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Transference Neurosis & Transference Psychosis, de Margaret Little
Transference Neurosis & Transference Psychosis, de Margaret Little
Margaret I. Little
MRCS, LRCP, MRCPsych
JA SO N A R O N SO N IN C .
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In gratitude to ail those w ho, w hether living
in the here and now or in m em ory, enabled
m e to becom e w hatever I really am , an d to
write this book.
A b o u t the A u th o r
Part I
Transference Neurosis and Transference Psychosis
1. The W anderer: Notes on a P aran o id P a tie n t. 3
2. Countertransference and the P atient’s Response 33
3. “R”—The Analyst’s T otal Response to His Patient’s
Needs 51
4. On Delusional Transference (Transference Psychosis) 81
5. Direct Presentation of Reality in Areas of D elusion 93
6. O n Basic Unity (Prim ary T otal Undifferentiatedness) 109
Part II
Theoretical and Technical Expansion
7. The Positive C ontribution of C ountertransference 129
x T r a n s f e r e n c e N e u r o s i s & T r a n s f e r e n c e P s y c h o s is
Part III
Expansion in More General Areas
12. T ow ard M ental Health: Early M othering Care 167
13. W ho is an Alcoholic? 183
14. N otes on Ibsen’s Peer Gynt 193
Part IV
Personal Experience
15. Fifteen Poem s 1945-1977 209
16. A cquaintance with D eath 227
17. T he Jo u rn ey from Sickness to Health: Illness,
Convalescence, Recovery 233
18. S o m e M is ta k e s a n d F a ilu re s in A n a ly tic P ra c tic e :
H indsight 241
19. T ransference/C ountertransference in Post-Therapeutic
Self-Analysis 247
20. D onald W innicott: A N ote 265
21. Dialogue: M argaret L ittle/ R obert Langs 269
References 307
index 317
FOREWORD
by R obert Langs, M .D .
The wish for lasting relevance m ust surely atten d the effo rts o f
virtually all psychoanalytic w riters. Few in the field, how ever, have
been able to produce a body o f w ork th a t rem ains as relevant today
as w hen it appeared tw enty, thirty, even forty years ago. Still, there
is a qualify to the grow th o f psychoanalysis which leaves room for
this, largely.becau.se o f a certain conservatism in the average analyst
or therapist and the slowness w ith which new ideas are assim ilated.
T he w ork o f M argaret Little has achieved this kind o f lasting
im portance. The reader o f her papers will com e to appreciate the
rem arkable powers o f clinical observation th a t this analytic writer
brings to her w ork w ith patients. A nd yet beyond this gift lies an
ability to arrive a t strikingly unique an d painfully perceptive con
ceptualizations which are b o th distinctive a n d em inently useful.
Such is the genius o f this clinician th a t her earlier papers on
countertransference and on borderline and psychotic patients re
m ain filled with insights still aw aiting the recognition they deserve.
M argaret L ittle’s w ritings, the earliest w ritten some fo rty years ago,
x i i T r a n s f e r e n c e N e u r o s i s & T r a n s f e r e n c e P s y c h o s is
by A lfre d Flarsheim, M .D .
This is not a tidy book; it is not for those w ho like to have papers
grouped neatly according to topic, and it is not a “text-book”.
It is, in fact, a record of the developm ent of my psychoanalytic
work, of my ideas, and of my technique, particularly in dealing with
psychotic anxiety, w hether in “borderline psychotic” patients, or in
“psychoneurotics.” The em phasis is on the them e of developm ent.
Such developm ent is ap t to be untidy; one has only to rem em ber
the look of a fledgling chicken or the antics of adolescence to know
this.
It has led to the inclusion o f som e m ore personal elem ents th an are
usually thought suitable for a serious book concerned with psycho
analysis. But they are relevant, fo r they throw light on my concom i
ta n t personal developm ent from being a “false self,” through quite a
serious m ental illness, to a t least a relative degree of “ m ental health,”
“ m aturity,” and “ integration.” It is on this experience th a t any real
understanding th a t I have o f the anxieties and difficulties of others is
founded.
It represents som ething of my ow n “to tal response” to life.
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
Penguin Books Ltd., H arm ondsw orth, M iddlesex, for the passage
from A ugust Strindberg: Sam lade Skrifter vol. 22, ed. J. Landquist,
1914, translated by Jam es M cFarlane, in H enrik Ibsen, ed. Jam es
M cFarlane, Penguin Critical Anthologies, p. 109, lines 6-16.
M r. N orm an G insbury, and his agents, International C opyright
Bureau Ltd., L ondon, and Messrs. H am m ond, H am m ond, and Co.
Ltd. L ondon, for sundry words and phrases from his translation of
Ibsen’s Peer Gynt.
I am deeply indebted to all those authors to whose works I have
referred, to the m any others whose ideas have lodged w ith me
unconsciously and stim ulated mine, and to colleagues and friends
w ho have m ade helpful and valuable suggestions.
U nfortunately I am an inveterate snippeter and have not been able
to trace the exact source in every case. I apologize sincerely for all my
om issions and inaccuracies and hope they m ay be forgiven!
To all those w ho have helped me in m any other ways, I give my
grateful thanks, especially to the late Drs. C. V. R am ana and Alfred
Flarsheim , who have encouraged me and have read, checked, and
copied papers for me; to my editor, D r. R obert Langs, and to my
publisher, D r. Ja so n A ronson. Also to those who have patiently
typed from my atrocious handw riting and dealt w ith my m anifold
changes and corrections: M rs. M ary W alford, M rs. Pam ela R ed
w ood, and, in particular, M rs. Joyce Coles.
P a rt I
TRANSFERENCE
NEUROSIS AND
TRANSFERENCE
PSYCHOSIS
1
THE WANDERER:
NOTES ON A PARANOID PATIENT
G E N E R A L P IC T U R E O F T H E A N A LY SIS
th at she needed for her work? She had seen som e in a shop near me
and couldn’t get it a t hom e. W ould 1 treat her physically? w ould I
give a prescription for sleeping tablets? and finally, on her com ing
back to L ondon after the first break in the analysis, arriving late and
in a thick fog, could she come to me for the night? W hen I said “Yes,
if you can’t get in anywhere else,” she decided never to ask me for
anything again.
H ISTO R Y
Miss C utter was forty-five when she first cam e to me. She w as the
m iddle one of a large fam ily which had rem ained closely united, w ith
a strong family tradition: “All the C utters do this,” o r “N o C utter
would ever behave like th at.” T he nam e C u tter (a pseudonym ,
related to her real name) was im portant. It related to her father’s
w ork in the clothing trade, to her own work, and her m arked interest
in clothes. She expressed great resentm ent a t the “fam iliarity” if
anyone addressed her by her first name o r any nicknam e o r abbrevia
tion. I never did.
The sons had all stayed a t hom e with their m other until they
m arried. Theresa had broken away as a result of her first “analysis”
(incidentally thereby ending it); two o f her sisters were still living at
hom e— Daisy, four years older, and Sally, four years younger than
she. Theresa was not on good term s with her m other and seldom
went home; when she did go, her visits were difficult and aroused a
lot of anxiety. The details of the rest of the fam ily were obscure, and
it was m onths before I even knew how m any of them there were; one
brother’s nam e I only heard for the first time after three years, and
one sister’s nam e was never know n to me. I gathered eventually th at
her father lived until she was grow n up and th a t she nursed him in his
last illness. The eldest brother died while serving in the 1914-1918
war, an older sister had died of tuberculosis, and an o th er was
epileptic and died when Theresa was fourteen. The next child to
Theresa, two years younger, was a m uch w anted boy, Tom , and the
youngest of all, Jim , was eight years younger.
H er m other was a very dom inating and forceful w om an w ith rigid
standards of right and wrong, whose judgm ent or com m ands no one
dared to question. She died after a long and progressive illness,
probably a senile dem entia. M y patient’s picture o f her is of som eone
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PR E L IM IN A R Y P H A S E A N D P A T T E R N O F
“W A N D E R IN G ”
’ AN A LY SIS: F IR S T P H A SE
(B EG IN N IN G IN O C T O B E R 1944)
him ,’ and to him she said ‘H ere’s som eone to talk to you.’ He said ‘D o
I know you? I don’t think I’ve m et you before.’ So absurd! But I ju st
felt th at M o th er hadn’t helped me, she hadn’t w anted me, and it was
too late afterw ard. I hadn’t w anted those life insurance policies, and I
didn’t w ant to take them .” Surely here is her visit to her m other and
the new baby (the “ puppet show”), ju st as she had felt it in childhood.
T he others quarreled over w hat the m other had left, the house,
w hat was to be done w ith her clothes, her furniture, etc. Her
spectacles, for instance, were a source o f difficulty (also, I suspect,
her false teeth, for there was a dream in which four dentures were
floating in a bowl o f w ater). “N obody w anted them , and they
couldn’t be sold. W hy couldn’t T o m ju st lose them or throw them
away?” I asked “W hy couldn’t you?” and she laughed. Sally m ade a
list of things “ given to Sally,” o r “taken by Daisy.” Theresa only
w anted her father’s pendulum clock, her eldest brother’s gold watch,
and a sandalw ood box which had belonged to one of the sisters who
had died.
T heresa was considered “ n o t entitled” to anything because she had
left hom e, although for years she had bought things for the house and
had contributed to help Support her m other. Sally wanted to keep the
house for herself, though it was far too large, and insisted th a t the
others should help her w ith the expense. She and Daisy quarreled for
m onths as to whether they should live together or not, and the
brothers advised first one and then the other.
D uring this phase o f the analysis everything was seen “at one
rem ove,” so to speak, in term s of other people. H er neighbor
dow nstairs appeared again as the tiresom e, inquisitive, meddlesome
child. She was once m ore talking to people about Theresa, wanting
to- know all her business, and waylaying and interfering with her
visitors. She com plained again ab o u t the leaking pipes, the noise,
and the dustbins, etc.
T hen Theresa invited her youngest brother, Jim , his wife, Susie,
and their tw o-year-old adopted child, M ichael, to stay,’ to get away
from the rockets. She felt responsible for them , especially as Susie
was now pregnant. They “used the flat as if it were their own,”
strew ing things about, using up her stores of food, allowing the child
to play w ith everything, to pu t coal into her arm chairs, and generally
sm ashing and messing. H er greatest treasures, a cut-glass rose bowl
and a ja m dish, were sm ashed alm ost deliberately, Susie’s only
The Wanderer: Notes on a Paranoid Patient 31
sessions a t the lower fee as she had previously paid for a t the higher
rate. T hen we would change again to a fee m idway between the two,
and by th at m eans it would even out to the m idway fee throughout
the analysis. This should enable her to get a sta rt with the business
and m ake less of a strain while she was earning less. This second
change was now due, and while she had felt guilty ab o u t accepting
the reduction she was now regarding m e as the persecutor who would
tear out her inside. “W hen you reduced your fee I was determ ined not
to accept it; I tho u g h t I’d pay the full am ount, even if I had to sell my
fur c o a t to do it.”
H aving interpreted this I asked her perm ission to write to the
surgeon, and she finally consented after a further flare o f anxiety at
the thought of my telling the surgeon and the nurses th at she was
having psychological treatm ent and o f their thinking her “ m ental.” I
interpreted this as relating to her early knowledge, hitherto denied,
o f her m other’s genital (fur coat) m enstruation, her parents’ sexual
intercourse, and her m other’s pregnancies, together w ith the fear of
discovery of her ow n infantile sexual activities o f various kinds. I
w rote to the surgeon explaining th at she w ould benefit psychologi
cally by not having hysterectom y or artificial induction of the
m enopause if it could be avoided. A nd so I becam e the person who
refused her gifts, first m oney, and now her inside. A nd, even worse, I
conspired with the surgeon to interfere with her sadom asochistic
gratifications.
D ilatation and curettage were done and nothing abnorm al found.
She went to stay w ith a friend for convalescence and developed
pleurodynia, which further delayed her return to analysis. F rom then
until I went away in the following A ugust the analysis was con
tinually interrupted by excessive m enstrual and interm enstrual loss
which m ade further rest necessary. Bit by bit, however, I elicited the
fact th at the surgeon had advised her to “take things easy a t those
tim es,” and w hat was her way of doing so. A t th e end of each day she
was “whacked,” o r “dead beat.” Com pulsively she cleaned the flat
and weeded the garden, tearing up arm fuls of weeds; she m ade jam
and bottled tom atoes. “ I was very lazy over that; my kitchen has no
chair in it, so I brought one in and sat dow n while I did it.” She sat up
in bed writing innum erable letters, b u t being tall and having a long
back and scoliosis it was far m ore tiring than w riting a t her desk. She
was surprised, hurt, and angry when I suggested th a t this was n o t the
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bring herself to leave her hom e. She was as firmly fixed there as a
winkle in its shell, b u t a t the same tim e she was the eternal traveler,
spending six hours on her journeys for analysis and “earning her
living” in the tim e th at was left.
A fter the sum m er holiday (an interruption o f my m aking) she was
very afraid of com ing again. I had told her th at I was changing m ost
of the furniture in my consulting room , as w hat was there belonged
to som eone else. She was pleased a t the disappearance of a large
tallboy, which had a disconcerting way of juddering when any heavy
traffic went by, and also of a large leather (m an’s) arm chair in which
she used to sit. But w ith the new arrangem ent she now sat facing the
window, and this aroused great anxiety. She brought various reasons
against going on w ith analysis, including traveling difficulties, ex
pense, and the m enorrhagia. T hen she rem em bered th a t she had once
m ore thought of taking a jo b w hich w ould have m ade it impossible,
this tim e as secretary to a clinic. I asked w hether she had bought a
knitting m achine again too, and she replied “N o, I decided against it
and went straight o ut and bought my season ticket,” so this time she
bought a m achine which bro u g h t her to me.
“I’m afraid of coming, I don’t like the room this way round so th at
I have to face the light. Today, when the train cam e out o f the tunnel I
found I was shaking” (like the tallboy). Earlier she had told me that
she could never understand how a m an could face a w om an in the
m orning, “after doing that to her,” and also of her fear of facing the
window because of the impulse to throw herself out. A vague picture
came to her of being in her cot, facing the window, and of her m other
being in the bed beside her, w ith a new baby; her father was standing
at the end of the bed. Som etim es she had seen him with.his genitals
exposed; sometimes she had seen her m other a t the dressing table by
the window. In dream s she had seen her m other pregnant, or with a
penis, and in one dream her m other stood by the window and there
were three babies in the cot (the three younger children), and she,
Theresa, was going to Siberia. She had also had nightm ares in which
men or dogs broke in through the window.
The them e of hostile curiosity and breaking in was developed
further. She told me of an “outbreak” o f burglary in the town where
she lived; police messages were being throw n on the screen in the
cinem a (“ Did you lock your d o o r when you cam e out?”) and there
were placards in the streets, “T H E PO L IC E W A N T YOU to help
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them ” etc. She had been growing a vegetable m arrow , and the only
fruit on the plant was on a branch which grew through the fence into
her neighbor’s garden. Accidentally the neighbor cut the branch, and
to m ake up for it she prom ised a m arrow from her plant, but
m ysteriously th at m arrow withered and died. She went with two
friends to see the play “ D angerous C orner,” and when a few m inutes
before the end the stage was darkened one friend quickly went out,
(as they b o th usually did when the curtain fell, so as to avoid the rush)
then a shot was fired, and Theresa “found herself’ outside. Only the
third m em ber of the party stayed till the end.
In the next day’s session she was concerned with clothes and their
significance for her: tailored suits, well-cut clothes, “dressy” ones
w ith a lot of fullness or unstitched pleats, and then a dress which she
had once m ade for her m other. She had altered it repeatedly b ut
always left the sleeves the same, and finally had converted it into a
robe. Long sleeves had already been seen to represent the male
genital, and she herself rarely wore short sleeved frocks or blouses.
O ne night she left the back d oor open, and when she found it she was
anxious lest her stock of wool had been stolen. H er neighbor had
been fussing ab o u t the dustbins again—“She wished I’d tell my
visitors they m ustn’t put fish heads in, they breed maggots.” 1
rem inded her o f the significance of “visitors” as a euphem ism for
m enstruation and of her other fear about her wool (pubic hair) th at
the m oths w ould eat it, and pointed out her invitation to the burglars,
adding th a t “don’t lose your wool” or “ keep your hair on” m eans
“don’t lose your tem per,” and th at I had said she should not be in a
hurry w hen she had again spoken of selling her fur coat (her virginity;
St. T heresa was a virgin) a few days previously.
A n unexplained burst of fury and anxiety followed this. “You
m ake me feel an awful person when you interpret everything sexually
like th at, only fit for D artm oor. Oversexed, as if I thought of nothing
else.” M y com m ent th at the people w h o w ent to D artm o o r were
m ostly burglars or m urderers, not sexual offenders, didn’t help, but
after she had gone I found that a pane of glass in the window of my
room was cracked. N ext day she was acutely agitated and unable to
talk: she w andered around the room , growling, crying, and hiding
her eyes. She finally drifted round behind me tow ard the window, at
which point I was able to interpret that she had seen the cracked pane
and thought of it as “pain” , and she settled dow n again, to my relief,
as I rem em bered her suicidal thoughts in the hospital.
The Wanderer: Notes on a Paranoid Patient 17:
M ONEY A N D LOVE
The following week she talked, alm ost for the first tim e, ab o u t her
father. He had always refused to pay bills, especially doctors’ bills
and the rent. A fter years of difficulty over this the sons and daughters
clubbed together and bought the house w ithout telling him, when the
existing lease ran out. They then rented it to him anonym ously
through a solicitor and insisted on the rent being paid m onthly. They
were always afraid he would find out; he was puzzled at the land
lord’s willingness to do repairs etc. One sister felt guilty about
deceiving him, and the others had to m ake her keep quiet. This was
all told as a joke, and the affect came only a week later. “You m ade
me rem ember all the miseries of father’s m oney dealings; I’ve tried
hard not to let you know ab o u t it, b ut to tell you w hat I had to
w ithout any feelings. And then you seemed so pleased a t m aking me
get it out.’’ (Like Dr. X., and probably her m other using laxatives, o r
taking things out of her m outh). “Having to hear father’s anger when
he was drunk, and not letting him know when bills came. I used to
dread the postm an com ing and told m other to hide the bills from
him. F ather used to drink both consistently and in bouts.” (She was
surprised and suspicious a t my know ing this, having forgotten th at
she had told me of his drinking.) His first rem ark every m orning was
“ It’s ten to eight,” whatever the time really was, and this was the first
thing th at the youngest child learned to say. He ate his breakfast
standing up or walking ab o u t the house, and he always had either
whiskey or brandy in his tea. H e cam e hom e a t ten to seven in the
evenings, usually drunk, and on Saturdays and Sundays and all
holidays he was drunk the whole tim e and very quarrelsom e. H e was
often unfit to go to w ork after a'holiday, and one of the sons had to
go to his firm and m ake excuses for him. O ne day a n anonym ous
postcard came for him, “ W hiskey interferes w ith business. Give up
business.” . -
Theresa never let me give her an account; she would add up the
num ber of sessions a t the end of the m onth, and ask whether I
agreed. F or a year after the operation she paid me nothing, asking if I
would lend her the money. A few m onths later she reckoned up w hat
w'as owing. A t the end of the next m onth she found herself anxious
about money again and thinking of selling the fur coat, but not to pay
me— she needed to get her eyes and teeth attended to. She then
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realized the unconscious wish not to w ork and not to pay for things
b u t to get them “for love”; this played a part in her not m aking m uch
m oney by her work, as well as providing a grudge against her
creditor.
T he fur coat was an im portant thing. D uring the second summer
th a t she was w ith me she told me one day th at she was going to fetch it
from the furrier’s where it was being rem odeled' and th at he had
offered her£100 for it. She had paid £25 or £30 for it years ago. Later,
a b o u t the tim e when she told me of the difficulty with her father over
doctors’ bills, she told me th at she had been to see a doctor while she
had been staying with Philippa, and on getting his account which she
tho u g h t heavy, she asked Philippa w hat her husband charged his
patients. Philippa said “W hat did you expect if you went wearing
that coat?” and she was enraged. Philippa had two fur coats, so how
could she envy Theresa hers? I rem inded her th a t Philippa had not
only two fu r coats, but two babies, and yet was having a third. It was
she w ho was envying Philippa the babies as she had envied her
m other hers, and her “fur coat,” i.e. her pubic hair. The coming of a
new baby m eant a revaluation, in which she felt her own value and
th a t of her gifts to have gone dow n, while her m other’s had increased.
She was projecting onto Philippa the hostility th at this aroused, as
she had form erly projected it onto her m other.
A bout this tim e she to o k to locking her bedroom door, and then
when I rem inded her of her fears for her wool and its significance, she
rem em bered th a t her father was not the only one who had m ade
m oney a difficulty. H er m other had used the threat th at her father’s
incom e m ight come to an end at any time, because of his drinking, as
a m eans of keeping the children who were earning with her. W hen the
eldest son was sent by his firm to G erm any, she tried to stop him from
going by th at threat. W hen he insisted on going, saying th at if he
refused to go he would lose all chance of prom otion, she said that she
could not afford to spend anything on any training fo r Theresa. He
said he w ould provide for it, w hereupon Theresa vowed that she
w ould not accept it from him—ju st as later she did not w ant to accept
anything fro m me.
T h ro u g h o u t the year following the dilatation and curettage the
m enorrhagia continued as severely as ever. She had injections of
various kinds, rested up a t tim es, and finally was readm itted to
hospital for radium treatm ent.
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But before this happened she m ade one of the m ost im portant
steps forw ard. She rediscovered her “ good” m other in a wom an
standing behind her in a queue for fish, who supplied her with a piece
of newspaper when, if she had had none, she would not have been
served. The w orking over of this released a great deal of affect and
brought great relief, so th at when the operation came it had already
lost much of the terro r she had felt a year before.
Three m onths’ rest once m ore followed this operation, and she
resumed her analysis again in the autum n. M eanwhile I had told her
th a t I was unwilling fo r her to increase the am ount of her debt to
me— not th a t the analysis was costing her nothing, but th at the
railway com pany was benefitting, and not 1.1 advised her th at if she
couldn’t afford to pay as she w ent along to leave analysis for a while,
until she was earning m ore. In the end we com prom ised by agreeing
to three sessions a week an d leaving the existing debt as it stood.
Nevertheless, she paid me som e o f it straight away.
T H IR D PH A SE: F IR E A N D LOVE
In the next six m onths there were continual interruptions first from
inside, by m inor illnesses such as tonsillitis, and then from outside,
by the severe w eather which m ade traveling impossible. But in spite
of all this the analysis went on, and some m ost im portant m aterial
came, first in relation to her fear of fire and second in talking more
freely than before about her grandfather and her eldest brother, both
of .whom appeared as substitutes for the loved father in the oedipal
situation.
She told me how a serious fire had once broken out at her firm’s
premises through the carelessness of an employee who" threw a
lighted m atch on the stairs and then told a lie in court ab o u t the time
a t which he had left work. A rson was suspected, and she knew that a
senior m em ber of the firm had previously worked for another
business where there had been a fire and arson had been proved. Her
evidence, which she m anaged to give w ithout im plicating anyone,
saved both her employer’s good nam e and his m onej', and he was
very grateful. But she felt th a t this had been forgotten, and she
expressed her anger a t the ingratitude of people who would accept
services given and then allow the giver to go away, w ithout caring.
A fter this she rem em bered th a t she had seen a spent m atch lying on
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my staircase th at day, and then went on to tell me how she had once
jum ped off her m other’s lap, when she was ab o u t eighteen m onths
old, straight into the fire (possibly an early attem pt at suicide, but
also getting m other’s attention). Both her hands had been badly
b u rn t and had to be covered with flour and tied up in paper bags. She
“could not think of those paper bags w ithout feeling alm ost a
physical pain.” She related all of this to the radium treatm ent, and to
the hot flushes and sweats which followed the artificial menopause.
She was w aking up soaked in sweat night after night and had to move
her chair back from the fire in my consulting room . Interpretation of
this in term s o f fantasies about her urine and her fear of loss of
control resulted in a m arked easing of bodily tension: she no longer
needed to sit with her legs tightly crossed throughout the analytic
sessions and could lie m ore com fortably in bed. Shortly after this she
began to use the couch regularly, of her own accord.
M ore im portant still, she began to analyze her relationship to her
m other. F o r a couple of weeks there was a strong resistance, for no
ap p aren t reason, shortly after my return from my Easter holiday.
Rem em bering th at a sim ilar resistance had on a previous occasion
proved to relate to an anniversary, I drew her attention to the fact
th a t at the same time the previous year and the year before th a t she
had had her operations and th at her m other’s death had come a t this
time of the year. A few weeks later she brought me som e lilies-of-the-
valley, and after an hour of tears a n d angry silence told me th at it was
her m other’s birthday and th at these were the flowers she had always
given her on th a t day.
