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TEENAGE
PERIOD
....... A PLANTING
SEASON
(A GUIDE FOR
TEENAGERS AND
YOUNG ADULTS)
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THE TEENAGE PERIOD
(A PLANTING SEASON). .
TABLE OF CONTENTS
* INTRODUCTION
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FOREWORD
The teenage years has always been a period of massive exploration,
it is the season where you are trying to discover yourself and find your feet
to Adulthood. Teenage years comes with diverse challenges, too numerous
to count; ranging from body changes that comes with puberty, the
temptations that comes with it, to the urge for independence, the confusion
of knowing what to do in life, fighting addictions and habits, et cetera. It is
so much of a web for teenagers.
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AKINYOYENU Yewande
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Every chapter is filled with awesome messages and inspiration. Indeed, it is an Holy Spirit
inspired book. A must read for all not only teenagers.
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INTRODUCTION
WHO IS A TEENAGER?
A teenager is a person who is between the age of thirteen
(13) and nineteen (19). A teenager is neither a child nor an Adult.
A teenager no longer considers himself or herself as a
child. He or she tends to break away from the activities that
excites them during their childhood. They feel they are more
mature and that they have outgrown those activities that excited
them before they became teenagers . At this stage, they feel that
they are ready to face Adulthood.
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Everything that goes on in the life of a teenager is a SEED. The
words they speak and hear, their actions and response to certain issues
like corrections or discipline, their friends, etc are all seeds that will
germinate at Adulthood.
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serving God does not restrict you from having the best of things. The Bible
tells us that every good and perfect gift comes from God. Serving God does
not stop you from socializing or looking good. Don't let the devil deceive
you and rob you of your blessings. It is better to be sold out to Jesus as a
teenager, when the strength is still available. That which has been sown
determines the end product.
SHALOM!!!!
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DEAR TEEN,
THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW
It has been earlier said that the teenage
period is a delicate stage as it determines how the
Adult life would be lived. The things you know and
make use of at this particular stage can either make
you or mar you.
Dear teen, in order to stay relevant, do exploits
and live a fulfilled life as an Adult when the time
comes, there are certain things that you need to
know. This is a guide that will help you.
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1. SALVATION
JOHN 3 VS 16.
"For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten son, that
whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life."
From the scripture above, we can see that God's love for man is
unconditional. He did not only give us His son, He gave us all that He had.
Jesus was all that God had, yet, he did not With old Him. In His infinite
mercy, God gave us all He had.
The Greek word for Salvation is "SOZO" which means 'Saved', 'Healed',
'Delivered'. So, we can say that to be saved is to be healed or Delivered.
Salvation can be seen as being saved or protected from harm. So, a man
that is saved is safe from harm. The greatest miracle that Jesus did and is
evident in the scripture is the MIRACLE OF SALVATION. It was not raising
the dead, neither was it feeding the multitude. The greatest miracle He did
was reconciling men back to God. Jesus left all that He had and was in
Heaven and took up the flesh. He came to the world as a MAN, dwelt
among men and died for men, and by the reason of His death and
resurrection, Salvation was born and by the reason of salvation, He now
lives in Man. So every one who believes in the death and resurrection of
Jesus walking on the street is Jesus walking in them. Every believer is a
physical representation of God. HALLELUJAH.
If Jesus had not resurrected from the dead, our salvation would have
been in vain. He died and rose again and we believe in the power of His
resurrection. Salvation is the beginning of the journey as a believer. It is not
the end and everything a believer will become after salvation comes from
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the word of God he is taught. God's word is the DIET of the believer and no
believer can survive without the word of God. You become saved by
believing in the death of Jesus as well as confessing Him as your Lord and
Saviour.
In the old testament, the shedding of blood was for the temporal
covering of sin which lasted only a year and it had to be renewed yearly.
That was the principle or the law the old testament believers lived by.
Animals were killed and the blood served as the atonement for their sins.
The death and crucifixion of Jesus on the cross, paved a way for the new
testament. So, the shedding of Jesus's blood was for the permanent
covering and atonement of sins and that is the principle that we as new
testament believers live by. And for this reason, we can plead the blood of
Jesus.
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24, Psalm 91 vs 13).
