6 Research: Process
definition or structure of “marriage” and “family” but and Evaluation
various definitions and structures. No longer is marriage
1-7 Trends in Marriage
exclusively a heterosexual relationship but between persons of
and Family
the same sex. And families are no longer two adults and children
but single parent families headed by either a woman or man. In
this chapter we embrace the diversity of marriages and families,
identify how they are changing, suggest a choices framework (as
well as other theoretical views) for marriage/family, and emphasize the need to be cautious
about accepting the findings of research studies in marriage and family. We begin with the
traditional conception of the term marriage.
1-1 Marriage
W
ith all the talk of having no interest in getting married, enjoying singlehood, and
pursuing one’s education/career, “raising a family” remains one of the top values
for undergraduates. In a nationwide study of 165,743 undergraduates in 234 col-
leges and universities, almost three-fourths (73%) identified raising a family as an essential
Rachel Calisto
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1
Ch a p t er
objective (82% chose financial success as their top goal) (Eagan et al., 2013). In this chapter
we review the definitions and types of marriage and family, various theoretical frameworks,
and how researchers go about conducting M & F research so that we can be more informed
about our own decisions.
Although young adults think of marriage as “love” and “commitment” (Muraco &
m&f
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Curran, 2012), the federal government regards marriage as a legal relationship that binds a
couple together for the reproduction, physical care, and socialization
of children. Each society works out its own details of what mar-
riage is. In the United States, marriage is a legal contract between marriage a legal
a heterosexual couple (although an increasing number of states contract signed by a
are now recognize same-sex marriage) and the state in which they couple with the state
reside, that specifies the economic relationship between the couple in which they reside
(they become joint owners of their income and debt) and encourages that regulates their
sexual fidelity. The fine print of what marriage involves includes economic and sexual
the following elements. relationship.
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Under the laws of the state, the license means that
spouses will jointly own all future property acquired
and that each will share in the estate of the other. In
“It’s your fault.” partner. The license also implies the expectation of
sexual fidelity in the marriage. Though less frequent
“If you leave a glass on a table too because of no-fault divorce, infidelity is a legal ground
close to the edge and your wife for both divorce and alimony in some states.
knocks it off, tell your wife—That The marriage license is also an economic authori-
was my fault honey. zation that entitles a spouse to receive payment from a
If your wife leaves the glass too health insurance company for medical bills if the partner
close to the edge and you knock it is insured, to collect Social Security benefits at the death of
off, tell your wife—That was my one’s spouse, and to inherit from the estate of the deceased.
fault honey.” Spouses are also responsible for each other’s debts.
Though the courts are reconsidering the defini-
—Rex Fields, caR salesman tion of what constitutes a “family,” the law is currently
designed to protect spouses, not lovers or cohabitants.
An exception is common-law marriage, in which a
heterosexual couple cohabits and presents themselves
as married; they will be regarded as legally married in
those states that recognize such marriages. Common-
law marriages exist in 14 states. Persons married by
1-1a Elements of Marriage common law who move to a non-common-law state
Several elements comprise the meaning of marriage in are recognized as being married in the state to which
the United States. they move.
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What’s New? one person, with 4% engaged or married. Of the vari-
ous risk-taking behaviors identified on the question-
naire, eight were identified by 25% or more of the
respondents as behaviors they had participated in.
Taking ChanCEs in These eight are identified below.
RoManTiC RELaTionships Almost three-fourths (72%) of the sample self-iden-
tified as being a “person willing to take chances in my love
Marriage is about love and love is about making
relationship.” However, only slightly over one-third of the
choices—some of them are risky such as moving in
respondents indicated that they considered themselves as
together after knowing each other for a short time,
risk takers in general. These percentages suggest that col-
changing schools to be together, and forgoing condom
lege students may be more likely to engage in risk-taking
usage thinking “this time won’t end in a pregnancy.”
behavior in love relationships than in other areas of their
To assess the degree to which undergraduates take
lives. Both love and alcohol were identified as contexts for
chances in their romantic relationships, 381 students
increasing one’s vulnerability for taking chances in roman-
completed a 64-item questionnaire posted on the Inter-
tic relationships—60% and 66%, respectively. Both being
net (Elliott et al., 2012). The majority of respondents
in love and drinking alcohol (both love and alcohol may
were female (over 80%) and White (approximately
be viewed as drugs) gives one a sense of immunity from
74%). Over half of the respondents (53%) described
danger or allows one to deny danger.
their relationship status as emotionally involved with
cultures (e.g., India and Iran) do not require feelings of agreed with the statement,
e
Chels
marriage. In these countries, parental approval and who had an affair” (Hall &
e
Court
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Legal Responsibility for Children Although associated with obesity and spouses often do not
individuals marry for love and companionship, one of sleep as well as singles since a spouse may snore or
the most important reasons for the existence of mar- bed hog (Rauer, 2013).
riage from the viewpoint of society is to legally bind a
male and a female for the nurture and support of any 1-1b Types of Marriage
children they may have. In our society, child rearing is
Although we think of marriage in the United States
the primary responsibility of the family, not the state.
as involving one man and one woman, other societ-
ies view marriage differently. Polygamy is a form of
“if we don’t shape our kids, they marriage involving more than two spouses. Polygamy
will be shaped by outside forces occurs “throughout the world . . . and is found on all
continents and among adherents of all world religions”
that don’t care what shape our (Zeitzen, 2008). There are three forms of polygamy:
polygyny, polyandry, and pantagamy.
kids are in.”
— lo u i s E H a r t, pa r E n t E d u c ato r polygyny Polygyny involves one husband and two
or more wives and is practiced illegally in the United
Marriage is a relatively stable relationship that States by some religious fundamentalist groups. These
helps ensure that children will have adequate care and groups are primarily in Arizona, New Mexico, and
protection, will be socialized for productive roles in Utah (as well as Canada), and have splintered off from
society, and will not become the burden of those who the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (com-
did not conceive them. Even at divorce, the legal obli- monly known as the Mormon Church). To be clear,
gation of the noncustodial parent to the child is main- the Mormon Church does not practice or condone
tained through child-support payments. polygyny (the church outlawed it in 1890). Those that
split off from the Mormon Church represent only
announcement/Ceremony The legal binding about 5% of Mormons in Utah. The largest offshoot
of a couple is often preceded by an announcement in is called the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ
the local newspaper and then of the Latter-day Saints (FLDS). Members of the
followed by a formal ceremony group feel that the practice of polygyny is God’s will.
polygamy a generic in a church or synagogue. The Although the practice is illegal, polygynous individu-
term referring to a mar- presence of parents, siblings, als are rarely prosecuted because a husband will have
riage involving more and friends at the wedding only one legal wife while the others will be married in
than two spouses. helps to verify the commit- a civil ceremony.
polygyny a form of ment of the partners to each
polygamy in which one other and helps marshal the polyandry The Buddhist Tibetans foster yet
husband has two or social and economic support to another brand of polygamy, referred to as polyandry,
more wives. launch the couple into married in which one wife has two or more (up to five) hus-
life. Most people in our society bands. These husbands, who may be brothers, pool
polyandry a form of their resources to support one wife. Polyandry is a
decide to marry.
polygamy in which one much less common form of polygamy than polygyny.
