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Intrapersonal skills
Chapter one
Intrapersonal skills:
Introduction:
Interpersonal skills: the ability to interact and communicate well with other people.
Effective helping: to render assistance, or an act that satisfy a need or contribute strength to the other person.
Over the past decades counselling and therapy models have evolved from:
• Traditional psychodynamic approaches - which assumes an intrapsychic, individual perspectives.
1. Professional helper:
• Specialist who undergo extensive graduate-level training in the study of human behaviour.
• They learn applied helping strategies, and experience supervised clinical training while helping individuals, families
and groups.
• Professional helpers include:
i. Psychiatrist: are physicians with the knowledge of psychopharmacology, ability to prescribe drugs, familiar with
medical diseases, treatment and case management of inpatient.
ii. Psychologists: receive training in behavioural sciences, well versed in psychological theory, unique contribution in
psycho-diagnosis and in research methodology.
iii. Counsellors: provide preventive and developmental services.
iv. Social worker: provide service through their knowledge and coordination of available community organisations and
social policies.
v. Psychiatric nurse: supervised for clinical purposes and are trained for prescription privileges.
vi. Activists: human service workers that help with child abuse and so on.
3. Non-professional helpers:
• It includes: friends, relatives, colleagues, boyfriends and so on.
• Provides the versatility and flexibility necessary to meet the need for a multicultural heterogeneous population.
• Assists the helper to actively assume responsibility for living and for decision making.
STAGES:
Relationships,
Strategies: cognitive, affective and behavioural.
SKILLS:
Hearing verbal messages
Perceiving non-verbal messages
Responding
ISSUES:
Topics (sexism, racism, ageism…)
Values (attitudes, beliefs…)
Chapter two
The helping relationship:
This chapter looks at:
1. The helping context
2. Empirically validated helper characteristics
3. The importance of communication for any helping relationship.
The purpose of the helping relationship is to meet the needs of the helpee, not helpers.
Helpers assist and support helpees so they can come to terms with their problems by exploration, understanding and
action.
i. Formal:
- Normally there is appointment or referrals.
- Primary relationship is for helping.
- Client experts concrete help with problem solving.
ii. Informal:
- Contact may or may not be formal.
- Helping relationship is secondary to another type of relationship.
- Client may not expect help with problem solving.
• When helper is able to maintain trust, empathy, caring, respect, dependability, acceptance and commitment to the
relationship.
• When the above ingredients are not well maintained, the relationship will eventually terminate.
• Congruence between helper and helpee can affect the relationship either positively or negatively.
• The helping relationship is embedded on, sociocultural, political, economic and organisational context.
• Helpers must adopt their counselling style to achieve congruence with the value systems of cultural diverse clients.
• Helper must be sensitive to the implication of cultural variables, from a variety of backgrounds.
• Helper must be aware of their underlying beliefs and values in order to aid helpees in clarifying their own.
• Become aware of other people’s values so to help understand, appreciate and accept differences between you and
your client.
• Helper must continually deepen their self-understanding in three domains (affective, cognitive and behavioural)
• Be able to separate their social, economic and cultural values from those of their clients.
Non-helpful behaviours:
Interrupting, giving advice, preaching.
Blaming, cajoling.
Extensive probing and questioning, especially “why” questions.
Directing, demanding, patronising attitude, over interpretation.
Using words or jargon helpee doesn’t understand.
Straying from topic, intellectualising, overanalysing.
Talking about self too much.
Minimising or disbelieving.
Looking away from helpee.
Sitting far away or turned away from helpee.
Sneering, frowning, scowling, tight mouth.
Shaking pointed finger, distracting gestures.
Yawning, closing eyes.
Unpleasant tone of voice.
Rate of speech too slow or too fast.
Acting rushed.
Looking repeatedly at watch or clock.
Playing with a pen or paperclip.
Helper self-assessment:
Am I aware when I am feeling uncomfortable with a client
Am I aware of my own avoidance strategies
Can I really be honest with the helpee
Do I always feel as though I need to be in control of situations
Do I feel irritated when others do not see things the way I do, or when helpee’s do not respond the way I think they
should
Do I always feel as though I am omnipotent, so to make helpee get better or to feel successful
Am I so problem-orientated that I am always for the negative, the problem and never responding to the positive or
the good
Am I able to be as open with clients as I want them to be with me
Chapter three
Communication skills:
- Cognitive messages involves, talking about - Messages are communicated to us verbally and
things, people etc. nonverbally.
- A client is often more comfortable talking about - They involve feelings: emotions that may be
thoughts or behaviours than actual feelings. directly or indirectly be expressed.
- The cognitive theme that the helper focuses on - These feelings can be grouped into four
affects the direction of the ensuing discussion. categories: anger, sadness, happiness, and, fear.
- The helper must respond to and focus on one - Helper must be able to listen to the client’s
major theme at a time in order to clarify and messages and identify his/her feelings rather than
explore all aspects of the situation. project your own onto the client.
i. Nonverbal responding:
- Communicate warmth, understanding, attentiveness and efficacy in congruence with verbal behaviours
- Helpers must adopt their nonverbal behaviours to a client’s level of comfort
• Using questions: “open-ended, what can you tell me about this?” closed-ended, can also repeat a word from their
about…”.
• Interpreting: add something to the helpees statement, tries to make the client understand their underlying feelings. “I
just can’t seem to bring myself to study for psychology” “you seem to resent having to do something you don’t want
to do”.
• Confronting: honest feedback about what is really going on ‘‘seems you are playing games here’’.
Chapter four
Building relationships and establishing goals:
v. Facilities
- Have meetings in a place where helpee’s confidentiality can be ensured.
vi. Timing
- Try by all means to keep appointments as scheduled.