Your journey to salvation begins from genuine repentance. Until
there is genuine repentance, the forgiveness of sin may not come. The
Bible tells us about the prodigal son in Luke chapter 15 vs 11-32. After
collecting his portion of his inheritance from his father, the prodigal son
went to a far away land and squandered it all. After he had lost it all, he
realised his faults and genuinely repented. He was even ready to take up
the position of a servant in his father's house. His father, seeing his son in
that broken and pitiable state, welcomed him back with arms wide open.
He did not only welcome him, he ordered a feast and restored his son. How
much more God? With genuine repentance comes forgiveness which in
turn brings forth RESTORATION.
Samuel was still very young when he was given to the Lord. (1st
Samuel 3). Even at a young age, he began to serve the Lord and the Lord
was with him in all that He did. No one does business with the Lord and
looses at the end. One of the things a teenager needs to remain relevant is
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SALVATION. Everything has been completed and finished at the Cross. All
we need to do is to tap into that which has been settled. Even on the Cross,
Jesus was interceding for man. After His death, He went straight to hell,
collected its keys and destroyed every record of sin written against us. He
has paid every debt and once you are saved, you are not to pay for
anything again either with your life or blood. The debts of your sins were
settled over two thousand years ago. The statement Jesus made in John
19 vs 30 "IT IS FINISHED", completed the work of salvation. Once you
believe in the death and resurrection of Jesus, you are welcome into God's
family.
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2. THE BAPTISM OF THE HOLY
SPIRIT. .
Acts 1 vs 8
" But yet shall receive power when the Holy Ghost is come upon you,
and y shall be witnesses for me in Jerusalem, all in all Judea and in
Samaria and to the uttermost part of the earth."
The Holy spirit is generally referred to as the third person in the Trinity.
But, I tell you that He is more than the third person in the Trinity.
The Holy spirit comes and dwells in every believer with an evidence
of diverse gifts but majorly speaking in tongues. The Bible tells us in Acts 2
vs 1-4 how the baptism of the Holy spirit first happened. Many believe that
this baptism is for denominations or churches which is not in any way true.
The Holy Ghost is for every believer. The Holy spirit is God's spirit. He is
God Himself. So, a baptised believer who carries the spirit of God, carries
God Himself. That means that a believer is the HOUSE OF GOD as God
dwells in him. This justifies the scripture that says "Our body is the temple
of God". Upon receiving the Holy Ghost, we become carriers of God and
when you carry God on your inside, you can do the supernatural works of
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God by the enablement of His Spirit. So, where two or more believers are
gathered in the name of the Lord, the atmosphere changes because it is
God represented in every man standing.
With the baptism of the Holy spirit comes Boldness and Power. (Acts
1 vs 8). You have no reason to fear. Scripture says in Acts 2 vs 11 - "But
Peter, standing up with the eleven, lifted up his voice".... That act came out
of boldness as enabled by the spirit of God. There is no age limit to the
infilling of the Holy Spirit. After salvation, we are licensed to access Him.
The Holy Spirit is a FREE GIFT to every believer. Every good and perfect gift
comes from God.
The Holy Spirit launches you into Purpose. You cannot have the
Holy spirit and lose focus or direction. He is right there with you to guide
you into all truth. A believer who has been baptised in the Holy Ghost is
closer to God because there is a Divine language that they speak which is
not subject to accusation. Every prayer made in the understanding is
subject to accusation. The devil will fight that prayer from being answered.
But a tongue speaking believer has an edge over others. The prayer made
in tongues stands a higher chance of being answered faster because it is a
direct communication with God. At that moment, power is released into the
atmosphere. Fire powered Missiles are released which scares the devil.
Dear teen, after your salvation, you need to seal it by praying and
asking for the baptism of the Holy Spirit. He is not limited to age, gender or
social stratification. Once you sincerely desire him, He is sure to visit you at
the appropriate time. A teenager with the Holy Spirit stands out among his
peers. Even before the promise of the Holy spirit, Daniel stood out among
his peers and he was ten times better than his counterparts because the
Lord was with him. You cannot stand with God and not STAND OUT. His
glory and beauty will overshadow you and when men see you, they will
glorify God. One of the reasons for the promise of the Holy spirit was to aid
the easy spread of the gospel. After the infilling of the Holy Spirit, your
purpose is born. That which you will do for the gospel to be spread is also
born at the point of the baptism.