So a t last she could begin to think of love and particularly to
analyze her sexual feelings and ideas. Love had been som ething so
dangerous th at it m ust never be m entioned. “I rem em ber when
grandfather died I shut myself in the toolshed and cried and cried,
and I thought ‘W hoever I love dies,’ but I knew I didn’t love him. I
hardly knew him. A nd I cried w hen I heard the news of m other’s
death, and I th o u g h t ‘Y ou didn’t really love her, so why cry?’ Now I
feel she died before I’d had tim e to learn to love her, and I wish she
hadn’t. She refused my love and she treated me differently from all
the others.” B ut any evidence of anyone else’s love for her had to be
denied too, and any expressions of approval or praise repudiated.
T he response to my suggestion of writing to the surgeon was a
passionate outb u rst ab o u t her m other never having done anything
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for her, never having given her a proper education o r training. It was
only when I pointed out th a t w hat 1 was proposing to do was
som ething for her, and th at I had no intention o f doing it unless she
herself wished it, th a t she could begin to see how she had refused
love. My own understanding of this was th at love, to her, m eant the
kiss o f J udas, the “fam iliar friend” who by it singled o ut from am ong
the rest the one w hom he had conspired to betray to tortu re and
death, and her father’s “ It’s ten to eight” was the crow ing o f the cock.
But love was there in spite of her. It was implicit in the w ork she
had chosen, for she found real enjoym ent in it for its ow n sake, a p a rt
from the satisfaction in supplying other people’s needs. Her m other
disapproved o f her taking the shop for this reason as well as th a t it
was a “trade” and not a “profession.” Pleasure in any form was not
allowed: reading or em broidery were condem ned as “useless” and to
sit doing either was “ laziness.” This “utility” view found its echo in
Theresa. She rem em bered in childhood the intense satisfaction of
sitting beside her little b rother when he was ill and moistening his lips
with grapes, but she condem ned ferociously the people who cam e to
her when w ar broke out to buy white wool fo r hospital stockings.
“They said they liked the color better th an khaki, when I said why not
m ake scarves or cuffs?—things th a t would keep people w arm for
people who would live and fight.”
Closely linked w ith this, I think, was an o th er factor in her not
being able to m ake m uch m oney by her w ork and presum ably not
w anting to allow me to either. She spoke once of her knitting as
“ having such a healing effect,” and her guilt would n o t allow her to
get either pleasure or gain from other people’s needs o r m isfortunes,
which is w hat doctors and other professional people did (and I think
the idea of prostitution links with this, although she had not ex
plicitly said so). D octors in her view were all alike—they laughed at
other people’s miseries, like her brother. I am sure there was a
repressed m em ory o f sex play o f a sadom asochistic kind w ith this
brother, probably followed by a loss of excretory control, the
“getting it out” which fused with the hostile wishes tow ard her
m other and the fantasy of the baby in the w om b possessing and
controling her.
So I had to become “a devil, w ho keeps you at it” and the person
w ho knew things a b o u t her “in an uncanny way.” Sex (all knowledge
o f which had been shut out until, a t the age o f twenty-eight, she was
2 2 T ransference N eurosis & T ransference P sychosis
M O D IF IC A T IO N S
So these them es were worked over and over as this storm y childhood
was restaged and. relived in the analysis. But as it w ent on m odifica
tions could be seen m ore and m ore plainly.
Subjectively Miss C utter herself spoke of feeling better and less
depressed. She slept better, and though she was m ore aware of the
com pulsive tendencies, she was less subject to them than she had
been and m ore able to find enjoym ent in the things she was doing.
H er relationships with other people were easier, as she became m ore
tolerant and less “bossy.” “ I don’t feel the same responsibility for
other people; I only think ab o u t helping them now instead of having
to do so, and I used to try and m ake them do things, but now I can let
them alone.” . ..... _ . . . . . . . . .
Objectively from the point of view of a nonanalytical psychiatric
observer, she im proved both physically and mentally. She gained
weight and becam e less angular, her appearance im proved, and her
expression becam e both pleasanter and less anxious. One could not
say th at she was m ore feminine, b u t she was m arkedly less aggressive,
and her reactions generally not so sudden or so violent. H er color
schemes, w hich used to reflect the internal conflict, were easier on the
eye.
• Analytically, although she still had far to go, there were signs of
ego developm ent, of which perhaps the m ost im portant was the
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C O N C LU SIO N
It was too early yet to draw conclusions about this patient, but there
are m any questions and speculations which are w orth considering.
T he psychopathology was n o t clear to me, and I should be glad to
understand why she was suffering from this type of illness rather
than, for instance, either obsessional neurosis or schizophrenia. I am
sure th at constitutional factors played a large p art in determ ining her
personality; she was of m arkedly “ schizothymic” and also m asculine
physique, and there was evidence of considerable abnorm ality in
other m em bers of the family, including the epileptic sister, b u t.n o
definite history of manic-depressive illness. The parents acted both
as genetic and environm ental factors, which w ould probably tend to
bring ab o u t a mixed type of illness in any case.
The predom inating traum atic situation was surely her m other’s
guilt and excessive devotion to her in her babyhood and later
24 T ransference N eurosis & T ransference P sychosis
But the individual who will play a “lone hand,” as Theresa did,
seems to have accepted separation and the recognition of whole
objects to som e extent a t least. The person who will only act as a
m em ber of a gang, or as one of a family or clan, is denying this and
asserting th a t there is no separation and so carrying the regression a
stage further, insisting th a t he himself can be only a part-object, i.e.
p art of the m other. M elanie Klein (1935) puts forw ard the view that
on this recognition of whole objects depends the difference between
depression and paranoia, and here Ith in k is a clue to the understand
ing of Theresa’s paranoid condition, which yet is depression, and not
tru e p aranoia, and hence its accessibility to analysis, however inter
m ittent.
P O S T S C R IP T
F ro m O ctober 1944 to D ecem ber 1946 Theresa came for four sessions
per week; in 1946 they were reduced to three per week, and again
from Ja n u a ry to M arch 1948 to one per week. F rom then until the
end of 1954 she came ab o u t once a m onth.
In the spring o f 1948 she had m oved her hom e, and traveling was
both m ore difficult and m ore expensive. H er savings were exhausted,
and she could no longer afford even the fares, still less to pay me a fee.
H er health had deteriorated; she was living in real poverty, in
prem ises which were virtually uninhabitable, and she could now
hardly earn anything a t all.
Nevertheless, she kept the contact, n o t only by com ing occasion
ally to see m e b u t by frequent letters. She w rote literally hundreds,
telling m e o f dream s, happenings in her life, her health, and. her
feelings, especially those o f depression and discouragem ent and the
old, unhappy feeling of being singled o u t and unw anted, and despair
w ith thoughts of suicide. M any of her troubles and difficulties were
objective* a n d not always provoked o r invited by her, though some
were.
I answ ered m any of her letters, m aking com m ents and from time
to tim e suggesting possible ways of m eeting the difficulties, whether
external or internal. I even occasionally gave some kind o f inter
pretatio n o r a rem inder o f som ething from ou r previous w ork th at
could link w ith w hat she was now telling me.
A t the beginning of 1955 she becam e entitled to a small retirem ent
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pension from the S tate, which m ade it possible fo r her to afford the
fare to come to me once a week, which she did until the end of
O ctober 1956, w hen we agreed to term inate.
I had looked on the m onthly sessions as som ething of “ m ainte
nance doses.” The later, weekly, sessions clearly becam e m ore. The
changes which I described earlier went on slowly; no ground was lost,
b u t she was still obviously ill, in need of help, asking for it, and
paying to come, even though the paym ent was not to me.
These hours brought little in the way of fresh m aterial at first, but
the old them es were w orked over again. H er old grum bles and
com plaints went on, only in fresh surroundings with new neighbors
and contacts. But in those last two years very great changes came
about when she cam e to see th a t her fear of her loving feelings was far
greater than th at of her hate (“W hoever I love dies”) and th at the real
“ persecutors” were w ithin—being essentially her feelings and her
memories.
One day she had been com plaining, as usual, of being unloved—
nobody cared ab o u t her, and all anyone wanted was to get things
from her. They had taken ju st ab o u t everything she had ever had.
I said “You know very well th at th a t simply isn’t true. W hy do you
suppose th at 1 go on seeing you every week and listening to your
com plaints and accusations w ithout charging you anything? C an’t
you see th at it is ju st because I do care? The trouble is th at if
som ebody does care ab o u t you, it calls for you to care about them , in
return, and th at’s w hat you are afraid of.”
This brought the m ost agonized reaction.. “N o. N o. N O !” she
howled and turned away from me, hiding her face in the pillow and
weeping furiously. Finally she acknowledged th a t she had know n it,
of course, b u t had simply not dared to adm it it to herself—still less to
me.
Then she could see th at it was her love of me, and her need of my
love and of .the recognition of it th a t had brought her still, in spite of
both the increasing difficulties and of her am bivalence, w hich she
could at last acknowledge and accept. She could see, too, th at insofar
as she was herself responsible for incurring and putting up w ith those
difficulties, they represented b o th the hate and the killing love which
she had turned against herself.
This freed her to tackle the difficulties actively: she found she
could move the authorities responsible for rehousing her and could
30 T r a n s f e r e n c e N e u r o s i s & T r a n s f e r e n c e P s y c h o s is
get app ro p riate treatm ent for some of her physical ailm ents (cho
lecystitis, hypertension, hypothyroidism , and the old trouble in her
back) by taking a different approach.
S oon after this she to o k a short-term job, working as part-tim e
secretary-housekeeper com panion to a very high-powered woman,
rath er m asculine like herself, who was engaged in both local govern
m ent and various im portant charitable activities (incidentally, a
H ighland S cot w ith strong clan affiliations). T his relationship de
veloped into friendship— the first real one of any depth th a t I had
ever know n her to have, and it lasted until her friend’s death, and
after, in m ourning. They had m any ups and downs in the course of
the years but Theresa was able to express appreciation of her friend’s
fair-m indedness, kindness, generosity, and pleasure in her com pany.
O ther new relationships followed, her previously fixed, jaundiced
view o f all other people gradually mellowed, and she found herself
living in a hitherto unknow n world th at was in general friendly.
H er attitu d e to me altered out of all recognition. She openly
expressed gratitude to me for help and support and wished that
“ other people could feel the same com fortable regard” for her th a t
she felt for me.
Tw o years after our term ination she w rote rejoicing th at she was
able a t last to have a real hom e and to find happiness in it. She no
longer needed to wander; she had found herself. In spite o f continued
p o o r health she undertook and enjoyed doing a lot o f voluntary
work. She enrolled as a m em ber of the W om en’s V oluntary Services
(for w hich she m ade her ow n uniform ), helped in clubs for old
people, organized outings for children, and becam e an assistant
librarian in the local library. She also earned a little again, by
dressm aking and knitting. -
H er relations w ith her fam ily did not alter m uch, though she found
she could be reasonably friendly with two o f her sisters-in-law and
grateful to them fo r helping her when she was ill. W ith her brother
Jim ’s a d o p ted son, M ichael, she had a good relationship, for she
understood his feeling of being “ outside” an d unw anted.
T he clannishness continued, and she found it intolerable th a t all
her brothers and sisters w ould go on living close together, moving
like a flock from place to place, near her, b u t w ithout her. But even
a b o u t this she could becom e alm ost philosophical. “ I am annoyed
w ith m y s e lf for allowing m yself to be upset, b u t felt rather grim when
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2
COUNTERTRANSFERENCE AND THE
PATIENT S RESPONSE
broadcast had been a very simple and obvious thing, sadness that his
m other was n o t there to enjoy his success (o r even to know ab o u t it)
and guilt th a t he had enjoyed it while she was dead. Instead of being
able to m ourn for her (by canceling the broadcast) he had had to
behave as if he denied her death, alm ost in a m anic way. He
recognized th a t the interpretation given, which could be substan
tially correct, had in fact been the correct one a t the tim e for the
analyst, w ho had actually been jealous o f him, and th at it was the
analyst’s unconscious guilt th at had led to the giving of an inap
propriate interpretation. Its acceptance had come about through the
patient’s unconscious recognition o f its correctness for his analyst
and his identification with, or nondifferentiation from , him. Now he
could accept it as tru e for him self in a totally different way, on
a n o th e r level— i.e. th at o f his jealousy of his father’s suceess w ith his
m other and guilt ab o u t him self having a success which represented
success with his m other, of which his father would be jealous and
w ant to deprive him. (H is father had in fact been jealous of him in his
baby relation to his m other. He discovered later still th at if left to
him self he would probably have broadcast anyway, but for a dif
ferent reason, and it w ould have felt quite different.) But the analyst’s
behavior in giving such an interpretation m ust be attributed to
countertransference.
II
to the objects of his childhood: i.e. the analyst regards the patient
(tem porarily and varyingly) as he regarded his own parents.
c. Som e specific attitude or m echanism with which the analyst meets
the patient’s transference.
d. The whole of the analyst’s attitudes and behavior tow ard his
patient. This includes all the others, and any conscious attitudes
as well.
som ething unconscious in oneself is rather like trying to see the back
o f one’s ow n head—it is a lot easier to see the back of som eone else’s.
T h e fact of the patient’s transference lends itself readily to avoidance
by projection and rationalization, b o th mechanisms being charac
teristic for paranoia, and the m yth of the impersonal, alm ost inhu
m an analyst who shows no feelings is consistent with this attitude. I
w onder w hether failure to m ake use of countertransference m ay not
be having a precisely sim ilar effect as far as the progress of psycho
analysis is concerned to th at of ignoring or neglecting the trans
ference. If we can m ake the right use of countertransference, m ay we
n o t find th a t we have yet an o th er extrem ely valuable, if not an
indispensable, tool?
In w riting this chapter, I found it very difficult to know which of
the m eanings o f the term countertransference I was usings and I
found th a t I tended to slip from one to another, although a t the start I
m eant to lim it it to the repressed, infantile, subjective, irrational
feelings, som e pleasurable, some painful, which belong to the second
o f my attem pted definitions. This is usually the countertransference
w hich is regarded as the source of difficulties and dangers.
But unconscious elements can be both norm al and pathological,
and not all repression is pathological any m ore than all conscious
elem ents are “ norm al.” The whole patient-analyst relationship in
cludes b oth “norm al” and pathological, conscious and unconscious,
transference and countertransference, in varying proportions. It will
always include som ething specific to both the individual patient, and
the individual analyst. T hat is, every countertransference is different
from every other, as every transference is different, and it varies
w ithin itself from day to day, according to variations in b oth p a tie n t
and analyst and the outside world.
Repressed countertransference is a product of the unconscious
p a rt o f the analyst’s ego, th a t p a rt nearest and m ost closely belonging
to the id and least in contact w ith reality. It follows from this th a t the
repetition com pulsion is readily brought to bear on it, b u t other ego
activities besides repression play a p a rt in its developm ent, of which
the synthetic o r integrative activity is m ost im portant. As I see it,
countertransference is one of those com prom ise form ations in the
m aking of which the ego shows such surprising skill; it is in this
respect essentially of the sam e order as a neurotic sym ptom , a
perversion, or a sublim ation. In it libidinal gratification is partly
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IV
But these outstanding results are found in the w ork of two classes
of analyst. One consists ofbeginners w ho are not afraid to allow their
unconscious impulses a considerable degree of freedom because,
through lack of experience, like children, they do not know or
understand the dangers and do n ot recognize them . It works out well
in quite a high proportion of cases because the positive feelings
preponderate. W here it does not the results are mostly not seen or
not disclosed— they may even be repressed. We all have our private
graveyards, and not every grave has a headstone.
The other class consists of those experienced analysts who have
gone through a stage of overcautiousness and have reached the point
at which they can tru st not only directly to their unconscious
impulses as such (because of the m odifications resulting from their
own analyses) but also to being able at any given m om ent to bring the
countertransference as it stands then into consciousness enough to
see a t least w hether they are advancing or retarding the patient’s
recovery—in other w ords to overcom e countertransference resis
tance.
A t times the patient him self will help this, for transference and
countertransference are not only syntheses by the patient and analyst
acting separately but, like the analytic work as a whole, are the result
of a jo in t effort. We often hear of the m irror which the analyst holds
up to the patient, but the patient holds one up to the analyst too, and
there is a whole series o f reflections in each, repetitive in kind and
subject to continual m odification. T he m irror in each case should
becom e progressively clearer as the analysis goes on, for patient and
analyst respond to each o ther in a reverberative kind o f way, and
increasing clearness in one m irro r will bring the need for a corre-
-sponding clearing in the other. -
T he patient’s am bivalence leads him both to try to break dow n the
analyst’s counterresistances (which can be a frightening thing to do)
and also to identify w ith him in them and so to use them as his own.
T he question of giving him a “correct” interpretation is then of
considerable im portance from this point of view.
VI
analyst’s feelings tow ard his patient—we know th at from the sta rt—
and they have to be interpreted like any other fantasies, but beyond
these a patient may quite well become aware of real feelings in his
analyst even before the analyst himself is fully aw are of them. There
m ay be a great struggle against accepting the idea that the analyst can
have unconscious countertransference feelings, but when once the
patient’s ego has accepted it certain ideas and mem ories which have
been inaccessible till then m ay be brought into consciousness, things
which would otherwise have stayed repressed.
I have spoken o f the patient revealing the countertransference to
the analyst, and I m ean this quite literally, though it m ay sound like
the dangerous blood sport of “analyzing the analyst.” The “analytic
rule” as it is usually w orded nowadays is m ore helpful to us than in its
original form . W e no longer “require” our patients to tell us every
thing th at is in their minds. O n the contrary, we give them perm ission
to do so, and w hat comes may on occasion be a piece of real
countertransference interpretation for the analyst. Should he n ot be
willing to accept it, rerepression with strengthened resistance fol
lows, and consequently interruption or prolonging of the analysis.
T ogether with the different form ulation of the analytic rule goes a
different way of giving interpretations o r com m ents. In the old days
analysts, like parents, said w hat they liked when they liked, as by
right, and patients had to take it. Now, in return fo r the perm ission to
speak o r withhold freely, we ask our patients to allow us to say some
things, and allow them too to refuse to accept them . This m akes fo r a
greater freedom ail round to choose the tim e fo r giving interpreta
tions and the form in which they are given, by a lessening o f the
didactic or au thoritarian attitude.
Incidentally, a good m any o f the transference interpretations
which are ordinarily given are capable of extension to dem onstrate
the possibility of countertransference; for instance, “You feel th at I
am angry, as your m other was when . . . ” can include “ I’m not angry
as far as I know , b u t I’ll have to find out ab o u t it, and if I am , to know
why, for there’s no real reason for me to be.” Such things of course
a re o fte n s a id , b u t th ey a re n o t alw ay s th o u g h t o f as c o u n
tertransference interpretations. In my view that is w hat they are, and
their use might well be developed consciously as a means of freeing
countertransferences and m aking them m ore directly available for
use (Searles 1965).
4 8 T r a n s f e r e n c e N e u r o s i s & T r a n s f e r e n c e P s y c h o s is
In her paper read at the Zurich Congress D r. H eim ann (1950) has
referred to the appearance of some countertransference feelings as a
kind o f signal com parable to the developm ent of anxiety as a
w arning o f the approach of a traum atic situation. If I have under
stood her correctly, the disturbance which she describes is surely in
fact anxiety, b u t a secondary anxiety which is justified and objective
an d brings a greater alertness and awareness of w hat is happening.
She specifically states th at in her opinion countertransference inter
pretations are best avoided.
B ut anxiety serves first o f all an o th er purpose— it is prim arily a
m ethod of dealing with an actual traum a, however ineffective it m ay
be in this capacity. It can happen th a t this secondary anxiety with its
awareness and watchfulness can m ask very effectively anxiety o f a
m ore prim itive kind. Below the level o f consciousness analyst and
patient can be sensitive to each other’s paranoid fears and persecuto
ry feelings an d become so to speak synchronized (or “ in phase”) in
them , so th a t the analysis itself can be used by b oth as defense. T he
analyst m ay swing over from a n introjective identification with the
patient to a projective one, with a loss o f those intervals of time and
distance of which I spoke earlier, while the patient may defend
him self by an introjective identification with the analyst, instead of
being able to project onto him the persecuting objects.
R esolution o f this situation can come about through conscious
recognition of the countertransference either by the analyst or by the
patient. Failure to recognize it m ay lead to either prem ature inter
ruption of the analysis or to prolonging it. In each case there will be
rerepression o f w hat m ight otherwise have become conscious and
strengthening of the resistances. P rem ature interruption is not neces
sarily fatal to the ultim ate success of the analysis, any m ore th an its
prolongation is, for the presence of sufficient understanding and
some valuable countertransference m ay m ake further progress possi
ble, even after term ination, by virtue of other introjections already
m ade.
T he ideal analyst of course exists only in im agination (w hether the
patient’s or the analyst’s), and can only be m ade actual and living in
rare m om ents. But if the analyst can trust to his own m odified id
impulses, his own repressions of a valuable kind, and to som ething
positive in his patient as well (presum ably som ething which helped to
decide him to undertake the analysis in the first, place), then he can
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VII
T H E SY M B O L “ R ”
. D E F IN IT IO N S
Total Response
N eeds
R E SPO N SIB IL IT Y
C O M M IT M E N T
Unless the analyst is willing to com m it him self and m akes that
com m itm ent clear, it is often quite impossible for a patient to com m it
him self to his analysis. T o com m it oneself m eans to give som ething
and to waive one’s rights. Very deprived people cannot give anything
until they have first been given som ething; neither do they believe
th a t they have any rights. It has to be m ade clear to them th at
som ething is given, th a t it is given willingly, and th at it is part of the
analysis for it to be given, and therefore they have a right to have it.
W hat is given Is n o t given ou t of the analyst’s need to give, b u t out
o f the situation w here person-w ith-som ething-to-spare meets per-
son-w ith-need. It is essential th a t the analyst fully admits, that w hat is
“to spare” an d is given is limited; it is of the nature of a “token” o r a
“ stand-in” and does n o t in fact really fit the patient’s need (though
the m ore nearly it can fit th e better), as th e deepest needs.cannot
really be m et except by enlargem ent of insight and grasp of reality.
F E E L IN G
This com m itm ent, w hatever its range, involves feeling. T he analyst
has to be willing to feel, ab o u t his patient, w ith his patient, and
som etim es even for his patient, in the sense of supplying feelings
which the patient is unable to find in himself, and in the absence of
w hich no real change can happen. This is so where change is feared
and the situation is controlled by the patient keeping his feelings
unfelt— i.e. unconscious.
T he analyst’s real feeling for the patient and his desire to help
(there has to be som e feeling, w hether we call it sym pathy, com pas
sion, o r interest, to p ro m p t the starting and continuing of the
analysis), th ese need to be expressed clearly and explicitly a t times
w hen they are ap p ro p riate and are actually felt, and can therefore
com e spontaneously and sincerely.
Very disturbed patients, and a t tim es even less disturbed ones,
c a n n o t m ake accurate deductions, so leaving these things to be
deduced, o r even talking a b o u t them , is meaningless; there needs to
be som e actual, direct expression as and w hen (but n o t whenever)
they occur. In The H ouse o f the D ead D ostoevsky says, “The
im pression m ade by the reality is always stronger th an th a t m ade by
description,” a n d I have found this to be particularly true in this
connection. Pretended feeling w ould be w orse th an useless, b ut
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by guilt. It m akes little difference w hether the feelings are due to the
patient’s projections or w hether they are objective and called forth by
the patient’s actual behavior. Real dam age can be done if they
rem ain unconscious, b u t there is little danger if they become con
scious. R ecognition o f them alone brings some relief and the pos
sibility of either direct or indirect expression. D ream s are often
helpful in finding the unconscious, disallowed love or hate of one’s
patient.
G uilt or self-consciousness ab o u t these feelings for a patient can
lead to b o th stereotypy and a false separating off of “the analyst”
from the rest o f the person (splitting, in other words, where it is not
appropriate), w ith results th a t can be dangerous for very ill patients.
T he range o f feelings th at can be aroused, of course, is enorm ous. I
have spoken of rage and hate, but these follow such things as
bew ilderm ent or confusion, incom prehension, fear (o f being a t
tacked, th a t the patient will kill himself, of failure, etc.), guilt. Love,
excitem ent, and pleasure can be as difficult: when a patient a t last
accepts an interpretation or m akes real progress, even when from
hating violently his m ood and feeling change to som ething more
friendly, a sign o f relief m ay help him to become aw are of a change
which otherwise he m ight deny and not recognize. It may also help
him to know som ething of w hat he is arousing in someone else—
again som ething which he would otherwise be unable to believe.
Like responsibility and com m itm ent, feelings for a patient have
their limits. The claims of other patients and of one’s own life assert
them selves, the m aterial changes, a n d the feelings change. Unless an
analyst is “ in love” w ith his patient, there is no real risk of his feelings
getting fixed or of his having to go on and on expressing them , which
is w hat people fear if any feeling is expressed a t all.