When married people are
wife has two or more The major reason for polyandry is economic. A family
compared with singles, the dif-
husbands. that cannot afford wives or marriages for each of its
ferences are strikingly in favor
polyamory multiple of the married (see Table 1.1 sons may find a wife for the eldest son only. Polyandry
loves (poly = many; for the benefits of marriage allows the younger brothers to also have sexual access
amorous = love) and and the liabilities of single- to the one wife that the family is able to afford.
is a lifestyle in which hood). The advantages of mar-
lovers embrace the riage over singlehood are true polyamory Polyamory means multiple loves (poly 5
idea of having multiple for first as well as subsequent many; amorous 5 love) and is a lifestyle in which lov-
emotional and sexual marriages. However, just being ers embrace the idea of having multiple emotional and
partners. married is not beneficial to all sexual partners. During the mid-1800s, the Oneida
individuals. Being married is Community of Oneida, New York, embraced a form of
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table 1.1 concerned about enduring, intimate
Benefits of Marriage and the Liabilities of Singlehoodit relationships that include sex. A couple
who has a polyamorous relationship
Benefits of Marriage Liabilities of Singlehood
often have an open relationship—a
Health Spouses have fewer hospital Single people are hospitalized stable relationship in which the part-
admissions, see a physician more more often, have fewer medical ners regard their own relationship as
regularly, and are sick less often. checkups, and are sick more often. primary but agree that each may have
They recover from illness/surgery emotional and physical relationships
more quickly. with others.
Longevity Spouses live longer than single Single people die sooner than
people. married people. pantagamy Pantagamy describes
a group marriage in which each mem-
Happiness Spouses report being happier than Single people report less
ber of the group is “married” to the
single people. happiness than married people.
others. Also known as a three-way
Sexual Spouses report being more Single people report being less marriage, examples have existed in
satisfaction satisfied with their sex lives, both satisfied with their sex lives, both Brazil and the Netherlands whereby
physically and emotionally. physically and emotionally. one male was “married” to two
Money Spouses have more economic Single people have fewer females. While these are not legal mar-
resources than single people. economic resources than married riages, they reflect the diversity of life-
people. style preferences and patterns. Theo-
Lower Two can live more cheaply Cost is greater for two singles than retically, the arrangement could be of
expenses together than separately. one couple. any sex, gender, and sexual orientation.
The example in the Netherlands was of
Drug use Spouses have lower rates of drug Single people have higher rates of
a heterosexual man “married” to two
use and abuse. drug use and abuse.
bisexual women.
Connected Spouses are connected to more Single people have fewer The “one-size-fits-all” model of
individuals who provide a support individuals upon whom they can relationships and marriage is nonexis-
system—partner, in-laws, etc. rely for help. tent. Individuals may be described as
Children Rates of high school dropouts, teen Rates of high school dropouts, existing on a continuum from hetero-
pregnancies, and poverty are lower teen pregnancies, and poverty are sexuality to homosexuality, from rural
among children reared in two-parent higher among children reared by to urban dwellers, and from being
homes. single parents. single and living alone to being mar-
History Spouses develop a shared history Single people may lack continuity ried and living in communes. Emo-
across time with significant others. and commitment across time with tional relationships range from being
significant others. close and loving
to being distant
Crime Spouses are less likely to be Single people are more likely to be
and violent. open relationship a
involved in crime. involved in crime.
Family diversity stable relationship in
Loneliness Spouses are less likely to report Single people are more likely to includes two which the partners
loneliness. report being lonely. parents (other regard their own rela-
or same-sex), tionship as primary but
single-parent agree that each may
polyamory (complex marriage—every man was mar- families, blended families, fami- have emotional and
ried to every woman). Today in Louisa, Virginia, half lies with adopted children, mul- physical relationships
of the 100 members of Twin Oaks Intentional Com- tigenerational families, extended with others.
munity are polyamorous in that each partner may families, and families represent- pantagamy a group
have several emotional or physical relationships with ing different racial, religious, marriage in which
others at the same time. Although not legally married, and ethnic backgrounds. Diver- each member of the
these adults view themselves as emotionally bonded sity is the term that accurately group is “married” to
to each other and may even rear children together. describes marriage and family the others.
Polyamory is not swinging, as polyamorous lovers are relationships today.
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recognized as a social unit, including adopted people. The
M
tion, and because it is found in some form in all societies.
ost people who marry choose to have chil-
Same-sex couples (e.g., Ellen DeGeneres and her
dren and become a family. However, the
partner) certainly define themselves as family. Increas-
definition of what constitutes a family is
ingly, more states are recognizing marriages between
sometimes unclear. This section examines how families
same-sex individuals. Short of marriage, some states
are defined, their numerous types, and how marriages
recognize committed gay relationships as civil unions
and families have changed in the past sixty years.
(pair-bonded relationships given legal significance in
terms of rights and privileges).
1-2a Definitions of Family Although other states may not recognize same-sex
The U.S. Census Bureau defines family as a group of marriages or civil unions (and thus people moving from these
two or more people related by blood, marriage, or adop- states to another state lose the privileges associated with
tion. This definition has been challenged because it does marriage), over 24 cities and countries (including Canada)
not include foster families or long-term couples who live recognize some form of domestic partnership. Domestic
together. Marshall (2013) surveyed 105 faculty members partnerships are relationships in which cohabitating
from 19 Ph.D. marriage and family therapy programs individuals are given some kind of official recognition
and found no universal agreement on the definition of by a city or corporation so as to receive partner benefits
the family. Same-gender couples, children of same gender (e.g., health insurance). Disney recognizes domestic part-
couples, and children with nonresidential parents were nerships. Walmart offers benefits to same-sex partners.
sometimes excluded from the definition of the family. Domestic partnerships do not confer any federal recogni-
The answer to the question “Who is family?” is tion or benefits.
important because access to resources such as health Some view their pets as part of their family. About
care, Social Security, and retire- 60% of Americans own a pet. In a Gallo Family Vine-
ment benefits is involved. Unless yard survey of 691 pet owners, 93% agreed that their
family a group of two cohabitants are recognized by the pet was a part of the family (Payne & Bravo, 2013).
or more people related state in which they reside as in a Examples of treating pets like children include living
by blood, marriage, or “domestic partnership,” cohabi- only where there is a fenced-in backyard, feeding the
adoption. tants are typically not viewed as pet a special diet, hanging a stocking and/or buying
civil union a pair- “family” and are not accorded presents for the pet at Christmas, buying “clothes” for
bonded relationship health benefits, Social Security, the pet, and leaving money in one’s will for the care
given legal significance and retirement benefits of the of the pet. Some pet owners buy accident insurance—
in terms of rights and partner. Indeed, the “live-in part- Progressive© insurance covers pets. And pets are now
privileges. ner” may not be allowed to see the legal subject of divorce—the divorcing parties are
the beloved in the hospital, which granted custody and visitation rights to the animals of
domestic limits visitation to “family only.” the couple (Gregory, 2010).