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A spirit filled teenager has immunity from the devil. He is a teenager
with a difference. He stands out in all he does. He becomes an answer to
people's challenges as the spirit enables him. Many will come to him just to
hear him speak. All these benefits are not gotten through human power but
by the spirit of God. The Holy spirit helps us to communicate with God and
vice versa without hindrance. As a teenager, the best type of prayer you can
pray is to pray in TONGUES. Make yourself a terror in the camp of the
enemy while the strength is still there. You are not too young to command
results and do exploits in the kingdom.
As you fellowship with the Holy Ghost, your life becomes clearer to
you and your visions are no longer blurry. You get to see and know things
better. The Holy Spirit helps us to strive towards perfection and He makes
us Heaven conscious. He ensures that we have a right standing with God.
Even in the place of prayers, He makes intercessions for us in groanings
that we do not understand. The Holy spirit helps us and teaches us how to
pray. What a great privilege we have as believers to be able to access the
Holy Spirit. We are even more than blessed that He is not limited to anyone
or anything and He can dwell in us even as teenagers.
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3. POSITIONING
Genesis 3 vs 1
"Now, the serpent was more subtil than any other creature which the Lord
God has made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall
not eat of every tree of the garden!?"
Naturally, women are moved by what they hear while men, by what
they see. And while Adam was away, the devil could strike. Adam was not
occupying his position as at that time. Eve was still new in the garden and
because her man was not beside her, she fell easily. If Adam was with her,
sin might have not entered the world. Adam wandered, leaving his position
as a Husband. He left his wife's side at a very crucial point and the devil
saw it is an opportunity to strike. Eve ate the fruit and gave it to her
husband. Immediately their eyes were opened after eating the fruit and
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there was an exchange of position between man and the devil. The devil
had successfully carried out his plan and Adam and Eve hid themselves.
When you loose your position in faith, you are separated from God's
purpose and all that you face is SHAME. Your position is where God has
placed you. It is the vaccum that God has asked you to fill. It is an office
that you occupy where your activities must bring glory back to God. It is
rather unfortunate that many that many have lost their positions in the
world. They are now walking without purpose because they are no longer
aligned with God's plan. Many have lost their positions due to one reason or
the other. A lot of teenagers have also lost their positions and today, their
existence is void of purpose. The devil does not come in his original form.
He disguises so as to trick people. One amazing thing we need to know
about the devil is that he also lost his position in Heaven. The devil could
access God (although not physically) unlike other angels. He could
communicate with God one on one. But when he got to know that God had
made a superior creature (Man), and also gave him dominion over all
(Genesis 1:26), his ego got the best of him and he lost his position because
of pride.
Many just like the devil have also lost their position because of Pride
or Arrogance. The devil is unfortunate, looking for whom to destroy. Your
position does not mean that you are going to become a Pastor or Bishop.
Your position is where God has placed you for you to glorify Him. Are you
still occupying your position? or have you been tricked out of your position
like Adam and Eve? Until you are in the right position, you may not be able
to bear good fruits. Scripture tells us about the story of a sower in Matthew
chapter 13 from verse 25, who after a little labor went to sleep. The sower
left his position (his farm) and went to sleep and the enemy saw it as an
opportunity to strike. And while the man slept, his enemy came and sowed
tares among among the wheat and went his way. A little distraction, sleep
or disobedience can make you loose your position. Another familiar story in
the Bible is about the Ten Virgins. Out of the Virgins, five were wise and the
other five were foolish as recorded in the scripture. They were to attend a
wedding and because the bride groom tarried, they slept off. The five wise
Virgins went with extra oil incase their lamps went out but the foolish ones
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did not. And when it was time for the oil to be used, because the foolish
Virgins had no extra oil, they had to leave the venue of the wedding (i.e the
wedding) to get oil and upon their return, the door had been shut.
The devil will not come in his physical form to deceive or trick you.
When he is ready to strike, he disguises and can take the shape and form of
anyone and anything and the minute he notices that there is a little
distraction or an opportunity to strike, he comes in with full force. John
chapter 10 vs 10 has clearly spelt out the devil's mission ; To kill man, to
steal from man and to destroy man completely.
Your position is your purpose. It is that which God has made you for
and not what you want to be. As teenagers, you need the Holy spirit and
wisdom to stand out. A teenager that is not wise stands a higher chance of
loosing his or her position. The devil knows how to project lies, fear, sin and
deceit in a very subtle way and if you are not firmly rooted in Christ, you
stand a higher chance of loosing your position. If Adam was with Eve, the
serpent might have not gotten to her. If Eve had insisted on going with
Adam, sin might have not entered the world. With disobedience comes
punishment. If only the sower was awake when the enemy came,
occupying his position, maybe he could have prevented his labor from
going in vain.
