ENGLISH-IV

ENG421

CIA 1

Submitted by
Khushboo Kothari
Reg. No. 2140880

Submitted to
JYOTIRMAYEE MALLIK

CHRIST (Deemed to be University)

BENGALURU

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Description:

In the summer of 2019, Keya and I grew close since we attended the same high school in our

hometown. We grew close quite swiftly, primarily because we were both ready and able to

communicate with one other honestly about our feelings and beliefs. I required her to thrive. She gave

me a sense of community and assisted me in developing new perspectives on who I am. She

supported me when I was hopeless and rejoiced with me when I was successful. Things were different

this summer. We had personality and communication issues when there had been no problems in our

relationship the summer before. I was originally quite perplexed since I believed I knew our

friendship rather well. We had been separated during the school year and had only sometimes spoken

to one another during breaks, so our experiences were completely different. She had also started

dating over the summer, and I mostly overlooked the impact it had on her life throughout the

academic year.

She was noticeably angrier when I got home, less likely to probe me deeply about problems I was

facing, and more likely to talk excessively about herself and her relationship concerns. These subtle

personality shifts were apparent when we started hanging out again. I soon became annoyed since it

started to dominate our chats. I'm the kind of person that enjoys talking through issues in order to

maybe find a solution. She didn't want to do this; all she needed was someone to vent to about her

frustrations and, maybe, to justify her behaviour to. In spite of the fact that it caused a rift in our

friendship and a disturbance in my mental health, I supported her throughout the process since I loved

so much about her. She is worthwhile and worth the effort and time.

Differentiating ethics, views, and values are the root cause of interpersonal disputes. To find a

solution at this point, the divergent viewpoints must be freely expressed. The key to a strong, long-

lasting friendship and successful issue solving is communication. I have had enough of the drama and

thought it was time to confront her about this. Instead than focusing on right or wrong, conflict

resolution aims to foster mutual understanding. I shared my predicament while keeping my words'

attention on myself and my feelings. I maintained my composure and became aware of my defensive

or too emotional tendencies. I was careful to avoid placing the blame on her, making judgements

about her, and criticising her overall personality or friendship skills. Consider it a chance to

communicate; I've learned that emotions are information, not facts. After I had spoken my hurt and

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experience, I put on my listening ears and tried to grasp Keya's perspective. After doing all of this, I

felt much lighter in heart and relieved of the weight. We were closer than ever and, on the road, to

reconciling our differences.