partnership a The definition of who
relationship in which counts as family is being chal-
individuals who live lenged. In some cases, families 1-2b Types
together are emotion-
ally and financially
are being defined by function of Families Cou
rather than by structure—what rte
sy
of C
interdependent and are is the level of emotional and There are various types aro
line
Sch
given some kind of offi- financial commitment and inter- of families. ach
t
cial recognition by a city dependence between the part-
or corporation so as to ners? How long have they lived Family of origin Also
receive partner benefits. together? Do the partners view referred to as the family
family of orientation themselves as a family? of orientation, this is
the family of origin into Sociologically, a family is the family into
which a person is born. defined as a kinship system of which you
all relatives living together or were born
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or the family in which you were reared. It involves you, presumably the only feasible adjustment to a series of
your parents, and your siblings. When you go to your par- basic needs, forms a crucial part of the environment in
ents’ home for the holidays, you return to your family of which every individual grows to maturity” (p. 11).
origin. Your experiences in your family of origin have an The universality of the nuclear family has been
impact on your own relationships. If you grew up in a lov- questioned. In Sex at Dawn, Ryan and Jetha (2010)
ing intact family, you have a different set of expectations reviewed cross-cultural data and emphasized that the
than if your parents were conflictual, divorced, and do not terms marriage and family do not have universal mean-
speak to each other today. Indeed, positive mother–father ings. In some groups, adults have sexual relationships
relationship quality is linked to children’s outcomes. In a with various partners throughout their life and view
study of 773 parents, those reporting having stable and themselves as mothers and fathers to all of the children
supportive relationships also reported fewer behavioral in the community. Children in these villages view all
problems with their children who were ages 3 through 9. adults as their mother and father.
The researchers also found that marital relationship qual- Dr. Robert Bunger (2014) is a premier anthropolo-
ity and children’s behavioral problems were reciprocally gist. His reaction to the thesis of Sex at Dawn follows:
related (Goldberg & Carlson, 2014).
Siblings in one’s family of origin provide a profound in my opinion the idea that everyone had sex with
influence on one another’s behavior and emotional devel- whomever and that all adults were parents of
opment and adjustment (McHale et al., 2012). Meinhold everyone’s children is utter nonsense. louis Henry
et al. (2006) noted that the relationship with one’s siblings, morgan in Ancient Society (published in the 19th
particularly the sister–sister relationship, represents the century) suggested that early humans lived in a
most enduring relationship in a person’s lifetime. Sisters state of “primitive promiscuity”
who lived near one another and who did not have children and the idea was taken up by family of origin the
reported the greatest amount of intimacy and contact. marx and engels. i do not know family into which an
Family of procreation The family of procreation of any society that actually lives individual is born or
represents the family that you will begin should you that way. The muria Ghond of reared, usually includ-
marry and have children. Of U.S. citizens living in the india have a system whereby ing a mother, father,
United States 65 years old and over, 96% have mar- the young people, between and children.
ried and established their own family of procreation puberty and marriage, live in
family of procreation
(Statistical Abstract of the United States, 2012–2013, a group marriage where every-
the family a person
Table 34). Across the life cycle, individuals move from one is allowed to have sex with begins by getting
the family of orientation to the family of procreation. everyone else of the other sex. married and having
at some point they drop out and children.
nuclear Family The nuclear family refers to either settle into monogamous mar-
a family of origin or a family of procreation. In prac- nuclear family
riage. i do not think that there
tice, this means that your nuclear family consists of you, family consisting of an
is any traditional society where
your parents, and your siblings; or you, your spouse, and individual, his or her
group marriage for adults is the
your children. Generally, one-parent households are not spouse, and his or her
norm. i think that some commu-
referred to as nuclear families. They are binuclear fami- children, or of an indi-
nal movements like the amana
lies if both parents are involved in the child’s life or sin- vidual and his or her
gle-parent families if one parent is involved in the child’s society tried group marriage
parents and siblings.
life and the other parent is totally out of the picture. but later gave it up.
traditional family
is the nuclear Family Universal? Sociologist Traditional, Modern, and the two-parent nuclear
George Peter Murdock’s classic study (1949) emphasized postmodern Family Soci- family with the hus-
that the nuclear family is a “universal social grouping” ologists have identified three band as breadwinner
found in all of the 250 societies he studied. The nuclear central concepts of the family. and wife as homemaker.
family channels sexual energy between two adult part- The traditional family is the
modern family the
ners who reproduce and also cooperate in the care of two-parent nuclear family, with
dual-earner family, in
offspring and their socialization to be productive mem- the husband as breadwinner
which both spouses
bers of society. “This universal social structure, produced and the wife as homemaker. The
work outside the home.
through cultural evolution in every human society, as modern family is the dual-earner
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table 1.2
Differences between Marriage and the Family in the United States
Marriage Family
Usually initiated by a formal ceremony. Formal ceremony not essential.
Involves two people. Usually involves more than two people.
Ages of the individuals tend to be similar. Individuals represent more than one generation.
Individuals usually choose each other. Members are born or adopted into the family.
Ends when spouse dies or is divorced. Continues beyond the life of the individual.
Sex between spouses is expected and approved. Sex between near kin is neither expected nor approved.
Requires a license. No license needed to become a parent.
Procreation expected. Consequence of procreation.
Spouses are focused on each other. Focus changes with addition of children.
Spouses can voluntarily withdraw from marriage. Parents cannot divorce themselves from obligations to children via
divorce.
Money in unit is spent on the couple. Money is used for the needs of children.
Recreation revolves around adults. Recreation revolves around children.
Reprinted by permission of Dr. Lee Axelson.
family, in which both spouses blended family when parents remarry and bring addi-
work outside the home. tional children into the respective units.
postmodern family Postmodern families rep-
resent a departure from these Extended Family The extended family includes
nontraditional families
not only the nuclear family (or parts of it) but other
emphasizing that a models and include lesbian or
relatives as well. These relatives include grandpar-
healthy family need gay couples and mothers who
ents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. An example of an
not be heterosexual or are single by choice (Silverstein
extended family living together would be a husband
have two parents. & Auerbach, 2005).
and wife, their children, and the husband’s parents (the
binuclear family children’s grandparents). Asians are more likely than
family in which the Binuclear Family A
Anglo-Americans to live with their extended families.
members live in two binuclear family is a family in
However, commitment to the elderly may be chang-
households. which the members live in two
ing as a result of the westernization of Asian countries
separate households. This fam-
blended family a such as China, Japan, and Korea.
ily type is created when the par-
family created when The terms marriage and family are often thought
ents of the children divorce and
two individuals marry to be the same. Table 1.2 identifies the differences.
live separately, setting up two
and at least one of separate units, with the children
them brings a child or
children from a previ-
remaining a part of each unit.
Each of these units may also 1-3 Changes in
ous relationship or mar-
riage. also referred to
change again when the parents Marriage and
as a stepfamily.
remarry and bring additional
children into the respective units
Family
(blended family). Hence, the
W
extended family
the nuclear family or children may go from a nuclear hatever family we experience today was dif-
parts of it plus other family with both parents, to ferent previously and will change yet again.
relatives. a binuclear unit with parents A look back at some changes in marriage
living in separate homes, to a and the family follow.