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his position, his vision and focus even after several warnings. Because of
this, he fell cheaply on a woman's lap. The devil wanted to bring Samson
down and he came as Delilah. Whatever is not representing God or Christ is
the devil. It does not compulsorily mean the person behind the name.
Delilah made Samson sleep on her laps (Judges 16:9) and that was the
beginning of his end. You can loose your position through Disobedience,
distraction or even rest. Yes, resting at the wrong time can make you loose
your position. Samson and the sower are good examples. God Himself did
not rest until the seventh day after He had finished His work. He rested
after a job well done.So,there is a time to work and a time to rest. You don't
rest while the job is going on. The rest should come after a job well done.
God's original intention when He made man was for man to live
forever, but sin created a gap between man and God. After Adam has been
sent out of the garden alongside his wife, it took the devil nine hundred and
thirty years to finally bring man down through death. It took the devil more
years to master death, but today, because of the numerous sins and
misplaced positions, the Bible says we can only live for seventy years and
eighty years if we are strong (Psalm 90:10). God does not kill and this fact
is clearly stated in John chapter 10 verse 10.
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4. WISDOM.
Proverbs 12 vs 11
"Wisdom is the principal thing: therefore, get wisdom and with all thy
getting, get understanding".
Scripture has told us clearly that wisdom is the principal thing, and
wisdom is one of the things a teenager must not lack in order to stay and
remain relevant. The Bible says in Proverbs 4 vs 7 "Get wisdom, Get
Understanding". Whatever is not in the scripture is not real. There is a
certain level of respect that you command as a wise teenager. People will
come to you just to hear you speak.
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sees. The book of Daniel chapter 1 from verse 8, talks about the life of
Daniel and his brothers in faith. It is not everything that you see that is good
for you. The fact that it is beautiful or attractive does not guarantee it as
the best for you. Because your friends or peers are rushing after it does not
mean you should go for it as well. Daniel realised this and insisted on being
fed with vegetables and water for that period. And when the period of ten
days had passed, Daniel and his friends stood out. At times, we would
receive some instructions and these instructions might seem harsh, unfair
or irrational. But know this, there is a blessing attached if wisdom is applied
in carrying out these instructions. God will never allow a man's labor to go
unrewarded and as a result of Daniel's action, scriptures says that God
gave them knowledge and skills in all learning and wisdom and Daniel has
understanding in all dreams and vision (Daniel 1:17).
The wisdom that God can bless a teenager with that will make you
sit among Kings and Queens. That wisdom will take you to places where
you only imagined. As a teenager filled with the wisdom of God, great men
will run after you. This wisdom can be accessed after your salvation and
baptism of the Holy Spirit. No teenager is too young to get this wisdom.
After all, the gift of God is for every believer and it is not limited to anyone
or anything.
Young Dinah was not wise enough. She saw the daughters of the
land and she loved the view. (Genesis 34 vs 1-2). She went out to mingle
with them and that was her end. If she was wise, she would have known
that her going out to mingle with her so called friends would have led to her
end. The devil knows how to present sin and danger in a sugar coated
manner. He will trick you until he brings you down. A wise teenager is
cautious of the company he keeps. Not all friends are your friends. A wise
teenager knows and understands that. Dinah's encounter with the
daughters of the land led to her end and today, she cannot be used as a
good reference to many because she lacked the wisdom she needed as at
that time.
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teenager that must be wise must align himself with God's word. All that you
need to grow and stay relevant and as well do exploits are all rooted in the
Word Of God. So, you must give yourself to the continual study of the word
and constant praying in the Holy Ghost to be able to tap into this Wisdom.
The word of God teaches you wisdom and its applications when it's due. A
wise teenager is a POTENTIAL KING AND QUEEN. A wise teenager is
deeply rooted in the word of God and knows its applications. He has the
right scripture for every situation or challenge.
In all, a wise teenager is one who knows, serves and fears the Lord.
Scripture justifies that statement with the verse that says "The fear of God
is the beginning of Wisdom and the knowledge of the Holy is
Understanding (Proverbs 9:10). Until you serve and fear God, there is no
wisdom.
