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Male Multiple Orgasms Without Ejaculating: Exactly How To Have Them
Male Multiple Orgasms Without Ejaculating: Exactly How To Have Them
Male Multiple Orgasms Without Ejaculating: Exactly How To Have Them
Between foreplay and sex, a woman can get off 10+ times in a single session, and
those orgasms can last 10-20+ seconds.
Yay.
But then, a few months ago, I figured out something that blew my load mind…
Not only can guys have multiple orgasms in a single session, they can do
it without ejaculating, with no recovery period, and they can have prolonged
orgasms that last for over a minute.
Just less jizz
It doesn’t take long to figure out either. It only took me a month from
discovering this was possible to actually doing it, and I didn’t have this article to
guide me like you do.
When I coached a friend on it, he had his first “non-ejaculatory orgasm” in just
two weeks.
So if you’re ready to radically change how you think about guy’s sexual pleasure
and orgasm… read on.
Also, be sure to download the app Stamena which will help you train yourself to
become multi-orgasmic along with this article.
Dave: In this old Taoist book… it said to limit your orgasm to no longer than 30
minutes.
Emily: A 30 minute orgasm? … Did you try it and make something like that
happen?
Dave: The one time I tried, it was more than 8.5 minutes. Your abs hurt a lot, and
you’re like, “Could I just stop, please?” Literally, I’ve had enough. Please go away
now, which to me was a new experience. There’s all these things that your body
can do around that stuff that are not taught anywhere that I know of.
And then… they just went on to something else! I was standing there in my
kitchen going “what the fuck? An 8 minute long orgasm? you can do that
(directed downwards)?”
Then I forgot about it for a bit… until Tim Ferriss did a podcast where he drunk
dialed some of his fans and it came up again:
Guest: Tell me about Tantric sex. How to do it, how to explore it, where to start…
And while Tim said he didn’t like “tantric” or multi-orgasmic sex very much, he
mentioned The Multi-Orgasmic Man and “Orgasmic Meditation,” both closely
related to what’s called “Tantric sex,” something that Dave had mentioned as
well.
Finally, I had somewhere to start my search. But less than 24 hours later… I was
pissed off and dissatisfied.
Why? Because if you’re a remotely secular person, then good luck getting
through the open-your-heart-chakra mysticism filling the pages of anything
about Tantric sex.
There had to be a secular way to figure this out. Enter The Multi-Orgasmic Man.
Enter problem #2.
The Multi-Orgasmic Man is the oft-cited source on this subject, but it shouldn’t
be. It’s poorly written and at least 2/3 of the book is spent talking about itself
instead of giving you something actionable to do.
But, with that research combined, I did ultimately figure out how you can have
non-ejaculatory orgasms without any eastern mysticism.
Then with a bit of experimentation, I figured out how you can extend them
significantly.
Here’s how.
You can extend it a few seconds and increase the intensity of it (both
through kegel exercises), but it remains limited in duration and you can only
have one.
What most men don’t know is that there are three more types of orgasms,
which most guys never experience:
More intense. Once you’ve practiced, all three are a more intense sensation
than an EO.
No refractory period. You can orgasm again and again without having to
cool down.
They’re looong. A PNEO can last 1, 5, even 10 minutes. Ever been physically
exhausted from orgasming? No? Well get ready.
I’m going to cover how you can have your first NEO and PNEO, but just on your
own.
Having either during sex and foreplay is 10x harder, but once you can do it on
your own, here’s how to have multiple orgasms during sex.
Without that kind of control, you won’t be able to slowly bring yourself up to the
point of having an NEO, and you definitely won’t be able to keep yourself right at
that threshold.
If you can’t easily do that, start with the article on how to last longer in bed.
But most men have a weak PC muscle, even if they can normally last a long time
in bed, so you’ll need to train yours until you have a vice-like grip behind your
penis.
You do this through kegel exercises (if you’re not familiar with them, go read that
article).