T he benefit to the patient, too, is lim ited in its extent. Sooner or
later he has to realize th a t no one else can do his loving and hating for
him; he has to feel on his own account and to take over the
responsibility fo r it. B ut m eanwhile he has had a feeling person there
an d the opportunity to identify w ith him, both by projecting his own
unfeelingness and finding the projection, and by introjecting the
feeling analyst.
L IM IT S ; “G O IN G A LL OUT”
I have show n th at responsibility, com m itm ent, and feeling all have
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their limits. These will of course vary with the different types of
patient treated and the individual analyst. They are of great im por
tance as they provide points of separation.
W hen a lim it is reached and the patient becomes aw are of it and
aw are of the impossibility o f going beyond it even though his needs
and dem ands go further, he becomes aw are too of his separateness. If
his ability to bear separation is very small, then every lim it will be
reached too soon. The dem and on his ego will be too great, and a
reaction o f some kind (e.g. a piece of violent acting out or the
developm ent of a physical illness) m ay follow unless the situation is
very carefully handled. Limits which are within the ego’s capacity,
whose logic and reality are w ithin his grasp, provide growing points
and places where the ego can be strengthened.
In contrast with the limits are the 100 percent of the responsibility,
com m itm ent, and acceptance of feeling and reaction. They corre
spond to the “no limits” of ideas and words allowed to the patient
and help to m ake them a reality.
Som e patients are so ill th a t their treatm ent cannot succeed
w ithout the expenditure of enorm ous effort, both extensive and
intensive. In such cases the difficulty is to get the patient to m ake his
own effort an “all out” one, and it is only if he realizes th a t his analyst
is “going all out” on his behalf th a t he can find it w orthw hile to do so
himself.
M A N IF E ST A T IO N O F T H E A N A LY ST
AS A P E R S O N
Each of these things, responsibility, com m itm ent, feeling, etc., car
ries w ith it a m anifestation o r affirm ation of the analyst’s self as a
person, a living hum an being with w hom it is possible to have contact
and relationship.
The idea o f the im personal screen o r m irror has served, a n d still
serves, a very valuable purpose in isolating the transference in
neurotic patients. But it can be used defensively, even in an alm ost
concrete, nonsym bolic way a t times, by either patient o r analyst.
F o r patients dealing w ith psychotic anxieties, and especially those
suffering from actual psychotic illness, some m ore direct contact
with the analyst is necessary. Sym bolism and deductive thinking are
needed where direct contact is m inimized, and both of these are
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C L IN IC A L M A T E R IA L
m ain p a rt of the transference had been to her and had been kept
secret, apparently because of the guilt ab o u t the hom osexual feeling
tow ard her. She had been a friend and contem porary o f Frieda’s
parents an d had transferred her friendship to Frieda when Frieda
was six years old.
F o r five weeks this state o f acute distress continued unchanged. I
spoke o f her guilt ab o u t Use’s death, her anger with her, and fear of
her. I said th a t she felt th at Use had been stolen from her by me, th a t
she was reproaching the w orld, her family, and me, th at she w anted
me to understand her grief as Ilse had understood her childhood
unhappiness, and to sym pathize w ith her.
N one o f this reached her— she was completely out of contact. H er
fam ily bore the b ru n t of it: she neither ate no r slept, and she talked
only of Ilse, w ho was idealized and whose photos were everywhere in
the hom e. She saw Ilse in buses, in the street, in shops, ran after her,
only to find th a t it was som eone else. M y interpretations th at she
w anted me magically to bring Ilse to life again and th at she wanted to
punish herself and her environm ent for her unhappiness fell on deaf
ea rs—nothing reached her. She could not lie down: she sat for a few
m inutes at a tim e and ranged round the room , weeping and wringing
her hands.
A fter five weeks her life was in evident danger, either from the risk
o f suicide or from exhaustion—-somehow I had to break through, A t
last I told her how painful her distress was, not only to herself and to
her family, but to me. I said th at no one could be near her in th at state
w ithout being deeply affected. I felt sorrow with her, and for her, in
her loss.
T he effect was instantaneous and very great. W ithin the hour 'she
becam e calm er, lay dow n on the couch, and cried ordinarily sadly.
She began to look after her fam ily again and a few m onths later had
found the larger flat they had been needing for years, which up till
th en she had declared was impossible. In fitting it up and m oving into
it she found a happiness th at she had never experienced before, and
th a t has lasted and grown. H er reparative impulses came into action
in a w holly new way.
I had often spoken ab o u t feelings in connection w ith myself, but
this had absolutely no m eaning for her— only those feelings th at were
actually show n and expressed m eant anything a t all. She remem
bered only to o clearly having told her m other th a t she loved her, th a t
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she was sorry for things she had done, etc., w ith her tongue in her
cheek, to say nothing of her m other’s exaggerated expressions of a
love for her father, which was subsequently denied.
But I had also on two earlier occasions expressed my own feelings.
The first was when I had sat listening for the hundredth time to an
unending account of a quarrel with her m other ab o u t m oney and
also for the hundredth tim e had struggled to keep awake. It was
boring, and as usual no interpretation would reach her, w hether it
was concerned with the content o f her talk, the mechanisms, trans
ference, her unconscious wishes, etc. This tim e I told her th at I was
sure th at the content o f her talk was not the im portant thing, th a t it
was defensive, and added th at I was having difficulty in staying
awake as these repetitions were boring. T here was a shocked and
horrified silence, an outb u rst of aggrieved anger, and then she said
she was glad I had told her. H er accounts o f the quarrels were
shorter, and she apologized for them after th at, but their m eaning
rem ained obscure. I now know that I was being to her the (dead)
father whom she should have been able to tell how “awful” her
m other was, and w ho should have helped her to deal in childhood
w ith her m other’s m ental illness. I was also Ilse who should have been
with her in all her difficulties. But if I had given this interpretation, I
am sure th a t it would only have m et w ith the sam e response as all the
other transference interpretations.
The second tim e I had been having som e redecorating done. She
prided herself on know ing ju st how this should have been done and
had often given me advice in a very patronizing way, which I had
interpreted as her w anting to control me and ow n my house, to tell
me things instead of having me tell her. This tim e I had had advice all
day long from one patient after another, it was the end o f the day and
I was tired and, instead of giving an interpretation, w ithout thinking
I said crossly “ I really don’t care w hat you think ab o u t it.” Once
again the shocked silence was followed first by fury, and then a really
sincere apology. S oon after this cam e the recognition th at m ost of
the good advice she gave to friends and people she m et casually in the
street or in shops m ight quite well have been resented and th at in her
anxiety to control the w orld she was, in fact, overbearing and a
busybody.
A fter my telling her of my feelings a t the tim e of Use’s death, and
linking it up w ith those earlier times, she told me th a t for the first
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tim e since starting her analysis I had become a real person and th at I
was quite different from her m other. She had felt whenever I
com m ented on anything she did th at I was her m other and was
saying, as she had always done, “and you are an awful person.” This I
had know n and had told her was a transference m anifestation, b u t all
m eaning of this interpretation was denied—it, too, only m eant “and
you are aw ful.” She called m e “Lesson 56” in the textbook. Now she
could link the textbook w ith the wom en’s magazines which her
m other had read an d in which she found m any of her fads and
fancies. M y feelings, being unm istakably real, were different from
the counterfeit ones of her parents. They allowed her and her
concerns a value which she had never had, except with Ilse. In other
w ords, fo r her I had become Ilse in the m om ent of expressing my
feelings.
F ro m this tim e transference interpretations began to have m ean
ing for her. N ot only did she now often accept them when I gave
them , but she frequently said “You’ve told me th at before, b u t I
didn’t know w hat it m eant,” and even “I rem em ber you saying m any
tim es . . . now I understand it,” m aking the application herself of
som ething which she had previously rejected.
S oon after this, for the first tim e, a p attern began to show in
relation to the stealing and other impulsive actions. I was now able to
see th a t they happened only when her m other was visiting her. But
they were also increasingly dangerous. One day on her way hom e
from analysis she was run over by a car and badly hurt. I don’t know
how she was not killed outright. A nother tim e a neighbor of mine
asked me, “ Is th a t w om an w ho runs out your gate across the road
w ithout looking one of your patients?-She’svery dangerous.” Again,
an o th er day when she was expecting a visit from her m other, I went
into a m ain road near my hom e, a t a busy spot, and there was Frieda,
tw enty yards from a pedestrian crossing, leaping about am ong the
cars, p utting everyone in danger, including herself. I showed her the
relation o f these happenings to her m other’s visits, and their suicidal
an d m urderous character. She rejected this idea, as she rejected any
idea of herself as ill, and as she had previously rejected all trans
ference interpretations.
A few weeks later, while her m other was staying with her, she was
caught traveling w ithout paying her fare, being in a hurry and having
no change. T he consequence was being charged in the m agistrate’s
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court. I gave her a certificate stating th a t she was in treatm ent for her
impulsive behavior and th at essentially she was an honest and
reliable person (which was com pletely true). This, like my expres
sions of feeling, m ade a deep im pression, for I had said openly the
very opposite of w hat her parents had said when they labeled her
“ liar” and “thief,” and an “awful person.” She began to recognize her
dangerous acting out, and to be afraid of it, but it still continued.
T he next time her m other cam e she stole again, and now I said I
w ondered if I should n ot refuse to go on taking responsibility fo r her
analysis if she had her m other there again. I had already told her
several tim es th at I considered th at she was taking risks in doing so.
A t her m other’s next visit she stole once m ore, and I repeated w hat I
had said.
I showed her that she had neither believed in the danger, in the
reality of her illness, nor th at I could have m eant w hat I said. I
assured her th a t I did, and th a t if she had her m other there again I
could not take the responsibility for her— I w ould interrupt her
analysis.
A bout this tim e she spent several sessions telling me of the bad
behavior o f a child who was visiting her. She had also told me o f her
little girl’s’ disobedience, and I had asked why she could not be firm
and not allow them to go on doing the same things over and over
again. This was an old story; she was never able to get obedience
from her children w ithout flying into a violent rage and frightening
them into it. She let them do ju st w hat they chose, rationalizing it as
being “m odern,” or “advanced,” and they would stay up late a t night,
miss school, etc., and neither she nor her husband could do anything
ab o u t it— in fact, unconsciously they encouraged it. •-
I asked her w hat w ould happen if I refused to let her go on telling
me these stories. I was as tired of them as she was of the children’s
behavior. She “didn’t know ,” and went on into another story. I said,
“ I m eant that. I’m not listening to any m ore of them .” She was silent,
then giggled and said, “ It’s awful. A nd it’s glorious, to have you say
som ething like that. N obody has ever spoken to me like th a t before. 1
didn’t know it could be like that. Y ou’ve often told me about telling
the children th at I won’t have them do things, but I sim ply didn’t
know how to do it.” A nd from then she began to be able b oth to
accept “no” for herself and to say it.
Now I rem inded her th a t I told her th at I w ould stop her analysis if
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bottles not only represented me (as I had said) but were me, and th at
she had wanted to kick them off the step, as she had been kicked by
her parents and by the car th a t had knocked her down. But in her
delusion it m eant actually kicking me. T he blanket too, had had the
same significance. A t last she was free of them , som eone else could
fold the blanket and bring up my milk. It was no longer her
responsibility.
Her ambivalence became clearer. “ I hate you because I love you so
m uch,” she said; and again, “D am n you and blast you, and bless you,
for loving you so m uch.”
Separateness was so far accepted; fusion, o r m erging, loss of
identity has been m ore difficult. Along with the difficulty in accept
ing it goes the difficulty of allowing herself only to hate or only to
love me, wholeheartedly, now th at I am the person tow ard whom
both are felt instead o f being the loved person while her m other is
hated, o r the hated one while Use is loved.
She described how she felt she was “ inside a capsule and trying to
get out, but altogether lost outside it.” The capsule is transparent,
even invisible. She recalled, as a child o f six, having draw n a circle in
the sand and sat inside it, believing herself to be invisible and feeling
utterly bewildered when som eone spoke o f how she looked sitting
there. A sim ilar thing happened years later when she ate sweets in
school not knowing that she could be seen.
Here at last, in her own description, is the basic delusion by which
she has lived and which has been her m ain defense th roughout the
analysis.
I linked it with an observation whichul had m ade several times
before, th at I thought she had at some tim e witnessed the prim al
scene in a m irror, being screened from seeing directly. I spoke o f the
difficulty in understanding ab o u t a m irror unless som eone is there to
show the child her reflection o r unless there is some fam iliar and
identifiable object th a t she can see both in the m irror and w ithout it.
S h f said “You’ve told me before ab o u t seeing my parents in the
m irror, and I’ve never believed it. I don’t rem em ber it— but I know
which side my cot is on— it’s on the right side, and I k n o w it. I can see
a room , but all the furniture’s strange— I d o n ’t know any o f it.” Then
she recalled hearing th a t in the second year of her life fo r a short tim e
the family stayed in an hotel. T hat w as the only time she had slept in
the parents’ room as far as she knew, and the m em ory o f it had been
denied.
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IM P L IC A T IO N S FO R T E C H N IQ U E
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dow n m ore quickly, the w ork goes on often a t a higher tension, and
the analyst’s greater spontaneity helps the patient to break dow n his
own rigidity and stereotypy.
T he m ain difficulty lies in a general state of unexpectedness. This
does n ot m ean everything being out o f control, though it often feels
like it to the patient. It is rather a state in which things can happen.
T he risk, o f course, is th at there may be a sudden “ triggering o ff’ in
the patient o r in the analyst when an unknow n factor turns up. This
again is som ething which can happen in any analysis and has to be
dealt with w hen it does.
T he account which I have given of one patient’s analysis, con
densed as it has had to be, could be a very misleading one. The
variations in technique which I have shown do not always to m e off.
W hen they do, the effect is very like th a t o f any right interpretation:
there m ay be rejection first and acceptance later or acceptance
straight away. There m ay be no effect imm ediately to be seen, and it
m ay ap p ear later th a t there had been some. W hen they do not come
off, again, as w ith ordinary interpretations, som ething may happen
or not. A nd like ordinary interpretations, if the tim e is right and they
are appropriate, their effect is good. If not, the effect is bad, and they
are m istakes like any other m istakes. In Frieda’s analysis the things I
have quoted did succeed and were not mistakes. I think they were not
ju st lucky flukes either, for I have experienced similar things in a
num ber o f other analyses with sim ilar results.
The purpose o f these things is quite clear, and limited. It is to m ake
the p a tie n t’s ego accessible to transference interpretation by break
ing up a delusional transference.
In terpretation does not m ake any im pression on delusion. The
only thing th at does so is the presentation of reality In a way th at is
com parable to waking up out of a dream —th at is, finding that
som ething th at has been believed to be literally true is -untrue, by
co n frontation w ith what, is true. This does not m ake ordinary
interpretation redundant, no r is it a substitute for it. It does not do
away with all resistance. O rdinary interpretative w ork has to go on
before such episodes as I have described, through them , and after
them , and it still rem ains the m ain p art of the analysis. W ithout it
these other things w ould be useless but, in cases where the trans
ference itself is of a delusional nature, they are the only kind of thing
th a t m akes transference interpretation m eaningful and usable, for it
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SU M M IN G U P
Analysis is a living thing, and like all living things it is changing all
the while. Even in the few years th at it has existed we can see many
changes, especially in the field of technique. Patients are treated
today who w ould have been thought unsuitable even a few years ago.
M rs. Klein rem inded us th a t such things as analysis of children and
interpretation of transference were once looked at askance. We
cannot know w hat analysis will become in the future; we can know
only th a t it will change, th a t we are contributing to its future, and
th a t today’s changes will look different to those who come after us.
“C ountertransference,” in the various meanings of the word, is a
fam iliar phenom enon. A t first, like transference, it was regarded as
som ething dangerous and undesirable, b ut nevertheless unavoida
ble. N ow adays it is even respectable!
But I feel th at it should be a great deal m ore than this. We do not
know enough ab o u t our responses to our patients and have been (on
the whole wisely) cautious in using them . But a very great deal of
psychic energy goes into them , w hether we wish it to be so or not, and
if we are to get anything like the full benefit of this energy, either for
our patients or for ourselves, we have got to be willing to experim ent
and even to take some risks. I am sure th at experim enting by trained
an d experienced analysts is essential fo r the further grow th and
developm ent o f psychoanalysis, b u t it needs to be done against a
background of responsibility, know n and willingly taken.
4
ON DELUSIONAL TRANSFERENCE
(TRANSFERENCE PSYCHOSIS)
o th er type o f dream the m anifest and the latent content are one, and
the m anifest content is the dream thought.
b. T here are defects of thinking. The capacity to symbolize is
deficient, there is “ symbolic equation” (“prim ary process symboliza
tion”), and concrete thinking, and the capacity to m ake accurate
deductions o r inferences is largely lacking.
c. A cting out is violent, o r the violence appears negatively as
passivity. These patients call a good deal o f attention to themselves,
involve other people in their affairs, and interfere in the affairs of
others.
d. They tend to be very dependent and find someone else to carry
out as m any o f their ego functions as possible. There is neither real
separateness no r real fusion, no m utuality, only reciprocity—“tit-
for-tat,” “you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours.” T heir relation
ships tu rn out to be folies a deux in which each partner claims
preference and precedence; both are violent, o r one dom inates and
the other is passive, sometim es alternating.
The analytical relationship is understood only on this kind of
basis, and attem pts are m ade to establish a folie a deux w ith the
analyst. U nequal relationship o r give-and-take on som eone else’s
term s seems to be som ething which has never happened before; the
idea is m et w ith blank incom prehension, going on to fury when the
patient has to give way; if the analyst gives way it m ay not be
perceived a t all, but if it is perceived it produces great satisfaction,
and guilt.
e. These patients seem to develop a sort of addiction to analysis.
They have a n insatiable need for love and attention by m eans of
which they seek magically to control their limitless hate and destruc
tiveness.
T his “ addiction to analysis” leads to a ruthless, repetitive search
ing for som ething, at any c o st to either patient or analyst. But this
very quality som etim es m akes an unprom ising-looking analysis
successful in the long run, if only th a t “ som ething” can be recognized
and got, a t least in token m easure. T he gap between the need and
w hat is got has to be fully acknowledged by the analyst.
f. These conditions seem to have arisen out of a situation where
the m other herself was infantile, and as incapable of bearing either
separateness o r fusion as her baby, a m other whose anxiety and
inadequacy acted as real persecutions to the child. T he depressive
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P O S T S C R IP T
goes on to describe the ego’s reaction to it. This is the state of a person
suffering pain, but at this point it borders on the state which I have
described above, where unbearable stim uli break through the defen
sive barrier ( Reizschutz) a t a very early level o f ego developm ent, and
the sense o f being a person is lost. He speaks elsewhere of aphanisis,
giving the term different meanings for the individual a t different
stages o f his ego developm ent. H e does not refer to it in this
com m unication.
B ut the state which I have described, in which there is loss of all
sense o f being a person, is a state in which the ego’s defensive
functioning is tem porarily suspended deliberately, through the an a
lytic process, and id drives are released.
In the N ew Introductory Lectures F reud described the id as “all
th a t the ego is n o t . . . a chaos, a cauldron of seething excitem ent.”
“ Instinctual cathexes seeking discharge,” he said, “is all th a t the id
contains.”
But F reud has also described the breaking up of a delusion, and he
has done so in m uch the sam e way as I have. I have not consciously
followed him here. I read Delusions and D ream s during my training
as an analyst. I have only reread it in the last few weeks and found
th at I had forgotten it alm ost entirely. W ilhelm Jensen’s novel
Gradiva tells the story of a young m an’s tem porary delusion and its
cure. His sufferings when the delusion is disturbed differ from those
of a patient whose delusional transference begins to break up only by
being less in degree. It is clear th at he is in danger at this time: he
perceives a th reat (real o r imagined) to the young girl w hom he is
b o th seeking and avoiding, and in averting the- danger, by im
pulsively “sw atting” the insect th at m ight sting her,.he touchesJier
arm w ith his hand, and in doing so finds her reality. The final
breakup of the delusion, and his recovery, come ab o u t as the result of
this body m ovem ent and contact.
■F reud traces in detail the- processes involved, in the light of
psychoanalysis. His account is penetrating, self-consistent, and con
vincing, b u t he does n ot suggest the possibility of resolving a fix e d
delusional state in this way. I was astonished to find th at the analysis
of my patients whose transference is delusional follows this exact
p attern , b u t o f course, since the delusion in these cases is neither
tem porary n o r recently developed (nor are the patients characters in
a novel), recovery does not come ab o u t through a single episode of
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Then he rem em bered his m other doing this, he had felt her pull;
now he had hallucinated it. This linked with experiences of being
stopped from putting things into his m outh, and of keeping it firmly
shut to prevent som ething being pushed in or taken out, and from
there to interruptions of breast feeding and memories of being forced
to take medicine.
His m other seems to have organized confusion, artificially bring
ing conflict from outside; two texts hung on the wall: one read,
“ D on’t worry, it will never happen,” and the other, “Cheer up, the
best is yet to come.”
She confused him ab o u t his identity, “ My nice little boy wouldn’t
do that. This can’t be C harles,” and “ You don’t w ant th at, do you?”
He had never been able to establish the identity of his ow n body, and
m any body memories had never been assimilated.
I put my hand where he had felt the pull, and he found th a t he
could distinguish between the real contact and the hallucination, and
between me and his m other. She m ight quite well have touched him
and denied it, or suddenly distracted his attention and confused him
ab o u t what had happened. He saw her doing this kind o f thing now
with her grandchildren. In fact, he had been seeing it for some time
with them, but only now could he deduce th at she m ust have done it
with him.
The same kind of release can come w hen a reality of another kind
is found.
Henry had been for a holiday w'ith his brother a few years older, a
special one th at he had looked forw ard to for a long tim e, to a place
where he knew 1 had not been. H e had imagined going there with me
in my car. It had involved missing a few sessions.
I had shown him beforehand th at there was a risk of his having an
accident, because of his anger with me for not" taking him on my
holidays, and his expectation of retaliation. He had had car accidents
before, in this kind of context. We had then been working over
mem ories of earlier outings w ith his brother, from which he had
come home sopping wet, cut, and bruised. I spoke too of the
unconscious hate between the brothers.
W hen he came back he was very offhand and noncom m ittal about
the holiday. It had been “all right” (rath er grudgingly), and then he
lapsed into one of his long silences, looking deeply unhappy.
I waited, and then said, “ Y ou know, I’m very glad you enjoyed the
9 6 T r a n s f e r e n c e N e u r o s i s . & T r a n s f e r e n c e P s y c h o s is
holiday so m uch.” He opened his eyes, stared at me, and said, “G ood
lord! T h at had exactly the same effect as an interpretation.” His
m other had grum bled a t the wetness and the cuts; she had tried to
stop him from going with his brother (“'Y ou don’t w ant to, you won’t
enjoy it”), and he had had to hide his excitem ent and enjoym ent. This
had been one of the factors causing the accidents, but talking about it
beforehand and relating it to the transference had only been an
intellectualization, whereas my telling him directly w hat I felt at th at
m om ent had real m eaning for him.
A fter this he rem em bered being taken out by his older sister (who
until then had come into the analysis as no m ore than a name), and
being upset o u t of his pram . This was recalled w ith acute fear,
giddiness, and headache. I related it to the sensations experienced
during and ju st after birth—the original massive “upset”—^-and also
to later excretory “ accidents,” exciting, and enjoyable, b u t punished
severely by spanking.
W hat I w ant to convey is the way in which a piece o f reality
presented so, inescapably and unm istakably, not only breaks up
delusion b u t helps to bring ab o u t differentiation which has hitherto
been prevented. As the experience becomes usable, m isapprehen
sions and w rong deductions etc. can be sorted out by using words.
In his c o m m e n ta ry on J e n s e n ’s G ra d iva (“ D e lu s io n s a n d
D ream s”) F reud points out th a t to attem pt to convince som eone of
the falsity of his delusional ideas is useless; it only arouses hostility. I t .
is necessary to accept their tru th f o r him, to enter into the delusion,
and then break it up from inside by a direct presentation of w hat is
real. .'
This entry into the delusion by the analyst (w ithout, of course, his
being deluded too, or accepting the tru th of the delusion as actual) is
an im p o rtan t elem ent in finding the form of presentation best suited
to the particular patient a t any given m om ent.
Alice had been for a fortnight in a n .unshifting resistance and
u n b r o k e n sile n c e, a n d u n m o v in g . T o d a y she lay tw istin g a n d
w rithing on the couch. Suddenly she said, “I feel trapped; I can’t
move, I’m caught by the leg.” She went on wriggling and turning, in a
frenzy, but holding one leg o ut stiffly tow ards me. I waited and then
p u t my hand lightly on her ankle* She gave one flip with her foot,
which I allow ed to push my hand away. I said, “ I was the trap .”
