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Knapp Paper
Knapp Paper
Geronimo Narizzano
21 DE ABRIL DE 2023
As soon as I heard about the topic of the paper and read the instructions, I ran into what I
think everyone in the class ran into. Choosing the right relationship to talk about. I thought
of pretty much every person I knew, and I wasn’t sure what would be the right choice. I
thought about all my family members but that wouldn’t make a lot of sense since it was
hard for me to remember and tell the difference between the different stages. However, I
was inclining towards a platonic relationship because outside of my family they are the
deep enough to write 7 pages about. That same day, I got a text from my first golf coach in
the United States. And as soon as I read it, I knew I would be talking about my relationship
with him. What started as a strictly professional relationship ended up developing into a
friendship that I would probably have forever. This relationship makes sense because I can
remember specific moments where we navigated through the stages Knapp talks about,
both because of the of the events themselves and because it was a moment of a lot of
personal changes in my life and this specific relationship was one of the few that guided me
trough them. I will start going trough some of the Knapp’s stages and then I will dive in
some of the other theories that we talked about during the semester.
The initiating part of the relationship was through email and probably the part that was the
most professional. He replied to an email I sent to their school saying that I would love to
play golf for them, and it had a curriculum type of document attached with my golf
tournaments results. After that we kept our conversations alive through mail and texts until
I committed to school. while one could argue that this differs from the initiation stage that
Knapp talks about, because appearance and judgement didn’t play a role. I could say that
it very much did. It was the first time that I was holding any kind of communication with
someone in English, and I was being extremely careful in what I wrote and how I wrote it.
Also, I would send him videos of my golf swing and I would choose which one I sent to
him based on how good it looked. I also think that there was something similar on his part.
Trying to make the school look as good as it could look. The following stages happened, of
course, once I got to the school. In this case, I can also tell a specific series of events that
remarks each stage. In terms of experimenting, now looking back, it was clear that we all
were getting to know each other (the whole team) but from the coaching/professional side
of relationship. He would come out and watch us play and ask as many questions as
possible. Trying to find that common ground we had inside the sport but also outside of it,
in and out the course. We had only two weeks between our very first day at school and our
first tournament and it still amazes me how much we got to know about each other in this
short period of time. In Addition, during the course of the season he kept trying different
ways to approach me before, while I was playing, and after the round to see what got the
best out of my game. And by him doing that I also learned a lot about what he liked to hear
After our first semester together and a very golf based/ professional relationship.
Something happened that changed the way our relationship moved towards the next stages
of Knapp's theory. As happened in all the world School was shut down in 2020 because of
the COVID-19 pandemic. Because of the Airports closing back home I had to stay at the
school for 4 months practically by myself. From that moment on, I was more dependent on
my coach than before, and probably more than any other college golf player ever. This is
when the intensifying stage happened. In Beatrice, Nebraska, the little town where the
school was located, the only thing that stayed open was the golf course. So, for 4 months
straight we played and practiced golf every morning and afternoon. It was my coach, a
teammate and myself. At the end of the day, we were spending around 7 or 8 hours a day
together, so the chronemics and proxemics augmented plus the fact that we already had
undergone the first stages of the relationship intensifying was happening whether we
wanted or not. During the first weeks or so there was an effort to keep the relationship
professional but after the first couple days we realized that it was not going to be an easy
task. We had a lot of the same ideas and conversation came easy between all three of us.
