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Edit - Blog 8 - How To Break A Trauma Bond
Are you tired of staying in a relationship where there is less love and more torture? Do you feel
your "Happily Ever After" took a sharp 180 degrees turn? Often times when you are in a
relationship, you find yourself in deep clutches of a bond so full of toxicity. At first, everything
about the relationship gives you a soothing, calming and loving affect overall, but as soon as
your partner wears off his façade, it all turns dark, gloomy, and ugly.
Relationships, as we know are just so full of complexities. One time you want to hold your
partner’s hand, and the other moment, you want to pinch his hand so hard that it leaves an
imprint. Any such kind of relationship in which you are eager to get your partner’s love,
affection, and validation all the time, and you actually receive all that in the beginning of your
relationship, But, gradually, it all fades away when your partner makes you feel miserable about
yourself. No matter how hard you try to pull yourself together, you fall in his trap again and
again. The cycle of love and emotional abuse is called a "Trauma Bond." There a few steps,
which could help you, break this trauma bonding.
2. Journaling
Writing is one of the best ways of expression because you think about it consciously. The reality
training is very much important to move on from a situation. You need to sit down in a calm
place, and think about every single event related to your relationship that affected you. You
should start writing about it all, as if you’re writing a story or a fictional piece with different
characters in it. Make it sound like it’s someone else’s life story. While you are writing it, try
including all the positive and negative events in it, and keep it in a sequential order like a real
story. When you write about your life this way, as if it were someone else, it will detach you
from it and make you see things from a different perspective. You will be able to figure out your
true feelings, and you’ll feel like you are reading a story and eventually, you’ll come up with
solutions on how to deal with it.