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1-3a The industrial Revolution
and Family Change
The Industrial Revolution refers to the social and eco-
nomic changes that occurred when machines and fac-
tories, rather than human labor, became the dominant
mode for the production of goods. Industrialization
occurred in the United States during the early- and
mid-1800s and represents one of the most profound
influences on the family.
Before industrialization, families functioned as
an economic unit that produced goods and services
for its own consumption. Parents and children worked Families from familistic cultures such as
together in or near the home to meet the survival needs China who immigrate to the United States
of the family. As the United States became industrialized, soon discover that their norms, roles, and
more men and women left the home to sell their labor values are challenged.
for wages. The family was no longer a self-sufficient unit
that determined its work hours. Rather, employers deter- familism (e.g., focus on what is important for the fam-
mined where and when family members would work. ily) and the rise of individualism (focus on what it
Whereas children in preindustrialized America worked important for the individual). When family members
on farms and contributed to the economic survival of the functioned together as an economic unit, they were
family, children in industrialized America became eco- dependent on one another for survival and were con-
nomic liabilities rather than assets. Child labor laws and cerned about what was good for the family. This familis-
mandatory education removed children from the labor tic focus on the needs of the family has since shifted to a
force and lengthened their dependence on parental sup- focus on self-fulfillment—individualism. Families from
port. Eventually, both parents had to work away from familistic cultures such as China who immigrate to the
the home to support their children. The dual-income United States soon discover that their norms, roles, and
family had begun. values begin to alter in reference to the industrialized,
During the Industrial Revolution, urbanization urbanized, individualistic patterns and thinking. Individ-
occurred as cities were built around factories and families ualism and the quest for personal fulfillment are thought
moved to the city to work in the factories. Living space in to have contributed to high divorce rates, absent fathers,
cities was crowded and expensive, which contributed to and parents spending less time with their children.
a decline in the birthrate and thus smaller families. The Hence, although the family is sometimes blamed
development of transportation systems during the Indus- for juvenile delinquency, violence, and divorce, it is more
trial Revolution made it possible for family members to accurate to emphasize changing social norms and condi-
travel to work sites away from the home and to move tions of which the family is a part. When industrialization
away from extended kin. With increased mobility, many takes parents out of the home so that they can no longer
extended families became separated into smaller nuclear be constant nurturers and supervisors, the likelihood
family units consisting of parents and their children. of aberrant acts by their children/
As a result of parents leaving the home to earn wages adolescents increases. One expla-
and the absence of extended kin in or near the family nation for school violence is that familism philosophy
household, children had less adult supervision and moral absent, career-focused parents in which decisions are
guidance. Unsupervised children roamed the streets, have failed to provide close super- made in reference to
increasing the potential for crime and delinquency. vision for their children. what is best for the fam-
Industrialization also affected the role of the ily as a collective unit.
father in the family. Employment outside the home 1-3b Changes in individualism phi-
removed men from playing a primary role in child care losophy in which deci-
and in other domestic activities. The contribution men the Last 65 Years sions are made on the
made to the household became primarily economic. Enormous changes have occurred basis of what is best
Finally, the advent of industrialization, urban- in marriage and the family since for the individual.
ization, and mobility is associated with the demise of the 1950s. Table 1.3 reflects
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table 1.3
Changes in Marriages and Families,1950 and 2015
1950 2015
Family Strong values for marriage and the family. Individuals Individuals who remain single or child free experience social
relationship who wanted to remain single or child free are understanding and sometimes encouragement. Single
values considered deviant, even pathological. Husband and and childfree people are no longer considered deviant or
wife should not be separated by jobs or careers. pathological but are seen as self-actuating individuals with
strong job or career commitments. Husbands and wives can be
separated for reasons of job or career and live in a commuter
marriage. Married women in large numbers have left the role of
full-time mother and housewife to join the labor market.
Gender roles Rigid gender roles, with men dominant and earning Egalitarian gender roles with both spouses earning income.
income while wives stay home, taking care of children. Greater involvement of men in fatherhood.
Sexual values Marriage was regarded as the only appropriate context For many, concerns about safer sex have taken precedence over the
for intercourse in middle-class America. Living together marital context for sex. Virginity is rarely exchanged for anything.
is unacceptable, and a child born out of wedlock was Living together is regarded as not only acceptable but sometimes
stigmatized. Virginity is sometimes exchanged for preferable to marriage. For some, unmarried single parenthood is
marital commitment. regarded as a lifestyle option. Hooking up is new courtship norm.
Homogamous Strong social pressure exists to date and marry within Dating and mating have become more heterogamous, with
mating one’s own racial, ethnic, religious, and social class group. more freedom to select a partner outside one’s own racial,
Emotional and legal attachments are heavily influenced ethnic, religious, and social class group. Attachments are more
by obligation to parents and kin. often by choice.
Cultural silence Intimate relationships are not an appropriate subject for Individuals on talk shows, interviews, and magazine surveys are
on intimate the media. open about sexuality and relationships behind closed doors.
relationships
Divorce Society strongly disapproves of divorce. Familistic values Divorce has replaced death as the endpoint of a majority of
encouraged spouses to stay married for the children. marriages. Less stigma is associated with divorce. Individualistic
Strong legal constraints keep couples together. Marriage values lead spouses to seek personal happiness. No-fault
is forever. divorce allows for easy severance. Marriage is tenuous.
Increasing numbers of children are being reared in single-
parent households apart from other relatives.
Familism Families are focused on the needs of children. Mothers Adult agenda of work and recreation has taken on increased
versus stay home to ensure that the needs of their children are importance, with less attention being given to children.
individualism met. Adult concerns are less important. Children are viewed as more sophisticated and capable of
thinking as adults, which frees adults to pursue their own
interests. Day care is used regularly.
Homosexuality Same-sex emotional and sexual relationships are a Supreme Court legalized same-sex marriage. Gay relationships
culturally hidden phenomenon. Gay relationships are are, increasingly, a culturally open phenomenon (e.g., television
not socially recognized. sitcoms, gay athletes).
Scientific Aside from Kinsey’s, few studies are conducted on Acceptance of scientific study of marriage and intimate
scrutiny intimate relationships. relationships.
Family housing Husbands and wives live in same house. Husbands and wives may “live apart together” (LAT), which
means that, although they are emotionally and economically
connected, they (by choice) maintain two households, houses,
condos, or apartments.
Technology Nonexistent except phone. Use of iphones, texting, sexting, Facebook.
