This document provides tips for younger men ("cubs") who want to date and attract older women ("cougars"). It advises cubs to brush up on bedroom skills, be prepared to let the cougar take the lead, make the cougar feel attractive with compliments, have a well-toned physique and cool confident attitude to attract cougars looking for fun, and understand that cougar and cub relationships can work if both parties respect each other's ages and privacy and make an effort to understand each other.
This document provides tips for younger men ("cubs") who want to date and attract older women ("cougars"). It advises cubs to brush up on bedroom skills, be prepared to let the cougar take the lead, make the cougar feel attractive with compliments, have a well-toned physique and cool confident attitude to attract cougars looking for fun, and understand that cougar and cub relationships can work if both parties respect each other's ages and privacy and make an effort to understand each other.
This document provides tips for younger men ("cubs") who want to date and attract older women ("cougars"). It advises cubs to brush up on bedroom skills, be prepared to let the cougar take the lead, make the cougar feel attractive with compliments, have a well-toned physique and cool confident attitude to attract cougars looking for fun, and understand that cougar and cub relationships can work if both parties respect each other's ages and privacy and make an effort to understand each other.
Getting Around Cougar Town If you’re fairly new to this jungle, you must keep in mind that cougars are very smart beings and if you are going to make anything happen with them, there are some basics of Cougar Dating that you must know: Brush Up On Your Bedroom Skills One of the perks of dating an older woman is that they know their way in the bedroom. You must be able to keep up with their spectacular sack styles and secrets or you might be sent home with your tail between your legs. Prepare To Be The Boytoy Whether you like it or not, that’s the way it’s going to be. In this set-up, she is clearly on top. So when she wants to go out, you should be ready to go out. Don’t worry though, once you prove yourself worthy of her attention, you will be rewarded nicely. Make Her Feel Attractive Inside every cougar is a little girl who wants to be told how pretty she is. Show her off to your friends, compliment her and give her little presents when you can. This is the way that every woman’s heart, cougar or not. The Mating Season Few things in this world can be sexier than a woman in her 40’s, financially independent, secure with her looks and talented in bed. No wonder more and more males are hoping to score at least one date with these alluring creatures of prey. If you are one of them, you can try a few things to increase your chances of being stalked. Here are 5 things that cougars look for during their prowl: A Well-Toned Physique It must be remembered, the reason cougars are out tonight is because they are sick of seeing their husbands disappear into the couch in yesterday’s sweats. Here is your chance to show off your young 20- year old body, which should look particularly enticing to any cougar looking for some action. A Cool And Confident Vibe You don’t have to possess killer good looks in order to attract an older woman. But it does help to be confident in yourself, just be careful not to go overboard because of course; these women are very experienced and can tell whether you’re for real or not. A friendly tip: talk to her as if you were talking to a college buddy of yours. Do not be intimidated by her stunning good looks or even her jewelry. A Brain No need to be Einstein here, either. But if you can carry a decent conversation without having to resort to reciting the Periodical Table to impress her, it’s a start. Do not drown yourself in alcohol thinking you will be transformed into a smooth talker. Chances are, you’ll end up in a heap in the bar’s bathroom stall. The Prowl It must be remembered that there are many different cougar species, all looking for different things in men. Some are just out to have a good time, some are out with a vengeance, yet some might really be looking for something special. It’s best to know what you want yourself before playing in the cougar field. That way, complications can be avoided and you and your cougar can have a fun and uncomplicated and well-defined romp/ relationship. Of course, it wouldn’t hurt to know beforehand if the woman you’re smiling at across the bar is a real cougar. Because if the man beside her happens to be her husband, then you have some explaining to do. So sit back and observe at a distance. When you are sure that she is indeed one, then you may proceed. Cougars are basically women who are tired of all the relationship woes that come with older men. Whether these men are jealous, controlling or just plain fat, younger men are at an advantage simply because they are young, fun and carefree. By showing an older woman that you can show her a good time, you