The PC muscle (ejaculation muscle for our purposes) is located right behind your
balls and before your anus. You’ve felt it when you’re trying to prevent yourself
from peeing, or when you start peeing and then try to make yourself stop.
It’s also the muscle that you use to prevent yourself from ejaculating, and that
flexes and spasms when you’re orgasming.
The easiest way to do that training is to use an app called Stamena (or Kegel
Trainer on Android), which will walk you through doing progressively more
difficult kegel exercises and strengthening the PC muscle.
Start by practicing your kegels 2-3 times a day until you can hold for 20+
seconds. That’s when you’re at the point that you can squeeze hard enough to
pull yourself back from the edge.
Once you’re there, keep doing kegels for maintenance, but you can move on to
the next step…
Step Three: Daily Practice
While you’re learning to have NEOs and PNEOs, set aside 20+ minutes each night
to masturbate and work on it. I found that if I went more than a couple days
without experimenting, I’d be set back considerably.
Once you’ve practiced enough you can go for a few days without it, but until you
have it mastered, set that time aside every night.
During the practice, work yourself up to a peak (somewhere around a 9-9.5 out of
10 for how close you are to orgasming) and then bring yourself back down to a 5-
7. This is called “edging.”
Stay in the upper range as long as possible, but when you feel like you’re at risk
of ejaculating, cool yourself down using the STAB technique from the last article:
Squeeze: Squeeze your PC muscles HARD like you’re doing an intense kegel.
Hold for at least 10 seconds, but the longer you can hold the more you’ll
come down. (A few shorter holds, or a bunch of 1 second ones can work too)
Think: Think about something else
Avoid: Change your stroke (avoid the head) instead of stopping entirely
Breathe: Take deep, diaphragmatic (with your stomach) breath
The idea is to become extremely aware of how close you are to ejaculating.
Having that awareness is crucial for separating orgasm and ejaculation.
For that reason, I’m going to make a recommendation you might not like…
I found that using porn when practicing pulled me out of the experience too
much, and I lost awareness of where I was on that 1-10 scale.
By not using it you’re forced to focus on the experience more, and it will give you
significantly more awareness of how close you are and when you need to pull
yourself back.
Once you’ve mastered edging, you can start to separate the orgasm and
ejaculation.
You’ve likely experienced ejaculation and orgasm at the same time for your
entire life, but that’s just a strategic biological move on your body’s part.
Orgasm is not caused by ejaculating, rather it normally happens in sync with and
actually slightly before ejaculating. Your body needs to make sure you don’t stop
pumping away as you get closer to cumming (since it wants to reproduce), so it
gets you closer to orgasming as motivation.
When you hit the point of no return where you know you’re going to
ejaculate, squeeze your PC muscle as hard as you can as if you’re doing a long
kegel hold.
You should feel your penis twitch, swell, and the ejaculating will be delayed a
second or two… but the orgasm sensation won’t. You’ll feel a couple seconds of
orgasm right before you ejaculate, and then you’ll have the regular ejaculation
plus orgasm that you’re used to.
Congrats! You just separated orgasm and ejaculation for the first time.
This is the “holy shit” moment. Once you feel this happen, everything else will
feel 100x more possible.
When you get close to cumming, you’re going to do something a little different:
right when you hit the point of no return, squeeze your PC muscles as hard as you
can, open your eyes (this helps, not sure why), and stop stroking your penis.
You’ll stop too early and not get the orgasm. This is fine, just work
yourself up again and try it a little closer to orgasming
You’ll do it too late and you’ll orgasm + ejaculate anyway. That’s fine,
just try again next time but at a slightly earlier point.
You’ll have an NEO! I doubt you’ll get it your first time, but if you do,
congrats! Work yourself up to that peak and see if you can do it again.
Even when you do it right, some cum might leak out, or you might have one small
squirt. That’s fine! You’ll notice that there’s no refractory period, you’re just
cooled down to a 5 or 6 again and still completely able to keep going.
