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h i al. She a ill c ming f he effec f ane he ia hen he a a he

bed ide and c nf n ed he ab he bad beha i . He ld he he didn
eem e a ecia i e f hi hel a he h i al hen he a aking . He
needed m e f m he han ha , he aid. She c ld ba el f c n ha he a
a ing a he a elling he ab hi h feeling . S an fel c nf ed and
e ed, n men i n in ain, ha ing n ene g be able e nd. He
made e n be a nd a l d ing he ec e . She a n he n heal
and ake ca e f he kid .
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ha e ci e . The CN c me i h and i i i able he h le ime, making
i ha d f enj i .
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ha e d e ed f a da e i h hem, in alida ing feeling , n
defending hen me ne el e i ea ing badl , mea ing name
he , ing n kid again , b le -d n , and ing
in ec i ie and e nal hing ha e ened hem ab nd
. Yea f hi ea men l l b eak d n i i , he life in ide .
Y l e ack f ha a l ing ela i n hi ac all l k like and agicall
begin belie e d n de e e an be e .
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A CN ill minimi e ainf l e e ience i h hem, hich make
d b elf, e i ning n feeling and eali . D . Ge ge K. Sim n,
J . de c ibe hi f m f mani la i n in hi b k, In Shee Cl hing : This
tactic is a unique kind of denial coupled with rationali ation. When using this
maneuver, the aggressor is attempting to assert that his behavior isn t reall as
harmful or irresponsible as someone else ma be claiming.
Man ic im nde if he a e bl ing hing f i n hinking
hei e a en c - ke i a CN. W men I alked nde if he a e
blame and he CN a ac all a g ea l e ha he ill eg e lea ing. Man
nde if he hem el e a e na ci i . CN ill e d b again
a ing a e e l d ama ic, en i i e, d n ake e n ibili f
elf, blame e e ne in ead, e c.
The hing emembe i can elf. Y ain i eal. All
elf ec gni e hi . If me hing feel ff ha i beca e i i .