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some of these changes. One of the most obvious A social exchange view of marital
changes is technology. Marriage relationships roles emphasizes that spouses negoti-
are initiated, developed, and maintained ate the division of labor on the basis of
with cell phone technology. Individuals exchange. For example, a man partici-
stay in contact with each other all day via pates in child care in exchange for his
text messaging. We will discuss the impact wife earning an income, which relieves
of technology on relationships in greater him of the total financial responsibility.
detail in Chapter 5 on communication and Social exchange theorists also emphasize
technology. that power in relationships is the ability
In spite of the persistent and dra- to influence, and avoid being influenced
matic changes in marriage and the family, by, the partner.
marriage and the family continue to be Albert Einstein’s second marriage to
resilient. Using this marriage-resilience Elsa Einstein provides another example of
perspective, changes in the institution of exchange. “She was an efficient and lively
marriage are not viewed negatively nor are woman, who was eager to serve and pro-
they indicative that marriage is in a state of tect him . . . . He was pleased to be looked
decline. Indeed, these changes are thought after . . . which
to have “few negative consequences for allowed him to marriage-resilience
adults, children, or the wider society” spend hours in perspective the view
(Amato et al., 2007, p. 6). a rather dreamy that changes in the
Courtesy of E Fred Johnson, Jr.
state, focusing institution of marriage
more on the cosmos than on the are not indicative of a
world around him.” (Isaacson, decline and do not have
A
ll theoretical frameworks are the same in and to provide a point
that they provide a set of interrelated principles
Framework of view.
designed to explain a particular phenomenon The family life course
social exchange
and provide a point of view. In essence, theories are development framework
framework spouses
explanations. The more common frameworks follow. emphasizes the important role
exchange resources,
transitions of individuals that
and decisions are made
occur in different periods of life
1-4a social Exchange on the basis of per-
and in different social contexts.
Framework For example, young unmarried
ceived profit and loss.
The social exchange framework is one of the most lovers may become cohabitants, utilitarianism the
commonly used theoretical perspectives in marriage then parents, grandparents, doctrine holding that
and the family. The framework views interaction and retirees, and widows. The family individuals rationally
choices in terms of cost and profit. It operates from a life cycle is a basic set of stages weigh the rewards and
premise of utilitarianism —the theory that individu- through which not all individu- costs associated with
als rationally weigh the rewards and costs associated als pass (e.g., the childfree) and behavioral choices.
with behavioral choices. Vespa (2013) studied cohabi- in which there is great diversity, family life course
tants age 50 and older and found that unhealthy but particularly in regard to race and development the
wealthy males were more likely to marry—they trade education (e.g., African Ameri- stages and process of
their wealth/agreement to marry for caregiving by cans are less likely to marry; the how families change
a female who needs economic support/wants to be highly educated are less likely to over time.
married. divorce) (Cherlin, 2010).
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The family life course developmental framework discovered in the 1970s; she had been kept in isolation
has its basis in sociology (e.g., role transitions), whereas in one room in her California home for 12 years by her
the family life cycle has its basis in psychology, which abusive father (James, 2008). She could barely walk and
emphasizes the various developmental tasks family mem- could not talk. Although provided intensive therapy at
bers face across time (e.g., marriage, childbearing, pre- UCLA and the object of thousands of dollars of funded
school, school-age children, teenagers). If developmental research, Genie progressed only slightly. Today, she is
tasks at one stage are not accomplished, functioning in in her late 50s, institutionalized, and speechless. Her
subsequent stages will be impaired. For example, one of story illustrates the need for socialization; the legal
the developmental tasks of early American marriage is to bond of marriage and the obligation to nurture and
emotionally and financially separate from one’s family socialize offspring help to ensure that this socializa-
of origin. If such separation from parents does not take tion will occur.
place, independence as individuals and as a couple may Second, marriage and the family promote the
be impaired. emotional stability of the respective spouses. Society
cannot provide enough counselors to help us whenever
1-4c structure-Function we have emotional issues/problems. Marriage ideally
provides in-residence counselors who are loving and
Framework caring partners with whom people share (and receive
The structure-function framework emphasizes how help for) their most difficult experiences.
marriage and family contribute to society. Just as the Children also need people to love them and to give
human body is made up of different parts that work them a sense of belonging. This need can be fulfilled in
together for the good of the individual, society is made a variety of family contexts (two-parent families, single-
up of different institutions (e.g., family, religion, edu- parent families, extended families). The affective function
cation, economics) that work together for the good of of the family is one of its major offerings. No other insti-
society. Functionalists (structure-function theorists) tution focuses so completely on meeting the emotional
view the family as an institution with values, norms, needs of its members as marriage and the family.
and activities meant to provide stability for the larger Third, families provide economic support for their
society. Such stability depends on families performing members. Although modern families are no longer self-
various functions for society. sufficient economic units, they provide food, shelter, and
First, families serve to clothing for their members. One need only consider the
replenish society with socialized homeless in our society to be reminded of this impor-
members. Because our society tant function of the family.
family life
cannot continue to exist with- In addition to the primary functions of replace-
cycle stages which
out new members, we must have ment, emotional stability, and economic support, other
identify the various
some way of ensuring a continu- functions of the family include the following:
challenges faced by
ing supply. However, just having
members of a family ■ Physical care. Families provide the primary care for
new members is not enough. We
across time. their infants, children, and aging parents. Other
need socialized members—those
structure-function who can speak our language and agencies (neonatal units, day care centers, assisted-
framework empha- know the norms and roles of living residences, shelters) may help, but the fam-
sizes how marriage and our society. Girgis et al. (2011) ily remains the primary and recurring caretaker.
family contribute to the emphasized that “societies rely Spouses also show concern about the physical health
larger society. on families to produce upright of each other by encouraging each other to take
people who make for consci- medications and to see a doctor.
functionalists struc-
tural functionalist entious, law-abiding citizens ■ Regulation of sexual behavior. Spouses are expected
theorists who view the lessening the demand for gov- to confine their sexual behavior to each other, which
family as an institution ernmental policing and social reduces the risk of having children who do not have
with values, norms, services” (p. 245). socially and legally bonded parents, and of contract-
and activities meant to Disaster is the result for a ing or spreading sexually transmitted infections.
provide stability for the child born into a family which
larger society. does not function properly. ■ Status placement. Being born into a family provides
Genie is a young girl who was social placement of the individual in society. One’s
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family of origin largely determines one’s social class, ■ Social control. Spouses in high-quality, durable mar-
religious affiliation, and future occupation. Baby Prince riages provide social control for each other that results
George Alexander Louis, son of Kate Middleton and in less criminal behavior. Parole boards often note
Prince William of the royal family of Great Britain, that the best guarantee against recidivism is a spouse
was born into the upper class and is destined to be in who expects the partner to get a job and avoid crimi-
politics by virtue of being born into a political family. nal behavior and who reinforces these behaviors.