Seek God
Fear Him.
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5. FELLOWSHIP WITH GOD.
Acts 2 vs 4
"And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost and began to speak with
other tongues as the spirit gave them utterance"
To fellowship with God is to be aligned with God. It is a time or period
where it is just you and your maker. It is a time where you avoid
distractions and concentrate fully on God. It is a time to get and receive
from the Lord.
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Prayer is not measured by the sweat or time you have spent. Prayer is
measured by the things that you were able to lay your hands on in the realm
of the Spirit. The sweat produced is a result of the actions you engaged
your body in. It is that which you were able to lay your hands on in the spirit
that matters. You can pray for hours and pray amiss. If care is not taken,
you may begin to utter the wrong things in the place of prayers thinking you
are still on track, not knowing that you have deviated.
When you fellowship with God, the understanding is kept aside. The
spirit is exalted and until you are aligned, there would be no presence.
The problem with most teenagers today is that they have a very short
attention span. The moment you are not telling them the things that they
want to hear, within few minutes, you have lost them.
Prayer is not the only way to fellowship with God. Do not forget the place
of worship when you are with God at any point in time. You don't access
God by bombarding Him with requests. You come before Him with your
worship. Even the Bible says " Enter into His gates with thanksgiving and
into His courts with Praise (Psalm 100 vs 4). So, we don't come asking, we
come worshipping.
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Worship". Worship is not a mood. After that session, what happens next?
Do you jump or come out of that mood? Worship is an outburst of divine
emotions. It is welcoming and hosting God, "FOR GOD IS A SPIRIT AND
THEY THAT MUST WORSHIP MUST WORSHIP IN SPIRIT AND IN TRUTH".
Another aspect of our fellowship with God is the study of the Bible. We
must give ourselves to the continual study of the word of God. We must not
replace the study of the word of God with worship or prayers. There is a
time to pray, a time to worship and a time to study the word. A popular
song says "Read your bible, pray everyday if you want to grow". So, your
growth is measured by your prayers and the word of God you know. Wrong
mindset can be changed by studying the word of God. The scripture has the
answer to every question you want to ask and a solution to every problem
there is.
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Your fellowship with God is your walk with God. Your fellowship with
God determines your purpose. Your purpose in life is not to become a
Doctor, Pilot, Teacher or what have you. Your purpose is CHRIST Himself.
So if you are not in Him, you are not fulfilling purpose. Paul and Silas
freedom from Prison was as a result of their fellowship with God.
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6. THE COMPANY YOU
KEEP
Proverbs 1 vs 10
" My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not"
Who is your friend? What kind of company do you keep? Who are the
people you move and relate with? What kind of friends surround you? What
are your activities like? What are the things you do or say whenever you are
together? All these are important questions that you need to ask yourself
as a teenager. Every relationship you belong to even as a teenager does
three major things : MAKE YOU, STAGNATE YOU OR MAR YOU.
There are some friends that you will have that will add positive
values to your life. These set of people will MAKE YOU, promote you and
help to shapen your life. They are interested in your success and they will
do all they can to prevent you from sinking. They guide you and prevent you
from making the wrong choices or decisions. These people will always be a
blessing to you even when you are no longer together physically. That
which they have deposited in your life will be a blessing to you even in the
Adult stage. Jonathan, King Saul's son happened to be David friend.
Because of the love Jonathan had for David, he kept on revealing his
father's evil intentions to David (1st Samuel 19 vs 1-4). The fourth verse of
that scripture says that " and Jonathan spake good of David unto Saul, his
father". Even in David's absence, Jonathan was still speaking good of him.
Can your friends do that? Are you a friend like Jonathan or do you have
friends like Jonathan? A Jonathan-like friend will make you. He or she will
want you to progress even when others are progressing without expecting
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anything in return from you.
The third category of friends are friends that will MAR YOU. They
are friends that ruin and destroy you if you are not wise. They will push you
into trouble, making you believe that they have your best interests at heart.