She then began to talk freely; she told me how in childhood she
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had seen a rabbit with its leg caught in a trap and how her dog
pounced on it and killed it—how very dead it had looked, m otionless
and silent. From there she went to prim al scene m aterial and
mem ories o f finding bloodstained clothes after her sister’s birth when
she was two years old. A n older boy cousin caught and torm ented
her, and there had been some sex play w ith him which had been both
exciting and frightening.
W hen I put my hand on her ankle I to o k over being the trap , (on
the delusional level) so th at she no longer had to be both trap and
rabbit. T hat liberated the energy o f the p a rt o f her th at was being the
trap, (the m outh) and so let the “ rabbit” part be strong enough to
break free and move and speak.
In the nonpsychotic p art of h er Alice was, o f course, fully aw are
th a t her leg was not caught in a trap, th a t my hand did not really
restrict her m ovem ent at all, and that I knew this too. But In her
psychotic area there was absolute belief th at I was a trap th at w'as
holding her, that I was the cousin who had held her forcibly, the
m other w ho had often restrained her, and also the drive o f the birth
forces. But since I could move, and she and I were one, then she could
move too, and in m oving she becam e aw are of being separate from
me. There was a delusion of being caught in a trap th at m eant
destruction and annihilation, and to move m eant to be annihilated.
There was delusion of being identical w ith me. Only when I accepted
the reality for her of the delusional ideas and their psychic reality for
us both, could she recognize their fa c tu a l unreality.
T o have said anything like, “Y ou feel yourself caught and you
think I am the trap, as you thought you were the rabbit” w ould have
been quite useless to the psychotic p art of her, which was not joined
up with the nonpsychotic part. O nly showing her on the level of body
sensation th at she could move safely could break up the delusion and
bring about the necessary fusion of psyche and som a, and o f her
psychotic and nonpsychotic parts;
An alternating rhythm develops of m erging psychically with the
patient, imaginatively becom ing one with him, and then separating
out again, which enables him in his turn to find oneness w ith me, and
separate him self out again from there.
I know th at this sounds like projective and introjective identifica
tion, b u t the w ord identification already implies separateness be
tween subject and object. I am trying to m ake clear a rhythm ic
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Ill
In analysis body m ovem ent is lim ited to some extent by using the
couch, and in psychoneurotics the tendency to verbalize Is increased.
But borderline psychotics cannot always verbalize and often have to
m ove first. W hen any patient lies dow n, regression occurs a u to
m atically to w hatever level contains the predom inant anxiety a t th at
time; in borderline patients it is m ost often to their psychotic'level.
The m ovem ents, although m ade with a fully grow n body, are
essentially those of an infant: an infant whose m ovem ents have been
so inhibited or m ade so meaningless th a t they have rem ained ineffec
tive. W hen an effective m ovem ent is found, it can be linked with
speech.
Lack of experiences which m ost people take for granted, and
indeed hardly believe could be missing from any childhood (such as
the free kicking of a naked baby, or crying oneself to sleep), and the
presence of other experiences (such as being left tightly rolled in a
shawl with the feeding bottle propped up on a pillow, all lim b
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m ovem ent being prevented), over too large an area, reinforce the
lack o f basic unity o r its prem ature interruption, and so prevent
differentiation and the assim ilation o f experience.
Finding these new experiences and reliving the mem ories o f the
old ones in the new setting of the analysis restores the unity, though
the im m ediate effect of disturbing the delusion is th a t o f shock.
Relief, restoration and change com e later.
Hilda arrived early for her session in an obviously excited state.
She lay dow n while I was still drinking my m id-m orning coffee.
“W ill you give me some of your coffee?” she asked; I drank some
m ore and then handed her the mug. She held it between her hands for
a few m om ents, then gazed a t me in am azem ent, drank the coffee
quickly, and handed back the m ug. “W hat did you think I would do
w ith it?” she said, and I replied th at I had not known, but had half
expected th a t she m ight throw it in my face. She said she had thought
she w ould pour it over her own head, “But when I felt the lovely
shape of the m ug in my hands, and the w arm th, and smelt the coffee l
found I ju st wanted to drink it.” T he excitem ent was discharged, and
we w ent on to som ething else.
H ilda’s infancy and childhood had been so traum atic th at in order
to survive she had had to hide her feelings both from other people^
and from herself. She had also had to imagine pleasurable happen
ings, b u t disaster followed whenever she tried to bring them about.
D ifferent standards prevailed in her childhood hom e between
grow n-ups and children. She had thought of my coffee as belonging
in the world o f the grow n-ups and that w hat she would get from me
w ould be a rebuff, or som ething from the “ nursery” world. She
w ould show her revolt in the kind of way she had always done, by
pouring the coffee on her head. B ut she found my spontaneous
response different, and this changed her feelings altogether, ;and her
behavior. She could then jo in sensation and em otion together and
link b o th with words, through m ovem ent,' mine and her own,
w ithout disaster.
IV
I use m y hands a good deal, b o th in gesture and in touch, in analyzing
delusion, b u t it is n ot easy to convey ju st how, when, and why I move
o r touch a patient. M ost often it is simply putting my hand some
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every analysis. The two are in fa c t p art o f one another’s lives over a
long stretch of time and deeply engaged in the analysis in which they
have both com m on and m utual interest. This the patient can experi
ence as som ething so close as to obliterate any boundary between
them —a parallel to the body closeness o f his face and the cushion
when, lying on the couch, he cannot perceive where his face ends, and
the cushion begins.
fam ily life, hom e, and any sense of belonging. All transference
phenom ena, sym bolization, and em pathy are rooted in it. The
im plications are enorm ous, once the idea is grasped, and it can throw
Light on m any things hitherto not understood.
P O S T S C R IP T
Such episodes as those I have described usually com e after long and
careful work. T rust in the analyst has had to be built up through
experience of his reliability and general predictability. A good deal of
repetition is often needed in the w orking through.
W hat I am chiefly talking ab o u t is dealing with a patient’s “catas
trophe areas” (G alatzer-Levy 1978) o r “catastrophe points,” where
sudden changes come ab o u t through the analyst’s constant pressure
ceasing to have consistent effect and reversing the patient’s reaction.
Aggressive impulses can change to flight, expressions of hate to
expressions o f love, and vice versa.
T he experience is not, in my view, “corrective.” T he original
dam age cannot be undone, but providing other experience to put
alongside the earlier ones enables the patient to bring his m ore
m ature, nondelusional self into action.
But, o f course, the patient is an individual in a setting, and
consistent pressure in the outside world, where he is faced with a
reality hitherto unacknow ledged, can bring ab o u t sudden change in ,
exactly the sam e way. This can be dangerous, precipitating a psycho
tic episode, which the analyst should be ready to meet if it comes.
T he variables are alm ost infinite, and so are the potentialities for
change; but both m ust be real, not m atters of fantasy, and a very
large degree of stability in the analytic situation is essential, as the
“ uncertainty principle” is also involved. O ne can neither m easure nor
accurately predict the changes, for even in observing them one alters
both the changes themselves, and the events th at follow, by one’s
ow n unconscious reactions.
T his brings in the m atter of the analyst’s integrity. His respon
sibility fo r changes, w hether good or bad, resulting from his w ork is
th a t of the researcher to his m aterial. It m eans th at an analyst
w orking in catastrophe areas o r areas of delusion m ust be willing to
k n o w a n d u se s im ila r a re a s in h im se lf; o th e rw ise his c o u n
tertransference will m ake difficulties for b o th his patient and himself,
and there are enough there already.
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granted. Only when this has been brought about can certain other
processes follow, one of which is the developm ent of the pleasure
principle, for pleasure is n ot a reality and can have no m eaning
except in survival.
I w ould like to illustrate w hat I m ean by talking about a lump of
plasticine.
A lum p of plasticine is hom ogeneous; it may have shape percepti
ble from outside, b u t not from within. O utside it may in fact be
related to other objects, but it takes no account of them. W ithin itself
it is nothing other th an itself. A piece o f it m ay become protruded, or
nipped off, form ed into an o th er shape, and stuck on again— i.e.
assim ilated back to the lum p, b u t differentiated from it, retaining its
new shape or character. Here is the beginning o f differentiation and
integration, and o f creation. T he basic unity o f the plasticine is first
broken and then restored; there is coherence and stability, and a
fresh place to go on from , b u t the essential nature o f the plasticine (its
pkysis, in the original m eaning of the G reek word) rem ains un
altered.
In speaking of the undifferentiated state as it appears in the
analysis of adults, I m ean such a “lum p o f plasticine” state, one to
which the patient has needed to regress in order to come forw ard
again by m eans of new differentiation and the assim ilation of new
experience, finding and extending his basic unity. (This state of
undifferentiatedness m ay of course be used defensively against the
recovery o f repressed memories and ideas, but this is not w hat I am
attem pting to discuss here.)
T he analogy with the lum p of plasticine can be strained too far, but
I am using it to show the difference between a very early state, where
' psychically, the patient-infant is, so to speak, a lu m p of plasticine,
and a m uch later one, where ideas of inside and outside, or “ me and
not-m e,” have begun to develop. He m ay then believe his whole
inside to be full of hom ogeneous plasticinelike stuff, which he can
im aginatively put outside himself, filling the whole world with it. In
this earlier state nothing exists but himself: it is a m onistic state of
autoerotism , or m ore accurately perhaps “panautism ,” by which I
m ean a state in which nothing but the self exists.
Ideas such as projection, introjection, identification, subject, or
object can have no m eaning in relation to som ething totally un
differentiated, except from outside it. D ifferentiation comes about
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through m ovem ent, contact with the outside world (discovery), and
assim ilation back to the lum p, or integration. A t this point “autoero
tism ” may begin to change into narcissism, narcissism being by
definition concerned with the self as both subject and object.
I am thinking here of a passage in F reud’s paper “O n Narcissism”
(1914): “We are bound to suppose th a t a unity com parable to the ego
cannot exist in the individual from the start; the ego has to be
developed. The autoerotic instincts, however, are there from the very
first, so there m ust be som ething added to autoerotism —a new
psychical action—in order to bring about narcissism.”
In my view this “ new psychical action” is the beginning of the
rhythm ic processes of differentiation out from the prim ordial, un
differentiated state, and integration, or assim ilation back, of the
differentiates. The tendency tow ard it is inherent, b u t when these
processes are disturbed, narcissism fails to develop, autoerotism (or
“panautism ”) rem ains, and ego developm ent may be seriously im
paired, with grave risk to the psychic life of the individual.
As far as objective reality is concerned, I would repeat, this
undifferentiated, “ panautistic” state is a delusional one, and it
rem ains unconscious in transference psychosis until it is uncovered
in the analysis; no patient is in fact a n infant, o r wholly undifferenti
ated. The delusion, although accepted as true for the patient, is not
shared by the analyst (unless, unfortunately, he has som ething of a
countertransference psychosis).
It follows, then, th a t in the patient’s delusion, patient and analyst
are one and indivisible, identical and continuous, and w ithout
differentiation either w ithin the entity or between the entity and
anything in the outer world.
II
I w ant now to consider the prim ordial state of the fetus in intra
uterine life. T here is a t this time a unity with the m other which is
broken up by the birth process. Up to the tim e of birth, although the
fetal circulation is distinct from th a t of the m other, the m other’s
respiratory, digestive, and excretory systems are functioning for
both, i.e. for the entity.
' The fetus is in fact wholly dependent upon the m other, w ithout
whom it could n o t continue to exist. T he m other, of course, is not
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The entity is, of course, an im agined one, whose reality for the
analyst is lim ited and different from th a t of the analysand, who seeks
to m ake it actual. If it be recognized and accepted imaginatively by
the analyst, it m eans th a t he goes the whole way with the analysand
psychically. If not, there is repeated failure to reach the basic unity,
repetition of original failure, and repeated hopelessness, out of which
nothing comes. The analysis drags on to eventual failure, either in
abandonm ent, or in pseudosuccess, which is only a papering over of
the cracks.
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IV
Rosem ary has not yet differentiated her m outh out from the rest of
herself, or herself from her devouring surroundings. She suffers from
anorexia nervosa, and she describes herself as “cut off from my
roots.”
A t the time of her visit to the store Rosem ary was functioning
separately on at least two different levels, and I am understanding the
separateness as being due to a failure of fusion, rather than to a
splitting m echanism. There was a person who could choose and
arrange a meal which she would provide for an o th er person for
whom she felt affection. This argues b o th a high degree of differen
tiation and organization and the existence of object relations. A t the
same tim e, on the earliest level she was not yet differentiated out
from her environm ent o r aware of its existence. She was an infant, in
whom a m ovem ent happened which should have been creative,
leading to differentiation and integration, becoming an assertion or
statem ent of herself. But the m ovem ent was m et by the environm ent
in such a way as to bring about disruption instead.
A lthough to all outw ard appearance she was entirely com posed
and self-possessed, and gave her evidence in court simply and clearly,
it was a m atter of years before she could talk ab o u t this episode, and
verbal interpretations given a t the tim e brought no response. W hen
she did finally talk ab o u t it it became clear th at the only things th at
had had any reality for her were my presence in the co urt and w hat I
actually said and did on her behalf. It was im portant th a t the
m agistrate in discharging her said “ I believe your doctor when she
tells me' th a t you are ill,” and n o t “ I believe you when you tell me that
you did not steal.”
Som e m onths later she told me o f the only tim e she had stolen in
childhood: Joyce was ill, and R osem ary (age eleven) did not even
know w hether she was alive or not; nobody told her, and she could
not ask. T he separation was absolute. Rosem ary was sent to stay
with this sam e aunt. In a shop she saw a little shell purse lined w ith
red silk. She took it and kept it secretly for years, always feeling
guilty, as if she had com m itted a m urder.
Last year I was away from her fo r some tim e, and I was very
doubtful w hether she would kill herself or get ill and die. I lent her a
book of poems by W alter de la M are. Som e tim e later she told me
with great difficulty th a t two years before th at she had found a poem
in a m agazine in my waiting room ; som e of the w ords “seemed to
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belong to her,” and she had cut it out and kept it. W hen she showed it
to me I could see why it had so m uch m eaning for her, as the shell
purse had had. I could also understand why she did not tell me a t the
tim e a b o u t the incident in the store. She believed th at I knew it, as she
and I were one.
T h roughout her analysis she continued to be paralyzed w ith
terror, and unable to find any starting point other than som ething
happening in me. She w ould clutch my hand, and I w ould speak of it
as showing me this terro r and relate it to m aterial o f the previous day,
or to other occasions when she had done the same. Only when I
pointed out th a t the pressure was so great as to be painful to me, o r
th at my fingers had “gone dead,” could she begin to talk. H er silence
and im m obility v/ould rem ain total fo r weeks on end, and only after I
showed signs of life in some explicit way (for anything merely
im plicit was useless) could she begin to tell me w hat had been going
on. It was a m atter of am azem ent to discover th a t the person to
w hom she talked when I was not there did not reply, for it was
herself, and not me; also that her own p art in some o f the childhood
games was clearly distinguishable from that o f Joyce. Her “we”
began to break up.
A t last I began to find som ething of how her analysis could
perhaps be done. She began to talk com paratively freely and to feel a
person, and the analysis became steadily a m ore ordinary one. I m ay
add th a t in the outside w orld she did not give the impression of being
a schizoid or w ithdraw n personality at all; she was m uch liked by her
fellows and had a good sense of hum or and fun.
In the light o f this idea o f absolute identity between patient and
analyst I think we have to reconsider our ideas o f such m ental
m echanism s as projection, introjection, condensation, displacem ent,
and all th at Freud included in the term dream work.
I spoke earlier of the analyst who experiences the patient as his
w ork, and his w ork as himself. It is like the poet who speaks o f ‘my
love,’ m eaning b o th 'h is loved oiie and his own em otion, which is
himself; we can see here how w hat we have considered to be
condensation becomes instead a regression to the prim ordial, un
differentiated state. Similarly, in the first clinical exam ple I quoted,
w hat appeared to be projective identification turned out to be an
assertion o f absolute identity w ith me.
F o r this same reason, th at to them everything is one, patients who
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TRANSFERENCE IN BORDERLINE STATES
Not the thing itself, but the sense of other and contrary things makes
reality. . . . East is West.
—Freya Stark, The Valleys o f the Assassins (1934)
as som ething useless, painful, and to be got rid of. In fact to her I was
her eczema, the source of all her troubles and the prim e cause of the
general ineffectiveness, loneliness, and despair which had brought
her into treatm ent; I was the loneliness itself, and also, as appeared
later, her m other’s loneliness, anxiety, and despair.
She turned out to be a patient of the highly narcissistic kind, whose
transference was psychotic in type, not neurotic; she destroyed
w hatever I said or did, m aking ordinary transference interpretations
into nonsense, gibing and sneering sarcastically a t everything, pro
ducing helpless rage and exasperation in me, whilst she avoided all
feeling. She coolly blam ed and reproached me for my anger and for
her failure to im prove, a failure which I gradually realized was quite
unreal.
T h e sym ptom appeared soon after I had pointed out th at although
she had had analysis before she was rejecting my interpretations as if
she had never heard o f unconscious processes. This enraged her, but
the rage was expressed only in the whim pering and grizzling, and
then scratching. I came later to recognize this reaction as the only
form o f com m unication she could use.
T he small piece of m aterial which I have quoted shows certain
characteristics of a delusional transference in a borderline patient.
T o outw ard appearance this w om an was fairly well integrated. She
had done well academ ically, professionally, and socially, but under
the surface was a lim ited range of absolutely fixed ideas belonging to
a very early level of developm ent.
In this area, to her, nothing was real except failure, inadequacy,
and hopelessness; any change from this threatened her very exis
tence; all em otion, and specifically all bodily experiences of em otion,
were a th reat o f annihilation, against which she 'defended herself by
m eans of organized hate and persecutory anxiety; prim itive bodily
m ovem ents were used to substitute for them and to w ard them off.
H er acting out, which was lim ited to the destructive rejection of
everything offered to her, provoked in others the feelings she avoided
in herself. T he bodily activity of scratching was a prim itive form of
m em ory. She could not recall the eczema; she had been told of it, and
her ow n m em ory of it was solely body m em ory, reinforced by
hearsay.
She showed no concern for others, and in fact very little for herself.
H er narcissism had failed to develop, even her pain barrier being
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course, are tem porary states, but the recognition of this sim ilarity
can often enable the difficulties to be resolved.)
The first appearance of any illness, or the first thing th at may lead
an analyst to regard a patient as being a borderline, psychotic may be
a faulty perception, an inaccurate inference or deduction, a failure to
use symbols or analogy, the presence of symbolic equation or other
evidence of concrete thinking, or a piece of totally irrational, often
irresponsible, behavior in a person whose ways of perceiving, think
ing, and behaving are otherwise quite ordinary, though he may have
other sym ptom s of neurosis. Areas of prim ary and secondary pro
cess thinking can exist side by side and will be present or absent
according to the predom inance of survival, pleasure, or reality
principles.
W hen survival is the m ain or only possible consideration, pleasure
and pain are meaningless, sexuality of any kind is irrelevant, and the
only kind of reality recognizable is psychic reality. External reality
exists in these areas only in the form in which it existed in the
patient’s actual infancy. The adult form of m em ory— recall—will be
found to be missing, o r meaningless. W hereas a psychoneurotic, as
Freud pointed out, is suffering from repressed m em ories, in a
psychotic, and in the psychotic areas o f borderline patients, the past
is literally reproduced here and now, which accounts for both the
patient’s inappropriate behavior in the outer world and the special
quality of the transference phenom ena other th an those also found in
psycho neurotic patients.
The lives of these patients m ay have been eventful and colorful,
showing a pattern of destructiveness and fragm entation, o r they may
have been limited, insipid and colorless where the destructiveness has
been compulsively controlled and yet is expressed in the control
itself. Both the destructiveness and the control tend to have a magical
quality, and often a “looking-glass” quality, cause being effect and
effect cause. The destructiveness is th a t of an infant, b u t is combined
with all the bodily and m ental resources o f a n adult.
M uch of w hat is usually only found in the deeper layers of the
personality m ay appear on the surface, and the illness then is
unm istakable; or there m ay be no illness apparent. Polarities are
kept absolutely separate—good and bad, male and female, love and
hate, childhood and m aturity. Everything is seen only in black and
white; there are no shades of grey. The com prom ises which charac
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me that this view ignores the fact that fantasy is futile ap art from its
roots in factual reality, and vice versa. Alternatively it implies a belief
in a greater capacity for reality testing and a greater overall reality
sense than I have found in the m any patients I have treated.
Som e of these analysts have attributed failures in analysis (“un-
analyzableness”) to constitutional or innate factors in the patients
concerned, w ithout apparently questioning the possibility o f either
the analyst or the technique being a t fault or inadequate.
2. Analysts who consider th at some new experience m ust be
supplied to the patient and that this will in some way supplant his
previous experiences or undo the pathological effects of them,
w ithout the need for linking with words the new and the old, fantasy
and reality, or the .inner and outer worlds (Corrective Em otional
Experience, Direct Analysis, etc.). This seems to me to be m ore a
m atter of treatm ent o f sym ptom s than of the illness of which they are
part. By not taking account of the need for w orking through and for
linking the em otional experience with intellectual understanding,
such therapy (valuable as it may be in certain circumstances) remains
psychotherapy, not psychoanalysis.
3. A more scattered collection o f analysts, w ith less hom ogeneous
views, of whom I am one, w ho believe that these borderline patients
by reason of ego defects, resulting from not-good-enough m othering
in earliest infancy, cannot use verbal interpretations in the areas
where psychotic anxieties and delusional ideas predom inate, and
th at a new set of experiences o f good-enough m othering needs to be
supplied before the ego can become accessible to verbal interpreta
tion, which nevertheless is then a necessity, as a means o f integrating
the whole person. These analysts are willing to use such nonverbal
adjuncts (“ m anagem ent,” “ param eters,” etc.) as they find helpful,
allowing the individual patient a greater freedom to direct the
analysis to suit his personal needs. This can of course p u t a far greater
strain on the analyst th an the strictly “classical” technique, but in his
m ost advanced areas, or even to know w hat is, or has been, view it
does not confuse the patient o r cloud the issues, and in fact makes
possible certain analyses which w ould fail where a less flexible
technique was used, n ot through som ething in the patient but
through som ething in the analyst.
I will go on now to set out some o f w hat I think and feel and do
about technique in analyzing the transference in borderline patients,
and I will illustrate it as fa r as I can by clinical m aterial.
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Jam es is a doctor. He had repeatedly injured him self in the same way,
every tim e attributing the injury to a piece of furniture which needed
a simple repair. He knew intellectually that he had brought it about
himself, a n d we had both thought we understood the unconscious
m otivation. A t last he accepted it em otionally; in despair he turned
aw ay and hid his face under the blanket. A fter a few m om ents one
han d m oved across, over the other shoulder, and rested with the
fingers ju st showing. I put my hand on his. He took a deep breath and
b urst into a storm of weeping, and great relief followed.
I showed him th a t unconsciously he had reached out tow ard me,
though not being able to perceive until I touched him either th a t I
was there o r th a t he needed me.
A few m inutes later he told me about one o f his patients in
childbirth. N ow he was an adult, well integrated-with his infant self,
w hom it w ould have been an affront to treat otherwise. I made some
com m ent on th at level and then waited a bit. T hen I said that
unconsciously he was showing me th a t he could treat patients as well
as I could a n d was com peting on the oedipal level w ith m e, a
specialist, i.e. a father with a bigger penis, b u t also as a boy, with the
m other who could conceive and bear children.
T his m aterial would n ot have been reached but for the body
happening of his hand m ovem ent, accepted b o th verbally and non
verbally by me. It was the body injury th at showed me the need for
body response, though I only realized this later. Since this he has
been near to self-injury again, b u t he has avoided it because the
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Violet becam e anxious if she had forgotten to put into her handbag
the vitam in tablets originally prescribed by her family doctor for a
mild deficiency, which she now rarely took. O n one level they were a
magical talism an, and also a m ysterious and persecuting danger. O n
another level they were a transitional object: she would take them out
and look a t them , play with the bottle, think of taking one, and do so,
or not. Ultim ately they were lost, o r throw n away, “ not good any
m ore,” or no longer needed. O n the surface they carried their original
reality significance. In her session she sometimes lay holding the
bottle; sometim es they were left across the room in her bag. Som e
times they were handed to me and dem anded again a t the end o f the
hour. Then they were left w ith m e overnight and finally left at home
and forgotten altogether.
O n the deepest, delusional level the tablets were me, and I was the
healing, life-giving, substance, to be eaten, excreted, breathed in and
out, or simply absorbed, by virtue of my presence. W hen she became
afraid of them , “I think they’ve gone bad by now,” I was the
poisonous, persecuting substance to be got rid of. Similarly, on this
level they were, also, both herself and her m other, good and bad.