Personal View:
”I Was Stolen from
My Family”
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1-4d Conflict Framework 1-4e symbolic interaction
Conflict framework views individuals in relation- Framework
ships as competing for valuable resources (e.g., time,
The symbolic interaction framework views mar-
money, power). Conflict theorists recognize that family
riages and families as symbolic worlds in which the var-
members have different goals and values that produce
ious members give meaning to one another’s behavior.
conflict. Adolescents want freedom (e.g., stay out all
Human behavior can be understood only by the mean-
night with new love interest) while parents want their
ing attributed to behavior. Curran et al. (2010) assessed
child to get a good night’s sleep, not get pregnant, and
the meaning of marriage for 31 African Americans of
stay on track in school.
different ages and found that the two most common
Conflict theorists also view conflict not as good
meanings were commitment and love. Herbert Blumer
or bad but as a natural and normal part of relation-
(1969) used the term symbolic interaction to refer
ships. They regard conflict as necessary for the change
to the process of interpersonal interaction. Concepts
and growth of individuals, marriages, and families.
inherent in this framework include the definition of the
Cohabitation relationships, marriages, and families
situation, the looking-glass self, and the self-fulfilling
all have the potential for conflict. Cohabitants are in
prophecy.
conflict about commitment to marry, spouses
are in conflict about the division of labor, Definition of the situation Two
and parents are in conflict with people who have just spotted each other
their children over rules such as at a party are constantly defining the
curfew, chores, and homework. situation and responding to those
These three units may also be definitions. Is the glance from
in conflict with other systems. the other person (1) an invi-
For example, cohabitants are tation to approach, (2) an
in conflict with the economic approach, or (3) a misinter-
institution for health benefits pretation—was he or she looking
for their partners. Similarly, Levent Konuk/Shutterstock.com at someone else? The definition used
employed parents are in con- will affect subsequent interaction.
flict with their employers for flexible work hours, Getting married also has different definitions/
maternity or paternity benefits, and day care facilities. meanings. For “marriage naturalists” it is an event
Conflict theory is also helpful in understanding that is a natural progression of a relationship (often
choices in relationships with regard to mate selection begun in high school) and is expected of oneself, one’s
and jealousy. Unmarried individuals in search of a part- partner, and both of their families. Persons in rural
ner are in competition with other unmarried individuals areas more often have this view. In contrast, “marriage
for the scarce resources of a desirable mate. Such con- planners” are more metropolitan and view marriage
flict is particularly evident in the case of older women as an event one “gets ready for” by completing one’s
in competition for men. At age college or graduate school education, establishing
conflict framework 85 and older, there are twice as oneself in a job/career, and maturing emotionally and
view that individu- many women (3.7 million) as psychologically. These individuals may cohabit and
als in relationships there are men (1.8 million) (Sta- have children before they decide to marry (Kefalas
compete for valuable tistical Abstract of the United et al., 2011).
resources. States, 2012–2013, Table 7).
Jealousy is also sometimes about
symbolic Looking-glass self The image people have of
scarce resources. People fear that
interaction themselves is a reflection of what other people tell
their “one and only” will be sto-
framework views them about themselves (Cooley, 1964). People develop
len by someone else who has no
marriage and families an idea of who they are by the way others act toward
partner. Thus wives are aware of
as symbolic worlds in them. If no one looks at or speaks to them, they will
how much time their husbands
which the various mem- begin to feel unsettled, according to Charles Cooley.
spend talking to the attractive
bers give meaning to Similarly, family members constantly hold up social
newly divorced female at a social
each other’s behavior. mirrors for one another into which the respective
gathering. members look for definitions of self.
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G. H. Mead (1934), a classic symbolic interaction- rather than being locked into one role. In problem
ist, believed that people are not passive sponges but families, one family member is often allocated the role
that they evaluate the perceived appraisals of others, of scapegoat, or the cause of all the family’s problems
accepting some opinions and not others. Although some (e.g., an alcoholic spouse).
parents teach their children that they are worthless, Family systems may be open, in that they are
these children may reject the definition by believing receptive to information and interaction with the out-
in more positive social mirrors from friends, teachers, side world, or closed, in that they feel threatened by
and lovers. such contact. The Amish have a closed family system
and minimize contact with the outside world. Some
self-Fulfilling prophecy Once people define communes also encourage minimal outside exposure.
situations and the behaviors in which they are expected Twin Oaks Intentional Community of Louisa, Virginia,
to engage, they are able to behave toward one another does not permit any of its almost 100 members to
in predictable ways. Such predictability of behavior own a television or keep one in their room. Exposure
affects subsequent behavior. If you feel that your part- to the negative drumbeat of the evening news is seen
ner expects you to be faithful, your behavior is likely as harmful.
to conform to these expectations. The expectations Holmes et al. (2013) used a family systems per-
thus create a self-fulfilling prophecy. spective to explain the transition of spouses and their
marriage to parenthood. The researchers noted that
1-4f Family systems it is the context that must be considered to under-
stand changes. For example, having a daughter is
Framework associated with more conflict for fathers across time,
The family systems framework views each member and this impacts the interaction of the wife with her
of the family as part of a system and the family as a husband.
unit that develops norms of interacting, which may
be explicit (e.g., parents specify when their children
“Feminism is the radical notion
must stop texting for the evening and complete home-
work) or implicit (e.g., spouses expect fidelity from that women are people.”
each other). These rules serve various functions, such
as the allocation of keeping the education of offspring — a n i d i F r a n co, a m E r i c a n s i n g E r
on track and solidifying the emotional bond of the
spouses.
Rules are most efficient if they are flexible (e.g., 1-4g Feminist Framework
they should be adjusted over time in response to a Although a feminist framework views marriage
child’s growing competence). A rule about not leaving and family as contexts of inequality and oppression
the yard when playing may be appropriate for a 4-year- for women, there are 11 feminist perspectives, includ-
old but inappropriate for a 16-year-old. ing lesbian feminism (emphasizing oppressive het-
Family members also develop boundaries that erosexuality), psychoanalytic
define the individual and the group and separate one feminism (focusing on cultural
system or subsystem from another. A boundary may be domination of men’s phallic-ori- family systems
physical, such as a closed bedroom door, or social, such ented ideas and repressed emo- framework views
as expectations that family problems will not be aired tions), and standpoint feminism each member of the
in public. Boundaries may also be emotional, such as (stressing the neglect of wom- family as part of a
communication, which maintains closeness or distance en’s perspective and experiences system and the family
in a relationship. Some family systems are cold and in the production of knowledge) as a unit that develops
abusive; others are warm and nurturing. (Lorber, 1998). Regardless of norms of interaction.
In addition to rules and boundaries, family sys- which feminist framework is feminist framework
tems have roles (leader, follower, scapegoat) for the being discussed, all feminist views marriage and
respective family members. These roles may be shared frameworks have the themes of the family as contexts
by more than one person or may shift from person to inequality and oppression. Fem- for inequality and
person during an interaction or across time. In healthy inists seek equality in their rela- oppression.
families, individuals are allowed to alternate roles tionships with their partners.