The moment you fall into a mess, they begin to disassociate themselves
from you. They will milk you dry till you have nothing else to give out. At
times, these friends are jealous of your progress and they will begin to
make plans to bring you down behind you. In times of trouble, they pretend
to help you but they have an evil intention towards you. They know how to
convince you to please themselves or to put you in trouble. These set of
friends are very DANGEROUS. In 2nd Samuel chapter 13, the bible tells us
about the children of King David, Amnon and Tamar. Amnon and Tamar
were half siblings that is they were born to the same father by different
mothers. Amnon lusted after his sister and wanted to have her. He
consulted his friend Jonadab who told him to pretend that he was sick and
tell his father that his sister should prepare cakes for him. Amnon took this
advice without thinking of the consequences and eventually raped Tamar
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his sister. Tamar reported the incident to Absalom her brother and
Absalom killed Amnon two years later as punishment. One interesting fact
is that, Jonadab who gave Amnon that advice was never recognised in the
scripture again. That was the end. He pushed Amnon into trouble and
continued with his life, leaving Amnon to suffer alone. Friends like Jonadab
should be avoided. They will ruin you and continue with their own life as if
nothing has happened. Nothing good comes out of this friendship.
What type of a friend are you and what type of friend do you have?
What type of company do you keep? We all know that " Evil communication
corrupts good manners". Are the friends surrounding you making your life
better, stagnating you or ruining you gradually? The Bible tells us in
Proverbs chapter 1 verse 10-15" My son, if sinners entice thee, consent
thou not". They will come to you and tell you all sort of things and lie to you,
unknown to you they are planning to finish you.
All that David achieved was through God's help and Jonathan's
support. Daniel and his friends held unto God firmly and they all came out
victorious. If your friend has nothing positive to add to your life or is fast in
pushing you into trouble, run for your dear life. We have a lot of wolves in
sheep clothing. Wisdom is needed in choosing friends.
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7. YOUR IDENTITY
{WHO ARE YOU?}
1st Peter 2 vs 9
" But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation and a
peculiar people ; that you should show forth the praises of him who hath
called you out of darkness into His marvellous light".
The above scripture has clearly spelt out your identity in Christ Jesus.
You are a chosen generation. That is your appraisal as a Believer. You have
a mandate to fulfil. You are not only a chosen generation. In christ, you are
also a holy nation, a peculiar people and you have been called out of
darkness to God's marvellous light.
The Bible says "I am fearfully and wonderfully made". Do you make
that confession? Do you believe that statement? Do you believe that you
are perfect or not? Do you love the person you see anytime you look into
the mirror? Are you intimidated by the things you see your friends do? Do
you sincerely believe in your heart that you are the best thing God has
crafted? Do you believe that God made you in His exact image and perfect?
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Have you allowed situations to shake you or are you still with God?
These are questions you need to ask yourself in discovering who you
truly are. I always tell myself that " I AM GOD'S_FAVOURITE_CHILD. I AM
BORN OF GOD AND ONE WITH DIVINITY. I AM A PECULIAR BRAND, A
DIFFERENT SPECIE AND A CHILD OF GOD. I AM A LIGHT BEARER WITH A
KINGDOM MANDATE. I AM THE BEST OF ALL CREATION AND THE HOLY
GHOST IS MIGHTY IN ME."
Make that confession with sincerity and live above people's judgement.
Remember, you are PERFECT.
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2. HOW ARE YOU DOING?
After identifying who you are, the next question to address is "How
Are You Doing"? How well are you working towards your identity? What
steps are you taking to achieve your goals?
Note this, your purpose is not what you want to become later in life.
Your purpose is what God has made you for. Your purpose is what God has
placed in your hands. Your purpose is where God wants you to be. Your
purpose is God Himself. So if you are not in God, you are not walking in
purpose.
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FIGHT T HAT
ADDICTION
Romans 6 vs 18
" Being then made free from sin, ye may become
the servants of righteousness".
An addiction is a repeated activity that
provides temporal satisfaction to its participants. It
is something done consistently which provides a
very limited satisfaction for a particular period of
time.
As teenagers, the major type of addiction
common among teenagers is no other than SEXUAL
ADDICTION. Most teenagers are addicted to
anything sexual be it Pornography or at times
Masturbation. The devil has been able to trap and
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enslave many teenagers by presenting Pornography
to them. During that point, to satisfy the sexual urge,
the devil introduces masturbation and pornograpghy.
Masturbation is the act of stimulating
oneself by touching or vigorously massaging the
genitals. What many people do not know is that this
act can be demonic at times. The moment
pornograpghy becomes fascinating to you or you
allow lewd thoughts to take over, a foul spirit from
hell is released to that person to convince him or her
to satisfy himself or herself sexually by
masturbating in the absence of a sexual partner. As
you engage in that act, that spirit helps you to
visiualize that act with someone or something. All
these are the tricks of the devil to tie a teenager
down.