But the actual bodily life-or-death situation is not enough w ithout
its psychic counterpart, the situation in which nothing w hatever can
be done and there is no choice, a situation which is experienced as
annihilation. This is often avoided and rejected by m eans of some
panic.move. But when it can be reached and endured and discovery
m ade of the utter release of its corollary, no dem and, a very deep
integration comes about th a t is there for life. It is the acceptance of
death, and so of life itself. Up to this point there can only be either
life-in-death or death-in-life, according to the degree of the illness. A t
this point the change comes ab o u t o f which Freud (1914) wrote:
“There m ust be som ething added to auto-erotism —a new psychical
action— in order to bring ab o u t narcissism.”
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I will go back now to Beatrice. I have not brought out so far the
alm ost physical sensations I had o f being torn, scratched, bitten, and
generally knocked about by her. I w ould end her sessions exhausted,
shaking, and unable to move on psychically to my next patient.
She m ade a great point th a t everything m ust always be exactly the
sam e when she arrived. It was useless to point out th a t the room itself
was the same, or th a t I was. I struggled for m onths trying to
understand why it m attered so m uch, and then to ad ap t to her
ap p a re n t need and fix it so, failing day after day. I tried unsuc
cessfully to find w hat it was in myself th a t was m aking for difficulty.
Finally I gave it up, and ju st said I w ould n o t fix it. There was hardly
a protest, and th a t was the end of it! I had defeated my own superego,
w hich had been identified w ith her, and I had apparently found
unconsciously w hat she really needed.
As tim e w'ent on I m ade less and less effort to restrain the feelings
she aroused in me, b u t gave interpretations only after having ex
pressed them . I m ade it clear th at there was a lim it to w hat I would
stand, and she began to develop a respect for me and to experience
and express real feelings o f her own, finding th a t the relationship
w ith me stood, and th a t neither o f us was annihilated. Differentia
tio n and integration becam e continuous processes, and she became
n o t only hum an bu t also m ature. I gained a great deal, to o , in these
sam e ways, from her analysis.
any given m om ent. (“ I do this, here, now, with this patient. I do not
do that with him, now or ever. I do not do this with him at another
time, I do not do this at all with another patient.”)
6. Neither an absolute of analysis, nor of a particular style of
technique, nor the w ork or discoveries of any individual other than
the analyst himself can determ ine the limits. We have good precedent
for an em pirical approach in Freud himself. N ot all analysts have to
be willing to m ake adaptations, but an analyst who is not willing to
do so may have to limit either his choice of patients o r the expecta
tions of his results. It is a m atter of investment.
7. A daptations (or param eters) serve the limited and specific
purpose of the analysis of delusion. The technique of analysis of
transference psychosis m ust be rooted and grounded in the estab
lished classical technique of analysis of psychoneurosis (Freud);
otherwise it becomes “wild analysis,” and truly dangerous.
8. Analysis of these patients is a life-and-death m atter, psychically
and sometimes som atically as well. T he analyst, or some extension of
him is all th a t stands between the patient and death. A t some point he
has to stand aside and simply be there, while the patient takes his life
into his own hands and becomes a living hum an being— or a corpse.
function as a whole, the person does not live psychically in his body;
id and ego have not fused; basic unity persists as a delusion, and
differentiation has not happened, so object relations do not exist
(subject and object being the same); love, hate, and am bivalence have
yet to be discovered.
In o ther w ords the ego has to come into existence and function
ing—the distinction betw een self and not-self has to be found—and
all this m ust be linked with words before im aginative elaboration
(fantasy) can be used.
T o analyse these areas m eans to go back to a not-yet-personalized
state an d to allow tim e for the psychic w ork to be done, which means
experientially going through annihilation and death and coming
forw ard again, b u t differently.
All elem ents of psyche and som a—id, body ego, and psychic ego,
and superego, hum an and nonhum an— have to be worked over,
fused, and de-fused, differentiated and integrated, projected and
introjected, again and again. The protective shield, or supplem entary
ego, has first to be supplied by the analyst and then gradually
w ithdraw n again.
A basic human need for security is taken very seriously and will always
be respected, though this does not mean satisfied to a greater extent
than is necessary for the day by day development of the analysis.
[Hoffer, 1956]
limits set for him, otherwise the patient feels these things. It is a
m atter of a m ost delicate balance betw een active and neutral re
sponses, between trying to go too far or to o fast and missing a vitally
im portant m om ent when it is presented to him.
It is usually better to stop short o f the patient’s limits, rather than
overstep them . But to perceive them is only too often far from easy—
the analyst is dependent upon his own capacity for em pathy and
spontaneity, and his own integrity, b ut trusting also in those of his
patient.
If these are there in both, the delusion can be resolved, the area of
psychosis is reduced, and new developm ent o r grow th can come
about; capacity for form ing relationships is enlarged, and new
relationships not based on delusion (folié à deux) are form ed; as well
as a new relationship betw een patient and analyst.
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BASIC UNITY AND SYMBIOSIS
EXPANSION IN MORE
GENERAL AREAS
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TOWARD MENTAL HEALTH: EARLY
MOTHERING CARE
which end o f the scale the infant’s experiences are and according also
to later experiences, which can m odify things either way, so in
greater or smaller areas expectation of catastrophe will persist, and
grow th of the self and of independence will be helped or hindered.
The entity of m other-infant is at first a physical reality. This entity
persists psychically for some time after birth in both m other and
infant. O ur ordinary m other has, during her pregnancy, developed
w hat W innicott has called “prim ary m aternal preoccupation.” T hat
is to say, th roughout her pregnancy she has becom e progressively
m ore and m ore centered on the com ing child: dream ing, planning,
arranging for the care of herself, as herself; o f herself in relation to
him, o f him as an individual; and in relation to the hom e and the rest
o f the family and o f both in relation to the outside world. By the time
he is born, she is deeply com m itted to him, and experiences him not
only as a p art of her own body but as a p a rt of her very self, in such a
way th at his needs are hers, and her needs are for him. F o r her, as for
the infant, there is a one-body relationship.
The puerperium is a time of m axim al dependence in the infant and
m axim al infant-centered ness in the m other. Hence, her vulnerability
both during pregnancy and the puerperium . But from the time of
birth there is a gradual and progressive separation out from him, so
as to allow him to be a person in his ow n right, a separate individual
with whom , nevertheless, there is a deeply felt closeness, rooted in the
shared, albeit differently felt, experiences o f prenatal and early
postnatal life.
In the newly born infant bodily life and body happenings are all-
im portant, and psychic life as we come to know it later is, in the
ordinary way, near enough nonexistent. T here is no distinction
between them , any m ore than there is, for the infant, any distinction
between himself and his m other, or between any two parts of his own
body. A t one m om ent, he is all m outh, all breast, scream, chuckle,
etc. In fact, he seems to be a state o f being rath er th an a person in
such a state and the experiencing person is the m other. We speak of
an “ infant-in-arm s,” a “ lap” or “knee baby,” and later, a “toddler,”
showing the progression of his changing relationship to his m other,
to himself, to the outer w orld, and his grow ing independence.
Because of this undifferentiatedness, his earliest memories will be
body memories, and the earliest form of rem em bering will not be
recalling but reproducing o r reenacting in a concrete bodily way. We
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see this later, of course, in the repetitive play of young children when
they need to assimilate a painful or frightening experience by joining
it up w ith mem ories of good and reassuring happenings, reliving it in
a safe setting. T he m ore good experiences a child has had, the m ore
he has to draw on in times of pain and fear o r difficulty, and the
greater his inner strength where he has been able to take in, and build
up into, himself, a predom inantly friendly and protective world.
O u r ordinary m other actively separates herself out from her
infant, while also rem aining close to him. His grow th and m aturation
and his lessening dependence on her, as well as the other realities of
her life, foster this process. She m ay experience his birth as a loss
w ithin herself, which she can only deal w ith by caring for him. A
pediatrician has told me, and m others have said the same, th at where
too great separation happens early in the puerperium the m other
loses the sense of contact w ith her baby, and the reestablishing of it
m akes for difficulty especially in the early feeding situation.
W orkers concerned w ith adoption find th a t the baby m ust be
separated from the m other at birth, otherwise she cannot stand the
pain o f it u n til she and the child have growm away from each other to
som e extent. F o r the infant the process is even m ore difficult.
It is im portant th at alongside the progressive separation there is
also a continuity, providing imaginative or psychic continuity from
p renatal right up to adult life, through infancy, childhood, and
adolescence. Breaks in it are dam aging to em otional life and develop
m ent. This is more obvious a t some stages th an a t others. It is, of
course, m ore obvious once the infant has perceived the m other as a
w hole and separate person, achieving tw o-body relationship and
later, in adolescence, for instance, when the relationship to the
outside w orld (m ulti-body) becomes relatively m ore im portant, O ut
of the stability of this continuity new things can safely come. I have
spoken o f it elsewhere as a “basic unity,” a state of the essential self,
the basis o f all com m unication and relationships, and a sine q u a non
for the healthy em otional life and developm ent o f every individual.
O ne difficulty lies in the com m on feeling th at w hat one wants to do
m ust inevitably be wrong! M others are often under pressure from
outside; in hospital they are often not allowed to have their infants
w ith them , to pick them up or feed them when they cry. After a few
days, ju st long enough to break the continuity, they are sent hom e to
get on w ith this disrupted state and run the hom e a t the same time.
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Incidentally som ething sim ilar often happens with m entally sick
patients, who supposedly for their own good are coerced and regi
m ented into things like occupational therapy, group therapy, and
into returning to the status quo ante, quite against their own feelings,
and their own need to have an illness; they are m ade to feel
unwelcome if they don’t cooperate in the process. Perhaps only a
m other w ho has been able to care for her baby as she felt, can really
know how im portant it is for the relationship between them . F or this,
which is the basis of all the child’s future relationships, can be m ade
o r m arred a t this time.
A newly born infant, totally inexperienced, un-understanding and
dependent, unaw are of either himself or his environm ent, starts on
the journey tow ard becom ing an adult, to gain a whole range of
experience o f the stages between, and all th a t these bring in the way
o f understanding and developm ent, relationship and concern, be
com ing able to take responsibility for him self and for others. W ithin
the space of twenty-one (or is it now eighteen?) years, the individual,
as it were, passes through the history of the race, ju st as in the nine
m onths of intrauterine life, the fetus has passed through stages
c o m p a ra b le to th e e v o lu tio n o f m an fro m a “ p rim o rd ia l p r o
toplasm ic globule.” These things ordinarily happen autom atically if
the setting is right. The changes come ab o u t from within the child, as
they have come from within the race, and interference or prom pting
from outside cannot bring them ab o u t or even hurry them , except at
the cost o f disturbing a Finely balanced organism with built-in
patterns of developm ent.
The foundations of m ental health are there from the beginning,
and the building is furthered and, so to speak, em otionally financed,
by m illions of ordinary parents, who are willing to invest in their
children the courage and patience needed to watch and wait, and
m ake ad ap tatio n to them , providing their ow n setting for them ,
responding spontaneously to outw ard m ovem ent, being sensitive to
individual needs, and encouraging the finding of individual ways.
They do not try to m old their children to any pattern, whether their
own o r society’s.
The parents themselves need to be firmly rooted and grounded, for
it is their stability and m aturity th at provide the milieu in which the
child can find himself. A n im portant elem ent in the integrity of the
parents is their willingness to enlarge their own boundaries and take
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full responsibility for their child right from the tim e o f conception,
(w hether it was consciously intended or not), acknowledging th at he
did not ask to be conceived o r born and therefore has a right to his
existence and individuality w ithout dem ands on him to pay emo
tionally or otherwise for his keep, or to be grateful. If they can, then,
accept w hat he gives in his own time, they find th at his body
m ovem ents— screaming, biting, hitting, excreting—can become lov
ing things, and if they can allow him to be his age, to be himself and
nothing m ore, abrogating their own rights for long enough and
bearing guilt and anxiety for him, he will in tim e be both able and
willing to take over for himself. W hen he has perceived them as
separate from himself and become aware of w hat they have been
doing, he can accord them rights, feel concern for them , and recog
nize th a t a shared event is experienced differently by the partners in
it.
T he idea th a t “norm al” or “m ature” people are free from hate,
guilt, inhibition, sadness or anxiety, dies very hard. The continued
interaction of people with conflicting individual needs and claims,
and their equal rights to exist, m akes life a precarious and difficult
thing a t best, and those who carry the greatest responsibility m ust
also carry, and not be overwhelmed by, the considerable burden of
all of these. But the dem ands m ade m ust be realistic, th at is appropri
ate to the individual’s age and situation, and they can be enriching.
T he guilt o f infancy about imaginatively destroying the m other in an
orgy of eating, and the despair a t the loss, should be resolved by the
discovery th a t she is not destroyed in fact, nor does she destroy him
in retaliation, and by the discovery of the difference between factual
- and im aginative reality. ... _ ..
It is very rare for an infant n ot to be b orn “norm al,” in the sense of
having the potentiality to develop all the ordinary bodily faculties
and also capacities for form ing relationships and taking respon
sibility. A “ norm al” baby is potentially a person from the start.and
begins to becom e th at person as he moves in response to impulses
w ithin himself, which relate both to his own body and to his
environm ent. There is a continual interchange to and fro between
him and his environm ent, and the response of the environm ent to his
m ovem ent o r expression of feeling will largely determ ine his next
m ovem ent o r next feeling.
H ere I w ould like to look a t som ething o f w hat happens when an
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infant moves, rem em bering that it looks different from the inside
(th at is, to the infant) from how it looks to an adult, outside.
Som e kind o f urge turns u p —hunger perhaps, or m other. N either
seems at first to belong to the infant, both are apparently alien, and
they m ay apparently be experienced as exactly the same thing,
(though one m ight expect one to feel bad and the other good). The
infant’s m outh, his whole body, o r his whole self, again experienced
as one and the same, is excited and is impelled violently, tow ard or
aw ay from the stim ulus. He is hurled a t it, dragged by it, m eets it,
fuses with it, and destroys it, or is destroyed by it (again the same
thing in this undifferentiated state), as the urge itself is destroyed and
is no longer there, being now satisfied.
S eparation out is not perceived a t first, but when the clim ax has
been reached and the urge vanishes, there is a turning away, a losing,
a forgetting, though the body m em ory remains. This is on the same
p attern as th at of sexual orgasm . It is an orgasm , som ething in which
the whole infant is involved. M any repetitions where the urge is met
spontaneously, ju st right, by the m other, lead to the establishm ent of
the pattern of th at m ovem ent as valuable. It can come to have
m eaning, to be em otionally enriched as a loving m ovem ent, and to be
imaginatively elaborated, to be repeated, or not, a t will.
First, the elaboration can be as simple as a headline: “ I am ,” “ I
eat,” “I eat th at.” Later, ideas o f w hat “ I” is, w hat “eat” can m ean,
and w hat “th at” m ay be, go on to ideas of w hat happens afterw ard.
W hen teeth come “th at” is torn in pieces. The pieces are inside, and
products come out, while others are absorbed and built into the child
himself or m ay rem ain unaltered and act again from w ithin as
stim uli. All this is the stuff of the child’s inner im aginative life and
world.
W hat I w ant to underline is the im portance o f the discovery o f first
the child’s own body, o f sensations and m ovem ent, and then the
sense of being a person who has felt and m oved, th at lies in th a t “ I
am ,” followed by the discovery of the “not I,” the “th at” which also
feels and moves in response o r spontaneously, separately and dif
ferently. This is where both self-knowledge (insight) and relationship
begin.
If when the infant moves, perhaps in hunger, hallucinating the
m other who will satisfy it, the m other is not there or m aybe begins by
diaper changing or wiping away saliva from the excited m outh, the
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their parents for a short tim e each day, w hen they were expected to
behave prettily and be a credit to the parents. One, a t least, of the
nannies was actively sadistic, though with curiously inconsistent
patches of kindness. W hen in adolescence Je an tried to tell her
m other ab o u t this it was hotly denied as “impossible,” for the m other
“w ould, of course, have know n and dismissed her.”
H er father was still alive, though very old and completely deaf,
w ith the paranoid reactions which so often accom pany deafness. He
was the son of a well-known m usician, am bitious professionally and
socially. The relationship betw een him and his wife was still ide
alized; they were devoted and inseparable, and the children could not
be allowed to disturb this. H e confirm ed Jean’s picture o f her early
life, and diaries of both parents were still extant.
The m other died after a long and distressing illness, incorrectly
diagnosed a t first, not long after Je an had returned to her parents’
hom e with her own baby son, having divorced her husband soon
after his birth. Je an nursed her m other and looked after her father
until she rem arried eight years later. T here were no children from this
m arriage.
Je an was referred to me by Phoebe’s (wom an) psychotherapist.
She presented as a depressive, expecting both to be told th at no
treatm ent was necessary— she m ust “pull herself together”—and a
“ m iracle-cure in six sessions.” T he kind of help she consciously
w anted was to have her m arriage m ade successful, b u t by her
husband altering, not herself. The depression had been precipitated
by having to have destroyed a m uch-loved dog when her husband -
was prom oted and had to m ove to London. A large p art o f her
unconscious sex life had centered around the dog, which on one level
represented the lost Elizabeth.
She also w anted (consciously) to alter her relationship to Phoebe.
This relationship, according to Barry, her husband, was the cause of
the trouble. The two w ould have hour-long telephone calls daily, and
if either bought or was given anything the other w ould compulsively
get the identical thing. The only ap parent differences were th at Jean
had rem arried after divorce and Phoebe had not, and th at Jean had
only one child and Phoebe had two. These were cited as showing how
com pletely different and separate they were. Phoebe apparently
behaved as if her elder child were her husband.
A t the first interview Je a n attrib u ted her difficulties to having been
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P O S T S C R IP T
This altered gradually, but only really in the last ten years has it
become fully accepted for the father to take his share in the life and
upbringing o f his children from the start, and even (som etim es, a t
least) to be with his wife when she is in labor.
I think this comes largely from the altered standards of living and
value o f money, which is now spent on cars, freezers, stereos, etc.,
instead o f on dom estic help. In m any hom es b oth parents are
working, often on a part-tim e basis, which m akes the sharing of
parenthood both easier and m ore necessary.
The difference th at this can m ake to an infant in the early stages of
his grow th and developm ent, and to his ability to deal w ith the
increasingly com plex world, is inestim able. Analysts are beginning
to recognize and to explore the wide fields it opens up, and I, for one,
am m ore than glad to see it. I believe th a t it m ay well help to prom ote
earlier psychic m aturation (w ithout loss of the prim itive modes of
functioning which we need to preserve on a deep level). Such earlier
m aturation is needed to keep pace w ith the ever-increasing call for
intellectual m aturation as m odern technology develops and the
general body of knowledge grows.
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WHO IS AN ALCOHOLIC?
hum an being does, and here the alcoholic is attem pting to retreat
from feeling, but stating at the sam e tim e th a t only his own feelings
m atter.
In each case the object of addiction has to be replaced by a hum an
being whose ow n basic unity is established. O nly such a person can
be of any real help to a n alcoholic patient who wants to be cured of
his illness. He m ay feel am bivalence, b u t he can control his actions;
he is predictable, and survival is safe w ith him. He has to accept the
reality f o r the patient, and the psychic tru th of the delusional ideas,
as well as recognizing their fa c tu a l untruth. He has to recognize and
act upon the actual tru th of the danger to life and of the patient’s
inability to control his alcohol intake. H e m ust be able to allow the
patient to regress to dependence for life, and he m ust allow himself to
become a substitute for the alcohol.
D uring the stage o f substitution hospitalization is likely to become
necessary, and even perhaps som e degree of restraint.
Only where such substitution is available m ay it become possible
to enable the patient to w ork through the delusional phase, to find
and retain the imaginative reality of unity w ith a good enough
m other, and to give up the unavailing attem p t to bring about, and
make factual, total identity and undifferentiatedness between him
self and the analyst.
Analysis of such patients is both long and difficult, and it cannot
be carried out except by an analyst who has had the necessary
training. The success of organizations such as A.A. depends upon
both total abstinence and the form ation.of reciprocal identifications
between the mem bers of the group and the identification of each
m em ber with the leader (F reu d 1921). These identifications are
essentially delusional and addictive.
Any form of treatm ent other th an analysis is a m atter of treating a
sym ptom and not the illness; the danger when the sym ptom is
removed (and this is not such a difficult thing to do) is th at some
other sym ptom will take its place. Som etim es the new sym ptom
appears to be more acceptable socially, but it represents a greater
lim itation of the patient’s personality, rather than a freeing of
potential.
It is hardly necessary to say th a t the best results are likely to occur
in patients whose area of failure of m othering is relatively small and
in those whose lives otherwise show evidence of potential. Young
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I first became interested in Peer G ynt when I saw it staged by the Old
Vic C om pany (L ondon) in 1944; R alph R ichardson, Sybil T h o rn
dike, and Laurence Olivier (as they were then) played Peer, Aase,
and the B utton M older. The im pact m ade me read (in translation)
alm ost all o f Ibsen’s plays (Em peror a n d Galilean defeated me), as
m uch of his poetry as I could find, and m any bits of writing about
him. ■ -
M y interest then centered around the personality change in Peer,
apparently from pathological liar to psychotic, when his m other
died. I came later to regard it rather as the breakdow n of a psycho
path into psychosis, against which psychopathy was a defense, when
I saw this happen both in patients and acquaintances.
I am lim iting myself to two m ain themes: (1) a n attem pt to relate
w hat the poem tells us o f its a u th o r to w hat I know ab o u t him
otherwise, and (2) to relate it m ore fully both to things in my own
experience and to some things in the outside world.
I am also lim iting myself in the m atter of quotations, cross
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II
Ibsen him self was m ost insistent th at Peer Gynt is poetry (it is not
verse); he also stated th a t all his poetry cam e from his own m ental
states and actual experiences. He denied th at Peer Gynt was au to
biographical or a self-portrait (he called it a “caprice”), though he
acknow ledged th at both Peer’s m other and his father were some
thing like his own parents: the am bivalent and rather helpless
w om an, tak in g refuge in a w orld of dream s, myths, and fairy tales
from the difficulties of life w ith an overam bitious, irresponsible,
spendthrift husband. He considered w hat kind o f m an the child of
such a m arriage could grow to be.
He w rote m any poem s, and m ost of his earliest plays (which were
historical and nationalistic in tone) were written in verse. Three of
perhaps the m ost striking poems are one describing the m iner, who
delves into the caverns of the earth, striking “ham m er blow on
ham m er blow” into the heart of the rock; the second concerns living
and writing; “to live is to w ar with the troll, in caverns of heart and
brain; to w rite— th at is to hold doom -session [to sit in judgm ent] on
one’s self.”
The th ird —“ O n the Vidda” (the wide open m ountain plateau)—
tells how a young m an leaves his m other and his betrothed to hunt in
the m ountains, at the call of a strange hunter—a call-to action, n o t
dream s. He stays there through sum m er and winter and then finds he
has grow n aw ay from his form er'love and ways of life. He m ourns for
their loss, but finds th at he is now free and can live a life of action.
T he “hunter” had been an unknow n part of himself.
This was published a few m onths after Ibsen’s m arriage, and three
years later he toured N orw ay collecting m yths and folklore to use in
his later work. Tw o years after this, in 1864, he left Norway in a m ood
of despair and disillusionm ent, having never been successful in his
life o r w ork there. He had struggled to establish himself academ
ically, in the theatre, and as a writer (and, m oreover, carried for
fourteen years the burden of supporting an illegitimate son w hom he
had begotten a t the age o f seventeen). He identified himself closely
Notes on Ibsen’s Peer Gynt 195
III
Brand (“fire” or “sword”), Ibsen says at one point, is his own best self.
He is a m an of immense courage, strength of will, and trust in his
G od; but he is a fanatic, w ithout insight, and w ithout compassion.
His G od’s “love” is truly hate (this is said, in as m any words). He
dem ands sacrifice, of everything—“ All, or nothing,” and Brand
seeks to force his own will on others as the Will of G od, while
insisting a t the same time th at a m an m ust be himself. He is, himself,
in effect, his “G od.” He has been deeply scarred by both his “heredi
ty” and his childhood experiences, am ong which he recalls seeing his
m other furiously ransacking his father’s bed and his dead body, in
search of all his money.
He refuses to visit and give the sacram ents to his dying-m other
unless she gives all she has to build a new church. He insists th at his
wife give away to a beggar all the clothes of their dead child—she
m ay not even keep back one small cap. The child, and later the wife,
too, dies because of the dem ands of Brand’s G od th at he (Brand) and
they, should give all or nothing, living and w orking in a cold,
unfriendly, and sunless village on a rem ote fjord.
A fter his wife’s and his m other’s deaths, Brand goes into the
m ountains, led by a crazy gypsy girl, w ho is his own illegitim ate half-
sister, in search of the “ Ice C hurch” of his dream s and visions, only to
be swallowed up in an avalanche. A voice proclaim s “G od is Love.”