will already become a prime candidate. So be fun and carefree in the bar. Groove to some hot Latin moves on the dance floor. Crack some jokes and get her to smile. There is very little wrong you can do by being yourself. Cougars are just like any other woman except they are more mature, less insecure and a lot more confident. Talk to her, be interesting and try not to say anything stupid about her age. Buy her a drink and compliment her on her dress. If things go well, you may end up spending the next few days or months, even years of your life with a sexy older woman on your arm. The Cougar And The Cub At first glance, a younger man-older woman relationship may just seem wrong. How can anyone consider going out with someone who is old enough to be their mother? But upon closer scrutiny and with more and more cougar-cub relationships developing over the years, (as of date, 30% of women aged 40 and older are going out with younger men) you have to tell yourself that this is a formula that seems to be working. Consider these tips to maintain the balance between a young man and her older woman: Be Sensitive To Each Other’s Age It is very important for the cub to consider how his cougar may feel around his younger friends doing “young” things like drinking, getting into trouble, dancing all night in a club and so on and so forth. At the same time, the cougar may forget that she is dealing with someone half her age and she can’t expect him to grow wisdom overnight. Always Keep The Lines Of Communications Open It is important for the cougar and cub to be very honest with each other about how they are feeling about the relationship at any point. If one of the parties is feeling uncomfortable about being brought to a certain place then he or she must speak up. Keeping things bottled up inside will only build resentment. Have Respect For Each Other’s Pasts And Privacy There will always be some things that either party may want to keep for himself/ herself. Especially in the case of the cougar who may have had a pretty colorful past, there may be some things that she would like to keep to herself. Maybe in due time, she will open up but until that time, the cub will have to learn to wait. Make An Effort It is always that 5% you give in anything that makes all the difference. Of course this is a one of a kind relationship and of course you will run into all sorts of trouble and misunderstandings. But if both parties are willing to push themselves out of their comfort zones to make the other happy, then it can be said that this relationship has the ability to last longer than previously thought. Don’t Take The Age Thing Too Seriously If the two genuinely like each other and have some of the same interests and enjoy each other’s company, then age should not be a problem. Concentrate on the good things and leave the numbers on the calendar. Overcoming MORE Cougar Stigma While the cougar phenomenon seems to be in vogue today thanks to the glamorization of the dating pattern by some very famous Hollywood celebrities, the notion of a woman over 35 on the prowl for sexual relations is generally frowned upon by society. There is a misconception that a woman of that age and above should be married and have kids to be considered normal. If she chooses not to marry then she should be a quiet spinster, at home with her cat and definitely not hitting the club scene to land herself someone to bring home. Girls Just Want To Have Fun But is there really a cause for shame? These female baby boomers are only feeling a new kind of empowerment and are trying to make their mark on a dating dimension that they feel their generation missed out on. Furthermore, it is a woman’s natural inclination to seek to be loved or at least admired and wooed, is acting on what is genetically inherent therefore immoral? If a cougar is unattached, divorced or separated, this should not be a cause to be chained at home knitting or baking cupcakes. The fact that the men that they go after and who are attracted to them happen to be years younger than them should not be an issue. As usual, society is quick to criticize those that they do not understand. Love Is A Big Scary Animal If there is genuine attraction, chemistry or something more, then there should not be a problem. It is not the cougar’s fault that men her age are disinterested, queer or off chasing some young female cubs of their own. There is no cause for shame in cougar-cub relationships. It is time that people quit being narrow-minded and stop thinking only in terms of age. What should be celebrated is that two people found love, disparity in age and all. If you are in a cougar-cub relationship and proud of it, do not let other people’s opinion sour your stand. Be reminded that in this crazy world, anything is possible and finding love with someone half your age is simply one of them. Remember that you can practically “reframe” any obstacle and turn it around into something that may be perceived to be favorable to you.
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