At times, masturbation could be as a result of
youthful exuberance or peer influence. Because your
friends are doing it, you feel persuaded or compelled
to join, and from there, you discover that it has
become a part of you. Teenagers masturbate at
times as a sign of independence. They feel they are
old enough and see no big deal in masturbating as
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they have either watched it or see people do it. The
devil has nothing good to offer and that is why as
teenagers, we need to be very careful of the things
that we surround ourselves with during this stage
because they can either Make you or Mar you. After
this act, all that is left is regret. You feel bad but
nothing can be done to correct that error. I put it to
you that if Jesus could fix the mad man of Gadarene
who had more than a thousand demons living inside
of him (Luke 8 : 26-33), He can fix anyone even you.
Masturbation and Pornography are not the
only addictions that teenagers battle with . Many
teenagers are addicted to their Phones. They cannot
do without their phones as if thier lives depends on it.
To others, it could be addiction to social media.
Everything about them is always on display on
different social media platforms. They cannot live
without social media. To another, it could be to
Alcohol or hard drugs, to another, stealing and so on.
The addictions that teenagers face at this period are
numerous and every single addiction provides only a
temporal satisfaction which will not last long.
Breaking Free from an addiction is not an
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easy battle. Many get delivered most especially from
Masturbation and Pornography and after some time,
they find themselves engaging in that act again. You
can be totally free from any addiction of any kind
irrespective of how far or deep you are in it. The
Bible says "when the son sets you free, you shall be
free indeed". To live totally above addictions, there
are certais steps to take and things to know.
First, you must GENUINELY REPENT. Genuine
repentance is not only a step to salvation, it is also a
step to break free from addictions. You must truly
repent and pray that the mercy that you freely
obtained upon salvation should speak for you.
Remember, until there is genuine repentance, the
forgiveness may not come.
Second, you must ACKNOWLEDGE THE FACT
THAT YOU ARE BATTLING WITH AN ADDICTION.
Do not be ashamed. You are telling it to God and not
to man. Name that addiction and tell God that you
have a problem. Only Him can help you come out.
Don't be shy about it. Tell God you need His help.
Third, CURSE THAT ADDICTION. Yes, curse it.
Develop a sincere hatred for it. Don't see or believe
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any good thing about it. Name that addiction and
curse it boldly. Shout it out ; Pornography, I curse
you. Masturbation, I declare my hatred for you. Do it
as if your life depends on it.
The fourth stage is REALISE THE FACT THAT YOU
ARE DEAD IN CHRIST. You are alive yet you are dead.
This may sound confusing. You are not dead
physically, but you are dead to sin. The moment you
confess your Salvation, your old life and self dies
immediately with Jesus (2nd Corinthians 5 :17).
When you believe in the death and Resurrection of
Jesus, that means that you were also cricified with
Him over two thousand years ago and upon His
Resurrection, you rose up with Him and received a
new life. So after salvation, your past is dead and a
new being is born. So, when the urge comes again,
tell the devil that you are a new person and that the
person he has come for has died in Christ over two
thousand years ago. Romans 6:7 says "For he that is
dead is freed from sin". Until you tell the devil that
the person he has come for is dead in Christ he will
keep on coming with stronger urges. The devil
prevents us from knowing our identity in Christ
Jesus and the moment he sees that the eyes of your
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understanding has been enlightened as scripture
says, he runs from you because he now knows that
you have dominion over him.
When the urge of that addiction comes, shout it
out. Do not mind the environment around you if you
truly desire freedom. The Israelites brought down
the walls of Jericho with a loud shout. You can get
your freedom by making a loud noise. Tell the devil
that there is no relationship between light and
darkness. The Bible says in James 4:7 "Resist the
devil and he will flee". Let him know that you hate all
the activities of hell that he is projecting as fun to
you and that slaves have become masters. Tell him
that you have no business with him and that the
person he is looking for is dead, dead in Christ.
The next thing you need to do is to PRAY
AGGRESSIVELY. You take charge of your life in the
place of prayers. You don't pray in the understanding.