Good work! You’re now able to have non-ejaculatory orgasms. But, as you
probably found, the first one isn’t anything crazy to write home about. Which is
why we need…
Step Six: Intensifying Your NEOs
For every guy I’ve talked to, the first NEO is disappointing. It will be extremely
brief and not incredibly pleasureable. Womp womp.
The best way to do that is to keep having them. The good news is that since you
don’t have a refractory period, you can have multiple in the same session.
What will make the biggest difference in how pleasurable they are is how close
to actually ejaculating you are when you have them. If you’re squeezing your
PC muscle with the vice-like grip to keep yourself a hair-width away from
ejaculating, it’ll be much more intense than if you’re just loosely squeezing a few
times at a 9.
You can also try changing how you do your kegel squeezes. I find the long hard
squeeze most effective, but for some guys a few medium length squeezes or a
bunch of very quick ones are better.
Women can orgasm multiple times in quick succession, and stay in that peak
state for over a minute, so why couldn’t I do the same?
That was the question that led me to the abs-destroying orgasmic intensity that
David Asprey alluded to.
If you have an idea for how to better visualize this… let me know
Orgasm is the same. Once you’ve separated it from ejaculation, you can move
between different levels of orgasm for as long as you want.
You’ll have peaks of pleasure that you would normally call “orgasms,” but instead
of cooling down afterward you’ll stay in a less intense orgasm. The spasms,
contractions, and mental pleasure of an orgasm will all be there, just with
different intensity.
Don’t let yourself cool down. Shift the focus to the head of your penis, and use a
fast stroke to keep yourself right against that edge. You should be able to quickly
get to the NEO peak again, and when you do, just do the same thing and
immediately try as hard as possible to have another one.
As you keep doing this, the gaps will get shorter and shorter until you manage to
keep yourself right in that orgasmic state between the successive peaks. It might
take a few tries and you might have a few misfires, but eventually you’ll hit that
point where you’re in that blissed out orgasm state beyond just when you’re
having the peaks.
Once you have your first one in a session, the next ones get easier.
Get yourself up to the point just before you would have an NEO, but now you’re
going to clench your PC muscles earlier, and make all of the movements as if you
were having an orgasm.
Do the thrusting, leg twitching, thrashing, etc. If you’re not sure what motions to
make, just imitate what you see women do when they orgasm.
This is the same principle I talked about in the article on lasting longer in bed: if
you smile, you make yourself happier. If you breathe like you’re not going to cum,
you won’t. And in this case, if you move your body as if you’re having an
orgasm, you will.
You’re stroking, you’re close to an NEO, and now you’re clenching and moving as
if you’re orgasming. Keep your eyes open like before, and keep stroking to keep
yourself right against that no-return threshold.
At some point here you’ll feel a sudden rush of pleasure and the sensation will
noticeably change from just the pleasure of stroking to being in the orgasmic
state that you felt before. You’ll be able to manipulate how intense the
orgasm is by stroking harder or faster, and you’ll be able to pull yourself out
of it just by stopping if you get tired or get too close to ejaculating.
Eventually, you’ll get to the point where the reason you let yourself come down
(or finally ejaculate) is because your abs hurt (seriously, this is an insane ab
workout) or your throat dries out from breathing so heavily.
Having NEOs and PNEOs with your
partner
You can go from zero to having NEOs and PNEOs on your own in less than a
month. Once you know the sensations you’re going for, getting to them is not
particularly hard assuming you have the sufficient PC muscle strength.
But having either with your partner is considerably more difficult because you’re
no longer controlling the amount of stimulation. Instead, you’re relying on them
to provide the constant pressure you need to reach an NEO, or stay in a PNEO,
without providing so much that you actually ejaculate.
That’s why I recommend figuring out how to do it on your own first. Once
you’ve gotten it down, then you can work on incorporating it into sex and
foreplay with your partner.
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