B rand is w hat we w ould now see as a primitive, sadistic “super
ego,” showing clearly its roots in the id. Ibsen was to write later a
good deal on the subject of conscience and the conflict th a t is
associated w ith it. Brand is free from inner conflict; his conflict is
w ith the outside w orld, first w ith storm and tides when he risks his
life to visit a dying m an on a distant island hoping to save his soul,
and later with his family and his flock.
Peer G yht is a ne’er-do-well, cow ardly and destructive, and an
“incurable rom ancer,” telling the deeds o f others as his own. He
abducts his neighbor’s daughter Ingrid a t her wedding, and for th at
he becomes an outlaw , a “w o lf s head,” w itheverym an’s hand against
him and all his goods forfeit. H e is, in turn, seduced by three cowgirls
w ho are looking for trolls as m ates, and then, after falling on a rock
and being concussed, in an hallucinatory episode, by the Troll King’s
daughter. He is trapped by the trolls, forced to ad o p t their ways of
Notes on Ibsen’s Peer Gynt 197.
life, and their m otto “To thyself be enough,” instead of the hum an
“To thyself be true,” but he refuses to let his eyes be cut, which would
m ake him a Troll forever. He escapes after a violent struggle with the
trolls, when the church bells are rung by his m other and the little girl,
Solveig, with whom he has fallen in love for the first time and
idealizes, and who loves him in spite of her fears.
Still dazed, he encounters, fights with, and tries to destroy the
invisible troll—the great Boyg— som ething im m ovable, unknow a
ble, which will not let him pass—“G o round about”—and answers
the question “W ho are you?” only with a growl, “ I am myself.”
Till now Peer has know n th at he lied, th at his dream s o f flying, of
being em peror, etc., were lies; he is aw are of his plight, and th a t he
now has to fend for himself. He builds a h ut in the forest. H e sees a
boy, due for arm y service, deliberately chop off his right forefinger
with a sickle—to dodge the d raft—and m arvels th a t he could do it:
“to have the idea, the wish, yes—b u t to do it, NO! th at is beyond me.”
He dream s of living in his hut with Solveig, but finds the Troll
King’s daughter and her child, m alform ed and m isbegotten, m ag
ically by his lust alone, setting up house next door. He flings away,
prom ising himself th at Solveig w'ill w ait till he comes back.
He flees to his m other, Aase, but finds her dying, and the house
stripped of everything b u t her bed. Ingrid’s father and the officers of
the law had carried out the sentence. In a m ost m oving scene he
com forts Aase by playing the sleigh-ride game th at she had played
with him, w ith Blackie the cat as the horse G rane, journeying to
heaven’s gate, where St. Peter would turn her away b u t G od the
F ather welcomes her. T he journey ends—he closes her eyes and
kisses her. “T hank you, dear, for all you gave me, th e thrashings and
kisses too. But now you m ust thank me also.” His kiss is her “fare for
the drive.”
F rom there he kn o w s he m ust get away, and he goes “to sea, and
farther still.” A nd from there until the end there is little of reality.
We follow his journey through a long series of fantastic dream
scenes, in which com edy predom inates a t first (Ibsen m ocks a t his
own dream s, his wish to be rich, to be em peror, to live w ithout
com m itm ent to family and others, to be prom iscuous w ithout the
binding responsibility of relationship). In the desert Peer hobnobs
w ith other psychopaths, who leave him in a ship th at “m iraculously”
explodes, which he sees as an act of G od on his behalf. He meets the
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King, now down-at-heels and begging. But the Troll King points out
that even though he had refused to let his eyes be cut he had accepted
and lived by the m otto that distinguishes Trolls from hum an beings;
the m otto th at makes trolls of men: “To thyself be enough.”
Again the B utton M older comes, and Peer asks w hat it means
“really to be oneself.” “To kill the worst, so as to bring out the best in
yourself. . . . T o carry out the M aster’s intention.” His “intuition”
(“insight” or “instinct”) should have told him w hat this was.
Still unbelieving, Peer looks once m ore for proof th at he had been
himself. He meets the Devil, in disguise, bu t is rejected even by him as
not haying been himself, either in the right, positive way, of com m it
m ent and relationship, or in the wrong, negative way, o f avoiding
everything that made dem ands on him. He had m ore or less “blotted
himself out” w'ith his inconstancies and contradictions. He m ust now
give up the hope of being a real person in his own right, the person he
should have been, and be melted dow n w ith all the other insignificant
people.
A nd so, at last, having tried every way to avoid his fate he becomes
still. “I was dead long before my d eath.”
He knows now the emptiness and poverty of his own spirit, and
contrasts it with the richness and generosity of nature; he has wasted
the beauty of the sun and the earth in his nothingness, and asks their
forgiveness. He thinks of clim bing to the top of the highest m ountain
and looking out long over these things, till he can look no more.
Then the snow shall cover him, and the inscription on his tom b
shall read “ Here No one is buried.” A fter that, “ let come what will.”
Again the Button M older comes, and he realizes that the Boyg’s
“Go round about” is no longer for him; “this time it’s straight
through no m atter how narrow the path.”
Once m ore he hears Solveig singing, and he Ipegs her forgiveness.
He asks her “ W here has Peer G ynt been all this while since, with the
m ark of destiny on his brow , he first sprang forth as a thought newly
b o m in the mind of God? W here was I, my real self, my whole self,
my true self, with G od’s seal upon my brow?”
She answers (“as a m other speaks of her child”): “ In my faith and
in my hope and in my love. But who is his father? He who forgives in
answ er to a m other’s prayers. Sleep and dream , my own dear love.”
T he B utton M older w ould have the last w ord—“ to the last cross
roads, Peer”; but Solveig sings again. P erhaps, for the first tim e, in
his death, Peer is alive and is, w ithin his limits, his true self.
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IV
. Patient A ■
left hom e, no one had told him. Now he feared th at he would find his
sister dead.
His father had left the m other w hen he was a child; at fifteen he had
had to identify the body o f his elder brother, killed in a m otorcycle
crash.
W hen I first saw him , he was plainly psychotic, paranoid, and out
o f contact with all reality. I told him th at on landing he should be
adm itted to hospital. W ithin a few days he became, instead, an
aggressive psychopath—defying authority, denying his fears, unlov
ing, and unlovable; still out o f touch w ith his feelings, b u t sane.
P atient B
P atient C
the floor, and clutched my legs, im ploring me to say yes. A t the end of
the h o u r I said only th at it was tim e for her to go and that she had
been reliving an actual experience from childhood. N ext day, she
cam e, calm and friendly. She thanked me for all the years of our
w ork together, and said goodbye.
H er recovery has been complete. She is a whole person in her own
right, and knows it. A nd she is free, as never before; she has know n
loss, and m ourned for it; she has accepted both her lim itations, and
her troll self, and is able to love and to create.
Patient D
them selves—the fellowship of the dam ned who hate lucky sissies and
softies who can love and create.”
H annah A rendt, in Eichm ann in Jerusalem, writes of “the banality
o f evil,” describing people like D icks’ “N orm -Setter” and com m ents
“how few people have the resources needed to resist authority.”
T he D ean o f Johannesburg (The Very Rev. Gonville ffrench-
Beytagh), in Encountering Darkness, has w ritten o f his discovery
th a t the ro o t o f apartheid is the “real belief th a t ‘blacks’ are anim als,
n o t m en.”
Som e tim e ago A lexander Solzhenitsyn’s oration to be given in
Sw eden, on receiving the Nobel prize for L iterature, was read (in
translation) over the radio, and next day sim ilar w ords of M ikos
T heodorakis were quoted in the Observer (London). “Violence
c an n o t continue to exist w ithout the lie. Violence does not take
people by the th ro a t and strangle them ; it dem ands only th at they
support the He. . . . A lie can resist m any things, but it cannot resist
a r t . . . . There is a special relation between art, especially th at o f the
writer, and truth. It is the only real force which can unite men and not
divide them .”
Ibsen’s spectrum is far richer and w ider th an I could hope to show.
I will end ju st by w ondering if it is n o t significant th at, while
Solzhenitsyn has been honored in Sweden, it was the Society of
N orw egian W riters and A rtists th a t offered him a hom e, if he were
exiled by force, as has, in fact, happened.
P art IV
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE
L.
15
FIFTEEN POEMS 1945-1977
These are but a few o f the poem s I w rote during these years. I don’t
m ind people analyzing or interpreting their content so long as they
don’t tell me ab o u t it! In o ther w ords, please keep it to yourself, or
wait till I’m dead before you publicize it. Criticism of them as poem s
is another m atter. C’est a vous.
R E ST L E S SN E S S
I m ust be “doing,” all the time;
The wind itself is not m ore purposeless.
I walk, daub, scribble—cannot rest.
W hat for?
T o keep a hold on time!
The silver seconds slip away
A nd I am left, bereft,
Silver is turned to grey,
Grey rocks, grey sea, grey sky.
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A m em ory comes
O f such another day, long past;
Grey flooded fields, grey sky and trees;
Tw o swans,
T heir wings outspread,
D rop slowly dow n to breast the stream.
T oday,
The gulls fly by,
A nd distant ships,
W ith far-off trails of smoke;
A nd corm orants air their wings;
The sea itself grows silvered.
The sun
Filt’ring th ro ’ misty air,
T urns grey to blue and green,
The cliffs to rusty gold and red,
A nd then reveals am ong the rocks
A raven’s nest.
Q U ESTIO N IN G
And I? myself?
Earth? W ater? Air?
How shall I know?
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Yet— is it phantasy?
O r som ething real?
A nd while bewilderment
Clouds my mind
The wren sings on;
The rainbow foam still blows
F rom the oncom ing waves.
M y thoughts,
M y words, my tears—
Their worth?
No less, no more
T han is the w orth of th at wren-song.
F o r whom , then, sings the wren?
F o r w hom is blown the spray?
W ho knows, or cares,
.If all were blotted out,
W ren, sea, and I?
W here goes the song?
And where the rainbow light?
W ho knows? W ho cares?
The bird has sung
And' is content.
The wave, breaking inshore,
Its strength has spent
A nd still another comes.
But I. . . ?
E A R T H C H IL D R E N
(1950)
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T H E C O L D LO V ER
M O U R N IN G
I
The sullen furnaces of hidden hate
Erode, destroy. Create
A desert land, limitless waste,
A wilderness wherein m ay grow
N o blade of grass, no leaf.
W ith bitterness of brackish pools
And twisted rocks—
D ead Sea— Rem orse, not grief.
II
Pain is an ungracious thing,
Unlovely in its crudity.
Yet, out of pain is b orn life,
And grace, and love.
Life w ithout pain—
Can it be life? or love?
III
The bitterness of tears is healing salt
T hat gathers up to rn flesh,
Cleanses, and m akes whole, and fresh.
The open crucibles of rage
T hat scorch the earth leave sm ouldering
A soft and silvery ash. A covering.
IV .......................
So, underneath, when tim e has passed
A nd coolness comes, and rain,
New life has birth. -
Seeds there have lain
U nknow n, unseen, beneath the earth,
O r, borne on the wind,
Have reached the plain,
And germ inate.
(1951)
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D E SO LA TIO N
Sorrow is left me
A nd grief, alone.
A ll is destroyed.
How, then, atone?
(N ovember 1952)
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H ad I a fram ew ork,
A structure, a holding,
A scaffold, or cross,
T here m ight thorns pierce me,
T hrust inw ard, infiltrate,
There m ight the chaos
Cling, focus, and form .
M EN T A L H O SPIT A L
This place is
So full of faces;
They come too near—
I long to flee.
There’s D r. Prosy
A nd Sister Cozy,
And M rs. Dozy—
And then—there’s me.
This place is
Full of faces
A nd I can’t flee,
F o r they’re all me!
W ORDS
H enceforw ard I am d um b—
D um bfounded,
D um bly, doubly dum b.
T H E G O L D F IS H
(1954)
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IN S H O R T —“T H E D E P R E S S IV E PO S IT IO N ”
(1961?)
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EN O U G H IS EN O U G H IS ENOUGH!
The tru th is
I’m a bore—
N o less
No more,
And that’s enough!
(O ctober 1961)
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R E L A T IO N S H IP
A n alternating frenzy,
Shifting in its feel,
Its focus, and its emphasis.
Let us go on then
Together, and apart;
N ot seeking fear, no r yet denying it,
But travel through our fears and pains
T o Z ion— Babylon—W orld’s End.
(1949/1966)
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27 S E P T E M B E R 1977:
“ MY LO RD ! W H A T A M O R N IN G !”
— old song
A falling leaf,
A little stream,
And sunlight, filt’ring th ro ’ the leaves;
R obin on branch, and bee
Perching to drink.
G ood earthy smell of m ould,
D eath and fertility.
Up on the hill
(A stiffish climb)
A seat, set in full sun.
(Ide Hill)
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O U R B R IT ISH W EA TH ER !
Skies grey,
M ore bills to pay,
And Incom e T ax,
A visit to the dentist. . . .
A h well!
“Tom orrow is another day”
The sun m ight shine,
I daresay I’ll survive!
A fter th a t cam e the first W ar: long casualty lists every day in the
p a p e r; m y f a th e r ’s fo rm e r p u p ils k ille d , w o u n d e d , m issin g , o r
P .O .W .; young H ighlanders billeted in the tow n dying of measles
and scarlet fever, on stretchers in the streets, waiting for am bulances.
O ther girls missed school for a day or tw o and then came back
dressed in black. F ather or brother had been killed, and their sadness
showed, but one couldn’t speak of it. W hat was said ab o u t any of
these things carried overtones of a sentim ental kind of solemnity,
and again it was assum ed th a t I was unfeeling and selfish, and
“understood nothing about the w ar,” as I was told later.
T hen I becam e a medical student. The dissecting room shocked me
into a breakdow n. Som e of the bodies were slung from the ceiling, as
if crucified. (H ad these ever been people?) I gave up anatom y for a
year and then went to another m edical school. The corpses there
were laid on tables, and I m anaged to carry on in spite of the smell,
and the grease stains th a t soaked everything, and the hostility of
those m en students who thought nothing of throw ing an odd b it of
bone o r flesh across the room a t one of the wom en as she went by.
W ork in the wards followed. Patients w ould be there one day and
gone the next, some hom e, others to the m ortuary. O ne Saturday
afternoon I had gone in for some reason, and screens were around
the bed of one of “my” patients. H e was dying, in delirium , shouting
out “ W on’t som eone give me a bit of paper, to wipe my bottom ?” The
other twenty-nine patients were silent, hidden behind newspapers, or
under the bedclothes, and answered in whispers if spoken to.
Finding myself qualified—a doctor, now, with responsibility for
life or death— was terrifying, and although I applied for house jobs it
was..a relief not to get them . .O nce again I put off taking th at
responsibility for a year on the excuse of w orking for another exam ,
which I m anaged to fail. A friend’s illness finally pushed me into
taking it up, and in a kind of desperation I went into general practice,
w ithout having had any hospital experience a t all.
Three nights after I had “put up my plate,” I was called to attend to
a w om an whose husband had knocked her about, and had to stitch
up a scalp w ound which covered my surgery in blood, as only scalp
w ounds can. Tw o hours later a distraught father called me: “Com e at
once. M y wife took the baby into bed, as we only moved yesterday,
and the house was cold; we think it’s dead.” It was. The coroner’s
officer to o k it away for postm ortem exam ination, and then came my
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w ould have forbidden it if she could (“ She m ust go on”). The patient
had had two m astectomies, had earlier nursed a sister with an
inoperable carcinom a, and knew well when she herself was dying. I
w ent to see her, and we talked and said goodbye, and I told her th a t I
w ould miss her. I could do nothing to help her friend; I could only say
th a t everyone has a right to die in his ow n time.
Once I came near to death m yself and again found the tru th of
w hat my sister had said. I had had too m uch barium run in too
quickly, fo r a barium enema; m y colon was overstretched, and I went
in to surgical shock. I lay on a trolley, an d I knew th a t whoever came
to fetch me m ight find me alive o r dead, and it couldn’t have m attered
less w hich it w ould be.
A few years ago my husband died after a year o f illness. I had
know n for nine m onths th at he had a lung cancer, and he gradually
reached the recognition himself; this was after the chest specialist had
pointed o ut th a t a t his age such a serious operation as would be
needed to find out for certain w hether this was cancer o r not would
n o t m ake m uch sense.
I heard the recognition develop in the m onths th a t followed. He
w ould tell friends “I’ve had an X ray, and they aren’t very satisfied
w ith w hat’s there”; then, “You know I’ve got some serious trouble in
my chest” ; and a few m onths later: “You know I’ve got cancer, don’t
you?” T hen we could begin to talk freely together about it, and th at
helped us both, all the rest of the way.
He had know n death before, from the First W orld W ar and from
m any tragedies am ong his fam ily and friends. Now it was no longer
an “acquaintance” but som ething “ know n intim ately.” He dream ed
th a t he was going to Liverpool. (H e had been there ju st before the
outbreak of the'Second W orld W ar, en route for C anada to look for
som ewhere to take his first wife and young son, coming back on the
last available boat.) %
N ext night he dream ed th a t he was going on a long journey— he
didn’t know where. I d id n ’t say “perhaps you are,” but rem inded him
o f the previous night’s dream .
The third night, he looked around a t the room , and said in a tone
o f surprise: “W e’re still in our own place, then,” and I asked: “W here
did you expect to be?” but he didn’t know.
He died next day, peacefully, in sleep. He had been a living m an.
All the events surrounding his death were closely linked uncon
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sciously w ith the anniversaries of his only son’s death and the boy’s
m other’s, and he died on the day before th at of his son’s birth. The
details were very striking, and I was rem inded o f how Sir W inston
C hurchill died w ithout regaining consciousness on the anniversary
of his father’s death, after being in com a for m any days.
These experiences, and m any others, of losing loved people have
been my progressive “acquaintance” w ith death— know ing it, m ore
th an merely recognizing it. Intim acy is yet to come, though I will not
rem em ber that.
In the last o f his Letters to Georgian Friends Boris P asternak
wrote: “Everywhere in the world one has to pay fo r the right to live
on one’s ow n naked spiritual reserves.”
Perhaps th a t is w hat being alive is about.
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17
TH E JOURNEY F R O M SICKNESS TO
HEALTH: ILLNESS, CONVALESCENCE,
RECOVERY
MY JO U R N E Y
M any o ther people have had sim ilar experiences, and this personal
version of the boring tale is unique only in being mine.
A t the age o f sixty I underw ent cholecystectomy. The medical
history was one o f long-standing attacks of gastroenteritis (a generic
term used to cover a variety of sym ptom s), occurring m ainly when I
was aw ay from hom e and eating unfam iliar food. Tw o of the severest
attacks had been associated with em otional stress, others not, and
there had been periods o f great stress not associated with attacks of
this kind o r w ith other illness. T here had been various other illnesses
b o th with, and w ithout, coincidental em otional disturbances.
It is w orthw hile considering the kind o f disturbance w hichaccom -
panied these attacks and th a t which turned up in relation to other
illnesses. T here seemed to be a certain specificity, in th a t conditions
affecting the m usculoskeletal systems, e.g. fractured fibula, acute
lum bago, and osteoarthritis, chiefly affecting the legs and lim iting
m obility, were associated m ainly with depression; whereas visceral
conditions, hyperchlorhydria, gastroenteritis, and gallstone dyspep
sia were accom panied by paranoid anxiety and guilt ab o u t being ill,
needing attention, and not working.
T here was apparently no specificity of the em otional stim uli
associated w ith the various illnesses. Loss of one relative, inciden-.
tally involving absence from hom e, was followed by a n endocrine
disturbance. O ne particularly severe “bilious attack” followed an
o ther relative’s death not involving either absence from hom e or
change o f diet, while the loss o f a third was followed by acute
bronchitis and cachexia.
In l9611 had a mild gastroenteritis, which did not clear up in a few
days w ith antispasm odics and alkalis. A t th e end of six weeks of
nausea a n d anorexia, with alternating diarrhea and constipation, I
sought help from my doctor. T o my surprise he. found m arked
tenderness over the gall bladder; I was x-rayed w ithin a few days, and
a gallstone was found. I consulted a surgeon, who arranged there and
th en the details of adm ission to a nursing hom e and fixed the date of
the o peration for three weeks later. I then rem em bered th at I had
The Journey from Sickness to Health 235
once had a mild biliary colic which did n ot last long, being relieved by
belladonna, and I had not seen a doctor a t th at time. T he operation
now suggested seemed to me to m ake sense.
I worked until a few days before the operation. D uring this time I
was forced to look a t a whole range o f violent and destructive
fantasies concerning my illness which appeared in my patients. W ith
one accord they imagined me to m to pieces by sadistic surgeons, the
subject o f postm ortem exam inations, rape, m urder, burglary with
violence, m utilation, crucifixion, dying of carcinom a, obstructed
labor, hem orrhage, sepsis, starvation, poisoning etc. O ne patient, a
Jewish doctor, dream ed of playing bridge with his form er professor
of surgery, whom he loathed. The professor had a large vulture
perched on his shoulder and he said to my patient “ M azel tov!”
(G ood luck!)
I had to know th at these were som ew here my own sadom asochistic
fantasies and wishes, about which I felt profound guilt and ap
prehension. To have died seemed easier than to have to live with
these ideas, and 1 found a m elancholy satisfaction in the knowledge
th at the operation carried a 2 percent m ortality rate, in spite of my
seeing the unlikelihood of my falling w ithin th at 2 percent and my
doctors’ reasoned assurance th a t I w ould be cured.
Preoperative preparation was sim plicity itself—I ju st rem em ber
being on a trolley in the lift and then seeing the surgeon’s suspenders,
as he scrubbed up in the theatre. The anesthetic removed me
immediately, and when I cam e round a few hours later I was
convinced th at tw enty-four hours had passed. (I experienced disori
entation in time after subsequent operations, being then convinced
th at I was still waiting for the operation.)
Postoperative pain .an d vom iting were negligible and. easily re
lieved, b u t then began a spell of acute anxiety over m icturition. It
subsided when I had vom ited, and I realized later th at I had been
unable to distinguish between the need to vom it and the need to
urinate. This inability to distinguish between one bodily need and
another lasted for several days, and to o k various forms.
W ithin forty-eight hours o f the operation I was free from pain, I
had been out of bed, and my alim entary tract was functioning
ordinarily. F o r a fortnight I was cared fo r and m axim ally protected
from outside impingem ent, but when this support vanished on my
return hom e I had to fend fo r myself, and this becam e alm ost
unendurably difficult.
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only to her som atic recovery but also to the psychic recovery which
she achieved.
H er regression was to infancy in the arm s of a chaotic and
extremely paranoid m other, whose own infancy had evidently been
disastrous. Laura had been under my care in a m ental hospital
twenty years before, having been com m itted, nude, wet, dirty, and
suicidal. H er long and difficult analysis had provided m any of the
necessary usable experiences, which were followed by postanalytic
experiences of living and w orking successfully in the world of
ordinary men and women.
Sadom asochistic fantasies were conscious throughout L aura’s
m ental illness and related largely to her father’s w ork (he was a
butcher, and as a young girl she had assisted in his shop). In the
analysis they had been w orked over repeatedly but were reactivated
by the operation, and it was not until six m onths after it th at we were
able to approach her fear of death— not simply of dying, or of being
dead, but of a violent dism em berm ent, dissolution, and annihilation
which (like hell fire) would be eternal and endless. These fantasies
had to be related to the fact th a t in neither hospital nor my consulting
room had she been torn to pieces, dism em bered, or destroyed,
though she had fe lt to rn and destroyed by her own violent love and
hate.
She had previously nursed an elder sister w ho was dying o f breast
cancer which had been left too late for operation. She described
vividly her sister’s two breasts, one whole, the other diseased, “like
two eyes looking at me, one livid, and fungating.” This sister had
cared for and fed innum erable stray cats, which L aura had had to get
destroyed when her sister was m oved to a term inal hospital.
The actual loss of the breast, the presence of the scar, and edem a of
her hand caused her lasting grief, from which she did not shrink. She
could not bring herself to ask for a prosthesis, b ut m ade one for
herself as best she could. This served n o t only to rebuild her self
esteem but also to correct the disturbances in her body image and to
establish her identification with herself and her separateness from
her sister, the cats, and the slaughtered anim als in her father’s shop.
The surgeon told me th at he would have had no idea th at she had
ever been mentally disturbed—she had show n courage, fortitude,
and com posure (for she knew the nature o f her illness), and she had
cooperated throughout with those w ho were looking after her, as
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indeed she had with me. Only she and 1 knew of the intensity of her
terror, its origin, and its delusional nature.
She lived fo r two years after the operation, and in the m anner of
her life and of her death she showed clearly the depth and extent of
her psychic recovery.
W hen she conveyed to me th a t she knew she could not live m uch
longer, I w ent to see her. W e talked a b o u t this and ab o u t our long
and close relationship, and our w ork together. She spoke gratefully,
and I thanked her, and we said goodbye. W ithin a week she died,
peacefully, in her sleep.
