1. Why are you not favor for same sex marriage?

Marriage matters to God - Marriage was invented by God, not by man. We have
neither the authority nor the ability to change what marriage is. The most that an
individual or a government can do is misapply the term to relationships that are not
actually marriages. Marriage requires the specific form of a union of man and woman
(Gen. 2:24). Applying the term to same-sex unions, therefore, alters the very concept of
what a marriage is for and what functions it takes.

Many people, including many Christians, think that objecting to same-sex marriage is
imposing our moral beliefs on non-believers. In fact, the opposite is the case. It was
advocates of same-sex marriage who imposed their view of sexuality on others by using
the power of the state to enforce a criteria for marriage that is not rooted in
the nature of marriage. In this way, they are similar to those who supported laws against
interracial marriage. “Anti-miscegenation laws. . . were attempts to eradicate the legal
status of real marriages by injecting a condition—sameness of race—that had no
precedent in common law,” says philosopher Francis Beckwith. “For in the common law,
a necessary condition for a legitimate marriage was male-female complementarity, a
condition on which race has no bearing.”

Christians should oppose any attempt to add conditions to marriage that change God’s
standards.

People matter to God - As Christians, we are called to love our gay and lesbian
neighbors (John 14:34), which is why we must not and cannot support same-sex
marriage.

Christians believe that marriage is a lifelong institution designed by God for our good
and the good of our society. We also believe that homosexual sexual activity is sinful.
How then could we support two people entering into a lifelong commitment that
encourages them to engage in sin (1 Cor. 6:9)?

For a Christian to endorse same-sex marriage is the opposite of loving — it is truly

hateful. You do not love your neighbor by encouraging them to engage in actions that
invoke God’s wrath and oppose God’s good design for humanity (Psa. 5:4–5; Rom. 1:18).
You cannot love your neighbor and encourage them to engage in activity that will lead
them to hell.

While we may be required to accept the presence of ungodly behavior in our society,
the moment we begin to endorse it we too become suppressors of the truth. We cannot
love our neighbor and want to see them excluded from the kingdom of Christ (1 Cor.
6:9).
 2. Why does a loving God hates homosexuals?

We are all products of nature and nurture. We all struggle with desires that should The
statement “Love the sinner, but hate the sin” has a limited application, but it can’t be taken as
an absolute. Let me tell you the way I think it can properly be applied. I think that it is the
responsibility of Christians to love the sinner. That doesn’t mean they approve of the sin or
behavior, and this is what a lot of people in our culture want nowadays. They think that
tolerance and inclusion mean providing a safe, comfortable place for people to continue sinning,
and if we suggest that the sin is not right—that the behavior is sin—that makes them feel bad.
That’s not inclusive because now it’s an environment in which they don’t feel comfortable, and
they scream and flout.

So, we are to distinguish between the human being that is worthy of love and the wrong
behavior that they may be involved in. This is why, by the way, in 1 Corinthians 13—which is the
Bible’s most extensive and clear description of what love is—we see Paul listing all these
elements that are a part of the virtue of love, but he also says love does not rejoice in
unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. We are people that are to abhor the sin that people
do. “Do not participate in the evil deeds of darkness, but even expose them” (Ephesians 5:11).

We are all products of nature and nurture. We all struggle with desires that should not be
fulfilled and with longings for things illicit. As Christians we know that the heart is desperately
wicked (Jer. 17:9). We are fallen people with a propensity for sin and self-deception. We cannot
derive oughts from what is. Our own sense of desire and delight, or of pleasure and of pain, is
not self-validating. People may, through no conscious decision of their own, be drawn to binge
drinking, to promiscuity, to rage, to self-pity, or to any number of sinful behaviors.
If the “is-ness” of personal experience and desire determines the “ought-ness” of embracing
these desires and acting upon them, there is no logical reason why other sexual “orientations”
(say, toward children, or animals, or promiscuity, or bisexuality, or multiple partners) should be
stigmatized.4As creatures made in the image of God, we are moral beings, responsible for our
actions and for the lusts of the flesh. Quite simply, sometimes we want the wrong things. No
matter how we think we might have been born one way, Christ insists that we must be born
again a different way (John 3:3–7; Eph. 2:1–10).

Christians we know that the heart is desperately wicked (Jer. 17:9). We are fallen
people with a propensity for sin and self-deception. We cannot derive oughts from
what is. Our own sense of desire and delight, or of pleasure and of pain, is not self-
validating. People may, through no conscious decision of their own, be drawn to
binge drinking, to promiscuity, to rage, to self-pity, or to any number of sinful
behaviors. If the “is-ness” of personal experience and desire determines the “ought-
ness” of embracing these desires and acting upon them, there is no logical reason why
other sexual “orientations” (say, toward children, or animals, or promiscuity, or
bisexuality, or multiple partners) should be stigmatized.4As creatures made in the
image of God, we are moral beings, responsible for our actions and for the lusts of
the flesh. Quite simply, sometimes we want the wrong things. No matter how we
think we might have been born one way, Christ insists that we must be born again a
different way (John 3:3–7; Eph. 2:1–10).