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1-5 Choices in
Relationships:
View of the Text
W
hile the previous theoretical frameworks are
useful in understanding marriage and the
family, in this text we encourage a proac-
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tive approach of taking charge of your life and making
wise relationship choices. Making the right choices in
your relationships, including marriage and family, is
critical to your health, happiness, and sense of well-
being. Your times of greatest elation and sadness will
be in reference to your love relationships. action Must Follow a Choice While the
Although we have many choices to make in our private life of Woody Allen has been the subject of
society, among the most important are whether to public dismay (e.g., he married his long-time part-
marry, whom to marry, when to marry, whether to have ner’s adopted daughter), he is one of the few Hol-
children, whether to remain emotionally and sexually lywood directors who is given complete control over
faithful to one’s partner, and whether to protect oneself all aspects of his films. His success began with a
from sexually transmitted infections and unwanted decision to become a stand-up comedian and make
pregnancy. Though structural and cultural influences a name for himself, then use this influence to launch
are operative, a choices framework emphasizes that his film career. His biographer writes, “Woody is
individuals have some control over their relationship nothing if he is not deliberate. Decisions may take
destiny by making deliberate choices to initiate, nurture, a long while to be made, but once his mind is made
or terminate intimate relationships. up to do something, he devotes all his effort to it”
(Lax 1991, p. 156). While in his twenties, Allen per-
“things do not happen. things formed two to three shows a night to small, 50-per-
son audiences six nights a week ($75 to $100 a
are made to happen.” week) for two years. He was beset with the fear of
“going live,” exhausted at the grueling schedule, and
— J o H n F. K E n n E dy, 3 5 t H p r E s i d E n t
doubted the future (should he quit?). He persevered,
pushed through another six months, got his break,
1-5a Facts about Choices and moved forward.
in Relationships
“in any moment of decision, the
The facts to keep in mind when making relationship
choices include the following. best thing you can do is the
not to Decide is to Decide Not making a
right thing, the next best
decision is a decision by default. If you are sexually thing is the wrong thing,
active and decide not to use a condom, you have made
a decision to increase your risk for contracting a sexu-
and the worst thing you can
ally transmissible infection, including HIV. If you do do is nothing.”
not make a deliberate choice to end a relationship that
is unfulfilling, abusive, or going nowhere, you have —t H Eo d o r E r o o s E V E lt, 2 6t H p r E s i d E n t
made a choice to continue in that relationship and
have little chance of getting into a more positive and some Choices Require Correction Some
satisfying relationship. If you do not make a decision of our choices, although appearing correct at the
to be faithful to your partner, you have made a deci- time that we make them, turn out to be disasters.
sion to be vulnerable to cheating. Once we realize that a choice is having consistently
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negative consequences, we need to stop defending the
old choice, reverse the position, make new choices,
and move forward. Otherwise, one remains consis-
tently locked into continued negative outcomes of
“bad” choices. For example, choosing a partner who
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was loving and kind but who turns out to be abu-
sive and dangerous requires correcting that choice. To
stay in the abusive relationship will have predictable
disastrous consequences. To make the decision to dis-
engage and to move on opens the opportunity for a
loving relationship with another partner. In the mean- Choices include selecting a positive or
time, living alone may be a better alternative than liv- negative View As Thomas Edison progressed
ing in a relationship in which you are abused and may toward inventing the light bulb, he said, “I have not
end up dead. Other examples of making corrections failed. I have found ten thousand ways that won’t
involve ending dead or loveless relationships (perhaps work.” Ron Wayne, negotiating with Steve Jobs, was
after investing time and effort to improve the relation- offered a 10% share in the computer giant Apple
ship or love feelings), changing jobs or career, and when it started up, but he was ambivalent since he
changing friends. would have to invest money that he feared he would
lose and thus he did not invest. In early 2011, his
Choices involve Trade-offs By making one 10% stake would have been worth approximately
choice, you relinquish others. Every relationship choice $2.6 billion. Later in life he said that he was not bitter
you make will have a downside and an upside. If you and had made the best decision at the time (Isaacson,
decide to stay in a relationship that becomes a long- 2011, p. 65).
distance relationship, you are continuing involve-
ment in a relationship that is obviously important to
you. However, you may spend a lot of time alone and “Nothing is either good or bad
wonder if you made the right decision to continue the but thinking makes it so.”
relationship. If you decide to marry, you will give up
your freedom to pursue other emotional and/or sexual —william sHaKEspE arE,HamlEt
relationships, and you will also give up some of your
control over how you spend your money—but you In spite of an unfortunate event in your life, you
may also get a wonderful companion with whom to can choose to see the bright side. Regardless of your
share life. Any partner that you select will also have circumstances, you can opt for viewing a situation in
characteristics that must be viewed as a trade-off. One positive terms. A breakup with a partner you have
woman noted of her man, “he doesn’t do text messag- loved can be viewed as the end of your happiness or an
ing or email . . . he doesn’t even know how to turn on a opportunity to become involved in a new, more fulfill-
computer. But he knows how to build a house, plant a ing relationship. The discovery of your partner cheating
garden, and fix a car . . . trade-offs I’m willing to make.” on you can be viewed as the end of the relationship or
as an opportunity to examine your situation, to open
up communication channels with your partner, and
to develop a stronger connection. Discovering that
you are infertile can be viewed as a catastrophe or as
a challenge to face adversity with your partner. It is
not the event but your view of it that determines its
effect on you.
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DANCE ON STILTS AT THE GIRLS’ UNYAGO, NIUCHI
I see increasing reason to believe that the view formed some time
back as to the origin of the Makonde bush is the correct one. I have
no doubt that it is not a natural product, but the result of human
occupation. Those parts of the high country where man—as a very
slight amount of practice enables the eye to perceive at once—has not
yet penetrated with axe and hoe, are still occupied by a splendid
timber forest quite able to sustain a comparison with our mixed
forests in Germany. But wherever man has once built his hut or tilled
his field, this horrible bush springs up. Every phase of this process
may be seen in the course of a couple of hours’ walk along the main
road. From the bush to right or left, one hears the sound of the axe—
not from one spot only, but from several directions at once. A few
steps further on, we can see what is taking place. The brush has been
cut down and piled up in heaps to the height of a yard or more,
between which the trunks of the large trees stand up like the last
pillars of a magnificent ruined building. These, too, present a
melancholy spectacle: the destructive Makonde have ringed them—
cut a broad strip of bark all round to ensure their dying off—and also
piled up pyramids of brush round them. Father and son, mother and
son-in-law, are chopping away perseveringly in the background—too
busy, almost, to look round at the white stranger, who usually excites
so much interest. If you pass by the same place a week later, the piles
of brushwood have disappeared and a thick layer of ashes has taken
the place of the green forest. The large trees stretch their
smouldering trunks and branches in dumb accusation to heaven—if
they have not already fallen and been more or less reduced to ashes,
perhaps only showing as a white stripe on the dark ground.
This work of destruction is carried out by the Makonde alike on the
virgin forest and on the bush which has sprung up on sites already
cultivated and deserted. In the second case they are saved the trouble
of burning the large trees, these being entirely absent in the
secondary bush.
After burning this piece of forest ground and loosening it with the
hoe, the native sows his corn and plants his vegetables. All over the
country, he goes in for bed-culture, which requires, and, in fact,
receives, the most careful attention. Weeds are nowhere tolerated in
the south of German East Africa. The crops may fail on the plains,
where droughts are frequent, but never on the plateau with its
abundant rains and heavy dews. Its fortunate inhabitants even have
the satisfaction of seeing the proud Wayao and Wamakua working
for them as labourers, driven by hunger to serve where they were
accustomed to rule.