W e all m ake m istakes and have our failures, and because they are
painful to us, as well as to our patients, we tend to avoid talking
ab o u t them .
T hrough reviewing my ow n w ork recently, I have com e to feel th at
it is tim e to look a t m y failures and consider why they happened and
w hat are perhaps the com m onest causes of failure. I will list them as
they come to me, though the items cannot be clear-cut—they often
overlap, and m ore th a n one factor m ay contribute to the failure in
any one case.
I should add th a t I am n ot talking here ab o u t the m any patients we
find who cannot m anage w ithout w hat I have called “m aintenance
therapy”—i.e. those fixed in an infantile dependent state which
cannot be resolved. W ith them we m ay have to decide w hether to go
on providing the “ m aintenance doses,” on the grounds th at we have
undertaken a responsibility in regard to them , or w hether to reserve
ou r skills for those w ho can m ake m ore profitable use o f them . This
would m ean finding som e o ther ways for these patients to get their
needs m et, which is n o t a n easy m atter. A nd as m any of th e m ore
seriously disturbed patients are now being treated, the num ber o f
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perm anently dependent ones seems to grow, while facilities for them
do not increase a t the sam e rate.
Incidentally we can often learn a lot from long contact with these
very dependent people, which is useful in treating others.
In c o m p a tib ility
o r to o fast, not allowing the patient to set the pace, or, equally, failing
to take the initiative when the patient shows in some way th at he
cannot do so will bring ab o u t failure.
W orking through is the im portant thing here. Som etim es the
patient has to do it, b u t sometim es it is.the analyst who m ust do the
greater p art o f it.
T oo rigid technique
B eing o u t o f o n e ’s d ep th
IN T R O D U C T IO N
The original version of this paper was written in 1964, when I was
about to visit the United States. I sent it, together w ith a paper on
transference in borderline states, to the W ashington Psychoanalytic
Society for them to choose which they would prefer to discuss— they
chose this one.
I said then th at it was experim ental and I felt it to be incomplete. It
was well received, and the discussion, led by Dr. Searles, was very
generous and friendly, though it seemed to me th at the topic was
anxiety provoking.
In 1967 I read it again in the British Society, quoting som ething of
w hat had emerged in W ashington and adding to it an account of
some personal experiences. Again it was generously discussed, and
m any colleagues m ade helpful and valuable contributions— and still
I could not seem to find w hat was missing. A t last, in 1978,1 think I
have found it and have finished the paper accordingly.
Because of its long history it m ay feel rough and disjointed. But
because so m uch m ore is understood now ab o u t psychosis and so
2 4 8 T r a n s f e r e n c e N e u r o s i s & T r a n s f e r e n c e P s y c h o s is
m uch has been written about self-analysis since those earlier times, it
is unlikely to arouse anxiety. It m ay also be of so m uch less interest
and even trite, perhaps.
It has been very im portant to me, as p art o f a series of papers, and I
am still not altogether happy with it, but I have to leave it there. In his
Diaries 1898-1918 Paul Klee writes “there can be no m ore critical
situation th an to have reached the goal.” So perhaps it is ju st as well!
SK * *
But this entry into close psychic unity can involve one, by entering
into the patient’s inner w orld, in m adness th a t is painful and frighten
ing. It can sometimes be difficult to see whose m adness it was in the
first place; to accept it even tem porarily for one’s own arouses
annihilation anxiety th a t is far back beyond persecutory anxiety—
losing one’s boundaries and merging with another, or even becoming
som eone else (psychically) for a while.
And so it is in self-analysis— reaching the closest possible psychic
unity with oneself, exploring one’s own persecutory and annihilation
anxieties, and merging together parts of oneself which have hitherto
been separate.
In persecutory anxiety the fears are of destruction by som ething
outside of and distinguished from the self, which m ay yet be recog
nized as a projection of p art o f the self, the object perceived being a
part-object, and the m ain defenses used being those of projection and
introjection, splitting and denial. M agical om nipotence is used as a
defense against helplessness and passivity.
In the areas concerned there may be both illusion and delusion;
prim ary process thinking predom inates; there are symbolic equa
tion, concrete thinking, and inability to m ake correct inference or
deduction or to use analogy o r m etaphor; there m ay also be distur
bances of perception.
Resolution comes ab o u t through prim ary identification on the
pattern of eating, digesting, and absorbing (not magical introjec
tion); verbalization o r som e other form o f rendering accessible to
consciousness, e.g. visualization, is essential.
Persecutory anxiety is experienced w hen the security o f one’s inner
world is disturbed or threatened, and the m ost com m on stim uli are
the presence of persecutory anxiety in som eone else and som atic
illness or injury. It chiefly concerns one’s bodily state and bodily
reactions to excitation.
The fragm ented images o f the eaten and destroyed parents, form er
analyst and others, represented by bodily m anifestations o f excite
m ent and invested w ith destructive and magical qualities, are per
ceived as persecutors by the analysand-self and are transferred to the
analyst-self. The anxiety m ay be m anifested in the form of som atic
symptom s or hypochondriacal ideas and valetudinarianism .
A history of actual illness or injury early in the first year o f life m ay
contribute to the condition, and the illness itself is then transferred. I
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In the prenatal state nothing is “know n,” and yet nothing “ un
know n” is recognized (except possibly in post m aturity). Birth itself
introduces the first “not-know n” of all, and a very com plicated thing
it is. (I am including all elem ents of the experience, from the first
uterine contraction up to the tim e when the infant, p u t to the breast,
handled by the m other, then bathed, weighed, dressed etc. is laid
dow n for sleep). N ot only anxiety is triggered off o r a t least stim ul
ated by it, no r the bodily activities of breathing, sucking for food etc.,
b u t also m uch psychic developm ent (including such things as de
velopm ent of the ego and superego). Bonding plays a n im portant
p a rt in preserving psychically the basic unity.
Recent research seems to show th at m em ories from prenatal life
can later be found and used, especially those of sounds heard both
from the m other’s body (her voice, heartbeat, breathing, intestinal
m ovem ents etc.) and those penetrating from outside (“ M usic th at is
heard so deeply th at it is not music a t all because you are the music”
T. S. Eliot). But birth itself, the bodily separation, is the earliest
experience with which we have yet been able to m ake useful contact
in analytic work, a n d I am w orking from there.
So w hat is there to be transferred, then, is ultim ately the prim or
dial birth process itself, and yet the very transferring is a direct
reexperiencing of it— repeated rising tension, climax, and release—
by the experiencing self. The release experienced is not only th a t of
delivery b u t also psychically a restoration of the prenatal state of
absence of tension. (This hom oeostasis may be experienced by the
ad u lt as positively pleasurable, but it is unlikely th at the neonate, any
m ore th an the fetus, could find it so consciously immediately.)
I have described this so far from the angle of the analysand p art of
the self. In the analyst p art of the self som ething different is happen
ing, b ut a t the m om ent of discharge a contact is m ade between the
tw o—th a t is to say th a t in the m om ent of differentiation w ithin the
. self integration happens sim ultaneously, when analyst-self and
analysand-self jo in up and become continuous, inseparable and
indistinguishable, for only the self-born-of-self or the self-absorbed-
in-self, which is the same thing, now exists.
This is perhaps w hat A ndrew Lang is saying in his verse:
reality. Sir Peter M edaw ar writes, “We are all individuals—the only
thing th at really unites us, makes us one, is that difference between us
and any other know n species of being able to develop the psychic
aw areness of this. T he som atic awareness is inborn in every indi
vidual of every species, as im m unologists and geneticists have
shown. It’s up to each individual to develop it.”
This m eans, o f course, the acceptance of the complement, or
converse o f identity—diversity, the separateness w ithout which, in
fact, identity o r oneness would be meaningless. A nd this, in turn,
leads on to the shifting relations between psychic and factual reality,
neither of which can be the whole reality, and only sometimes can the
tw o together.
This acceptance is the essential factor in the developm ent of the
ability to tolerate those excruciatingly painful dilemmas -of am
bivalence and paradox, whose horns we cannot evade: the fact th at
the same thing can, a t the same tim e, be both best and worst, loved
and hated, true and false, “C atch 22,” or the ancient G reek problem
a b o u t Epimenides the C retan, who says th at all Cretans are liars.
It is in th at central state of being that I have called “basic unity”
th a t we can come nearest to the resolutions o f these things.
F ro m it comes the ability to use processes o f differentiation and
integration. It follows, then, th a t any person who is willing to bear
frenzy, tem porarily, to the point of losing his sense o f identity and
certainty of survival—in other words to “break down,” or reach
chaos o r catastrophe (the point of tension where he has to bear n ot
being able to bear it)—will emerge from it-with heightened abilities.
These will include greater capacity for sensitivity and perception,
capacities for abstraction, and creativity. A long w ith these will cbme
the ability to bear sadness and joy, and isolation, a greater willing
ness for m utuality (as distinct from reciprocity), and hence increased
ability to form relationships.
. It does n o t follow, o f course, th a t everyone has to break dow n, or
“go m ad.” B ut those people whose earliest experiences were such th at
they could not take survival for granted nor distinguish between self
an d not-self, betw een psyche and som a, factual and psychic reality
etc. will be less able to understand the psychotic anxieties of others
(except as identical w ith their own), to tolerate their own and others’
am bivalence, and to w ithstand the m any and increasing pressures of
life— in short, to m ature.
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In Septem ber 1971 I was asked: “ A sum m ary of the place of Dr.
W innicott’s work and its relation to the total field is m uch needed.
C an you be persuaded to write it?”
I said th at I would try, b u t th at it could not be done quickly. By the
tim e I had written w hat I could, it was already too late and could not
then be published, b ut surely it is still relevant.
These term s of reference, o f course, would set any w riter an
impossible task, and I do not take them too seriously, but I have
considered w hat is called for— not an obituary, eulogy, or m em oir,
but some kind of assessm ent—an objective recognition and state
ment.
It is simply not possible for anyone to m ake som ething th at takes
D .W .W . only as an “objective object.” Som e elem ent o f perceiving"
him as a “subjective object” (his own expressions) inevitably comes
in, in anyone who was in any way associated w ith him, especially for
those who (like myself) were his analysands, and ou r assessment
m ust depend on the degree to which we have becom e able to perceive
b o th him and ourselves objectively.
Regarding him, then, as an objective object does n o t rule out a
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will go on for a long time yet, and anyway he never claimed to have
said the last word on anything.
A ttem pting to test his work, his discoveries, or his idiosyncrasies,
o r to m ak e c o m p a ris o n s w ith o th e r w o rk e rs — F re u d , K lein ,
Sechehaye, H artm ann, etc.— would be fruitless at this point, but I
w ant to consider some particular topics which seem to me outstand
ing, apart from some of the more obvious ones such as “prim ary
m aternal preoccupation,” “ transitional objects,” “squiggle tech
nique” etc.
First of all is his capacity to stand paradox and ambivalence,
knowing them to be inherent in life itself, w ithout seeking ways
around, defenses against, o r avoidance of them . This capacity grew
and developed in him, a n ongoing process th roughout his profes
sional and personal life, not steadily continuous, but varying in scope
and speed (“ H um an beings are jerky”), and people have speculated
how one could live with so few defenses.
O ut of this came such things as his recognition of the im portance
of being able to refuse; the need (w hether for child or adult) fo r “no”
as well as “yes” and for frustration a t the right tim e as grow th
prom oting, where at the wrong tim e it is grow th inhibiting; the
im portance of “confrontation” on occasion; the value o f destructive
ness and of the parent’s or therapist’s ability to survive it; and m any
other truths about m en, wom en, children, and adolescents as real
people.
N ot long before his death he began to develop com pletely new
ideas on the origin o f creative activity in the earliest, two-sided,
undifferentiated, pream bivalent, preobject-related stage of develop
m ent in which, paradoxically, destruction is creative o f both self and
object. This is the stage o f “being,” and o f nothing-else-at-all, which
depends upon survival being guaranteed by the environm ent, so th a t
annihilation anxiety can safely be ignored and the self com e into
being as a “true isolate”.
There have been m any form er postulates, e.g.-A quinas’s “ I am
psyche-soma,” Descartes’ “cogito ergo sum .” But these are surpassed
by the im portance o f “ I am ” (long know n as the forbidden holy name
of the O m nipotent C reator) and finally o f the still sim pler statem ent
“ I,” which postulates and includes, b u t does n ot state, “not I.”
Even this is not new; it is the “A ncient o f D ays,” the “ Spirit
brooding over the face of the waters"—“One is one and all alone, and
268 T ra n sferen ce N e u r o s is & T ra n sferen c e P s y c h o s is
L angs : Yes, how true. Let me ask you this. As I say for me it was a
very poignant m om ent because here I had m ade w hat I thought was
such an original discovery and then I discovered . . .
L ittle: Yes! T erribly disappointing. But let me quote W innicott
to you again. He said a t som e point, som ething like this: “ I know th at
Freud discovered this in— whatever date it was— 1908 or something.
The im portant thing fo r me is that I discovered it for myself.”
L angs : Yes, that’s very beautiful. W innicott had a way o f saying
such beautiful things. I find there’s a certain beauty and im agination
in the English analytic literature th a t I don’t find in the Am erican
literature.
L ittle : Well, it varies. A touch o f R aym ond C handler w ould help
sometimes!
L angs : Yes.
L ittle: Y ou find som e o f the m ore stereotyped analysts in all
orientations, associates o f Miss Freud, associates of M rs. Klein, or
w hat w'e call “independents.” They are afraid to speak directly, and
they use stilted, meaningless jargon, w ith no rhythm . But fortunately
there are other analysts (for instance W innicott) who put things very7
plainly and simply.
L angs : Yes, this is w hat I like a b o u t your writing.
L ittle: Plain English. One thing about my w riting is th at I tend to
write w hat can be spoken, o r read aloud. This m eans using shorter
and sim pler words and sentences, and then careful pruning, cutting
out anything th at isn’t needed. You get m uch nearer to people that
way. But I had learned a lot from my m other reading to me; she read
very well; and then I had to read to a blind uncle, (her brother, to
w hom she had read, as a child), and he read to me too. All these were
very valuable. And then I learned som ething a b o u t words long
before I came to psychoanalysis, which has stood me in a very good
stead over my own writing.
There’s a V ictorian au th o r, Charles Reade, who w rote one of the
first novels ab o u t m adness and the treatm ent of “lunatics” in his
time— H ard Cash. In an o th er of his books— The Cloister and the
H earth— he points out th a t A nglo-Saxon words carry m uch m ore
punch than words derived from either L atin or French. He w rote one
paragraph, first entirely in A nglo-Saxon w ords and then exactly the
same paragraph, using only L atin derivatives. A nd the difference hits
you.
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things: H ow did it influence you personally, and w hat did you feel
were som e determ inants of this extrem e division?
L ittle : This is rather difficult to say. You see, the two dom inant
people were A nna Freud and M elanie Klein, and both were very-
distinguished people already, very experienced and highly influen
tial. I always felt there could be some understandable personal
rivalry between them , and also betw een individuals associated w ith
them .
L angs : Yes, inevitably. T his com es up so m uch am ong analysts; it
thrives on their unanalyzed residues.
L ittle : It has been transm itted to som e extent to Mrs. Klein’s
followers, rath er m ore rigidly th an to Miss Freud’s, though, as you
say, it happens everywhere, all the time. B ut a t one point I was seeing
M rs. Klein a b o u t som ething, and she said to me: “Look, you’re
attached to Miss Freud’s group.”
L angs : W as th at your position?
L ittle : B oth my supervisors were w ith th at group, you see, and
my training analyst too: to some extent she had chosen the super
visors for me. Ella Sharpe herself was less close to A nna F reud than
Willi H offer was. She tended to be isolated.
T hen M rs. Klein asked “W hat is the setup? W hat is M iss F reud’s
organization?” A nd I said: “ I’m n o t attached to it; I’m as m uch
outside their group as I am outside yours, and”, I said, “from my
outside standpoint, the two look exactly the same.” W hich she didn’t
like very much.
L a n g s : In w hat sense did you m ean it?
L ittle : Well, each had a closely organized, close-knit group and
-held its ow n m eetings;-and if you-didn’t belong to one or-the other
you were outside.
L a n g s : Yes, how do you think it influenced creativity? Do you
think som e creative things came from it; do you think there were
constricting aspects?
L ittle : I think it had a very constricting and anxiety-arousing
effect. You were always liable to be offending one or the other— or
even both!
L a n g s : I see. It forced loyalties and agreem ent rather th an im ag
ination and innovation.
L ittle : Yes. But I suppose it also stim ulated th at, and some
creativity.
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L angs : But you yourself had some training from the Kleinian
view point as well as from the classical one?
L ittle : Oh, well, the lectures and sem inars that we went to as
students were both. They had w orked o u t th at m uch, so th a t there
was a balance. But if you went to the group meetings of one, you
could not go to the group meetings o f the other. And if your analyst
and first supervisor were m em bers o f either, officially you had to
have a “ M iddle G roup” second supervisor. A lot o f people would
have liked to have a supervisor from each of the two groups. But
neither Miss Freud nor Mrs. Klein really liked supervising a student
who was in analysis with a m em ber o f the other group, and even
tually, owing chiefly to pressure by M rs. Klein, analysands in her
group had to have b o th their supervisors from th a t group. I believe
they still do, but there is m uch m ore m ixing now, particularly in
postgraduate sem inars etc.
L angs : S o there were strong constricting factors. There is far too
m uch in analysis in general th a t stifles creativity. M uch th a t is
innovative derives from having to defend and clarify one’s own
position in the face of unscientific, prejudicial attack.
In any case then, this was the clim ate. It was beginning to be
resolved. Now w hat prom pted you, then, to turn to the analytic
interaction, especially to countertransference, a t this time?
L ittle : The story th at I quote at the beginning of my 1950 paper
was out of my experience with Ella Sharpe. I was very aw are of some
of her unresolved problem s and felt them as obstacles. She was
inclined to be authoritarian, and she idealized her own m other,
which m ade it difficult for her to adm it th at I m ight be objective
either about her or about m y m other. . . . ___
L angs : Yes, I can see that. I w ant to say som ething now based on
your com m ent th a t Ella Sharpe had discovered w hat M rs. Klein had
discovered, but didn’t crystallize it. T h at statem ent is really sim ilar to
w hat you said about her-approach to you yourself,- as I’m sure you
realize. You’re saying then th a t there was a pulling back from m ore
prim itive parts of the mind.
L ittle : Yes, a defensive thing.
L angs : W hich is som ething that, by the way, I believe is reflected
in the writings o f classical analysts in general.
L ittle : Ella Sharpe didn’t recognize psychotic anxiety or tran s
ference psychosis. They were beyond her limits. T h at wasn’t her
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“fault,” and it wasn’t due to any lack of integrity in her; analysis had
not developed th at far yet. She carried out good, classical analysis of
her tim e, of straightforw ard psychoneurosis, based on the oedipus
com plex, but nothing more. Like all our pioneers she had had very
little analysis herself and m ust have carried an enorm ous weight of
anxiety. Those of us who came later owe them a lot for that.
She came quite independently to m uch the same theoretical ideas
a b o u t m ourning as M rs. Klein did, but was n o t able to carry them
th rough into practice. She could write of Shakespeare’s m ourning
and its outcom e in fresh creative work, b ut twice she effectively
disrupted my m ourning processes w ithout any realization of w hat
she was doing. The story in my first countertransference paper (Little
1951) is a disguised account of her persuading me to read my
W anderer paper (see chapter 1) for full m em bership of the Society a
week after my father’s death, implying (as I understood it) th at
postponing it for that reason would be held against me. I took this,
because of my psychotic transference to her. The paper itself was no
p a rt of w orking through the m ourning; it had been finished before
my father became ill. So I was not well equipped to m ourn when she
died suddenly in 1947.
But later M rs. Klein’s developm ent o f her form ulation o f the
concept of the “depressive position” (1934,1940) as a necessary stage
in em otional developm ent, together with the w ork o f analysts in
m ental hospitals, helped greatly tow ard the recognition of psychotic
anxiety, and later of borderline psychosis, where the depressive
- position has not been fully established, if it has been reached at all.
L angs : T h at touches upon one of the things I’ve wondered about
after studying the literature on the analytic interaction w ritten by the
Kleiniaris and the classical analysts— m ainly th e'-British and the
A m ericans. I have had a feeling about A m erican analysts th at they
too don’t know' the really sick parts of their patients, th a t they shy
aw ay from the psychotic parts of the personality.
L ittle : I th ink w hat they don’t know is th a t the apparently sick
p a rt o f the patient is, in fact, very often the m ost well part, and the
apparently “well” p art is really m ost sick.
L a n g s : I sense what you’re saying, but I’d like you to elaborate a
bit.
L ittle : I will speak ab o u t one particular patient. She appeared to
the outside w orld a well-adjusted, very able, and com petent person.
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a patient when you have analyzed his sym ptom s, and analyzed and
analyzed, till you b o th know all about them , and still they persist.
H er solution was hypnosis and strong suggestion! At th at point I
knew this wasn’t for me, and I said to her: “No, it’s a m atter of
transference and countertransference.” So l left the Tavistock, and
taking F reud as the founder o f all we know , I chose psychoanalysis.
T he Tavistock of course has altered a lot since then, b u t a t th a t time
th a t’s how it was.
L angs : S o your inclination was to always understand, and to
understand in terms o f transference and countertransference. S o,
w hat then was the prevailing attitude toward countertransference in
the tim e o f your training, in the years before your paper— the forties?
L ittle: It was som ething th at you were ashamed of, and denied,
and got spm ebody else to analyze in you.
LAiiGs: So there would be transfers o f patients and things of this
sort.
L ittle: Yes. You handed your patient over if you found coun
tertransference there at all.
L angs : Now , had there been some teachers w ho had begun to hint
at other possibilities, or did this come ju st really out o f your own
experience?
L ittle : I think it cam e straight o ut of my experience. L m ean, I
hate to m ake such an enorm ous claim . . .
L angs : O h, I understand. But there weren’t any obvious revolu
tionaries so to speak a t th a t time.
L ittle : W ell, of course the obvious revolutionary was Ferenczi,
b u t m uch earlier, and he had w ritten ab o u t countertransference.
Balint was trem endously involved with Ferenczi, and he asked me to
help him w ith the translation o f Ferenczi’s w ork. H e w ould give me
the papers in G erm an, w ith his own rough translation into English. (1
don’t speak, or even read, G erm an.) H e gave me a n enorm ous
G e rm a n d ic tio n a r y , a n d I tr a n s la te d th e G e r m a n /E n g lis h o r
H u n g arian / English into English/ English, so, in fact, I’m credited, in
the bibliography, with p art o f the translation o f Ferenczi’s work,
particularly the third volume. I was asked to review th a t for the
International Journal, and I cam e across my review of it the other
day; I’d forgotten ab o u t that. But the w ork was very im portant to
me.
L a n g s : S o , the other thing too is that you took a very sensitive,
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I could. And th at paper came out of the m ourning for both my father
and Ella Sharpe.
L angs : Yes, so w hat evolved then? I m ean, how do you view this
paper now in retrospect?
L ittle: Well, I think it has gone further. It hasn’t contradicted
Heim ann’s w ork a t all or discredited it in the slightest.
L angs : Yes. T hat’s true: the two papers com plem ent each other.
B ut there’s one area of disagreem ent. W e m ight as well get to it.
L ittle: Well, at one time there was a big area o f disagreem ent
between Paula H eim ann and myself, and it was very im portant. She
m aintained a t th at tim e th a t nothing b u t verbal interpretations of
transference brought about any alteration. She qualified this by
saying th a t theoretically it should be so, but in practice it wasn’t
always th at way. We really had a running battle for some years over
this. I said that if this were so, then she would need to m odify her
theory.
Again, I came across som ething I had read in the 1952 Club, in
which 1 had criticized this very strongly. You see, I had g ot to find out
whether she was right or w hether I was! 1 thought at first that
perhaps we were not speaking the sam e language, b u t then I found
th at we were not talking ab o u t the sam e things. 1 was talking ab o u t
people who could n ot use symbols or m etaphor etc., deductive
thinking or inference, whereas she assum ed their use. I realized this
fully when, in a personal letter to me after the 1960 symposium , Dr.
H eim ann wrote that she, too, used nonverbal interpretations. If a
patient said th a t he felt her as “cold” , she would switch oh another
bar of the electric heater.
In my view only a patient who could m ake use of symbolism or
deductive thinking could find an interpretation in this; to one who
could not it would seem nonsense. T hen I could feel that we were
both right, in different areas, and after th a t I could be friendly! and
we could be com fortable with one another.
L angs : Yes, you had to resolve som ething there. T hat’s a very
im portant issue. O f course you take it up in several of your papers. It
has seemed to me, again from a rather naive Am erican perspective,
th a t Am erican analysts have incredibly overvalued verbal interpreta
tions.