Also, there was a lot of reciprocity, I was still somewhat new to the culture of a different
country, and they used that time to learn about the culture where I came from and why did I
think the way I did on the golf course. There were times at the golf course where we would
talk around 10 minutes before one of us played a shot to see what was going through each
of our heads and learning what thought process gave the best result. We also had fun
together and that played a very important role in the relationship switching from
professional to platonic. Also, what made me fell this feeling of reciprocity was the
competence. Me and five of my teammates were his first ever recruiting he had as a head
coach. Before that. As a college player he played two years in that exact community college
and he excelled being two times first time and having one of the best scoring averages in
complete his eligibility and play for the golf team. One of the better golf teams in the
Midwest. In this school he also played great and was their best scoring average over both
the years he was there. Once he graduated the turned in to a professional golfer and the
volunteer assistant coach of the community college that we both attended. He literally went
through the path I was trying to go through just a couple years before. He knew exactly
what I had to do to achieve my goals as a golf player. He was an excellent golf player that
placed the bar pretty high and would get the best out of game. Reflecting about it, knowing
this made it easier for me to trust what he said and follow his lead. Something that in terms
Finally, after those four month I got the opportunity to flight back home and spend the rest
of the pandemic in Argentina. During this time, the relationship was already consolidated,
and we moved towards the maintenance stages. During my time back home, we would
text occasionally, trying to keep each other updated on our lives and golf games. But we
really got to the integrating stage once I got back to the school for a new year. While
reading chapter nine of the book I kept thinking how on point the concepts appear. In this
case, Commitment. I always felt passionate about the game of golf, and I committed a lot
of time and effort to it. But this time around I Was also committed to my coach and my
teammates. Growing up in Argentina I did not played golf as a part of a team. And ss
Maslow show in his hierarchy of needs belonging is an important need for a human.
There is also a study published in the International Journal of Sport and Exercise
Psychology that mentions "Team identification was significantly and positively related to
self-esteem and social identity." being part of a team and something bigger than myself
helped me to be, again, more committed to the relationship and the golf program. Since my
relationship with the coach was more advanced than the rest of my teammates I kind of
took and active role as an intermediator between both parts, some kind of captaincy role.
Because of this and his way of coaching we would meet about once a day during the week
to plan out the practice days and competition. During the following semesters the
relationship was pretty consistent. I wouldn’t say that the relationship is in one of the
“coming apart” stages but for obvious reasons our communication have diminished
significantly and it doesn’t have that professional side to it since he is not my coach
anymore. I would say that we are in a constant stage of circumscribing but far away from
stagnating.
As I said earlier, the years I was at the school I went trough a lot of change. In a way, I can
say that from a day to another I was in a completely different country, trying to speak a
different language, and having to make relationships with people that I have little, or none
contact up until those days. In their article "Self-Concept and Communication" published in
the International Encyclopedia of Communication, authors Joanne Cantor and Mary Anne
disclosure and assertiveness. They also discuss how communication experiences can shape
for the first couple of months my communication experiences were not the best. I had to
make a conscious effort to not let that influence my self-concept. It was a very frustrating
period of time. Luckily enough my coach understood this, and he also made and effort to
being more patient with me. Later in the relationship we talked about these times, and he
explained to my how he could see how I acted differently in different situations based on
whether the situation implied my talking or not. I would look more confident in a golf
course where I had no requirement to talk with my playing partners and if so, I knew the
couple of things I could say, it was Predictable and Impersonal. Then when I have to
meet with a teacher or somebody from the administration in the school where I had to say
something more elaborated, I would look more nervous and run for help, trying to have him
or one of my teammates with me for reassurance. I think that this can be put in the Blind
Quadrant in the Johari’s window. When he mentioned to me, I completely agree with
him that it happened, however at the time I had no idea. Finally, one of the things that
changed me during this period of time, was my listening process. I considered talking
about this in hour first Homework assignment after we watched Michael Ury’s ted talk
“The Power of Listening”. I recall having the feeling that I took for granted every
conversation I had before my first day in the United States. I had to give my full attention
every time someone talk to me and be as focused as possible so I could quickly translate
what was going on over in my head generating some anxiety because I knew I was missing
out some words. There is a study published in the International Journal of Applied
Linguistics that says “Listeners in a second language have been found to rely more heavily
on top-down processing and their existing knowledge of the world to aid their
Additionally, anxiety related to listening in a second language has been shown to negatively
affect the comprehension process, which may lead to greater processing difficulties and
slower comprehension speeds compared to listening in the native language.” The book also
mentions the importance of the memory when listening. Tying this to my relationship with
my coach. He was probably the person that I listened to the most and learned the more from
it. Of course, I spent more times with roommates and teammates, but what he had to say
To Conclude, I feel that this was an easy relationship to put through Knapp’s model not
only because it was an important relationship and it was easy to recall the stages but
because it was one of the relationships that helped me through the changes that make me
Work Cited:
Cantor, J., & Fitzpatrick, M. A. (2008). Self-concept and communication.
Kwon, H. H., & Trail, G. T. (2017). The effect of social identity on team
23(3), 227-246.