But the light, sandy soil is soon exhausted, and would yield no
harvest the second year if cultivated twice running. This fact has
been familiar to the native for ages; consequently he provides in
time, and, while his crop is growing, prepares the next plot with axe
and firebrand. Next year he plants this with his various crops and
lets the first piece lie fallow. For a short time it remains waste and
desolate; then nature steps in to repair the destruction wrought by
man; a thousand new growths spring out of the exhausted soil, and
even the old stumps put forth fresh shoots. Next year the new growth
is up to one’s knees, and in a few years more it is that terrible,
impenetrable bush, which maintains its position till the black
occupier of the land has made the round of all the available sites and
come back to his starting point.
The Makonde are, body and soul, so to speak, one with this bush.
According to my Yao informants, indeed, their name means nothing
else but “bush people.” Their own tradition says that they have been
settled up here for a very long time, but to my surprise they laid great
stress on an original immigration. Their old homes were in the
south-east, near Mikindani and the mouth of the Rovuma, whence
their peaceful forefathers were driven by the continual raids of the
Sakalavas from Madagascar and the warlike Shirazis[47] of the coast,
to take refuge on the almost inaccessible plateau. I have studied
African ethnology for twenty years, but the fact that changes of
population in this apparently quiet and peaceable corner of the earth
could have been occasioned by outside enterprises taking place on
the high seas, was completely new to me. It is, no doubt, however,
correct.
The charming tribal legend of the Makonde—besides informing us
of other interesting matters—explains why they have to live in the
thickest of the bush and a long way from the edge of the plateau,
instead of making their permanent homes beside the purling brooks
and springs of the low country.
“The place where the tribe originated is Mahuta, on the southern
side of the plateau towards the Rovuma, where of old time there was
nothing but thick bush. Out of this bush came a man who never
washed himself or shaved his head, and who ate and drank but little.
He went out and made a human figure from the wood of a tree
growing in the open country, which he took home to his abode in the
bush and there set it upright. In the night this image came to life and
was a woman. The man and woman went down together to the
Rovuma to wash themselves. Here the woman gave birth to a still-
born child. They left that place and passed over the high land into the
valley of the Mbemkuru, where the woman had another child, which
was also born dead. Then they returned to the high bush country of
Mahuta, where the third child was born, which lived and grew up. In
course of time, the couple had many more children, and called
themselves Wamatanda. These were the ancestral stock of the
Makonde, also called Wamakonde,[48] i.e., aborigines. Their
forefather, the man from the bush, gave his children the command to
bury their dead upright, in memory of the mother of their race who
was cut out of wood and awoke to life when standing upright. He also
warned them against settling in the valleys and near large streams,
for sickness and death dwelt there. They were to make it a rule to
have their huts at least an hour’s walk from the nearest watering-
place; then their children would thrive and escape illness.”
The explanation of the name Makonde given by my informants is
somewhat different from that contained in the above legend, which I
extract from a little book (small, but packed with information), by
Pater Adams, entitled Lindi und sein Hinterland. Otherwise, my
results agree exactly with the statements of the legend. Washing?
Hapana—there is no such thing. Why should they do so? As it is, the
supply of water scarcely suffices for cooking and drinking; other
people do not wash, so why should the Makonde distinguish himself
by such needless eccentricity? As for shaving the head, the short,
woolly crop scarcely needs it,[49] so the second ancestral precept is
likewise easy enough to follow. Beyond this, however, there is
nothing ridiculous in the ancestor’s advice. I have obtained from
various local artists a fairly large number of figures carved in wood,
ranging from fifteen to twenty-three inches in height, and
representing women belonging to the great group of the Mavia,
Makonde, and Matambwe tribes. The carving is remarkably well
done and renders the female type with great accuracy, especially the
keloid ornamentation, to be described later on. As to the object and
meaning of their works the sculptors either could or (more probably)
would tell me nothing, and I was forced to content myself with the
scanty information vouchsafed by one man, who said that the figures
were merely intended to represent the nembo—the artificial
deformations of pelele, ear-discs, and keloids. The legend recorded
by Pater Adams places these figures in a new light. They must surely
be more than mere dolls; and we may even venture to assume that
they are—though the majority of present-day Makonde are probably
unaware of the fact—representations of the tribal ancestress.
The references in the legend to the descent from Mahuta to the
Rovuma, and to a journey across the highlands into the Mbekuru
valley, undoubtedly indicate the previous history of the tribe, the
travels of the ancestral pair typifying the migrations of their
descendants. The descent to the neighbouring Rovuma valley, with
its extraordinary fertility and great abundance of game, is intelligible
at a glance—but the crossing of the Lukuledi depression, the ascent
to the Rondo Plateau and the descent to the Mbemkuru, also lie
within the bounds of probability, for all these districts have exactly
the same character as the extreme south. Now, however, comes a
point of especial interest for our bacteriological age. The primitive
Makonde did not enjoy their lives in the marshy river-valleys.
Disease raged among them, and many died. It was only after they
had returned to their original home near Mahuta, that the health
conditions of these people improved. We are very apt to think of the
African as a stupid person whose ignorance of nature is only equalled
by his fear of it, and who looks on all mishaps as caused by evil
spirits and malignant natural powers. It is much more correct to
assume in this case that the people very early learnt to distinguish
districts infested with malaria from those where it is absent.
This knowledge is crystallized in the
ancestral warning against settling in the
valleys and near the great waters, the
dwelling-places of disease and death. At the
same time, for security against the hostile
Mavia south of the Rovuma, it was enacted
that every settlement must be not less than a
certain distance from the southern edge of the
plateau. Such in fact is their mode of life at the
present day. It is not such a bad one, and
certainly they are both safer and more
comfortable than the Makua, the recent
intruders from the south, who have made USUAL METHOD OF
good their footing on the western edge of the CLOSING HUT-DOOR
plateau, extending over a fairly wide belt of
country. Neither Makua nor Makonde show in their dwellings
anything of the size and comeliness of the Yao houses in the plain,
especially at Masasi, Chingulungulu and Zuza’s. Jumbe Chauro, a
Makonde hamlet not far from Newala, on the road to Mahuta, is the
most important settlement of the tribe I have yet seen, and has fairly
spacious huts. But how slovenly is their construction compared with
the palatial residences of the elephant-hunters living in the plain.
The roofs are still more untidy than in the general run of huts during
the dry season, the walls show here and there the scanty beginnings
or the lamentable remains of the mud plastering, and the interior is a
veritable dog-kennel; dirt, dust and disorder everywhere. A few huts
only show any attempt at division into rooms, and this consists
merely of very roughly-made bamboo partitions. In one point alone
have I noticed any indication of progress—in the method of fastening
the door. Houses all over the south are secured in a simple but
ingenious manner. The door consists of a set of stout pieces of wood
or bamboo, tied with bark-string to two cross-pieces, and moving in
two grooves round one of the door-posts, so as to open inwards. If
the owner wishes to leave home, he takes two logs as thick as a man’s
upper arm and about a yard long. One of these is placed obliquely
against the middle of the door from the inside, so as to form an angle
of from 60° to 75° with the ground. He then places the second piece
horizontally across the first, pressing it downward with all his might.
It is kept in place by two strong posts planted in the ground a few
inches inside the door. This fastening is absolutely safe, but of course
cannot be applied to both doors at once, otherwise how could the
owner leave or enter his house? I have not yet succeeded in finding
out how the back door is fastened.