L ittle: T hat’s my point: it was so overvalued here for so many
years, and this was a thoery my “ R ” paper challenged because so
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her. I knew from my own observation th at she had a bad heart; she
was cyanosed and her fingers were clubbed, and she was over
seventy. She would lug this couch to the other end of the room; then
she would sit behind me, and on the wall facing me was a photograph
with glass in front of it. She would light a cigarette, and I could see
the smoke reflected in the glass. Som etim es I would hear her take the
pack, deliberately take a cigarette out, fit it into her holder, get a
m atch out of the box, and then wait; and I would scream at her: “ F or
god’s sake, strike th at m atch and light your cigarette!” She would
say: “ I didn’t w ant it to fuse w ith w hat was going on in you.” A nd I
said: “ It fuses with it anyway."
L angs : You can’t avoid that.
L ittle: It was frig h tfu l and it em phasized the im portance of both
nonverbal and personal things. But I couldn’t say it then.
L angs : W hat you experienced. I’m sure. I think you’re aware th at
not only was there a dispute w ith Paula Heim ann, but also with
Annie Reich (1951). In her paper on countertransference, she was
critical of your self-revelations.
L ittle: Yes, her paper and m ine appeared in the same number of
the International Journal [ o f Psycho-Analysis].
L angs : Right, her original paper. Yes. A nd then she wrote an
overview, a critique, around 1960, I believe.
L ittle: I don’t think I read that. I’m afraid I read very, very little,
especially lately.
L angs : Oh. So you’re not aware of her direct com m ents. See, the
criticism had to do with— this is all interrelated— the criticism had to
do with two questions she raised. Two areas, which I think are very
im portant, and I w ant to hear m uch o f your thinking on it. One has
to do with w hat one does in term s of responding to the patient, once
the patient has consciously or unconsciously detected a coun
tertransference problem , in term s of your suggestion of directly
acknowledging and sharing some of it. The second has to do with the
issues, of holding the hand of the patient, showing a vase, telling of
your own feelings, and things of this kind. Both of these have been
questioned, and I’m sure you’re aw are of that.
L ittle: Oh, I know. It has to do with both analyst and patient
being real people, and right for one another. Going back to Ella
Sharpe her behavior over the couch, and her attitude tow ard my
perception of her heart condition, which she w anted to duck, nothing
could have been m ore different th an W innicott’s attitude.
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to w ant to hear m ore on this, b u t let me bring in one other thing. This
is, I think, a very basic area in term s o f the kinds of things th a t you
re c o m m e n d e d te c h n ic a lly . N ow , as fa r as h a n d lin g c o u n
tertransference, let’s take th a t first. Let me introduce one other point.
This paper, the 1951 paper, and, I w ould even say, the whole series,
but I’m particularly, fo r w hatever reason—we could be talking about
your w ork with borderlines to o —but fo r the m om ent I’m interested
in w hat you have to say ab o u t countertransference. This paper now is
m ore th an twenty-five years old, and in the U nited States, a t least, I
don’t see it having the im pact th at I feel th at it should have. In other
words, it seems to me— I’m being candid and perhaps you have a
different impression— th a t m any A m erican analysts have yet to
discover this paper and w hat’s in it. T h at the twenty-five years have
gone by—and why haven’t they gotten to it?
L ittle: W ell, whether we say they have to discover the paper or
whether we say they have to discover w hat I discovered, it’s the same
thing.
L angs : Yes, it’s the same thing. B ut hopefully in ou r field certain
papers—and I consider this series a landm ark series for m any
reasons, and I think this paper is an extrem ely im portant paper in the
history of analysis—a paper w ith this level of creativity and clinical
im portance should be know n as classic.
L ittle: This of course is where D r. R am ana comes in, a t the
University of O klahom a; he’s so very valuable because he m ade one
island where this is being used. He was using the “ R ” paper for
teaching as long ago as 1958; and René de M onchy and Stefi
Pedersen both used the 1951 and other papers in Sweden. O ther
people who I know are using my w ork are Dr. Pena in Lima;
M arjorie Rowe, P h.D ., Associate Professor in the D epartm ent of
Psychiatry a t Kent State University; and D r. Virginia Suttenfield, in
C onnecticut, who told me th at it was m entioned in a group of
psychiatrists to which she belongs. But G itelson was the first to
m ention me a t all, and later, D ouglas W. O rr.
L angs : W hat I started to say is th at I feel th a t analysts, o f course,
have to learn from their own experience.
L ittle : O f course they do. A nd they learn largely from their own
experience as analysands. I learnt so m uch, positively, from the
things th at W innicott did, and negatively by w hat Ella S harpe didn’t
do.
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But she did do som e things. She lent, and gave, me books, and I
rem em ber her fixing a cushion at my back once when I was in pain.
She was essentially a very kind and generous person; Edward Glover
spoke of her as being “m uch too kind to her patients.” But her
kindness w asn’t used as part o f the analysis, and like m any of her
contem poraries she was a benevolent tyrant.
Again, I learnt from W innicott about the patient showing the
analyst how to do his analysis, as a baby shows the m other how to
handle it, and this was such a contrast with Ella Sharpe’s au
th o ritarian way of “m other (o r analyst) knows best,” and giving
stereotyped interpretations.
L angs : But certain key papers should alert you to look in certain
directions. O r certain clinical experiences should create a need for a
p a r tic u la r lite r a tu r e . Y ou b ro u g h t m an y d im e n sio n s o f c o u n
tertransference into focus in a very sensitive way. Are analysts too
blocked to be open even now to such truths?
W hy hasn’t this become a key paper; maybe it is. I’m sure th at
there are m any institutes th at use it.
L it t l e : Well I’m surprised. You see, over here it’s not been a key
paper until now. I m ean, over here I think only a few odd people
thought very m uch of my work. Now b o th this paper (Little, 1951)
and “O n D elusional Transference” (1958) are listed for the European
Psycho-A nalytic F ederation as key papers from members o f the
British Society.
L a n g s : Oh, I didn’t know that. I thought perhaps it would be
different here. I m ean, this w ork o n countertransference is so basic
an d perceptive.
L it t l e : I m ean, I’ve not been particularly im portant. Well, a few
people w ould say: “ O h yes.” M arion M ilner, for instance. It took
quite a long while for me to find for myself th at we were really on the
sam e wave length; we write so very differently. I find some of her
w riting difficult to understand, b u t a t one point I had to say: “ Look,
I’ve been saying this to o ,” and she agreed. There are, as I say, a few
odd people who will say: “ My w ork will n o t be the same as it would
have been w ithout yours.” But Sandler and D are and . . .
L a n g s : H older. I know their book (1973).
L ittle : Yes, well, I was very surprised to find the references to me
in their b ook. I mean, in large areas, it’s been a dead duck. -
L angs : W ell, why is that; what’s your impression about it?
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were already established as lecturers and sem inar leaders and were
the people from am ongst w hom students chose their supervisors. I
couldn’t get my toe in the door, no m atter how I tried.
I have been told th at I was “ provocative,” and “a n irritant,” and
th a t I was “sticking my neck out.” A lthough I never set out to
provoke o r irritate people, I have had to recognize th a t my manner
w hen putting my own views could do th at, and so I was working
against myself.
This was always when I was unsure of myself, (though other
people didn’t recognize it), and it joined up with b oth my old
childhood p attern of having literally to fight to exist a t all and with
the struggle w ith Ella Sharpe for my own reality so it became a chip
on my shoulder.
Once I could be sure of the validity of my own observations, of my
right to find things for myself and to put som ething forw ard, I could
ease up, take myself a bit less seriously, and behave differently.
It was all very traum atic, and I went on feeling sore ab o u t it for a
long while, b u t if things hadn’t been like th a t I m ight never have
m ade my journeys to the States—which were w orth so m uch to me.
It was n o t until years later, quite some tim e after my first visit to
the States, th a t I was able to take clinical seminars with advanced
students, and they are the ones mostly who have followed up my
w ork. A nd then a small group of newly qualified people asked me to
lead clinical sem inars w ith them . I enjoyed this a lot and m ade new
friends through it, and also th rough the w ork on the review for the
International Journal o f Searles’s book (Little 1967) and the contacts
w ith them have stayed alive, as has my m em bership o fth e 1952 Club.
A fter my first paper was published in 1951,1 was invited to go as a
training analyst to Topeka. But a t th at tim e it was impossible, as I
was deeply involved in my analysis with W innicott, w ithout which
neither th a t paper nor any of the others could have been written,
anyway.
But later, in 1958 and again in 1964,1 went on lecture tours all over
the S tates—O klahom a City (twice); Topeka; Chicago; W ashington,
D .C ., and C hestnut Lodge (twice); A usten Riggs; Stam ford, C on
necticut; Los Angeles; St. Louis; New Y ork; and New Orleans. So
those people who were interested had a chance to get to know my
work.
O ne obstacle, I think, is the huge quantity o f stuff th a t is .being
w ritten. N obody could keep up w ith it all, an d here I am , adding to it!
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the patient’s car, and on one occasion the patient actually ran
upstairs in the analyst’s house and hid in a closet. But they don’t seem
to pay any attention to these really very im portant things; they are
regarded only as “conditions which m ake analysis possible,” not as
having, in themselves, any value or interpretive effect, or as being
p art of the analysis,
L angs : T hat’s interesting because the Kleinians have a literature
th a t shows great sensitivity to interaction. I think th at they do tend to
h a v e so m e b lin d s p o ts — im p o r ta n t o n e s — a b o u t c o u n te r
transference; b u t so do classical analysts. M any evident coun
te r tra n s fe r e n c e e x p re s s io n s a re ra tio n a liz e d aw ay o r sim p ly
overlooked.
L ittle : Well, I think there are some who do really resent th at
anybody could have a different idea. The personal rivalry again—it’s
two-sided, o f course.
L angs : Y ou find that they d on’t readily take to your ideas?
L ittle : They insist th at M rs. Klein is right about everything.
L a n g s : D o you feel th at the A nna F reud group has opened
themselves a bit m ore than that?
L ittle : Yes, indeed: as individuals, perhaps, m ore than as a
group, but I don’t really know. But to be fair to both groups I should
say th a t I have been largely o ut of contact for some years now.
L a n g s : Have you studied the repercussions of the nonverbal
contacts th a t you m ake with patients on occasion? And I think th at’s
w hat you’re saying, th at you do this ju st on occasion, a t very special
m om ents, or am I mistaken?
L ittle : I’m doing it all the time at special m om ents, and all the
tim e not doing it and-1 do follow it up, of course. But one has to have
som e idea ab o u t when it is 'appropriate and when not. This is the
them e of my paper called “ D irect Presentation of Reality in Areas of
D elusion,” which I m entioned earlier. But patients have told me of
things which were im portant landm arks for them , such as my turning
my chair so th a t they could see me or saying w hat I felt, losing my
tem per, for instance. They have interpretive and sometimes “m uta
tive” effect, as in the episode of the “sham m ink pot,” and also a time
when I had to prohibit a patient parking her car dangerously.
L angs : I see. This is a constant p art o f your w ork with borderline
patients.
L ittle : I t is a constant, ongoing thing,! b u t limited in its use and
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did not increase her guilt, b ut on the contrary relieved her, as I did
not reproach her as her parents would have done. A nd it showed her
the danger th at she had been missing. But then I was giving her this
other interpretation anyway, about the transference aspect of her
situation with her em ployer and his wife.
L angs : W hat prom pted you to do that on the telephone, rather
than in a session?
L ittle: I think it came straight out of this same thing, because
you see, she had ju st told me in the previous session the story of going
hom e as a three-year-old w ithout any idea of the danger. A nd I had
only ju st realized th at the situation a t her work, with the risk o f her
losing the jo b , was really a m atter of transferences on the p a rt of all
three people. And when I had said this to her, she had remembered
her m other having said: “ Everything would be all right if it weren’t
for you.” She had suddenly been m ade the scapegoat. And I pointed
out, you see, that it was not only her own transference but also her
em ployer’s and his wife’s transferences to each other and to her, as in
her childhood it had been her parents’, which she could not then have
understood. To some extent she was stirring the soup now, as she
probably did then, w ithout understanding. She had brought up the
subject of the difficulty a t w ork, in her phone call to me th a t
m orning.
L angs : She was also stirring the soup up with you with that.
L ittle: I interpreted that in show ing her the m ixed-up trans
ferences in the situation, and anyway m y soup is perm anently stirred!
Analysis does that. C ountertransference and real relationship are
b o th always there. A nd there is so m uch immediacy in the analysis of
borderline patients. And of course I had stirred her soup. But w ith
regard, to the life-and-death issues, I am not only .speaking of
incidents of this kind, or where suicide o r o ther dangers can arise. I
am also speaking of times when it is im portant not to intervene in any
way, not to “interpret” o r even, perhaps, to speak or move. Times
w hen it is all-im portant for the patient to m ake his or her ow n
move— im portant for his psychic life th a t he m akes some self-
affirm ation, however slight th a t m ay appear. If it is missed out, or
goes unrecognized, it m ay not tu rn up again for a long while, or even
not at all, and a failure th at is unnecessary and harm ful happens. We
fail enough, w ithout that.
, This, too, comes out of my own experiences, b u t with W innicott
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(m ostly in the early stages o f the analysis), rather than Ella Sharpe. I
once said th a t I wished I could have got to him sooner, but he
answ ered th a t he could not have done my analysis sooner— he would
not have know n enough.
But short o f m atters of life and death, I have intervened to protect
patients from the possible consequences o f their failure to use
im agination realistically. M ore than once I have, taken into my
garage a patient’s car where the driver’s license was out o f date, which
invalidates all insurance, and consequently he could have been
involved in enorm ous expense, as well as legal proceedings. M asud
K han (1960) reports a com parable action w hen he restored to a shop
som e books which a patient o f his had stolen. Such interventions
have to be looked at, of course, in relation to both transference and
countertransference. They are usually resented quite bitterly a t first,
touch with over a long time; and there had been two o r three other
program s concerned with bereavem ent. They all took the same line:
“Time heals.” “ M ourning is for a ‘tw elvem onth and a day.’”
There was a critique of this particular program in R adio Times by
the actress Fay W eldon, who said th a t the whole of this could have
been condensed into a ten-m inute talk on the radio, which I felt was
true, and I took this up. I said I entirely agreed with w hat she had
said, but I w anted to raise one specific point which I had never come
across in any of the program s, which is th at, yes, you w ork through
anger, self-pity, and rem orse, and so on, until you arrive eventually
a t a relatively peaceful state o f pure grief. But, I said, m ourning isfo r
life, and every now and then the original thing ju st jum ps up and hits
you again and knocks you flat, and for the tim e being everything else
is knocked out.
My letter was published by B.B.C, and I had ten letters in response
to it, ail thanking me and saying: “ I have felt alone, and peculiar,
having this happen. O ther people have reproached me.” A nd a t the
same time I had an alm ost sim ilar thing from two quite separate
friends of mine: neither o f them having seen o r heard any o f these
program s. Both said th at they had suddenly found themselves with
the original pain of the loss as bad as it had ever been.
O f course, I had to answer every one of these letters, separately,
and individually, and personally. A nd I found it had hit m e em o
tionally, very considerably. Then having done that, I had to write to
D r. Parkes and tell him this, and say th a t for every one who w rote to
m e—(and they were all very different: from all parts of the country,
Inverness in the n o rth of Scotland, and another from Deaf in the far
southeast; all completely different, in every way, socially, educa
tionally, psychologically, you couldn’t imagine a m ore widely differ
ing group of people)—for everyone who w rote there w ould have
been m any m ore who did n o t write. I had to write this to him and say:
“ Look, this you left out, and you’ve got to p ut it in!” H e replied th a t it
is difficult to select w hat to p u t in and w hat to leave out, b u t I w rote
again, saying th a t w hen the sam e thing is always left out it is n o t
“ selected”; it is overlooked.
L angs : Oh, I see; it’s that recent. Anything else?
L ittle : Well, I’ve had one other patient in therapy. A girl—well, I
say a girl, but she is thirty-one— having classical anxiety attacks if
she saw a pregnant cow, o r a hen lay an egg! I had her once a week for
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a b o u t ten m onths, I suppose, but for the time being a t least I think we
have finished. She had tried to deal with her phobia by having a
baby, but because she was so afraid, she couldn’t even tell the
hospital people she was frightened. So the experience simply fulfilled
her w orst fears. It was exactly w hat she dreaded. She was very good
fun to w ork with, and a creative person. A part from th at, I’ve been
keeping up w ith several form er patients, and I would very m uch like
to get the w ork w ith one, in particular, published as a m onograph if
possible. She cam e to me fo r 542 sessions in all, spread over twenty
years, w ith quite long gaps, and has kept in touch w ith me through
the fifteen years since we finished.
T he special interest about her is in the paintings which she
brought, spontaneously—they are unlike any others th a t I have seen
published in case reports. She turned up suddenly w ith the first one.
In it everything is controlled and fixed, with firm outlines, except for
a n angry small girl, a “gollywog” (which had been her favorite toy),
and a little m an with a flying scarf th a t she “saw” in a picture in my
office. (It wasn’t there, b u t she had found it.)
T he next one, a m onth later, scared me stiff. Everything was
com ing loose a t once, and I really didn’t know w hat was happening. I
w ondered if I was dealing with a full-blown psychosis. A nd some
years later, after ab o u t another twenty-five paintings had appeared,
she did have a short psychotic episode, during which she painted in
her sessions, very m uch m ore freely, using her hands instead o f a
brush, and expressing em otion which had never been reached before.
I have altogether forty of her paintings, mostly done a t hom e, and
to me alm ost every one of them is a dream . It’s very rare to see
unconscious m aterial laid out directly like th at, and one so seldom
has a chance to show-it. I’ve shown slides of them several times, here
and in the States, and people have found them interesting. F or
publication I w ould have to explain the content of each one, with an
account of ou r discussion of them , and if they could n o t be re
produced I ’d have to give a detailed description of each one as well. It
m eans a lot of work!
T he kind o f painting that she did in her psychotic state is exactly
the way th a t I had found of dealing with my own states o f frenzy. The
m o vem en t is the im portant thing th a t brings discharge a t the climax,
a n d relief follows, as it did with her.
I som etim es do fifteen o r tw enty wild scribbles in a couple o f hours
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O f course, putting forw ard som ething unfam iliar, as I did in 1950
and have done since, is liable to arouse anxiety, and so to be
m isunderstood and distorted. This need not be due to either resis
tance, or personal rivalry, or dislike, though they m ay all come in
(and why not?). It may be a difficult concept, o r it m aybe p ut badly,
or in unfam iliar idiom. In any case there is plenty of room for people
to find other ways of working. I can talk only ab o u t my own way,
w ith m y own particular patients. So we’re back again to where we
started!
W hat has been m ost m isunderstood has been my reference to
expressing my own feelings directly. This is in fact som ething I very
rarely do— not at all T. S. Eliot’s “undisciplined squads of em otion!”
T h a t w o u ld be su b je c tiv e a n d e n tire ly s e lf-d e fe a tin g — c o u n
tertransference in its true sense, com ing straight o ut of childhood.
La n g s : One o f the things though that again we didn’t m ention
was your appreciation for the patient’s therapeutic intentions toward
the analyst.
L ittle : Yes.
L angs : W hich I think is a very im portant and neglected topic.
Searles (1975) has written a paper recently . . .
L ittle : Searles has w ritten on th at and I found all his papers
stim ulating and enorm ously valuable. I tried to stress th a t in my
review of his book in the International Journal. I found one p ar
ticularly valuable in fact not only as far as therapy is concerned, but
in everyday life. “Phases of Patient-T herapist Interaction in the
Psychotherapy of C hronic Schizophrenia” (1968). One finds these
same phases in the form ation o f ordinary relationships—right now,
yours and mine, I expect. People are so. apt to think th at relation
ships “ju st happen,” and no doubL sometimes they do, but they
usually need to be built up. W hether friendship, m arriage, or w hat
ever. A nd there will be these “confluences” and w ithdrawals, and
am bivalences and resolutions.
L a n g s : It is odd that you put it in term s o f Searles’ work being o f
so m uch value to you, since really in a sense you yourself had written
m uch o f this before him.
L ittle : This seems to me to illustrate the rhythm of fusing and
separating and fusing again. Being one, and separate.
I pointed out in the review the im portance of Searles having taken
it up. But in the early chapters he was still talking ab o u t symbiosis,
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and symbiosis and basic unity are not the same thing.- Symbiosis
comes iater in developm ent, basic unity being the prim ary state of
total undifferentiatedness—a one-body relationship, whereas sym
biosis m ust be a tw o-body relationship th a t is apparently denied.
Ju st tow ard the end of his book he is beginning to get away from
symbiosis, and to move on to basic unity.
L a n g s : Som ething m ore basic, yes. O f course, that’s another area
to which you’ve contributed so m uch in term s of the study of the
borderline patient—and I think even the psychotic patient and
delusional transference. Y our w ork in those areas is truly pioneering.
L ittle : Yes. But to go back to your question ab o u t Searles and
me and the patient’s therapeutic intentions tow ard the analyst, I
spoke a while back about another, still unfinished paper of mine,
which belongs in the sequence.
W hen I was going to W ashington, D .C ., in 1964,1 sent two papers,
for the Society to choose which they would like: “Transference in
Borderline States” and this other which I called “Transference/
C ountertransference in P ost-therapeutic Self-Analysis,” which I said
was experim ental, and I felt it in some way incom plete, b u t couldn’t
find w hat it lacked. They chose th at, and Searles was the discussant.
He reproached me fo r having stressed only the im portance of one’s
form er analyst, and leaving out the im portance o f one’s patients,
quoting the “Basic Unity” paper to me (Little 1960b). A t the tim e I
felt he had filled the gap fo r me. But on rereading both the paper and
his discussion and my notes o f the rest o f the discussion (both there
and, later, in the British Society) I cam e to the conclusion th a t the
patients are in fact very m uch there in the “ Basic Unity” paper,
im p lic itly a t le a s t, as it fo llo w s o n fro m th e o r i g i n a l ’’C o u n
tertransference” paper. F o r me, any analysis th a t ends w ithout
having brought ab o u t o r a t least started som e grow th (o r healing) in
the analyst has by so m uch failed b o th people.
A nd I feel th a t b o th the analyst’s wish to heal the analysand and
the analysand’s wish to heal his therapist contain not only the
transference and countertransference elements of the old parent/
child situations, b u t also the present-day one, of tw o ordinary
people, ordinarily w anting to help each other, on a m ore m ature
level. In fact, every level o f each partn er is in play, all the tim e, in a
living analysis, b u t ebbing an d flowing. Som ething like counter
point, o r an orchestra playing a sym phony o r concerto, bringing
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Dostoevsky, F., 58 Freud, S., 45, 56, 57, 87, 122, 141,
double bind, 175 147, 150-151, 167, 187, 191,
dreams, resistant to ordinary 201, 250, 251, 255, 257, 267,
analysis, 81-82, 123, 140 271, 280-281, 284, 294, 303
dream work, 122 “Delusions and Dreams in
drinkers, 183-184 Jensen’s Gradiva,” 88, 96,
drugs, 146-147 119
dualism, monism and, 283 Group Psychology and the
Analysis o f the Ego, 124
early mothering care, 167-181 “On Narcissism,” 115
patient's need for, 145-146 New Introductory Lectures, 88
ego, 261 on transference, 35
body, 113, 251
development of, in borderline Galatzer-Levy, R.M., 106
states, 142 genitality, denial of, 26-27
unconscious part of, 132 Gilbert, W.S., 254
Eliot, T.S., 258, 304 Gitelson, M., 281, 289
emotion, use of analyst’s, 102-103 Glover, E., 187-188, 290
empathy, 148-149 Gordon, S., 27
Greenacre, P., 56
and basic unity, 91
envy, inborn, 274-275 Greenson, R., 293
Grieg, E., 200
Epimenides, 262
erotized transference, 83 Harris, J.A., 275, 288
Hartmann, H., 267
false self, 279 heavy drinkers, 183-184
family neurosis, 26-27 Heimann, P.,48, 132-133, 280,284-
fantasy, wanderer, 25-26 287
father Hoffer, W„ 152, 274, 276
changing role of, 180-181 Holder, A., 290
discovery of, 175-176 hospitalization, 145-147
feeling, 58-60 of alcoholic patients, 191
Ferenczi, S., 24, 56, 187, 280, 282
ffrench-Beytagh, G., 206 Ibsen, H., 205-206
fire, and love, 19-22 Brand, 194-196, 200, 201
Flarsheim, A., 303 Emperor and Galilean, 193, 195,
Fordham, M., 123, 133, 286 201
frenzy, discharge of, 255-257, 302- Peer Gynt, 193-201, 204
303 “On the Vidda,” 194
Freud, A., 24, 271, 273-274, 276- When We Dead Awaken, 194
277, 296 id, 88, 255
320 In d ex