You pray in the Holy Ghost. Scripture has told us
how to pray in Jude verse 20 "But ye, beloved,
building up yourselves upon your most Holy faith,
praying in the Holy Ghost.". Release the raw power
of God into the atmosphere. Push the devil
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backwards by releasing fire into the air. The urge to
sin cannot come that time because that sin hears,
obeys and fears the word of God. It fears fire. The
fire of the Holy Ghost is not only meant to refine. It is
also for judgment. Release that fire upon that
addiction in tongues. Tell God to bring you out of
that mess. PRAY until something happens. Pray out
your deliverance. Take charge of your life. Settle
scores in the realm of the Spirit. You put a stop to
that action.
Lastly, ENGAGE IN KINGDOM - LIKE
ACTIVITIES. Kingdom activities are activities that
promotes God. It can be in worship, study of the
word, praying, charity, etc. What you listen to and
watch determines if you will fall or stand. The devil
obeys and fears your RECEPTION AND
UNDERSTANDING of the word of God. You cannot
be listening to worldly music and expect to be free.
You cannot watch bad movies and expect to be free.
You are a mirror of what you have seen or heard (I. E
you imitate or copy what you have seen or heard).
Run away from anything that can excite the flesh.
You cannot read lewd books and not want to
masturbate. Listen to messages by men of God,
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listen to worship songs, watch miracles by God's
generals, study the word of God, Dance and Rejoice
in the Holy Ghost. These are your keys to freedom.
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Have you read this book and you are blessed?
Have you read this book and you have discovered
that the devil has been winning for too long? Have
you read this book and have discovered that you
don't have access to all that you need to do exploits?
Have you discovered the vaccum that needs to be
filled in your life and you feel this is the best time to
surrender all to Jesus? If yes, I am happy for you.
You are truly lucky that you have a chance to retrace
your steps before it becomes too late. With sincerity,
I will like you to say this prayer as you find your way
into the Lord's arms:
Dear God, thank you for the unconditional love you
have for me. Thank you so much for giving up your
son to die for my sins. Thank you for setting me
free from the chains of the devil. I believe in the
death and resurrection of your son Jesus and I
accept Him today as my personal Lord and Saviour.
Help me to always stay and abide in you. Forgive
my previous mistakes and give me a fresh start
with you that I may reign with you forever and ever.
Amen.
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You see, it was easy. You are welcome into God's
family.
Congratulations, the battle has been won and the
siege is finally over. Remember, you are now a new
being. Your past has been erased and your sins have
been forgiven. Glory to Jesus. Continue to remain
strong in your newly found FAITH and I can assure
you that it will be VICTORY ALL AROUND.
SHALOM!!!
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CLOSING REMARK.
Indeed, the Lord has been faithful. This work was not achieved by
human power but through God's help. "Bless the Lord O my soul and forget
not His BENEFITS...."
This is a book, a guide, and a compass for every teenager out there.
The devil has been wining for too long and it is time to push him backwards.
As teenagers, you can remain relevant even in God's kingdom. This book
will help you stand on your feet and take charge.
If this book has been a blessing to you, or you have questions or you even
want to talk about anything or probably, you've a testimony to share as a
result of your encounter with this book, you can reach out to me on:
WHATSAPP : 07011446919
INSTAGRAM : tooni_duke_gfc.
GOD'S_FAVORITE_CHILD.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Oguntubo Oluwatooni Duke also known as
God's_Favorite_Child is a prolific writer, teacher
and worship leader. He was born on the 28th of
April and ever since then, the Lord has been on
his side. He is a graduate of English and
Theatre Arts from Federal College of Education,
Osiele, Abeokuta. He is currently an English
student of the University of Ibadan (aff. to
FCEABK).
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REVIEW CORNER & APPRECIATION.
My sincerest appreciation goes to God
who helped me write this book. None of the
contents in this book were conceived by
human understanding. Bless the Lord O my
Soul and all that is within me bless His Holy
name.
I also want to appreciate every one
especially my mum who took time to review
this work and give their positive comments
and contributions towards this book. May the
Lord bless and keep you in all your ways. A big
thank you to everyone who God has used in
one way or the other to make this book a
reality. God bless you.
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A book that opens the eyes of a teenager. It
also helps the growth of a believer. It is a life
changer.
___Ayomide Ariyo Hisgrace.
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and a must read for everyone, especially teens.
I celebrate God's grace on the writer. More
Unction.
____ Ayinde Oluwatimilehin.
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